Too ticklish to tickle!!!

[TheTickleMonster]

The thing is, I think if she had been positive about the tickling, he probably would not have stopped. I also see nothing in the post that tells me she reacted positively to it. That is what makes me assume (and yes, of course it's only assumptions) she did not react all that happy to it.

And of course I am putting myself in the girl's situation. 🙂 I personally think putting yourself in other's situations is the only way to understand what they might feel!

it could always be inaccurate when you put yourself in the other persons shoes to try to figure out how they feel. Especially when you don't actually know the person. If you know the person, then maybe you'll know how she feels but just becuase you're a girl and she's a girl doesn't mean you two will react the same way.

And there are other reasons like stated before that he could have stopped for, one he mentioned, because she was too ticklish that he felt like she might not be able to handle it, he said why he stopped tickling her, and then you assumed he stopped because she didn't like it.

 

[Radiohead 7140]

I'm confused as to why you didn't tie her up!

seriously though, um, did this actually happen? it just sounds.....fictional

 

[Adam]

This, 100%. I've read the first post several times now, and nowhere did I see anything to make folks condemn this guy the way I've seen so far. Anyone who knows me knows that I'm HUGE on smacking people upside the head around here for being bullies in regard to tickling, but here all I saw was a guy who briefly tickled a girl who was apparently very ticklish. Um...so? I didn't read where she was traumatized or even upset, I didn't read where she demanded he stop and he ignored her, or that he grabbed her again when she pulled away...I agree the question of whether he should have gone further was a bit crass but it was hypothetical, he didn't DO anything, he wasn't harsh or even mean IMO. I'd need waaayy more info than what was posted to jump on this guy the way some folks have.

I have to agree. Jeez, sometimes I think new members are going to end up being scared to post here again as a result of all the judging. I'm not trying to pick on anyone, because I love you guys and girls. Just try, for a moment, to remember when you were new around here. Hell, my first ever posting was a personal ad. We all know how well that works out.

 

[darkhand]

I normally make it a point to not respond to volatile threads on any message board. But something popped into my head and I wanted to share it.

Emotional distress is a lot like being drunk in a sense. Impaired judgment and sometimes even lowered inhibitions. OK, so it's like being drunk without the fun parts.

I was a frat guy in college. On multiple occasions I walked girls to their rooms from the frat house that were semi-plastered. A handful of times, the lady in question would try to kiss me or some similar action (perhaps thinking that is why I walked them to their room in the first place). I am not saying that I am Lancelot here, a couple times they were girls who were way out of my league and I would probably never stand a chance with again. Regardless of that, my response was always the same. I would write down my phone number and tell the girl "if you still feel that way in the morning, give me a call and we can go to dinner or something." My reasoning: the next morning.

Imagine how bad it would hurt to wake up and have to listen to it be explained to you that "what happened last night was a mistake.." or find out she said to her friends that she wished she never would have...I just simply refuse to be someone's regret.

One girl took me up on the dinner thing and half way through the meal said to me, "Thank you for not letting me do anything stupid last night." I said you're welcome as I stabbed myself in the eye with a fork (imagination style).

If I was in the OP's situation would I have done what he did? No. Do I understand what caused him to do so? Yes.

Keep in mind also, that she could have instigated the whole thing in hopes it would get back to her ex and make him jealous or even simply to make her feel better about herself.

Quite simply, I wasn't there, and human interaction is too complex to make snap judgments about from a few sentences posted on a forum.

*Steps down off of soapbox*

Sorry, I'm done now.

