My answer would have to be "all of the above". Whether I am a lee or a ler, with me it's about the connection between the two of us and what we both want from the session. I can adapt to various situations and desires and personalities to come up with something that would satisfy us both. If left to my own devices, however, I'd say I am more sensual and playful at first followed by a sadistic and merciless streak until I feel they've had enough 😉
As a lee, I prefer a dominant ler. Someone who can intimidate me with a single comment, or certain look. I prefer a more sadistic and merciless ler myself as well. Someone who knows how to give me what I need and want from the session and isn't afraid to have fun with it.