well just told a girl i thought liked me i like to be tickled

[minerva]

but like i said if thats her attidude fine , if she doenst agree with it fine but she didnt have to be rude about it so im movin on

Thats exactly the point.
The way you described your conversation you didn't bring it on aggressively in any way, so there was no reason at all for her to be rude.
Kudos to you for being so open about your love for tickling, that's not easy as we all know. Don't let this bad experience ruin your attitude. This is clearly her loss not yours. The way she reacted definitely shows, that she wasn't someone worth spending your time with anyway and I don't mean because she doesn't like tickling.
Forget about her and move on, you will surely find someone nicer eventually.

 

[jaba]

vibes....

I'm curious about something, and if you don't feel comfortable answering this, that fine, it's just a curiousity thing on my part......

i'm wondering what was the vibe or indication she gave you that made you feel that she liked you? i ask this because in my experience many ladies are more attuned in many cases on the more subtle signals of attraction than us guys....not all the time, but in many cases.....

did she overtly come out and tell you that she liked you, or is this something that you felt and surmised on your own? what were the clues?

I also ask this because even my "normal" (?) lady friends who know about my tickling interests have never responded with negativity or disdain for my fetish, the usual response has been curiosity, and many questions, and they regard me as a "weirdo" more because of my quirky, goofball 😛 personality, not my confessed tickle fetish.....they usually want to know more about it, even if it does not lead to eventual tickleplay between us....(but in some cases, the inquisitive curiosity has led to tickleplay, so go figure.... )

I realize that in most cases it's pretty obvious when a lady really digs you, even if she doesn't come right out and say it, but there can be times when we guys read the "signals of attraction" wrong.....I sure have in the past.....

 

[P[a]pi]

If she liked tickling or was at least neutral toward it, I don't think she would have said that.

She was mean because she doesn't like it, which I don't think was necessary.

 

[badreligion]

If she liked tickling or was at least neutral toward it, I don't think she would have said that.

She was mean because she doesn't like it, which I don't think was necessary.

yea im pretty much done with her , if she wants to still be friends great , if not well no biggie


and Slap n ticklee

its not weird you like heavy metal

im a huge Maiden fan *if u cant tell by my video* lol

 

[slap'n'ticklee]

and Slap n ticklee

its not weird you like heavy metal

im a huge Maiden fan *if u cant tell by my video* lol

Yep, Maiden, Maiden, Maiden... are great 😉

I love their older stuff like 'Murders in the rue morgue', 'Charlotte the Harlot', 'Trooper' etc etc

Now where's Eddie

 

[badreligion]

i only like songs sung by Bruce hes just an amazing singer his vocal range is insane

Death On The Road is with out a doubt one of the best DVDs

 

[steph]

Disinterested isn't good. Disrespectful is much worse. Your "friend" was both. At least you found out before you got too attached. Maybe by being an a-hole, (and she was one) she spared you a lot of grief down the line.
XOXO

 

[slap'n'ticklee]

i only like songs sung by Bruce hes just an amazing singer his vocal range is insane

Death On The Road is with out a doubt one of the best DVDs

Yeah I do agree with you there, Brucie's vocal range is amazing and he can pull it off live too, no mean feat when you know how he runs about the stage and all 🙂 He sings the oldens great too and puts his own style to em. I love the way the guys interact with each other after all these years. I always loved Dave (Moon Face mwahaha) never got into Janick really, unfortunately 🙂

Went to a drum expedition a few years ago in London that Nicko was at and my sis and bro-in-law got his autograph, I was too shy to go up to him, we got piccies too lol

 

[badreligion]

i like janick lol

nicko is without a doubt the best drummer in metal

 

[chicago]

So yeah back to the topic, have to talked to that girl since you said you liked being tickled...

 

[badreligion]

So yeah back to the topic, have to talked to that girl since you said you liked being tickled...

nope

 

[ImNotDave]

Its a shame when things like this happen, that some people just cant see outside their own world, and anything that is outside it (obviously tickling to her) is considered weird.

I try to think about it this way:
I am by no means turned on, nor attracted to melting and dropping wax on my/somebody else's body, yet some people out there see it as a huge sexual thrill. To an outside like me, it does seem "weird"
but i wouldnt avoid somebody if they said to me "oh, btw, i have a thing for melting wax on my body"

Its just upsetting that we live in a world wher some people refuse to see things thru other peoples shoes (pun intended, then not intended, then i decided to indend it 😛 hehe)

 

[aosticklegrl]

Not everyone is able to be open minded and accepting of things that they were possibly taught or think to be out of the norm. Personally I see nothing wrong with it.

 

[tklmaestro]

I see this can happen to anyone. It happened to me as well, although I just wanted to tickle her, she treated me like I was Ted Bundy. Panic city dude but don't stop tryin. The ones who understand are out there.

 

[badreligion]

You know, I dated a guy a little while back, this really nice, normal guy from a good family in the middle of Illinois. He was pretty into me, we had a good time and great connection. Went out a few times... it was looking good.

