what do the lady lees and lers look for?

[vegasfootboy]

every once in awhile i look at the members pictures section with the pics of the lady members,, and i think to myself,, hmmm?? what exactly do they look for? i know some are married and some are single,, but what exactly are they looking for? in the last 3 years ive noticed that most of the known females tend to be extremely cliqish and tend to stay within the group that they are familliar with,, everytime they post about a tickling encounter it seems to be with the same people and not so many new encounters,, im not saying thats bad its life,, people form groups and then tend to stay within the safety of the group,, thats fun and all but i think it would make ya crazy after awhile lol!,, im wondering how new people break into the group and gain exceptance,, whats the protocall for that lol!,, its fun to read the interactions with all of the known members and hear about thier adventures with one another,, but i think it would be exciting to read about new blood being welcomed into these tickling cliques,, i guess the hard thing with getting together would be the distance,, everyone seems to be a bajillion miles away from each other,, and i guess the ones who make the major scarifice of making the trip are the ones who get the rewards lol! ( myself being terrified of flying ) it would be nice to hear from the ladies,, about what goes through thier minds in regards to relationships,, tickling,, being tickled,, what they want in a relationship,, etc etc

 

[steph]

Well, I'm not looking for a relationship, because I have one but I look for a playmate who's fun and respects my boundaries, someone safe and has a great sense of humor.

I hate to fly too but I was VERY welcomed when I attended my first MUNCH~looks like lots of people in Vegas, BTW~maybe you should ask around?
HTH! 😛
XOXO

 

[ShyInVegas]

I have a feeling that cliques are formed on this particular message board because people feel "safer" that way.. Considering the content of this forum, it potentially could be very dangerous to trust new people. You never know who your dealing with, and long term friends feel "safe". I'm on the other end of the scale- I'm new and I dont know anyone here I feel I can really trust, at least not yet. There are literally 3 people I talk to regularly, and thats it. (Of the 3, I talk to you most often. And considering how infrequent that is- that should tell you something!) 😉

As for what I'm looking for personally, I wish I knew- lol. But at least I know I've found a place where I can talk about my interest without worry about anyone thinking I'm strange. Other than that- time will tell.

 

[fttickler]

Official Hello greeter

what the heck. I try to make all newbies welcome ( ok.. i welcome more ladies than men.. but...what do you expect. So welcome all newbies and hope to chat with you soon. BTW.. I am originally from NY and just moved to CA. I know no one but family and am staying with them as I get settled, so I know what it is like to be the only one in a group....lol


fttickler

 

[angelofgrace]

hola amigos/amigas! i'm new and this is my first post, so hopefully it turns out okay.

to answer the question about what the ladies of this forum are looking for in a tickle group, I should first mention that the topic of "group dynamics" is very interesting and applicable to real life. even though it is not my field of study, I have always enjoyed communications. vryticklishfeet brings up a good point.

I don't wish to meet any TMF members in person for tickling, my BF provides for that area of need! 😎 but when forming, entering, and leaving groups, it is important to the individual (the new person) to know their comparison level (CL - what they experienced in the past that helps them choose what kinds of people are good or bad to meet) and their comparison level for alternatives (CLalt - what they can get elsewhere). there are a lot of dimensions just in the narrower topic of group formation, but some other factors are social comparison, interpersonal attraction, stress/social support, and proximity. 😛 yes, I study too much.

for tickling, the person's CL is low when they enter the TMF and they are looking for tickling companionship 😉 so they are more likely to try and be accepted into a group that already exists. if they are only here for the videos, and can get tickling somewhere else (like me!) then the CLalt is low and they will not look as hard for a group. and of course, distance always keeps people apart. but if we didn't have the technology we have today, we might even be worse off! and then who would get to tickle?? it would be a sad world.

adios!

 

[vegasfootboy]

wrong impression?

awesome response! and yes,, you got some book learnin thats fer sure : ) yet when i was reading your post i couldnt help but wonder what impression i was giving off with my post,, i guess i just want to clarify my situation so i wont give off the impression that i am desperate,, dating isnt hard,, its very easy,, finding interested girls is even easier,, ive honed my skills in the years that ive been dating and im very proud of that fact lol! what i am talking about goes beyond the dating thing,, we all have fun tickling,, and yes its something you can do with someone even if they arent into it the way you are,, but we also know that tickling or being tickled by someone that is into it hella big time is the most awesome thing when you have the fetish,, its a completely different world,, both being on the same level, both incredibly excited in one way or another at the exchange taking place between you and them,, it flat out feels better! am i right or what? i mean if i had an interest in sailing then i would join a sailing website and that would be the group i wanted acceptance from ,,im into tickling and thats why i joined this site a few years ago and thats why i came back : ) yes its easy to tickle your date,, but its even better to be on a " tickle date " so here i am being myself,, and seeking the exceptance of my fellow ticklers,,and even though i havnt been to a nest or munch or whatever they will call it 10 years from now,,ill always appreciate the answers to the questions that i bounce off of my fellow ticklephiles : )

once again,, forgive the ramble : )

 

[Tick-ler f/f]

Hmmmm. Good timing for this thread, since that is what I'm attempting to do. I have two mostly lee playmates, and we get together for weekend tickling sessions. Lately, I think my neighbor might be on to this fact. I've often caught her looking at my feet (but she doesn't know I know), and I've been doing some outdoor sunbathing knowing she's outside, too,(My feet facing her yard, so she can get a really good look!), and even invited her over for cookouts with my lees and me, subtley giving each other a quick tickle or two where my neighbor can see us. My master plan is to invite her to a kind of adult "slumber party". I've rented the movie Siriens (wish I could spell it!) which has a tickling disscussion, and scene in it. Then perhaps I'll ask one of my lees for a pedicure, and see how my neighbor reacts, or, maybe play some "truth or dare" With some tickling dares in them. The only thing I'm not sure of is a) should the dare be for one or both of my lees to tickle me b) me tickle one of them c) let my neighbor tickle one of them d) let the neighbor tickle me? I don't want to come right out tickling her,> I want to try and gauge her receptiveness to tickling in general. If it seems favorable, maybe we'll sneak in a dare where she gets gently tickled a little (We make dares up as we go along). If all goes well, I will calmly try to explain to her what it is were into, and if she's interested. If she is, I'll let her sit in on one of our sessions, and see what happens from there. We'd love to welcome her into our "inner circle". I'll let you know how it goes!