What sort of play do our 'lees prefer?

[dvnc]

I wanted to pause and make a request to the 'lees bold enough to tell their side of our play. What sort of play do you 'lees prefer?

Before anyone mistakes this, I'm askin' the 'lees en toto. Both genders. I wanna know in general. I've an idea of one gender, from several years of monthly events. Wanna hear all from all, y'know?

Oh, and please, don't knock another persons interests. Play nice. 😉

dvnc

 

[Mimi]

Wow....great question, many answers.

I personally love all aspects of tickling....the playful, the sensual, the erotic, and the torturous.

The playful side, hands down, would have to be my personal favorite. I love to laugh and have fun, and what better way then a good ticklefight or play session. I am a kid at heart, and being chased around the house by a devious tickler threatening to tickle the crap out of me is just incredible. I end up squealing and giggling and acting like an idiot before they ever even get to me. Teasing is a blast too. I go completely bonkers if someone is straddling my hips, and just wiggles their fingers above me. Not touching me, just teasing me with the fact I am GOING to get it. The lead up alone can increase my ticklishness by 100% if it's done right.

The other aspects of tickling - sensual, erotic, and torturous - all lead to the same thing for me. Arousal. Those are all aspects of tickling that I enjoy sharing with an intimate partner, because I know they will lead elsewhere once the play is done.

There is no bad side of tickling. Providing I know that I am safe, and can trust the person tickling me not to take it to a dangerous level, then I am game for anything.

 

[qjakal]

A Genius!

See? This is why I think you need to take it easy at work, d! Brilliant thread ideas like this must wear ya out! Keep 'em coming bud! Q

 

[QBWeaver]

I know you already know this DVNC but my favorite play is bondage play but that's for two specific reasons.

First, it's a health risk for anyone to tickle me without bondage. I will come out fighting like a wild animal. I've hurt many trying to get away and hurt myself at time as well. I know you remember the QB/Boomtown head butt. For those of you who weren't there.. Boom was tickling the dickens out of one of our favorite ladies and I walked into the room to make sure everything was going well. Boom reached over, grabbed my sides, I collapsed down into the fetal position hitting his head with mine on the way down. That man has a darn hard head as evidenced by the goose egg on my head that appeared a bit later!

Second, I just love the sensation of being in bondage. It's a fantasy come true. A fantasy that I had kept inside for most of my years until I met folks in the community and found out that I could actually live my fantasies. And it was even better in real life than in my dreams.

Not that playful tickling isn't fun too. I've only found 1 guy who can hold me down and tickle the bejesus out of me without any help. And he's so darned sneaky about it. Times when I just totally trust him and I'm thinking he's just going to give me a hug or a snuggle and BAMM... he's got me. You know... it's a tough job but somebody's gotta do it!

ok DVNC... I'm ready for this weekend. I am SO ready for this weekend. My bag-o-tricks is packed and ready to go. We'll see ya Saturday! Oh wait... I owe ya huh? Oh Drat! I'm in BIG Trouble! Ah but I just LOVE being in trouble with the likes of you and the gang!

See ya soon!
Jan

 

[evilqueen]

Like QB, I prefer bondage with my tickling. I prefer bondage even without tickling. I'd prefer bondage with my latte grande but I don't think I could get the starbucks guys to tie me up.

But once I'm properly bound or pinned down, I like the kind of tickling that produces lengthy helpless giggling interspersed with fits of screaming laughter. I prefer fingers over feathers, and all the usual nasty things for foot tickling. When I'm tickled all over, down to my feet...and then somewhere else, and then back to my feet...and then somewhere else, and back to my feet - that's what gets me the most hysterical. Being teased in any other way😱 just makes everything worse.

DVNC, one question you asked in another post was something like - Do 'lees always get turned on by tickling, or do you have to be attracted to the 'ler in order to find the tickling erotic?

I am always turned on by tickling, and this has led to some uncomfortable situations. I avoid family tickle fights, for example. I don't tickle others for fun or let myself be tickled unless it's okay that the fun has an erotic overtone.

