Which of these 2 things would be worse?

[drewskee]

Just had a thought that I thought I would share with the forum.

In your opinion, which of these 2 things would be worse?

A) To suffer from a broken heart

B) To suffer from a guilty conscience

And why?

 

[Bohemianne]

Broken heart because you don't have control of it, unless you do the way of the mafia.

Just had a thought that I thought I would share with the forum.

In your opinion, which of these 2 things would be worse?

A) To suffer from a broken heart

B) To suffer from a guilty conscience

And why?

 

[tequila!]

I know which one Michael Jackson would pick

*badum chhhh*

 

[Capnmad]

B. It would mean you failed, when a broken heart could be the failure of anything.

 

[Bohemianne]

B. It would mean you failed, when a broken heart could be the failure of anything.

😀

B isn't failure. You can win with guilt if you won't succumb to it, OR if you forgive yourself. A means you're busted, and someone could have caused it. 😱

 

[rhiannon]

I say A too, because you can't do anything about it. You can always do something about a guilty conscience if you chose to.

 

[Capnmad]

😀

B isn't failure. You can win with guilt if you won't succumb to it, OR if you forgive yourself. A means you're busted, and someone could have caused it. 😱

To win with guilt is still a loss, and forgiving oneself doesn't change the moral failure that caused the guilt to begin with.

 

[Bohemianne]

To win with guilt is still a loss, and forgiving oneself doesn't change the moral failure that caused the guilt to begin with.

😀 It is a loss if *you* make it a loss. When it comes to ruling yourself out, there is nothing than solving the maze you have conquered within yourself. The rest will be the imperial view of others.

Happiness is "within." And happiness comes in strange ways unique to each individual.

 

[♡AimLEE♡]

Broken heart, and for the same reasons everyone else said.

 

[Capnmad]

😀 It is a loss if *you* make it a loss.

If I am the man of morals and integrity I believe myself to be, I would rather feel brokenhearted than feel I had morally failed. Others may write and rewrite their own morality however often they feel is necessary to allow for guiltlessness and garner a "win", but that ain't my way.

 

[Bohemianne]

If I am the man of morals and integrity I believe myself to be, I would rather feel brokenhearted than feel I had morally failed. Others may write and rewrite their own morality however often they feel is necessary to allow for guiltlessness and garner a "win", but that ain't my way.

As much as I have my own principle and that I practice true "ethics" in its literal form... Well, then, if you strip everything off, you'll get back to basic that this world is nothing but "mark" of people. Morality is a hazy path and it has many levels new in every way. When you're left with decisions as at hand, you're alone to face consequences. When you drive your own highway, you are after reaching a destination to complete what you think as your "true" purpose. And then there is this damn big world to deal with.

The world will smash you into pieces with its recreated principles if you let it. Well, then our own unique formula is applicable in the end.

 

[Capnmad]

As much as I have my own principle and that I practice true "ethics" in its literal form... Well, then, if you strip everything off, you'll get back to basic that this world is nothing but "mark" of people. Morality is a hazy path and it has many levels new in every way. When you're left with decisions as at hand, you're alone to face consequences. When you drive your own highway, you are after reaching a destination to complete what you think as your "true" purpose. And then there is this damn big world to deal with.

I have my own morals, drive my own highway, and won't compromise them or rewrite them. I understand that certain circumstances may well leave me with decisions of which none are perfect, but I do my best to discern the best path, and having done my all, I am without guilt. But I cannot chalk up morality to simply being a "hazy" thing, and thus absolve myself of guilt I already feel.

 

[Bohemianne]

I have my own morals, drive my own highway, and won't compromise them or rewrite them. I understand that certain circumstances may well leave me with decisions of which none are perfect, but I do my best to discern the best path, and having done my all, I am without guilt. But I cannot chalk up morality to simply being a "hazy" thing, and thus absolve myself of guilt I already feel.

Hazy is just a description. But I tell you, when it comes to the question of "guilt", it is when the majority screw, even powerful leaders (men/women). Observe when they really "fall in love" and see what happens.

Legality is another mammoth. That is when the option is narrowed down to null. This will make the true answer to the thread more visible...legality + guilt.

