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WHAT'S the deal with feet?!

^ Exactly! It is as simple as that.


I personally think many ticklers focus too much on foot tickling, and I'm saying that even though I have a foot fetish myself and love foot tickling... But I think it is a shame to only focus on foot tickling and then neglect the rest of the body.

Not this cat, I love all parts of the female body. I am an explorer, sure I spend some QT with feet, but also the knees, tummy, neck, underarms, butt, tits, and where ever else exists. It has been sometime and I'm sure I've gotten a bit out of practice.

Thanks,
K
 
Thank you guys so much for all of your replies. Really enlightening and I do so appreciate it!

I'm also sorry to everyone to whom my question appeared as either dismissive of, or judgemental about, a love of feet or tickling feet. I truly did not mean this, and can see how it can read that way, now looking back. So my deepest apologies to those of you who I caused to feel bad.

But thanks again for the great answers, and taking the time to help illuminate this subject for me! I guess I could as easily have asked, why ribs, or why underarms... or why cats eat fish indeed! It just surprised me at first that there's an overwhelming connection between tickling and feet and I just wondered why. I'm still coming to terms with this fetish (agreed, not best word) and what exactly I'm hard wired with and I guess I just wondered, why don't I feel the same thing about feet, like so many people who share this do?

So sincerest apologies again. The last thing I intended was to make people feel judged or slighted in any way. I can see how I was careless in my approach, and hope you will forgive me for it.

Kindest wishes to all of you,
Kat x
 
I look at it this way, girls have nice tits, girls have nice legs, girls have pretty feet, hair and eyes. It's one of their body parts that catches your eye, furthermore feet are obviously a sexual part of some women; have you ever heard the saying the path to a woman is through her sole? Also what about when women get turned on by having their feet tickled, toes sucked and or massaged? Simple because it's one of their erotic zones. This isn't the case for everyone though. As for why feet are often tickled a lot well a feather tickling a womans foot has always been associated with tickling, and a lot of them time it's a womans most ticklish spot due to the fact all the nerve endings of the body connect to it.
 
I guess I just wondered, why don't I feel the same thing about feet, like so many people who share this do?
Because we're all different and we all feel different things. It isn't unusual Kat 😉
 
I think its just an interest. Its the same with tickling, I like tickling because it interests me. But everyones gonna have a different opinion about feet.
 
Various neurologists pointed out that fetishism could be the result of neuronal cross links between neighboring regions in the human brain. For example, in 2002 Vilayanur S. Ramachandran stated that the region processing sensory input from the feet lies immediately next to the region processing sexual stimulation.
From Wikaperdia.

Yes, both the feet and the genitals are wired side by side to the somatosensory cortex, which is the main receptive area of the brain which is responsible for the sense of touch.

Let's take this one step further. Feet are also considered one of the erogenous zones.

Source: Wikipedia: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Erogenous_zone "Due to the concentration of nerve endings in the sole and digits of the human foot, the sensations produced by sucking or licking the feet can be pleasurable to some people. Similarly, massaging the sole of the foot produces similar nervous stimulation. Many people are extremely ticklish in the foot area, especially on the bottom of the soles."

Sexual Fetishism: Source: Wikipedia: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sexual_fetishism

Psychological origins and development

"Early psychology assumed that fetishism either is being conditioned or imprinted or the result of a strong emotional (e.g., traumatic) or physical experience. Often, these experiences were experienced in early childhood. For example, an individual who has been physically abused could either have a sexual obsession with intercourse, or they could be completely terrified by even the idea of being touched. It is assumed that those who have been sexually abused create an obsession with being touched or touching others, and possibly even abuse someone else. Physical factors like genetic disposition are another common possible explanation. In the following, the most important theories are presented in chronological order:

Alfred Binet suspected fetishism was the pathological result of associations. Accidentally simultaneous presentation of a sexual stimulus and an inanimate object, he argued, led to the object being permanently connected to sexual arousal.

The sexologist Magnus Hirschfeld followed another line of thought when he proposed his theory of partial attractiveness in 1920. According to his argument, sexual attractiveness never originates in a person as a whole but always is the product of the interaction of individual features. He stated that nearly everyone had special interests and thus suffered from a healthy kind of fetishism, while only detaching and overvaluing of a single feature resulted in pathological fetishism. Today, Hirschfeld's theory is often mentioned in the context of gender role specific behavior: females present sexual stimuli by highlighting body parts, clothes or accessories; males react to them.

