Ticklish Dilemma!

[aussietickler1]

Hi all, I'm fairly new to the forum and am just getting used to the idea of talking openly about my tickling fetish. But with so many friendly, open-minded people here to talk to - I thought I might as well dive right in!

I’m 20 years old and have had a fascination with tickling for as long as I can remember. However, I have always kept my interest in tickling separate from my everyday life for fear of being judged and ridiculed by my friends and family. I have been able to do this fairly successfully (except for a few embarrassing experiences having to explain my computer history), but lately I am feeling an increased urge to further explore my tickling fetish. I’ve had a serious girlfriend for the last two and a half years but I have never told her about my interest in tickling for a couple of reasons – firstly, I don’t know how she might react, and secondly, she is not ticklish at all! So you can see my dilemma – do I continue to restrict my tickling interest to the internet, or do I venture to find a willing ticklee behind my girlfriend’s back? Of course, the sensible option would be to go on ignoring my tickling urges – but the more I think about it, the more impossible that seems. Any advice?

 

[♡AimLEE♡]

DO not get a ticklee behind your gf's back.
not a good idea.

i suggest you tell her. it's something that is a part of you and if she can't accept that then maybe she shouldn't be with you?

 

[herts tickler]

yeh tell her if you wana take it further. i just broke up with my gf of 3 and a half years and i never told her. this was purly because i was happy not to take it further at that stage - meaning with her or any1 else in secret.

im guessing you love this girl as youve been together for 2 and a half years so i would say tell her. if shes the right girl shell understand. so shes not ticklish? bothered, get her to tickle you lol

dont go behind her back though. it wont end well man.

good luck anyway!!!

 

[AmericaRocks]

If you want to take it further, you should definitely tell her. It's the only way. I can see why you'd be nervous, but you've been together for a pretty long time. If she's worth staying with, she'll understand.

Don't try to find a lee behind her back. That can only lead to bad things.

 

[PQfingers]

Aussie, I agree with my fellow members who have posted to your thread. Hope things work out.

 

[april]

Tell her. It sounds as if you two are in love and I bet she wouldnt mind being involved in the act of tickling. Its a turn on to turn someone on especially if its harmless fun. And who knows, maybe someday she wouldnt be opposed to watching someone tickle you or you tickling someone ealse, as long as she doesnt consider it cheating and no lines are crossed. And i dont consider talking with people on the computer with the same fetish as cheating as long as that too doesnt cross the line. I talk with people all the time on here and Im married.

 

[usgrant]

If you are not married you are not obligated to her, unless you are engaged.

 

[rhiannon]

If you are not married you are not obligated to her, unless you are engaged.

Meaning.....?

 

[shane2]

give her a hint first and if she asks then break it down to her its how you are, its what you like,and its what gets you started in the bedroom, everybody is different their are people with way more weirder fetishes im pretty sure she wont be like "im outta her you freAK" no two and half years is alot she has seen your worst side and your best side and as for her not being ticklish i bet she is cause my girl said the same thing and its how you approach it like what you say , how you do it ,or maybe its not in the regular areas but trust everybody is well i hope i helped out

 

[Tickleraket]

I have to agree with the others. A tickle fetich is not something you choose to have, it's something that's with you, even if you want it or not. She has to accept you as you are. That dosen't mean you can have a tickle partner behind her back because of the sexual signals it could send. If she loves you but are still not comfortable with the thought of your fetich, try explain how you feel. That would make her understand better. She might have some kind of fantasy herself. And beside, as shane2 says, there is more weird fetiches than tickling. And to me, tickling is a very inocent fetich depents on the way you use it. Because there is nothing wrong about having a tickle fetich. But i truly understand that you think about what other think about you, i'm sure most members in here feels the same way.

Give it a try and tell her. She might even feel she could trust you more if she can feel it's a big secret for you and not something you tell anybody about. She might be glad about you being honest and telling her.

Good luck with it buddy! 🙂

 

[aussietickler1]

Thanks heaps for the advice guys, it's awesome to receive some feedback on the situation. I think I agree with most of you, if the relationship is going to progress I'm going to have to tell her at some point - should be sooner rather than later I guess. I'll keep you all posted on how things work out!

Just one question for herts tickler- if you don't mind me asking, did you break up with your girlfriend because you were unable to explore your interest in tickling or was it just a natural thing?

 

[texastickler]

Do not ignore your needs, but not at the expense of a lie. That is number one. The second thing I can tell you is that honesty is a good thing. Tell her your desire. By now I would think she should know all the good things about you. I would hope she would understand. Maybe not to the extreme of wanting the relationship to go that direction but just simply to understand this side of you. If you have been with this gal that long then getting someone behind her back is not good at all. Sadly, you say your G/F is not ticklish. I would tell you at that point you have to do some soul serching. Good luck my friend.

