I haven't had any "dangerous" modeling encounters but I have had 2 creepy/odd ones.
The first one happened about 6 years ago. I was in a grocery store and a fellow approached me and told me he was a photographer, wanted to shoot me, etc., etc. It was a line I'd heard quite a few times before but this guy had a business card, portfolio, references, etc. He was primarily in architectural photography but wanted to shoot some art nude/glamour stuff. We chatted a couple times on the phone and arranged a 2 hour shoot at a studio in London- staffed front desk, other studios in use, etc., so all safe. So far so good.
About halfway through the shoot, he started saying "what a sexy young lady I was" and asking if I had a BF, etc- (Libertine and I were engaged at the time). I told him I was engaged. He began asking what he did, if he made good money, etc. He then started telling me how "he could be very generous" and "arrangements could be made for the right woman" and asking me, basically, if I would be interested in a "discreet arrangement on the side" in exchange for financial compensation! Obviously this was NOT of interest to me! I told him this- and to be fair he was polite enough when I did, said my guy was very lucky, etc. He paid me the shoot fee and I left. No actual harm done, but it certainly felt pretty icky.
The second incident- and this one was just more odd than creepy- happened a couple years later. I was contacted via a model site by a man who wanted to do some artsy/pinup shots at the local Camera Club. He gave a model who was a friend of mine as a reference. She told me "he was fine, safe, I wouldn't get anything from the shoot I could use for my portfolio but ok guy". I booked the shoot, and we met at the Camera Club.
While I was getting ready, makeup, etc., he asked if I would like some tea. I said I would, and when he brought it, he asked if I would mind getting undressed and having the tea without my clothes on. I asked "so you want to shoot me drinking tea naked? Ok" He said no, he just wanted to chat to me while I drank tea naked, because that was his "thing". He had a fetish for socializing with naked ladies while they did normal activities, especially drinking tea- a sort of naked tea party! Except he would be clothed... What could possibly be a more English fetish than that?
It was an odd request, though harmless. But as I was there to model, and not to get someone's rocks off, I did request that he took a few shots while I drank the tea and chatted- that way, I was modeling, NOT providing a fetish service. There is a HUGE difference between ANY type of modelling, fashion OR fetish, and working, say, a foot party, or being a pro-domme or pro sub, etc...I have no issue with those that provide these services, but it is NOT modelling! If they aren't shooting photo or video, and you aren't signing a release for some sort of usage, you are not modeliing. Period.
Anyhow, we did the rest of the shoot. As it happened, he lived quite a solitary existence, and used these photoshoots primarily to indulge his fetish, by introducing the "naked tea party" after the shoot was booked and begun. When I saw the woman who'd provided the reference and told her about the shoot, her reaction was "Oh, I am so sorry- I forgot to tell you about the tea thing! Hope it didn't weird you out too much!" Takes all kinds...
So, the similarity in these 2 occasions? In both cases, the photographers booked me for one purpose- being photographed- and tried to introduce things not previously agreed upon. This is not the behaviour or a professional. The No. 1 complaint about photographers/producers, especially with fetish- that which bestows the label of "creepy" upon them- is when they try, by deception or omission, to inveigle the model into activities that are not within the parameters of the shoot, especially if they want to do them without the camera running. Or if they tell the model she'll be working with another model, say for a tickling video, and then when the model arrives, they tell her "the other girl couldn't show- I'm doing the tickling with the camera on auto". Or she agrees to partial nudity, or a bikini, etc. in advance, and then they try to convince her to show more than agreed. You get the idea!
Porcelaindoll2-hope to see you again at NEST, or other events, if you are going to do paid tickling or any type of BDSM sessions with a total stranger- speaking from zero experience of doing any myself, but my advice would be not to just rely on a chat beforehand. Have a "safe call", make sure that the client knows that another person knows where you are, actually have a friend close by, and if you don't know them, avoid bondage. Even better than using a hotel, have the client rent space at a pro dungeon or something, that has someone on reception. Same as you would do for shoots, playdates, etc.
