Myriads
Tzar of the TMF
- Joined
- Apr 2, 2001
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A long time statement about sex is that the most important body part involved is the brain.
A healthy sexual life is not only physical interactions, but also mental and emotional ones.
RP, and other online activities involving chat, can play a significant part in speaking to the latter two needs. Even more so if the first is absent or not possible for a period of time.
It's not a substitute or replacement for direct one-on-one sexual interaction in person, but it is an important ADDITION to a persons overall sexual experience and satisfaction as they move through life. Our sexualities are not only active when we are in the same room as a partner, they are active all the time. When we masturbate we are often RPing both sides in our head, when we look at porn and consider how it arouses us we are engaging with our sexuality.
So just because a person may lack a real partner is no strike against their use of RP and chats to find some sexual enjoyment.
When I went to college in the 1980's I went to a pretty high end engineering school, and the campus had a mainframe computer system that served around a 100 remote terminals all around the campus. On that system was a program called "Connect" and in that dim year of 1983 it was pretty much the same thing that AOL messenger would be a decade and change later, only 100% text on old green cathode screens. No flashy graphics. But with it you could chat much as we do in the TMF chatroom, in PM's with others on campus.
One night I got into a long conversation with a young woman who PMed me randomly and we ended up talking about how she was depressed and feeling lonely at the college away from her family. I understood that feeling as I'd experienced it myself the first semester I was there until I met a person who'd become a very close friend. Over the night as I worked on a program she and I traded a lot of information and so forth. four or five hours in she said "I need to tell you something" "Ok shoot" I said. "You have been really kind to me, and I lied to you, I'm not a girl I'm a guy, it's just no one would talk to me if I told them I was a guy, so I lied so I could just talk to someone." I thought about it for a few seconds and realized that it didn't matter one bit to me, and I said as much. I'd not been looking to meet or fuck this woman I'd met, just enjoy the chat at the moment. So their gender reality meant little to me beyond that the ideas and feelings they conveyed were legit. I'd never considered Connect as a way to meet a partner, just a thing that could let me have some interesting chats with people elsewhere. An addition to my social options, not a replacement for face to face talks.
Expectations of what you think you are going to get from an interaction matter, and frankly thinking you'll meet a person you RP in a chatroom with is pretty much a low probability sorta thing. I don't go into any online interaction in any form with the expectation that I'll ever get to interact in a more personal closer format.
If two lonely guys end up RPing in the TMF chatroom and come away from it both satisfied on some sexual mental level, then so the fuck what? Just some humans trying to meet their needs and no one is the worse for it. More so that now in 2023 almost anyone who uses a chat room is damned knowledgable in that those they speak to are not needfully what they present. Or as a gay friend once said to me, "Stick your dick in a glory hole and don't be pissed that the mouth on the other side is not the gender you expected. You still got off right?"
The traditional concept of "This is what sex is, and this is what it is not" does not fit will with just how complex our sexualities and expressions of them are in the real world. That every person has a different concept of what sex is just complicates it further. (Blow jobs are not sex honest! goes down poorly if ones partner thinks the opposite) This whole RP debate is another of these sort.
In the end if you got off then it all worked out pretty well, no?
Myriads
A healthy sexual life is not only physical interactions, but also mental and emotional ones.
RP, and other online activities involving chat, can play a significant part in speaking to the latter two needs. Even more so if the first is absent or not possible for a period of time.
It's not a substitute or replacement for direct one-on-one sexual interaction in person, but it is an important ADDITION to a persons overall sexual experience and satisfaction as they move through life. Our sexualities are not only active when we are in the same room as a partner, they are active all the time. When we masturbate we are often RPing both sides in our head, when we look at porn and consider how it arouses us we are engaging with our sexuality.
So just because a person may lack a real partner is no strike against their use of RP and chats to find some sexual enjoyment.
When I went to college in the 1980's I went to a pretty high end engineering school, and the campus had a mainframe computer system that served around a 100 remote terminals all around the campus. On that system was a program called "Connect" and in that dim year of 1983 it was pretty much the same thing that AOL messenger would be a decade and change later, only 100% text on old green cathode screens. No flashy graphics. But with it you could chat much as we do in the TMF chatroom, in PM's with others on campus.
One night I got into a long conversation with a young woman who PMed me randomly and we ended up talking about how she was depressed and feeling lonely at the college away from her family. I understood that feeling as I'd experienced it myself the first semester I was there until I met a person who'd become a very close friend. Over the night as I worked on a program she and I traded a lot of information and so forth. four or five hours in she said "I need to tell you something" "Ok shoot" I said. "You have been really kind to me, and I lied to you, I'm not a girl I'm a guy, it's just no one would talk to me if I told them I was a guy, so I lied so I could just talk to someone." I thought about it for a few seconds and realized that it didn't matter one bit to me, and I said as much. I'd not been looking to meet or fuck this woman I'd met, just enjoy the chat at the moment. So their gender reality meant little to me beyond that the ideas and feelings they conveyed were legit. I'd never considered Connect as a way to meet a partner, just a thing that could let me have some interesting chats with people elsewhere. An addition to my social options, not a replacement for face to face talks.
Expectations of what you think you are going to get from an interaction matter, and frankly thinking you'll meet a person you RP in a chatroom with is pretty much a low probability sorta thing. I don't go into any online interaction in any form with the expectation that I'll ever get to interact in a more personal closer format.
If two lonely guys end up RPing in the TMF chatroom and come away from it both satisfied on some sexual mental level, then so the fuck what? Just some humans trying to meet their needs and no one is the worse for it. More so that now in 2023 almost anyone who uses a chat room is damned knowledgable in that those they speak to are not needfully what they present. Or as a gay friend once said to me, "Stick your dick in a glory hole and don't be pissed that the mouth on the other side is not the gender you expected. You still got off right?"
The traditional concept of "This is what sex is, and this is what it is not" does not fit will with just how complex our sexualities and expressions of them are in the real world. That every person has a different concept of what sex is just complicates it further. (Blow jobs are not sex honest! goes down poorly if ones partner thinks the opposite) This whole RP debate is another of these sort.
In the end if you got off then it all worked out pretty well, no?
Myriads