Sigmund Freud believed that sexual fetishism in men derived from the unconscious fear of the mother's genitals, from men's universal fear of castration, and from a man's fantasy that his mother had had a penis but that it had been cut off. He did not discuss sexual fetishism in women.

In 1951, Donald Winnicott presented his theory of transitional objects and phenomena, according to which childish actions like thumb sucking and objects like cuddly toys are the source of manifold adult behavior, amongst many others fetishism.

The use of a transitional object in infancy is a healthy experience (Winnicott, 1953). To understand the origin of a fetish object and of fetishism, the infant’s use of the transitional object and of transitional phenomena in general must be studied (Winnicott, 1953).

In his article ‘Transitional objects and phenomena’, Winnicott says about fetish: “Fetish can be described in terms of a persistence of a specific object or type of object dating from infantile experience in the transitional field, linked with the delusion of a maternal phallus” (Winnicott, 1953). In other words, a specific object or type of object, dating from an experience during the period where the mother gradually pulls back as an immediate provider of satisfaction of the child’s desires, persists as a characteristic in adult sexual life.

Before this transitional phase, the child believes that his own wish creates the object of his desire (specifically the qualities of his mother that fulfill his needs), which brings with it a sense of satisfaction. During this phase the child gradually adapts to the (frustrating) realization that the object cannot be controlled to serve the child's needs.

The transitional object is always the result of a gratifying relationship with the mother, specifically with the maternal body. It stands for the satisfying qualities that the object (the mother/ father) of the first relationship the child has. The child adapts to the impact of the realization that the mother is not always there to ‘bring the world to him’ through fantasizing about the object of his desire while using an object (a teddy bear, a piece of cloth). He creates an illusion of the previous object. In relation to the transitional object the infant passes from (magical) omnipotent control to control by manipulation (involving muscle eroticism and co-ordination pleasure).

In opposition to this, the fetish represents the impossibility of pleasure with the body of the mother or the paternal body in the case of females. Fetishism, although less abundant in occurrence in the female psyche, or of a different nature, is not the monopoly of men. The transitional object may eventually develop into a fetish object and so persist as a characteristic of the adult sexual life (Winnicott, 1953). Normally, the child gains from the experience of frustration during the transitional phase, although the infant can be disturbed by a close adaptation to need that is continued too long or is not allowed its natural decrease.

Behaviorism traced fetishism back to classical conditioning and came up with numerous specialized theories. The common theme running through all of them is that sexual stimulus and the fetish object are presented simultaneously causing them to be connected in the learning process. This is similar to Binet's early theory, though it differs in that it specifies association to classical conditioning and leaves out any judgment about pathogenicity. The super stimulus theory stressed that fetishes could be the result of generalization. For example, it may only be shiny skin that arouses a person at first, but in time more common stimuli, such as shiny latex, may have the same effect. The problem with such a theory was that classical conditioning normally needs many repetitions, but this form would require only one. To account for this the preparedness theory was put forward; it stated that reacting to an object with sexual arousal could be the result of an evolutionary process, because such a reaction could prove to be useful for survival. In pointing to how conditioned sexual behavior can persist over time, one may cite how, in 2004, when quails were trained to copulate with a piece of terry cloth, their conditioning was sustained through ongoing repetition.

Because classical conditioning seemed to be unable to explain how the conditioned behavior is kept alive over many years, without any repetition, some behaviorists came up with the theory that fetishism was the result of a special form of conditioning, called imprinting. Such conditioning happens during a specific time in early childhood in which sexual orientation is imprinted into the child's mind and remains there for the rest of his or her life.

Various neurologists pointed out that fetishism could be the result of neuronal cross links between neighboring regions in the human brain. For example, in 2002 Vilayanur S. Ramachandran stated that the region processing sensory input from the feet lies immediately next to the region processing sexual stimulation.