I told him one night that I thought "tickling/being tickled is sexy"

Never heard from him again.

He wasn't a bad guy. Not by any definition. I don't hold it against him in the least. Maybe she shouldn't have said you were wierd but some people just aren't the type who can handle it. And if they honestly can't accept it you have to let it go if it's that important to you. It's part of the package.

yea but she seemed so into me i mean honestly the last time i was tickled was before halloween and it wasnt anything spectactular it was just a poke or two and thats it

 

[Tickler Bart]

Good thing you found out now instead of being disappointed months from now if you decided to date her.
Oh well . . . There's plenty of girls out there who actually LIKE tickling.
That's why I prefer to tell any potential relationships immediately what I like.
If she freaks . . . then she ain't fer me.

 

[drew70]

I've only had one similar experience. There was a girl I knew in high school named Sophia who had an exotic face and this exaggerated hourglass figure that drove me wild. We were friends at the time and quite frankly I didn't have the nerve to ask her out on a date.

About 7-8 years after graduation, I ran into her somehow, and asked her out. She'd put on a lot of weight since high school, and her figure was more bowling ball than hourglass, but she was still pretty and fun to be with. We got back to my house and were sitting watching TV. I can't quite remember how it came up, but at some point I told her I liked being tickled. I know for certain I didn't bring it up out of the blue because I knew better.

Still, as soon as I told her that, her face registered an expression of somebody who just smelled shit, and she said, "Eww, that's kinky!" I immediately lost any and all interest in her. I made no moves, and did not kiss her good night when I dropped her off. I never called her or saw her again.

 

[Morpheus72]

Bad, there are some great responses in this thread for you. Whoever said linking tickling with intimacy/eroticism was the way to go just nailed it. I've found that an excellent way to introduce (erotic) tickling into a relationship is during the first encounter that you know will lead to orgasm. Saying, in a roundabout way, "hey, do this, it'll totally turn me on..." usually leads to great results, at least for me.

As for those that react negatively, you really just have to move on and get used to it, because it will happen again. Guaranteed. But life sucks, get a helmet 😀

Morph

 

[TBear]

What is weird? Something that goes against your idea of normal. I thought my ex roomate only having sex with models was weird or my ex girlfriend dating no one black was weird. No one is exempt from weird.

My wife loves to be tickled and yet she thinks alot of people are weird for being afraid of it. But different strokes for different folks is what they say. Personally, I think having sex in food is weird but thats my hang up.

 

[jk666uk]

Disinterested isn't good. Disrespectful is much worse. Your "friend" was both. At least you found out before you got too attached. Maybe by being an a-hole, (and she was one) she spared you a lot of grief down the line.
XOXO

true

 

[badreligion]

im pretty much done with her honestly ive thought about it and the answer seems to be , if shes gonna freak out about something so little as liking to tickle and be tickled then honestly im better off single

im very thankful to everyone who helped me with this i wont forget it

 

[Curmudgeon]

I get it....

Sorry, I couldn't keep quiet on this one any longer....
The outpouring of support for this kid is heartening, but the snipes and jabs at his friend (If I'm reading right, she's not even close to being a girlfriend) are petulant and unnecessary.
To our young friend, badreligion; So, it's her fault for not being all giggly, cooing and supportive when you decided to start talking about what you liked? Give the girl a break, you told her about something that turned you on, and she thought it was weird. Where is the law that says she has to be extra-special-careful and not hurt your feelings? Maybe she had a bad experience with tickling in her past, and it freaked her out, and she was being as polite as she could be; did you ever stop to think about that? No, of course not, because you were too busy whimpering over your own hurt feelings. Suck it up. If you want to talk about what arouses you to someone who isn't a significant other, they have NO obligation to not hurt your feelings about it. Or does she not have a right to be freaked out, because it's what YOU like? You're young, and I'm sure your feelings were hurt, but this whole, "Yeah, you're right...it's her problem" attitude will not serve you well.
A few comments talked about other people "not looking from another person's eyes" or the like about it......How about the same courtesy, from this end? I'm really tired of people slamming so-called "normal" people for not being more "open-minded" and "understanding" about our interest. Why should they have to be? Isn't it everyone's right to like they like, and not like what they don't? Don't be so damn thin-skinned.
It's a fetish. Most people don't need it to become aroused. That's what makes it a fetish, dig? Just as we're not all that freaky for liking it, "normal" people aren't all that weird or repressed for not liking it. Just be glad when you find someone who likes it. Deal with it.

: Opening my arms, eagerly awaiting the flood of whine..... :

 

[kis123]

: Opening my arms, eagerly awaiting the flood of whine..... :

Stand in the mirror and wrap your arms around yourself because you've done a fine job of whining yourself!

Calling the girl names may be a bit over the top, but asking the question "why do people think those of us who enjoy tickling get called wierd" is legitimate, especially when the said lady in question knee jerk responded in the way she did.

