Many who know me and who have spoken to me on here know of my estrangement with my father, and many of the horrible things he's done to me. He's made me furious with him on many occasions, but the one I'm going to post here may have been one of the worst.
Just before I left for college, I had been reflecting on my childhood and some of the rotten things he did to me. I tried to open communication with him before I left for the purpose of establishing a better relationship, which had always been both my moms and my goal throughout my childhood. Anyhow, one night I tried discussing this with him, and he had a bizzare response. He always hated my maternal grandmother because she was a warm loving woman who I was close to, and his mother was a cold miserable troublemaker. His reply to my trying to talk to him was "That Ethel" (My maternal grandmother) Well, 18 years of pent up frustration came out on that night. I just lost it at him, screaming at the top of my lungs, and calling him every name in the book. I had been afraid of him during my childhood because he was a verbally abusive miserable man, but on that night, the fear subsided, and the anger came forth. His response to my trying to work with him was to leave the house for a week. A year later, my parents seperated, and except for the time period from April 2000, until 3 months ago, we were estranged, because the guy just couldnt get it through his head that I have rights, and he cant tell me who to see or what to do. Iam better off away from him, because he uses horrible threatening tactics like not paying court ordered alimony to achieve his goals. Iam a warm, loving forgiving person, but Iam better off away from him, because I truly fear one day I will lose it at him. He brings out the worst in me, and wishes me the worst and wants to cause me the worst. I cant post the details of everything he's done to me on here because it is not appropriate to do so, but suffice to say we are estranged for good reason, and he doesnt even care. Considering how he's treated me and what he's done to me, Iam better off without him.
Mitch