Today, psychodynamics has parted with the idea of proposing one explanation for all fetishes at the same time. Instead, it focuses on one form of fetishism at a time and the patients' individual problems. Over the past decades, various case studies have been published in which fetishism could successfully be linked to emotional problems. Some argue that a lack of parental love leads to a child projecting its affection to inanimate objects, others state in consent with Freud's model of psychosexual development that premature suppression of sexuality could lead to a child getting stuck in a transitory phase. One of Freud’s defense mechanisms, displacement, is the redirection of an impulse onto a substitute target. Someone who feels uncomfortable with their sexual desire for a real person may therefore substitute a fetish."
 
Damn, that is a highly informative answer! I would never be able to word it quite so eloquently and to the point, but yes! 🙂 I dunno, it is definitely true that those with tickling fetishes often have a fetish / partialism towards feet as well. They've always been one of the sexy iconic parts of a woman's body, especially with the TONS of accessories they make for the area: Toe Rings, Anklets, the Sherwin Williams' collection of Polish Colors, High Heels, Cute Socks, Fishnets, etc etc etc. That coupled with the natural amount of nerve endings in the area, sometimes to a pleasurable stimuli as explained up in Wabbit's post, just makes it one of the biggest targeted areas in this community.

🙂
 
I used to constantly wonder about the OP's question myself because I just didn't understand the appeal of feet, especially when I've heard my sister on more than one occasion tell me I have raptor feet and realized I wasn't the only one who didn't get it... And, before I move on, no, I'm not going to post a photograph of them to prove how "ugly" they are.

In any case, I've long since stopped bothering to wonder. It is what it is, and if that's something you're into, good for you; I'm glad it's something you like. However, what always aggravates me about the overwhelming nature of the foot fetish is that, first of all, almost every male here I've spoken to, or other forums catering to this fetish, has it to some degree and the conversation inevitably ends up on feet, which I have absolutely no interest in, and kills the conversation and makes me not want to speak to them anymore. It also doesn't help that I'm really uncomfortable with the idea of my feet being touched in general. I absolutely despise my feet being touched, for whatever reason that might be, and no, it isn't because they're sensitive before someone asks again. I just am not comfortable with it, which most foot people don't understand, don't care to understand, and simply won't drop the subject because that's what they're into and they're incapable of talking about anything else with someone who is open about their fetishes despite the fact that, that person doesn't have a foot fetish in the first place.

Maybe if most men around the forum weren't total ass-hats about it, didn't obsess over it so much to the point of annoyance, this question wouldn't come up so much.
 
If the question is "why would you rather tickle feet than any other part?" the answer is obvious: they have a foot fetish. And if you're going to ask how could someone have a foot fetish, MrTickleFeet (appropriately enough) gave as good an answer as you're going to get.
 
I don't think you or anyone that is NOT into feet will ever understand the fascination. Some of us are wired differently than others. Just like why people here don't understand the fascination with people that are far more into pain. You just kind of have to accept it. The way that I think it as is foot fetishist are like artists, they see a simple beauty in something that doesn't seem so special to anyone else.
 
I used to constantly wonder about the OP's question myself because I just didn't understand the appeal of feet, especially when I've heard my sister on more than one occasion tell me I have raptor feet and realized I wasn't the only one who didn't get it... And, before I move on, no, I'm not going to post a photograph of them to prove how "ugly" they are.

In any case, I've long since stopped bothering to wonder. It is what it is, and if that's something you're into, good for you; I'm glad it's something you like. However, what always aggravates me about the overwhelming nature of the foot fetish is that, first of all, almost every male here I've spoken to, or other forums catering to this fetish, has it to some degree and the conversation inevitably ends up on feet, which I have absolutely no interest in, and kills the conversation and makes me not want to speak to them anymore. It also doesn't help that I'm really uncomfortable with the idea of my feet being touched in general. I absolutely despise my feet being touched, for whatever reason that might be, and no, it isn't because they're sensitive before someone asks again. I just am not comfortable with it, which most foot people don't understand, don't care to understand, and simply won't drop the subject because that's what they're into and they're incapable of talking about anything else with someone who is open about their fetishes despite the fact that, that person doesn't have a foot fetish in the first place.

Maybe if most men around the forum weren't total ass-hats about it, didn't obsess over it so much to the point of annoyance, this question wouldn't come up so much.