 

[jfire101]

irst of all, thanks to PRIMETIME for sticking up for me! Thanks man. And thanks to anyone else who didn't attack me without knowing the whole story.

now to put the record straight...
The main point to my post was to ask the question, "has anyone ever tickled someone that was so ticklish they felt bad they had to stop?"... Not to try and tell people how much of a bad ass I was at taking advantage of a girl who was feeling bad over a break up.
The Girl was not sobbing about it, she was quite fine with ending her relationship.
When the tickling started, it was after we had been fooling around, which she had instergated.
She was the one that rang me. she was the one that broke it off with her boyfriend. She was the one that came and sat on top of me when I was laying on the couch. Now Im the bad guy???????
I can understand how things can get miss read and miss-understood, I just think people need to be a bit more open minded to thinking that all men are assholes that want one thing.
How the hell is a guy, who enjoys tickling, supposed to find anyone else who is into it, if he doesn't tickle anyone? Answer me that, Judgmental, man haters!!! gosh! this make me angry!

 

[rhiannon]

So...how did she react when you tickled her?

 

[leafstk]

Good to see you respond, jfire! I do think the flaming should be kept to an absolute minimum, mind you... and I can appreciate why you are upset. I can also appreciate how your original post was taken out of context with so little to go on... ya know? I too found it a little off as I said, but I also said, like others here, that we really didn't have nearly enough information to cast judgement either way... ya know? And the people you are referring to aren't man haters... they felt the way you described things with the girl being "dismissive" and everything as a signal that perhaps she was being taken advantage of. And if you step back and look at it, its easy to see how someone might have come to that conclusion.

Now that you've come on to "put the record straight"... it makes much more sense. And to answer the original question, there was a girl I knew who was unbearably ticklish like that... would always end up in screams rather than laughter, so yeah... I kinda felt bad, lol 😀 Of course in my mind I would have loved to continue... but I know she hated it and it would not have been a good scene, LOL 😉

 

[Cavum]

I haven't read all post here, but for you guys who are new within this kind of stuff HAVE to learn that playing with others have to be safe, sane and consensual. The very point you go over the line where the person you play with don't want do to it anymore and you continue it becomes assault. I don't know the whole story here, but just keep this in your mind when playing with others.

 

[leafstk]

Absolutely, Cavum... if she isn't enjoying it and it crosses the line of consent, then its certainly a no go. Hopefully that goes without saying....

 

[daddy]

Rhiannon, read what the guy is asking. Why did he stop tickling her? Is it because she threatened him with violence? Is it because she coward in terror from the tickle attack? No, he stopped because she was too ticklish.

Let's use common sense. Would this guy honestly ask all of us if he should unleash the biggest tickle attack on her, IF SHE WAS UPSET OVER HIS TICKLING? If she was and this guy did ask all of us, then he would be the biggest idiot ever. But I don't think this is the case. There was nothing he wrote that indicated the girl was put off by his tickling advances.

The problem is, people criticizing the guy are putting THEMSELVES in the girl's position and responding as though they were the ones in that situation. You are basing your judgement as though it happened to YOU and what YOU would do. Don't do this. You can criticize a guy for no good reason.

Agreed...Stop trying to put yourselves in her place people!

peace out,
daddy

 

[alchemy]

...was explained to me three decades ago, when I was in my very early 20s. A wise, far more experienced fellow some 15 years older, to whom women flocked, had been watching my feeble interaction with female staff and guests at a marina where I was working for the summer.

And he took me aside, and with a wry grin told me something which I did not like to hear, but regrettably have found to be true both by observation and by experimentation in the many years which have taken me, somehow, into my mid-50s, and more 'encounters' than that shy post adolescent could ever have thought possible.

'Don't be too nice', he said. 'Otherwise, you'll always be the sort of 'nice guy' who has plenty of female friends, all relying on you to listen to their problems because they know you're harmless.

And everyone else will be fucking them'.

I've got to agree, my friend. That's always been MY problem as well. Good advice.

 

[alchemy]

This, 100%. I've read the first post several times now, and nowhere did I see anything to make folks condemn this guy the way I've seen so far. Anyone who knows me knows that I'm HUGE on smacking people upside the head around here for being bullies in regard to tickling, but here all I saw was a guy who briefly tickled a girl who was apparently very ticklish. Um...so? I didn't read where she was traumatized or even upset, I didn't read where she demanded he stop and he ignored her, or that he grabbed her again when she pulled away...I agree the question of whether he should have gone further was a bit crass but it was hypothetical, he didn't DO anything, he wasn't harsh or even mean IMO. I'd need waaayy more info than what was posted to jump on this guy the way some folks have.