I envy your ability to separate out between playful and erotic tickling. And I appreciate your comparison of tickling to kissing. But if you were wired so that any kiss turned you on, I'd hope that you'd avoid your mama's lips like I avoid my nephew's fingers. 😉

eq
don't care if it's you or me, but somebody here's gotta be tied up

 

[Dave2112]

Evilqueen?

Here's your double-latte....

Now if you'd just be so kind as to step up to this table...

Straps? Oh, those? Don't worry about it......

(See? It's easy😀 )

 

[MrTicklee]

To add a male ticklees perspective, my response would be quite simialr to QB's EvilQueen's replies. I like the bondage aspect of tickling. For saftey reasons its almost a neccessity. I like the playfull tickling that leads to the torturous and going back and forth and then some. To quote EvilQueen, "helpless giggling interspersed with fits of screaming laughter." And I am in complete agreeance with fingers over feathers as well as "all the usual nasty things for foot tickling."

EvilQueen and I must be twin ticklees separated at birth because "when I'm tickled all over, down to my feet...and then somewhere else, and then back to my feet...and then somewhere else, and back to my feet - that's what gets me the most hysterical" too!

MrTicklee

 

[njjen3953]

There is no bad side of tickling. Providing I know that I am safe, and can trust the person tickling me not to take it to a dangerous level, then I am game for anything.

Mimi,
I agree 100% on that point.

Jen

 

[MrTicklee]

I am in such an agreeable mood today...

I agree 100% also with Mimi.

MrTicklee

 

[dvnc]

Wow! Thanks for all the replies, folks. I love it when I figure out a good question, and love it more when the answers are copious!

evil_queen - extra thanks for answerin' that other question on sexual response. y'aren't the only one that has the strong response to tickling. I've a friend abroad who's likewise, and her kid's eyes opened SO wide to a slight tickling. Mom actually flushed, though, so I figured it was brightest not to tickle the kid further. Kid. The girl was bigger than I am, which ain't 'zactly sayin' much.

Lucky for me the kid wasn't like QB, who neglected t'mention clockin' one of the 'lers at our second actual gathering. She writhed her way loose of a badly tied knot, missed me while swingin' forward, and clocked the rube across from me. Swept him over onto the floor. Apologized a bunch, too. Rookie should've listened. Always negotiate your play with your 'lee. Heck, Boom knew better, but didn't figure the response would be *that* strong, and he's a sharp one. QB forgot t'mention that Boom had a likewise knot on the noggin.

Dave2112 - we think too much alike sometimes, brother. "Here's your latte, miss. Hm? Oh, just stretch across the counter to get to it..."

As for Mr.Ticklee and evil_queen havin' such similarities, do remind me, if I ever get the two of you at an event, to have you both tied for a "race" to see who responds first, most, and best. You get t'pick your 'lers, naturally. 😉

Anyone not catching where two of our lady 'lees (Mimi and NJJen) commented on the quality of response being better when they felt safe needs to re-read the thread. Safety first, kiddies. Negotiate, safely restrain, and apply only the necessary pressure. I recall way too many 'lees with tickle bruises from overzealous 'lers. I had less bruise back when I used to spar!

The bondage commentary reminds me of another question I've been meaning to ask...

 

[Dave2112]

dvnc, sometimes we do think an awful lot a like...he he he

(Oh mmiiissssss....here's your laaaatttteeeeee....)

 

[evilqueen]

you guys 😛

Have you thought of starting up a franchise? There's gotta be at least one corner in America that doesn't have a Starbucks yet - and yours would be...unique....

 

[dvnc]

Dave's Laughin' Place. Fine coffee and a finer touch.

I like it, Dave. When I get rich and don't have t'geek anymore, I'm all for it. Don't know WHERE we're gonna find a town that don't have a Starbucks anymore, though...

Wait, what about all them other 'lees? Statistically, there oughta be over 200 on this board. Don't ANY of you have a perspective to offer that ain't listed here? I *know* some of ya do, and know who y'are. We have our ways of making you type...