Well put LadyNerd, well put! Even though I am a male member of the foot fetish community, I never really just up and start talking about it since, like you said, it has the tendency to turn some folk off. If the conversation piece comes up, sure I'll talk about it, but I guess I'm an oddball then because whenever I chat with people on here, it's normally just regular chat subjects and simple "get to know you" conversations ^_^
 
Fab informative answer Crazy Wabbit. Thanks for that!

Damn, that is a highly informative answer! I would never be able to word it quite so eloquently and to the point, but yes! 🙂 I dunno, it is definitely true that those with tickling fetishes often have a fetish / partialism towards feet as well. They've always been one of the sexy iconic parts of a woman's body, especially with the TONS of accessories they make for the area: Toe Rings, Anklets, the Sherwin Williams' collection of Polish Colors, High Heels, Cute Socks, Fishnets, etc etc etc. That coupled with the natural amount of nerve endings in the area, sometimes to a pleasurable stimuli as explained up in Wabbit's post, just makes it one of the biggest targeted areas in this community.

Thanks tentative_lee and Nextrend2011. I've done some reading and research on my free time to try to get a better understanding of it because I happen to have both a tickling and foot fetish myself.

I used to constantly wonder about the OP's question myself because I just didn't understand the appeal of feet, especially when I've heard my sister on more than one occasion tell me I have raptor feet and realized I wasn't the only one who didn't get it... And, before I move on, no, I'm not going to post a photograph of them to prove how "ugly" they are.

In any case, I've long since stopped bothering to wonder. It is what it is, and if that's something you're into, good for you; I'm glad it's something you like. However, what always aggravates me about the overwhelming nature of the foot fetish is that, first of all, almost every male here I've spoken to, or other forums catering to this fetish, has it to some degree and the conversation inevitably ends up on feet, which I have absolutely no interest in, and kills the conversation and makes me not want to speak to them anymore. It also doesn't help that I'm really uncomfortable with the idea of my feet being touched in general. I absolutely despise my feet being touched, for whatever reason that might be, and no, it isn't because they're sensitive before someone asks again. I just am not comfortable with it, which most foot people don't understand, don't care to understand, and simply won't drop the subject because that's what they're into and they're incapable of talking about anything else with someone who is open about their fetishes despite the fact that, that person doesn't have a foot fetish in the first place.

Maybe if most men around the forum weren't total ass-hats about it, didn't obsess over it so much to the point of annoyance, this question wouldn't come up so much.

Well, that blows that theory out the window. For me, I was first thinking that maybe I "got this fetish" because a girl sucked my toes when I was a teenager. So originally I was thinking that if someone asks, they just never had it done to them or they would know. However, since you said that you don't like to have your feet touched at all, then it's just not your thing and not something that you "get" because of how it felt to you. I must have had it the whole time, but wasn't aware of how pleasurable it is until it happened to me.

I don't think you or anyone that is NOT into feet will ever understand the fascination. Some of us are wired differently than others. Just like why people here don't understand the fascination with people that are far more into pain. You just kind of have to accept it. The way that I think it as is foot fetishist are like artists, they see a simple beauty in something that doesn't seem so special to anyone else.

If the truth be known, even if you were to sit down and ask them, they may not even know for sure themselves.

Well put LadyNerd, well put! Even though I am a male member of the foot fetish community, I never really just up and start talking about it since, like you said, it has the tendency to turn some folk off. If the conversation piece comes up, sure I'll talk about it, but I guess I'm an oddball then because whenever I chat with people on here, it's normally just regular chat subjects and simple "get to know you" conversations ^_^

I know exactly where you are coming from on that because that is the same approach I use. The only outlet I have is here online and that's only when the topic comes up. Until finding that there were people out there that shared the same fetish as I do, I believed there was something wrong with me. I even went to a therapist and asked if I could go through aversion therapy for this because "instead of being attracted to feet, I wanted to be like the guys who focus on tits and eating pussy."

I was denied three times by three different therapists, simply because when they asked me if it caused me "distress" and when I explained to them how it did, they didn't consider it distress. Distress in the mental health community is considered something that dibilitates to to the point where you can not function on a daily basis. It prevents you from your activities of daily living, cannot function vocationally, occupationally, or even non-intimate social settings. As I found out, my issue was coming to terms and accepting the fact that this is just one part of who I am and to become more confident in myself so I would not feel the way I did about myself. I have gotten better about that, but still struggle with it just a bit.