QFT

Seriously guys, you jump down the poor guy's throat for not being "sensitive" enough to her situation (never mind that she didn't seem to be broken up enough NOT to fool around a bit) and didn't even try and respond to his question.

Put down the torches and pitchforks....and relax. We don't know the whole story, only what the OP has provided, so who are we to judge?

Anyway...

In answer to the OP's question, yes I have encountered several girls that were WAY to ticklish. As long as they didn't respond overly negative to it, it did not keep me from tickling them. The only thing I tried to do was not torture them to the point of tears. You know...give them a good tickling, but still keep it kinda fun.

 

[ticklingfeet4fu]

Hi all!
Today i met up with a girl, who i have known for a wile but never really hung out with. She just had a break up, and called to see if she could hang out. Naturally, as the nice guy i am, i said yes and she came round.

Now this girl is HOT! not just HOT but SMOKEN!!!!! with very sexy, size 6.5 feet.

She sat down on the couch with me to watch T.V and we started to fool around. I asked her if she was ticklish and she said she was dismissively. I then asked her where here worst spot was. she said her side. I then asked what about her feet. she said very quickly that they weren't at all. A minute or so passed and i grabbed her leg and said give my your foot, i'll give you a foot massage. pulling back as she did i realized that the statement about her not being ticklish was only a ploy to keep me away! My god this girl was ticklish! i have never seen someone react in that way.

So here is the point to my post. Has anyone gone tried to tickle someone, and found out that the ticklee was just way, and i mean way too ticklish? I felt sorry for this girl. She just couldn't handle it. I only tickled her for a little bit because i felt so bad! Do you think i should have just unleashed the biggest tickling of her life? or would you have done the same? This is driving me crazy!!!!!! aaaaaaaaahh!

Is it we started fooling around or was it YOU who started fooling around? I get the sense with her giving you dismissive answers that tells me she was NOT fooling around. When I am fooling around with my other half, she is not giving me dismissive answers. She just broke up with her boyfriend and she was sad and you were fooling around? So please tell me where she said you could tickle her? I think your story is shaky.

Do I think you should have unleashed the biggest tickling of her life? I think you should have been a friend and been there for her and not torment the poor girl. She call you to be a friend. And you FAILED miserably. It is guys like you, that give guys a bad reputation.

Primetime can say that " we fooled around " But Primetime you seem to forget the dismissive answers. The guy was suppose to be a friend. A girl you have never hung out with before you don't just start fooling around and tickling. Like I said before, the story is shaky.

 

[Black Hat]

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[Texas_Tickle]

Primetime can say that " we fooled around " But Primetime you seem to forget the dismissive answers.

Ahh, yep. People either have not read that part, or just chose to ignore it. After all, what's that old saying.... oh yes, 'boys will be boys'.

 

[Libertine]

A girl you have never hung out with before you don't just start fooling around and tickling.

Someone's never had a one-night stand, methinks. I think you should post less, and get out there a bit more...

And keep in mind that a woman MAY forgive a man who forces an opportunity she's extended, but NEVER a man who misses one. On three occasions, over a period of a few years in my early to mid twenties, three separate girls had extracted a solemn promise from me that if we shared a bed (missed buses, or blizzards, or taxis too expensive for students like us, that sort of thing) I wouldn't 'try anything'.

And I kept my word, they were bitchy to me the next morning, to my puzzlement, and not one of the three ever spoke to me again.

Next time the occasion arose, with Number Four, I finally put two and two together, gave the same promise, and as we lay there drowsily, pleasantly demanded a good-night kiss. And kept kissing. Etc.

And she was very nice to me the next morning, even though I'd broken my promise and we hadn't slept much.

Women are odd.