Mwahahaahahahahaahaaaaaaa,

dvnc
dreamin' of findin' the evil_queen someday 😉

 

[njjen3953]

The bondage commentary reminds me of another question I've been meaning to ask...

I was thinking the same thing. I also have a question concerning bondage.
What is it about bondage that you like?

When I first started at the BDSM clubs, There was a guy who was a Master of rope bondage. He made all his own rope and when he tied, he did macrame. It was a work of art. I loved being bound like that because it felt safe and comforting. I always wondered why it was so comforting. I figured out that it felt to me like I was being hugged.
I still like bondage, but for a lengthy tickle session, I prefer not to stay bound. Little annoyances that interfere with a session like cramping are less likely if I am not at all restrained. Of course being held down doesn't count and I can take plenty of that.

So, why do you like or dislike bondage?

Jen

 

[qjakal]

Lots of Reasons...

Control, safety, ability to "time" responses without interference....chance to practice my macrame without piling up another plant hangar, and when done with a significant other, the only way to extend foreplay beyond reasonable limits and drive her insane...lol. Q the merciless (at least to snickerdoodles...people have a chance)

 

[elaah]

first to the play question....

I like to be tied for more serious play but being untied is also alot of fun. After all when you are free there is that excitement of trying to get away and really thinking for about a half of second that you may be able to! When you feel the hand(s) on your leg pulling you back to the bed for laughter and tickling fun it adds to the erotic side of the play. When you almost get away and then are back in his tickling hands it makes him tickle and try harder to restrain you. Sometimes he wins, sometimes you just think you will wake the neighbors and you give in! LOL

When tickling starts as playful touch while watching tv and I end up on the floor from laughing so hard, I find that it is good to really try to turn the tables on him! After all he started it and deserves what he gets!

The more serious play when bondage is used is a different thing for me. In my profession I HAVE to be the one in charge, so that when I am restrained and tickled all that is taken away. The feeling of having the restraints tightened, the ropes tightly pulled and the "test" tickles beginning on my soles and sides is enough to send me through the roof! When it is done in a manner that it builds from a giggle to an all out outburst of non stop laughter and back again to those giggles ...it is enough to remind me of who is in control..
The levels of tickling are what excite me most. They go from a ticklish feeling to a revenge feeling just wanting to pay him back to an erotic feeling. Just as one gets comfortable (kind of) you get the onslaught of the next emotion all tangled and sorted in the same tickle opportunity. Its like an emotional blender going at different speeds! Then the day or evening moves into the next level between the two of you to really get you going! : )



: )
Donna

 

[elaah]

and to answer Jens "why" question.....

because we can : P



Donna

 

[qjakal]

'lers side...

Hmmm...we should probably get a thread going on the emotional tumult that tickling causes in the ticklers as well....in general though I agree strongly with elaahs description of it being an "emotional blender". When dealing with a bound woman I always feel an incredibly strong sense of responsibility and "duty" (hmmm...not quite right emotion...sounds too much like work..lol) regarding the session going well and her needs (depending on the 'lee and our level of involvement) being met fully and then some! I love goals and accomplishments, and I've always figured this added to my love of bondage tickling! The rollercoaster of sensations is incredible on BOTH sides apparently. As a tickler I have that intense adrenaline rush causing trembling in both voice and muscles as the tying begins, and the nearly breathtaking rush as those first "test tickles" produce both a reaction and the promise of many more! Anyway, sorry for rambling, because i really like to hear about the experience from the 'lee side, which seems as intense as ours! Q

 

[hawkikim]

Well, I must echo the sentiments of quite a few folks here. I love the bondage play, especially in the group situations. I can relate to QB's reasoning (I WAS there for the famous Head-butt!!!!) but I haven't had the tendency (at least, I don't THINK I have) to (to use QB's words) fight like an animal when I'm NOT bound. I just enjoy the bondage aspect, the giving up of control.

As far as the turn-on side of things, I have to be at least somewhat sexually attracted to the person tickling me before I am turned on by it. I love the playful tickle-fights & the gathering-type tickling scenarios, and the turn-on thing isn't a factor in those situations (unless, of course, there's someone there I have the attraction for!)