But as far as talking about it to anyone in real time, no way and don't ever plan on it. The only way that will ever happen is if 1) I just happen to be with someone else who has a foot fetish, and/or 2) the stigma of it has been removed in mainstream society and is no longer considered taboo.

But with the way people can still be close-minded, judgmental, unforgiving, and opinionated in the face of empirical evidence and peer reviewed data, I would go with the former than the latter in those two scenarios. Hell, look at the strides the LGBT community has proven and we all know how they are still being treated. Not very well to say the very least. Our case would be no different. This would be something that would be best "left in the closet" (figuratively speaking).
 
hello - i just posted same mood before reading here - beeing a clip buyer, i m not a foot fetishist, but a tickling fetishist and i'm very disapointed each time i get one showing minutes long of full screen high rez only foot tickled ... missing the ticklee face body reaction and so on


Hi, very new to this and in the spirit of joining in and all that I felt I should post... And I do have just one burning question really, as a newbie lee who could take it or leave it, but really...

WHAT'S the deal with the obsession over feet above any other body part?! I just don't get it AT ALL and want to know!
 
I used to constantly wonder about the OP's question myself because I just didn't understand the appeal of feet, especially when I've heard my sister on more than one occasion tell me I have raptor feet and realized I wasn't the only one who didn't get it... And, before I move on, no, I'm not going to post a photograph of them to prove how "ugly" they are.

In any case, I've long since stopped bothering to wonder. It is what it is, and if that's something you're into, good for you; I'm glad it's something you like. However, what always aggravates me about the overwhelming nature of the foot fetish is that, first of all, almost every male here I've spoken to, or other forums catering to this fetish, has it to some degree and the conversation inevitably ends up on feet, which I have absolutely no interest in, and kills the conversation and makes me not want to speak to them anymore. It also doesn't help that I'm really uncomfortable with the idea of my feet being touched in general. I absolutely despise my feet being touched, for whatever reason that might be, and no, it isn't because they're sensitive before someone asks again. I just am not comfortable with it, which most foot people don't understand, don't care to understand, and simply won't drop the subject because that's what they're into and they're incapable of talking about anything else with someone who is open about their fetishes despite the fact that, that person doesn't have a foot fetish in the first place.

Maybe if most men around the forum weren't total ass-hats about it, didn't obsess over it so much to the point of annoyance, this question wouldn't come up so much.

I think you have valid concerns, but I wish you (and people bothered in a like manner) could get the points across without the big, sweeping stereotyping. "Most foot guys can't won't refuse INSIST" "most guys around this forum". That kind of stuff. Because that doesn't do any good for anyone. Vanilla guys, fetish guys are all capable of being extremely obsessive and inconsiderate. It isn't inherently the trait that because you dig a girl's toes you probably behave like 'this'. You have to factor in the internet element too. I haven't done the gathering thing myself, but by most accounts and the intelligence I've seen on the board I would say there are a plethora of people who behave wonderfully. A lot of people are more private and tend to lurk or have a relationship or are drinking coffee and as a result what women run into at a place like this, unfortunately, are the hungry. Anonymous, hungry animals.

Dudes that are ill-behaved or perhaps just ill can obsess and manipulate and start an account with different emails and get all kinds of thrills off just the chase. Even if they know it's not going anywhere real. It doesn't have to. They'll scratch and claw to get their result without compassion. But those are a few bad apples that behave so rottenly that it can make the appearance that the whole tree is filled with them. And it simply isn't true. Any fetish or sexual desire has the same potential for true obsession. Not one over the other. Just because a random guy will once-in-a blue-moon break into a house and fondle some poor woman's feet doesn't mean that's the calling card of a foot person. What about all the people that don't make the news?

All I can tell you or anybody else with similar "wtf"s or serious concerns is that I'm sorry people like that ruin it for you (whether you share the interest or not). Cause guess what? They ruin it hardcore for us well-adjusted folk. They make us not strike up conversations for fear of bothering or scaring away or triggering that dreaded, "Oh, you're one of those guys" death sentences that women can be cruel about. That cruelty and negativity is understandable considering the madness they put you through, but you should avoid placing the blame on a whole group of people when a lot of them are perfectly capable of having the utmost respect for your likes and dislikes.