You can disagree about something without disrespectfully cutting someone off at the knees and making said person feel like he should be ashamed of who he is. I would've been upset too if someone I dated or was interested in acted so negatively. I've had lovers call me wierd because I laughed during sex; what's wrong with that, at least he knows I'm having a good time? It's better than him trying to figure out how I'm feeling because I'm just lying there unresponsive, isn't it? I'm at the place in my life that I can no longer be made ashamed about it, but it took years to get to that point.

Telling someone to "suck it up" after their emotional rug has been pulled from underneath them is worse than what caused this thread to be started in the first place; at least the girl was vanilla and knows little to nothing about our world. Those of us in the forum should know better which is why he's getting support from us-that's what we're here for. If that bothers you, you're entitled to your opinion I guess.

For many in this forum, this is a relationship deal maker or breaker because tickling is not just a fetish, it's a part of who they are; and no one likes any part of them to be rejected.

 

[badreligion]

Sorry, I couldn't keep quiet on this one any longer....
The outpouring of support for this kid is heartening, but the snipes and jabs at his friend (If I'm reading right, she's not even close to being a girlfriend) are petulant and unnecessary.
To our young friend, badreligion; So, it's her fault for not being all giggly, cooing and supportive when you decided to start talking about what you liked? Give the girl a break, you told her about something that turned you on, and she thought it was weird. Where is the law that says she has to be extra-special-careful and not hurt your feelings? Maybe she had a bad experience with tickling in her past, and it freaked her out, and she was being as polite as she could be; did you ever stop to think about that? No, of course not, because you were too busy whimpering over your own hurt feelings. Suck it up. If you want to talk about what arouses you to someone who isn't a significant other, they have NO obligation to not hurt your feelings about it. Or does she not have a right to be freaked out, because it's what YOU like? You're young, and I'm sure your feelings were hurt, but this whole, "Yeah, you're right...it's her problem" attitude will not serve you well.
A few comments talked about other people "not looking from another person's eyes" or the like about it......How about the same courtesy, from this end? I'm really tired of people slamming so-called "normal" people for not being more "open-minded" and "understanding" about our interest. Why should they have to be? Isn't it everyone's right to like they like, and not like what they don't? Don't be so damn thin-skinned.
It's a fetish. Most people don't need it to become aroused. That's what makes it a fetish, dig? Just as we're not all that freaky for liking it, "normal" people aren't all that weird or repressed for not liking it. Just be glad when you find someone who likes it. Deal with it.

: Opening my arms, eagerly awaiting the flood of whine..... :

ok first your an idiot

second off if you read my post the main topic was why do some people find tickling weird

i never bad mouthed the girl so before you shoot your mouth off you might wanna get the facts straight

 

[Curmudgeon]

Color me so surprised....

To quote the erstwhile badgrammar-er, badreligion;

"ok first your an idiot
second off if you read my post the main topic was why do some people find tickling weird
i never bad mouthed the girl so before you shoot your mouth off you might wanna get the facts straight"

Ok, how to respond to such a well-thought out verbal attack? How indeed, to respond to such a sharp, incisive hurling of the gauntlet? How about with his own sentence fragments?

"didnt tell her its a fetish or anything like that
but we were talking about when i was down in florida and i got a massage and i told her i couldnt stop laughing through the entire thing
and she said i dont like to be tickled
and i bassically said i like to be tickled its fun
and she said "well your a weirdo" and it wasnt a playful kind of insult
idk im just gonna move on , if she is gonna judge me over something so superfical then forget her "

Let's just break this down, shall we?
"but we were talking about when i was down in florida and i got a massage and i told her i couldnt stop laughing through the entire thing"
(Wow, smooth opener, there.)
"and she said i dont like to be tickled"
(BAM! Right there! She already told you her feelings. You could have said, "Really? How come?" And maybe had a real conversation about it, but no, damn the torpedoes, press on, you had an agenda....)
"and i bassically said i like to be tickled its fun
and she said "well your a weirdo" and it wasnt a playful kind of insult"

(How do you know? I guess you expected her to tickle you or something, right, to show you it was okay with her? Damn her for not doing things exactly the way you wanted!)
"idk im just gonna move on , if she is gonna judge me over something so superfical then forget her"
(Right...it was so unimportant that you got all but hurt about it and had to run to a fetish forum for support.....you know, from people who totally agreed with you. Did you really think asking people here, "What's weird about it?" would get you any response but, "No, it's not weird! Of course it's not weird!"? No, you didn't. No one here thinks it's weird. You got the response you wanted; everyone patted your little head, and told you it was her problem, not yours. So be happy. Only two people thought you made an error, and since we don't agree with you completely, we're narrow-minded, we don't understand, and we don't matter. Suck it up and move on.)

As for being called an idiot (which only my wife is allowed to do), I won't bother re-hashing my statements. Anyone who can read should be able to tell exactly what I said. Perhaps you know someone who could read it to you.
Don't poke the bear. You'll get bitten.

P.S. Punctuation marks are our friends. We don't have to fear them.



And I can't wait for the next one.....