 

[herts tickler]

nah it was just a natural thing, we just grew apart. i think its completley possible to have a relationship with someone without bringing tickling into it. its possible but not ideal. i think ill tell my next gf because im more open to the idea of exploring it further these days

 

[BMoreTklr]

As someone who's been in your situation not too long ago, my advice is to tell her, but ease into it. There's a bit of a different dynamic in your situation since your gf isn't ticklish, so I'm guess you'd like to get your tickling fill somewhere. Hopefully she'll be cool with that, but if she isn't, it'll suck now but down the road when you find someone you're vibing with AND they're a good ticklee, you'll look back on these days and think "man, wth was I thinking back then"......I'm not only a client, I'm the ler president 🙂

 

[TickVix]

I don't think you should ignore it personally, for if you do then one day it may completely overtake you and then it'll be too late. You have to honor your interest, I mean it's there for a reason right? Not to be suppressed and ignored, but instead freed and paid great attention to. I'm sorry that your girlfriend isn't ticklish, I would try to talk to her and see if she understands where you're coming from as far as you wanting to explore your fetish. I mean because if you hide if from her and she finds out in a completely different way that may make matters worse for you, and we wouldn't want that now would we? Now if she doesn't quite understand your perspective, then....you may just have to do whatcha gotta do my friend lol. Either way it's going to come forth so better to deal with it now vs later 🙂. Much luck.

 

[aussietickler1]

I don't think you should ignore it personally, for if you do then one day it may completely overtake you and then it'll be too late. You have to honor your interest, I mean it's there for a reason right? Not to be suppressed and ignored, but instead freed and paid great attention to. I'm sorry that your girlfriend isn't ticklish, I would try to talk to her and see if she understands where you're coming from as far as you wanting to explore your fetish. I mean because if you hide if from her and she finds out in a completely different way that may make matters worse for you, and we wouldn't want that now would we? Now if she doesn't quite understand your perspective, then....you may just have to do whatcha gotta do my friend lol. Either way it's going to come forth so better to deal with it now vs later 🙂. Much luck.

Great advice 🙂

 

[maniactickler]

Once again, someone makes the mistake of getting involved with a non ticklish, or tickle hating person. you shouldnt be in this position in the first place.

 

[David Han]

Do not directly state that you like being tickled as that could be seen as weird. Instead, do not actually say anything until she tickles you. Then you can say something like, "I am ticklish", and see how she reacts to your statement.

 

[herts tickler]

Once again, someone makes the mistake of getting involved with a non ticklish, or tickle hating person. you shouldnt be in this position in the first place.

come on mate if you like a girl you like a girl. if i meet a girl i like i get to know her, take her out a few times and see what happens. IF by some chance the whole tickling thing comes up in this stage and i find out shes not ticklish theres no way that would make me not want to see her again.

 

[maniactickler]

come on mate if you like a girl you like a girl. if i meet a girl i like i get to know her, take her out a few times and see what happens. IF by some chance the whole tickling thing comes up in this stage and i find out shes not ticklish theres no way that would make me not want to see her again.

Thats where the intensity of the fetish comes into play. we differ here. i want nothing to do with a woman if shes not into tickling.

 

[aussietickler1]

come on mate if you like a girl you like a girl. if i meet a girl i like i get to know her, take her out a few times and see what happens. IF by some chance the whole tickling thing comes up in this stage and i find out shes not ticklish theres no way that would make me not want to see her again.

very true. when i first met my girlfriend i was 18 and wasn't really thinking about finding a lee, i just knew that i really liked her and wanted to get to know her. by the time i discovered that she wasn't ticklish i was already head over heels and decided that it wasn't important at that point. its only now, a couple of years later, that im beginning to feel a bit resentful about being unable to explore my tickling fetish.

 

[Brock Samson]

Herts is definitely nailing this one on the head, bro. Anything done behind the back of the one you're with will eventually come to light and will never end in a positive way. Be open about who you are and what you like. Now, that doesn't mean to go off the deep end and come off super strong about it, but coax your way into telling her. Present it in a way that makes it seem like it's just another part of who you are, cuz it is. You are still the person she chose to be with. This is just another aspect of you. And you shouldn't base your choice to be with someone solely on whether or not she is ticklish. If your entire basis of being with someone is their ticklishness, then you don't really care for that person, just that particular attribute, and that will lead to heartache later.