Yes, I'm a foot guy. I'm super into it. Like some people have a taste for veggies or Doctor Who or death metal. I just wish more than anything that the media and a sampling of rabid, insensitive no-goods were not "on the poster" for people like me.
 
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I used to constantly wonder about the OP's question myself because I just didn't understand the appeal of feet, especially when I've heard my sister on more than one occasion tell me I have raptor feet and realized I wasn't the only one who didn't get it... And, before I move on, no, I'm not going to post a photograph of them to prove how "ugly" they are.

In any case, I've long since stopped bothering to wonder. It is what it is, and if that's something you're into, good for you; I'm glad it's something you like. However, what always aggravates me about the overwhelming nature of the foot fetish is that, first of all, almost every male here I've spoken to, or other forums catering to this fetish, has it to some degree and the conversation inevitably ends up on feet, which I have absolutely no interest in, and kills the conversation and makes me not want to speak to them anymore. It also doesn't help that I'm really uncomfortable with the idea of my feet being touched in general. I absolutely despise my feet being touched, for whatever reason that might be, and no, it isn't because they're sensitive before someone asks again. I just am not comfortable with it, which most foot people don't understand, don't care to understand, and simply won't drop the subject because that's what they're into and they're incapable of talking about anything else with someone who is open about their fetishes despite the fact that, that person doesn't have a foot fetish in the first place.

Maybe if most men around the forum weren't total ass-hats about it, didn't obsess over it so much to the point of annoyance, this question wouldn't come up so much.

sorry to break it to you, but it's not us foot lovers with the problem, it's you.. and your sister! you're the one that's all bent out of shape over your own ugly feet, not us! hell, you won't even give anyone the chance to prove you may be wrong. you need psychological help with your distorted body image.
steve
 
sorry to break it to you, but it's not us foot lovers with the problem, it's you.. and your sister! you're the one that's all bent out of shape over your own ugly feet, not us! hell, you won't even give anyone the chance to prove you may be wrong. you need psychological help with your distorted body image.
steve

If you had read my post correctly, you would see I quoted the word "ugly". I have absolutely no care about how my feet look, whether they are ugly or not. I won't give any of you the chance because you lot have enough porn without me adding a photograph of my own feet to it. Maybe you're the one who needs the mental help if you're trying to sucker me, and badly, into showing you a picture of my feet.

unclebill said:
Sweeping generalizations.^^^ Does this "ass-hat" label apply to women, too???

Women are likely to have done similar things as well, but I have only, or mostly, had men be like that, which is why I say most men. Even so, you're not wrong. Most people into feet are ass-hats about the subject. Is that better?
 
I think you have valid concerns, but I wish you (and people bothered in a like manner) could get the points across without the big, sweeping stereotyping. "Most foot guys can't won't refuse INSIST" "most guys around this forum". That kind of stuff. Because that doesn't do any good for anyone. Vanilla guys, fetish guys are all capable of being extremely obsessive and inconsiderate. It isn't inherently the trait that because you dig a girl's toes you probably behave like 'this'. You have to factor in the internet element too. I haven't done the gathering thing myself, but by most accounts and the intelligence I've seen on the board I would say there are a plethora of people who behave wonderfully. A lot of people are more private and tend to lurk or have a relationship or are drinking coffee and as a result what women run into at a place like this, unfortunately, are the hungry. Anonymous, hungry animals.

Dudes that are ill-behaved or perhaps just ill can obsess and manipulate and start an account with different emails and get all kinds of thrills off just the chase. Even if they know it's not going anywhere real. It doesn't have to. They'll scratch and claw to get their result without compassion. But those are a few bad apples that behave so rottenly that it can make the appearance that the whole tree is filled with them. And it simply isn't true. Any fetish or sexual desire has the same potential for true obsession. Not one over the other. Just because a random guy will once-in-a blue-moon break into a house and fondle some poor woman's feet doesn't mean that's the calling card of a foot person. What about all the people that don't make the news?

