When your spouse isn't into it

[Cavum]

I would say for a minority it is that way. Most on here don't have partners who are into it.

And you can also see all the "what to do??" threads that pop up on this forum in frustration of being with someone not into it 😉

 

[rhiannon]

And you can also see all the "what to do??" threads that pop up on this forum in frustration of being with someone not into it 😉

Yeah, but guess what: there are sexual frustrations in almost every relationship at some point in time, with or without tickling. 🙂

 

[Cavum]

Yeah, but guess what: there are sexual frustrations in almost every relationship at some point in time, with or without tickling. 🙂

Of course there is 🙂 Thats why it's so good to be able to get both in a relationship. The things I written so far ain't a "hah look at me Im living the fucking life" statement, but I just know how it feels to be with someone you can't live out your fetish with and it's a nightmare. A fetish is normaly a very big thing in a persons life, so not be able to act it out can ruin alot in his/her life. Thats why I feel it's wrong to end up with someone you can't live it out with. Cause that person will be miserable and hide it from the person he/she are dating.

 

[rhiannon]

There is a difference though between having a real fetish and just a preferrence. If it's just a preferrence, sure, it is great, to have someone who shares it, but most people who have an unusual preferrence don't have that privilege.

I don't see a reason to hide it from your partner though - why would you?

 

[Rook's Media]

Cool if you can have that! But a lot of people just don't! And in my opinion, not being with someone you love and who loves you just because they are not into tickling is very extreme! I have said it before, tickling is like icing on the cake, but not the cake itself.

With all due respect, while the freedom of having an opinion is what makes a message board successful, please be aware that you've posted the above comment at a Tickling Fetish Forum/Community! 😛

While I agree that tons of facets are important for a successful relationship, I'm making a pretty safe assumption when I say, there are most likely many, many people that disagree with your "icing on the cake" analysis.

Hope everyone is doing well,



Ryan @ Rook's Media

 

[rhiannon]

With all due respect, while the freedom of having an opinion is what makes a message board successful, please be aware that you've posted the above comment at a Tickling Fetish Forum/Community! 😛

While I agree that tons of facets are important for a successful relationship, I'm making a pretty safe assumption when I say, there are most likely many, many people that disagree with your "icing on the cake" analysis.

Hope everyone is doing well,



Ryan @ Rook's Media

In every tickling fetish forum I have been up to this day, very very few people have a partner who is into their preferrence. For a lot, that is part of the reason why they are on here! 😉

A lot of people on communities like this don't even want to live their preferrence (I do avoid fetish here although I usually do refer to it as a fetish myself because I think only very few people actually have a "pathological" tickling fetish) in reality and are content just to talk about it, do cyber play or watch clips and pictures.

It is hard enough to find a partner anyways! If you try to find one who is into an unusual preferrence, you make it almost impossible to actually find one.

Plus: a lot of us already had their partner before they came out of the tickling closet!

 

[Cavum]

A lot of people on communities like this don't even want to live their preferrence (I do avoid fetish here although I usually do refer to it as a fetish myself because I think only very few people actually have a "pathological" tickling fetish) in reality and are content just to talk about it, do cyber play or watch clips and pictures.

WTF??? This I GOT to see for myself...

http://www.ticklingforum.com/showthread.php?t=161900

 

[rhiannon]

WTF??? This I GOT to see for myself...

http://www.ticklingforum.com/showthread.php?t=161900

People who will answer on here naturally will see it differently, they already ARE an active part of the tickling community! You would have to get an answer from the lurkers!

 

[Cavum]

People who will answer on here naturally will see it differently, they already ARE an active part of the tickling community! You would have to get an answer from the lurkers!

So what your saying is that lurkers don't want to live it out?
I used to be a lurker before I started posting here. That has more with the fact that I felt it was embarrising/hard to talk about tickling since it's not something thats "normal". It's the same things within the BDSM community (a place Im very active in here in Norway...and thats in real life), and I know alot of these so called "lurkers". All of them want to live out a fantasy. Do you really thing that someone with a fetish only want to look at pics and cyber?? You problaby have no clue about what your talking about in this case... Just because someone don't want to post on forums don't make em persons who don't want to live out a fantasy/fetish.

 

[Rook's Media]

WTF??? This I GOT to see for myself...

http://www.ticklingforum.com/showthread.php?t=161900

So what your saying is that lurkers don't want to live it out?
I used to be a lurker before I started posting here. That has more with the fact that I felt it was embarrising/hard to talk about tickling since it's not something thats "normal". It's the same things within the BDSM community (a place Im very active in here in Norway...and thats in real life), and I know alot of these so called "lurkers". All of them want to live out a fantasy. Do you really thing that someone with a fetish only want to look at pics and cyber?? You problaby have no clue about what your talking about in this case... Just because someone don't want to post on forums don't make em persons who don't want to live out a fantasy/fetish.

Cavum...

You and I see eye-to-eye on this topic!!!

I agree with you word for word!

Have I mentioned that you're my hero? 😀



Ryan @ Rook's Media

 

[rhiannon]

I am not saying every lurker doesn't want to live it out. I know it was the fact for me when I was still a lurker. I was strictly voyeuristic, and I know a couple of people who are the same way.

And I also think that there are plenty of people who want to live it out, but then when they have the chance to do it, they realize that they would rather not do it. Don't ask me for a reason - I guess most of the time it's some sort of fear.

But this would be enough topic for a new thread! 🙂

 

[Cavum]

Cavum...

You and I see eye-to-eye on this topic!!!

I agree with you word for word!

Have I mentioned that you're my hero? 😀



Ryan @ Rook's Media

haha! Damn dude! Your fucking great! 😀
We should become good buddies! 😉

I am not saying every lurker doesn't want to live it out. I know it was the fact for me when I was still a lurker. I was strictly voyeuristic, and I know a couple of people who are the same way.

And I also think that there are plenty of people who want to live it out, but then when they have the chance to do it, they realize that they would rather not do it. Don't ask me for a reason - I guess most of the time it's some sort of fear.

But this would be enough topic for a new thread! 🙂

You have allready sayd you DON'T have a fetish. It's something you like. Of course thats the fact for you. I like bastinado as well, but I don't have a fetish for it. I can live without it even I love it. Tickling I have a fetish for and it's a HUGE thing in my life. Don't even start comparing "I like something" and "I have a fetish for something". It's two very different things.

 

[rhiannon]

You have allready sayd you DON'T have a fetish. It's something you like. Of course thats the fact for you. I like bastinado as well, but I don't have a fetish for it. I can live without it even I love it. Tickling I have a fetish for and it's a HUGE thing in my life. Don't even start comparing "I like something" and "I have a fetish for something". It's two very different things.

I know! That's why I am trying to AVOID calling it FETISH in this thread! A fetish is more than simply being turned on by something. A fetish is not being able to be turned on without it! And I would say that the great big majority in this forum does not have that problem - and yes, it IS a problem! 🙂

 

[Cavum]

 

[Rook's Media]

haha! Damn dude! Your fucking great! 😀
We should become good buddies! 😉

Likewise, my friend!

We dungeon folk need to stick together!