 

[TickledToDeath]

Hi all!
Today i met up with a girl, who i have known for a wile but never really hung out with. She just had a break up, and called to see if she could hang out. Naturally, as the nice guy i am, i said yes and she came round.

Now this girl is HOT! not just HOT but SMOKEN!!!!! with very sexy, size 6.5 feet.

She sat down on the couch with me to watch T.V and we started to fool around. I asked her if she was ticklish and she said she was dismissively. I then asked her where here worst spot was. she said her side. I then asked what about her feet. she said very quickly that they weren't at all. A minute or so passed and i grabbed her leg and said give my your foot, i'll give you a foot massage. pulling back as she did i realized that the statement about her not being ticklish was only a ploy to keep me away! My god this girl was ticklish! i have never seen someone react in that way.

So here is the point to my post. Has anyone gone tried to tickle someone, and found out that the ticklee was just way, and i mean way too ticklish? I felt sorry for this girl. She just couldn't handle it. I only tickled her for a little bit because i felt so bad! Do you think i should have just unleashed the biggest tickling of her life? or would you have done the same? This is driving me crazy!!!!!! aaaaaaaaahh!

No such thing as being TOO ticklish to tickle.
Perhaps not the first time you tickle her should you go full throttle but in the future or next time, no mercy!

 

[hotdog]

This thread has gotten so stuffed with unnecessary garbage it should have come with a hose to extinguish all the flaming swords of righteousness. There must have been a special on the jump to conclusions mat last Christmas.

 

[Adam]

This entire post has now degenerated into way too much over-analyzing. Folks, we weren't there, and that's why I find it unfair to get all judgmental.

 

[primetime]

Know what the sad thing is? The OP replied with more detail and people STILL think he took advantage of the girl.

Let's review his second post shall we? He states the girl was NOT sobbing over her failed relationship. She was quite fine with ending the relationship.

He stated the tickling started AFTER they were fooling around which she INSTIGATED.

He stated that SHE sat on top of him on the couch.

People, unless the guy is lying his ass off, which I doubt and you have no proof, his interaction with the girl was positive. People keep mentioning "dismissively". Well gee, how many of us have experienced someone claiming they weren't ticklish, but they really were and were trying to hide it? How many of us found a person who was trying to hide their extreme ticklishness, tell us they weren't ticklish with a shit eating grin or something? That's what people do! They pretend to not be ticklish to avoid being tickled. Even willing lees do this when with a person they enjoy being around.

According to the OP, he did not force himself on the girl, they were already having physical interactions. If he said, "I jumped her in the street and dragged her back to my place where I tied her up and tickled her as she begged me to stop!" then I would be the first one with my torch and pitchfork. But he didn't. STOP making a fun interaction between two people who know each other seem so damn sinister. The guy told us his experience and asked should he have continued since others talk about giving the greatest tickling torture session ever. Dammit, I even talked about a friend of mine, and we are real cool with each other. She is ticklish off the freakin scale and believe me, I would love to torment her. But, because she is my friend, I'm not going to jump her. Even when I do tickle her, it is brief, she laughs and smacks me playfully. Bet your bottom dollar I keep trying though. Guess what? She still likes me. I would have asked the same question here. Shoud I have gotten her longer?

He did NOT force torturous tickling on her. How about we stop being so damn judgemental on this forum and help others? Thanks to those who offered advice to him and didn't try to condemn the man for posing the question. People assumed the wrong damn thing. Goodness people... No wonder people talk less and less about their experiences on this forum. Not everyone is privy with going to gatherings and tickling members on this forum. We still live in a big world. How the hell else would people find out if others like tickling in the "mainstream" world? Before you judge people, look in the freakin mirror and unless you are perfect, don't be so quick to judge others.

jfire101, keep posting your experiences. As long as you do not cause harm to others, don't pay attention to these judgemental people. Look at the others who pretty much gave you advice without judging you and you can ask them for advice. By the way, did you get a chance to talk to her again? Can you please tell the people how she reacts around you?