All I can tell you or anybody else with similar "wtf"s or serious concerns is that I'm sorry people like that ruin it for you (whether you share the interest or not). Cause guess what? They ruin it hardcore for us well-adjusted folk. They make us not strike up conversations for fear of bothering or scaring away or triggering that dreaded, "Oh, you're one of those guys" death sentences that women can be cruel about. That cruelty and negativity is understandable considering the madness they put you through, but you should avoid placing the blame on a whole group of people when a lot of them are perfectly capable of having the utmost respect for your likes and dislikes.

Yes, I'm a foot guy. I'm super into it. Like some people have a taste for veggies or Doctor Who or death metal. I just wish more than anything that the media and a sampling of rabid, insensitive no-goods were not "on the poster" for people like me.

I didn't mention other men, or women, with other obsessions because this topic is about a specific group of them. I never said people with other obsessions couldn't be just as annoying, ridiculous, or downright aggravating, and they can be. Nevertheless, those folks who ruin it for the well-adjusted give the rest of us cause to be suspicious of everyone. However, if you behave like a gentleman, or a lady, before you bring up the feet or fetish questions in general, most folks will give you a chance. If I've had decent conversation with a person before they start asking me the standard, "'Lee or 'ler." questions, I have no problem discussing it. I will still make it known that I am not into feet and highly dislike mine touched, but I won't be bothered to discuss other things with you.

Also, while I dislike bringing this up because it gets me more psychos harassing me, were I to ever meet someone who was really into feet, who I was also dating, I would give him, or perhaps her, the benefit of the doubt and let them slowly get me used to having my feet touched. I'm open, though that isn't a guarantee by any means. It all depends upon the other person.
 
Well, you were putting it in the context of "the overwhelming nature of the foot fetish". As if it were especially so and, by nature, in your face and overwhelming. It only feels that way because some people haven't been respectful on a message board. It's gross to you and a handful of ill-mannered dudes make you uncomfortable as all hell and that's your experience of it. I'm just saying that for every one of those people there are ten guys that aren't doing it.

I've had plenty of conversations about this with people that both love and want nothing to do with it. That's fine. I don't want to convert you and there are a lot of sane fetishists that would rather not force anything on anyone. So saying things like, "Most people into feet are ass-hats about the subject" is intolerant and disrespectful. It's no better than what the bad apples do to you and others. If I hold a convo and want to talk fetishism and the person is uncomfortable or unreceptive, I back off or talk about something else. The community is huge both around the forum and outside and there are so many people that are respectful that happen to have this fetish. If you don't want to partake, most people are going to be cool about it. You can be uncomfortable and not receptive to the idea of the fetish without being insensitive to the great many that aren't lifting a finger to bother you. All I'm saying.
 
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Maybe if you had been harassed by fetishists since you were fourteen and first became part of the group, you would understand why I have issues a little more. I wasn't always so against feet and I didn't used to mind having them touched as much, but as the years progressed and I spoke to more folks, I became more and more uncomfortable with the thought.

Once again, I have no problem with the boys and girls who aren't creepers whether it's pertaining to this fetish, that fetish, or anything else. I've had plenty of normal conversations with folks into feet and not, but that doesn't mean the majority weren't downright awful. In any case, you're never going to understand my reasons fully and I'm never going to understand yours, so leaving it at that seems like a decent idea to me whether you still consider me insensitive or not.
 
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It may be that the ler has a fetish for feet. Me being one it's why I'd tickle more feet than any other part if a fully restrained body. My other spots inlike are pits and inner thighs.

Also ad far as having a fetish for feet, some say it's a psychological thing that's developed by some event in childhood and being that in a lit of visual media involving tickling feet is usually the choice spot that's being attacked so you could unconsciously pick it up from that.
 
Maybe if you had been harassed by fetishists since you were fourteen and first became part of the group, you would understand why I have issues a little more. I wasn't always so against feet and I didn't used to mind having them touched as much, but as the years progressed and I spoke to more folks, I became more and more uncomfortable with the thought.

Once again, I have no problem with the boys and girls who aren't creepers whether it's pertaining to this fetish, that fetish, or anything else. I've had plenty of normal conversations with folks into feet and not, but that doesn't mean the majority weren't downright awful. In any case, you're never going to understand my reasons fully and I'm never going to understand yours, so leaving it at that seems like a decent idea to me whether you still consider me insensitive or not.