Good thread, DVNC! Oh, and where do I line up for the latte? I'm kinda sick of Starbucks!!!

Kim

 

[dvnc]

Thanks, Kim. I could use one o' lattes those right now. Fadin' fast.

While I'm personally pleased, I'm sure the female 'lers out there would appreciate more of you male 'lees jumpin' in.

enjoyin' the participation,

dvnc

 

[strtbottomjim]

In my case, being tied will be absolutely necessary, since I'm just plain big - 6'4", 280lbs 🙂.

Fortunately, that blends perfectly with what I want - total vulnerability 😛.

I also strongly prefer to start with this in a group situation, because I like DVNC's screening proceedures and other safety aspects. Given that, I fully expect a lot of arousal, with "being watched while turned on" feeding my tendencies towards exhibitionism *and* need for "helplessness".

If male 'lers jump in, or especially if it's a single male 'ler or a group of 'em, the "sexuality aspects" will be reduced but the corresponding rise in "vulnerability" should leave plenty of fun in, and I'm eager to at least try that, even though my sexual orientation is hetero. If the boys choose to "go genital", the resulting "confusion" should add to the generally addled mental mix 😛.

I'm fine with all this as long as we don't go to penetration or fluid exchange, which is one of my two no-nos along with pain.

 

[QBWeaver]

Just so ya know Jim... At our gatherings we remain clothed and we play with the rule that there is no touching in areas that would be covered by a bikini bottom (and top when it comes to the ladies).

We don't get into any sexual play at the gatherings either. That just makes it more comfortable for all involved. We figure you can take the sexual play home with you to enjoy in private. So you won't have to worry about any of us "going Genital".

Sorry if that dashes your image of the gatherings. But we like it this way.

Jan

 

[JoBelle]

Hmmmm...excellent thread and responses!

I have to say that there are things I so absolutely adore and dislike as fervently. I'll stick with the pleasures since that is more fun!

There are pluses to being bound and tickle attacked by hungry ticklers in a group. Who could lie about such? 😉 The only problem there is I forget that it's actually tickling! The onslaught become one of overwhelming proportions. I don't feel the tickles...I just feel a sensation. I like it, but it's not what my mind wraps around as tickling. Plus...there comes the danger of losing my voice. Gang tickles, especially when bound, tend to be harder tickles and that makes me shreak! I can't stop it. The harder the tickle the louder the scream. Hurts everyone's ears, even my own! LOL Sometimes that's perfect though.

My favorite play has to be something that I view as psychological tickling. Too much time with a person who didn't "get" the bend but tried to please me anyway, has spoiled me to being tickled by someone who digs it. It can be something as simple as a light stroke on the bottom of my foot that can mentally take me to a happy place. It can be the crazed and nervous look on a ticklers face who sees thin rope wrapped round and round my ankles. It can be a tickle fight in a public place. It can be a number of things....but that simple fact that the tickler is getting wired about it...that's a biggee for me. My favorite type of play allows me to think not just respond. it's generally lighter play,...softer tickles...that touch that makes your skin feel itchy! You know the sensation! I like tickling that makes me GIGGLE...all praise the GIGGLES and think, "OMG,I'm being tickled!" I like soft tickles best. Happy tickles. Tickles that make me smile not just laugh. Tickles that make me think...how'd they do that? How did they make me jump by barely touching the skin?

That being said...I like to be a tickler nowadays too, so a ticklish tickler is going to make playtime THAT much more rewarding! 😛

Not a hugely different thought, sorry, but maybe a little different.

Jo 🙂

 

[strtbottomjim]

Jan: not a problem 😛. Clothed to that degree will still be fun, and a great (and SAFE) place to meet people interested in going past that elsewhere 😀.

Question: should I bring something to wear to cover the "critical areas" but leave places like inner thighs and lower belly open? Swimsuit trunks? Or something more like sweatpants and a loose sweater that can be reached under?

 

[QBWeaver]

Bring whatever you're comfortable in. Some folks bring Gym shorts, some bathing suits, sweats... whatever you're comfortable in.