 

[solescratcher99]

These threads should have warning labels on them. Therefore, I'm putting this warning label up every time I see a thread/post like this.

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[TheTickleMonster]

Dammit, I even talked about a friend of mine, and we are real cool with each other. She is ticklish off the freakin scale and believe me, I would love to torment her. But, because she is my friend, I'm not going to jump her. Even when I do tickle her, it is brief, she laughs and smacks me playfully. Bet your bottom dollar I keep trying though. Guess what? She still likes me.

I have a friend like that.. she's super awesome.. and i keep asking her if i'm a pain or annoying and she says no and loves hanging out with me even though i keep tickling her for short periods of time lol... but she should like hanging out with me no matter what since she's one of my best friends, but anywho...

 

[TheTickleMonster]

irst of all, thanks to PRIMETIME for sticking up for me! Thanks man. And thanks to anyone else who didn't attack me without knowing the whole story.

now to put the record straight...
The main point to my post was to ask the question, "has anyone ever tickled someone that was so ticklish they felt bad they had to stop?"... Not to try and tell people how much of a bad ass I was at taking advantage of a girl who was feeling bad over a break up.
The Girl was not sobbing about it, she was quite fine with ending her relationship.
When the tickling started, it was after we had been fooling around, which she had instergated.
She was the one that rang me. she was the one that broke it off with her boyfriend. She was the one that came and sat on top of me when I was laying on the couch. Now Im the bad guy???????
I can understand how things can get miss read and miss-understood, I just think people need to be a bit more open minded to thinking that all men are assholes that want one thing.
How the hell is a guy, who enjoys tickling, supposed to find anyone else who is into it, if he doesn't tickle anyone? Answer me that, Judgmental, man haters!!! gosh! this make me angry!

i stood up for u too 😛 u just probably didn't see my posts bc they were short unlike primetimes two page posts lol

 

[WheresThe Clip?]

Someone's never had a one-night stand, methinks. I think you should post less, and get out there a bit more...

And keep in mind that a woman MAY forgive a man who forces an opportunity she's extended, but NEVER a man who misses one. On three occasions, over a period of a few years in my early to mid twenties, three separate girls had extracted a solemn promise from me that if we shared a bed (missed buses, or blizzards, or taxis too expensive for students like us, that sort of thing) I wouldn't 'try anything'.

And I kept my word, they were bitchy to me the next morning, to my puzzlement, and not one of the three ever spoke to me again.

Next time the occasion arose, with Number Four, I finally put two and two together, gave the same promise, and as we lay there drowsily, pleasantly demanded a good-night kiss. And kept kissing. Etc.

And she was very nice to me the next morning, even though I'd broken my promise and we hadn't slept much.

Women are odd.

This man is my new lifestyle coach

My current relationship of some two and a bit years is basically going down the pan now. Why ? Well because for the last six months I have started to be the man she wanted me to be sexually all along (so now she's bored, but won't admit it). Whereas for the first 18 months I did what I dam well pleased and wouldn't compromise, and she just keep coming back for more.

The botttom line is woman are unable to articulate what they want sexually, because they don't want to take any responsibility for it (in the same way woman generally don't ask men on dates).

So the answer to the original poster is do what you please (within the constraints of the law), and if they like they will keep coming back, and if they don't like then move on to someone who does.

 

[rhiannon]

This man is my new lifestyle coach

My current relationship of some two and a bit years is basically going down the pan now. Why ? Well because for the last six months I have started to be the man she wanted me to be sexually all along (so now she's bored, but won't admit it). Whereas for the first 18 months I did what I dam well pleased and wouldn't compromise, and she just keep coming back for more.

The botttom line is woman are unable to articulate what they want sexually, because they don't want to take any responsibility for it (in the same way woman generally don't ask men on dates).

So the answer to the original poster is do what you please (within the constraints of the law), and if they like they will keep coming back, and if they don't like then move on to someone who does.

You are so romantic, you are just making me want to weep.....