I'm perfectly willing to let it rest after this reply cause my aim is not to press buttons for the sake of it, but at least know that my intent is not to 'win' the argument on behalf of a sexual interest. That's not the issue.

I realize we come from different perspectives and, no, I can't know exactly what you've been through. But I'm very equipped to imagine it and by virtue of having fetishes and being around communities based around them AND being a guy, I certainly know what *some* people are capable of. And I know that is overwhelming because they can be relentless and uncaring and hide behind multiple handles online and chances are when it comes to something sexual, that's what you will run into more often. That's only because the real majority are busy not being scum. Think of all the people in the world that have a tickling fetish. All of them. Open, in the closet, lurkers, all. You really think the scumbags take up three quarters of that chart? Of course not. They just make the most appearances because they're operating like sharks.

I accept that you've had a lot of bad encounters and it's been mostly a thorn in your journey. You are entitled to issues surrounding the whole thing and it sucks that life has thrown you more than your fair share of the poorest example of men. Feel what you feel. I'm not trying to make you come around and throw a fiesta for something you have issues with. I just want us (society) to move past the high school mentality of calling most at the other table freaks, so to speak. We don't have to be on exactly the same page or not have issues through no fault of our own, but we don't have to throw each other under the bus either. And that's what you're doing when you're calling most foot guys socially inept cowards.

You should be saying some guys can be those things. It's a small percentage even if your experience has been mostly negative. Otherwise you would be seeing on the news 24/7 guys of all fetishes raping everyone and making a mockery of our species at an ultra level. But you don't except for a handful. Some. And if you can't grasp that it's damaging on multiple levels to influence people (especially other women that have potential to have the exact opposite kind of experience than you) into believing that a large group are ALMOST all slimeballs, then I have nothing left to say. I'm merely suggesting you frame it differently in the future. I have no issue talking to girls right or being social, but people in your position telling other girls that don't know too much about the subject that most with my sexual interest are slimey nutjobs makes it overly difficult for guys like me. And guys who are decent like me shouldn't have to answer or be punished for what those random slimers do. The ugly side has run into you too many times and I'm sorry. But that's the dark side of some (not most) men.
 
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LadyNerd, thanks for your opinions and I do love a good use of the term "ass-hat" ! I think you get where I was coming from and that no offence was intentional.

Tortuga, Great, GREAT comparison, with the artists seeing the beauty in something not all of us always see.

Icekeepers - I've actually heard that a lot from lers, about the missing out on reactions thing...

TJDoom, I completely see now what I did wrong with the sweeping generalisation factor. To you and all above to whom I've caused unpleasant feelings of judgement, I sincerely apologise again in the deepest way. I understand the damage is done, but I hope you can take some small comfort, for what it's worth, in knowing that that kind of negative attitude was, genuinely, the farthest consideration in my mind when I flippantly typed my message in that way. It was only ever intended in a kind of good natured curiosity way... never, NEVER, ever do I have even an ounce of distaste or negative judgement for the preference. I think we all know the fear of that kind of judgement and it really does make me ache to realise I caused that feeling in any human being and I'm so sorry for that.

Best wishes to you all,
Katrin xx
 
I took no offense to your curiosity or your distaste. Far from it. I'm cool with everything you said because I understand what it is to be weirded out or not like something. Even though I have the fetish, there is a saturation of feet stuff that mixes with the tickling thing a lot and I can totally see how that would be overdone and boring to people who don't share the interest. There's no problem there. Hell, it's not my only love and I enjoy mixing it up as much as anyone. And people exploring fetishism don't need to apologize for being curious or not "getting" something. It's healthy and you can be positive or negative.

It just so happens that when discussions like this start and someone newish is having things elaborated for them, people can tell them things that are a little too far in one direction. Cause LadyNerd is right. Fetishes in the hands of the wrong people can be dreadful. But there are a lot of folk here and other places that gather (or operate lowkey), are respectful and capable of enjoying the tickling thing without feet having to be the focus all the time. That might not stop it from being popular, but it's easy to move onto something you do like even if you have to do some digging. It's all about surrounding yourself with the right people and ignoring or phasing out the ones who choose to be not so polite.

They don't represent any fetish. They're just noisy bad news bears.
 
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