 

[Capnmad]

Hazy is just a description. But I tell you, when it comes to the question of "guilt", it is when the majority screw, even powerful leaders (men/women). Observe when they really "fall in love" and see what happens.

Legality is another mammoth. That is when the option is narrowed down to null. This will make the true answer to the thread more visible...legality + guilt.

I can only answer for myself. I'm not concerned with legal issues, nor seek to represent nor speculate on a majority. I don't think there is a "true answer" to the thread any more than we each have our feelings on the matter, the decisions we make, and express them honestly. And we both have, I trust. 🙂

 

[Musicroxmysox]

Personally I feel a broken heart is worse because it takes greater time to mend.

A guilty conscience sucks but can be fixed in an easier manner, and usually doesn't last as long.

 

[c7_assassin]

Having experienced both several times, I can say with 100% certainty that I can live with a guilty conscience a hell of a lot easier than a broken heart. Sometimes getting over a broken heart has made me do things that caused a guilty conscience. I was okay with that. 😈

 

[Adam]

Good thread. For me, a broken heart is worse. Having a guilty conscience would imply that I did something pretty bad and am having restless nights because of it. That is something that I can control, for the most part. Now a broken heart, on the other hand, frequently means that someone else did something to hurt you, whether intentional or not. Or perhaps it's from dealing with the death of a loved one. To me, that's way worse.

 

[Saeria]

Guilty Conscience.

I can live with a broken heart.. after a while it's not so bad. With a broken heart i can say with confidence i've done everything i possibly could but with a guilty conscience i can't. If i feel guilty about something, i need to work harder and change it.

 

[Bohemianne]

I can only answer for myself. I'm not concerned with legal issues, nor seek to represent nor speculate on a majority. I don't think there is a "true answer" to the thread any more than we each have our feelings on the matter, the decisions we make, and express them honestly. And we both have, I trust. 🙂

Actually I understand what you mean from the start and I don't convince you to agree with me. I also understand the real meaning of right and wrong (morality) as what is applied in daily living. But wait until you cross a boundary. Nothing is absolute in this world, and I assume you have encountered similar instances when your conscience has been challenged by a tough paradox.

 

[Bugman]

I'll just go with what Cap has said and leave it at that.🙂

 

[drewskee]

Personally I feel a broken heart is worse because it takes greater time to mend.

A guilty conscience sucks but can be fixed in an easier manner, and usually doesn't last as long.

What if you have a guilty conscience from doing something very bad that can't be reversed, and you have to live with the guilt forever? Don't mean to put you on the spot or anything, but your answer stood out to me.

 

[Capnmad]

Actually I understand what you mean from the start and I don't convince you to agree with me. I also understand the real meaning of right and wrong (morality) as what is applied in daily living. But wait until you cross a boundary. Nothing is absolute in this world, and I assume you have encountered similar instances when your conscience has been challenged by a tough paradox.

Naturally, you will encounter challenging circumstances, and hard decisions arise. I have encountered such. You make the best decisions you can at the time, with your knowledge of events, and given the circumstances. If you are certain that they were the best you could do, then guilt is needless. If you have chosen poorly in moral matters, then guilt results. I am at peace with my record, and my record has made being at peace easy.

 

[fireguardian]

I have to agree with Cap too. A broken heart can be mended. For me personally as long as I have loving friends and family it can't ever be completely broken. Guilt however is another matter. That is making a choice and knowing or at least later realizing it is the wrong one. Who knows how many you may have hurt or had lose faith and trust in you with that choice. Guilt to me is harder to deal with because it pushes people away while a broken heart seems to rally around you those that really care about you.

 

[Adam]

I have to agree with Cap too. A broken heart can be mended. For me personally as long as I have loving friends and family it can't ever be completely broken. Guilt however is another matter. That is making a choice and knowing or at least later realizing it is the wrong one. Who knows how many you may have hurt or had lose faith and trust in you with that choice. Guilt to me is harder to deal with because it pushes people away while a broken heart seems to rally around you those that really care about you.

I don't disagree with anything you've said, however I believe the answers that you get are going to depend on personal experience. If someone viewing this thread has a history of having their heart broken, that is likely going to be what is worse in their mind. Likewise, if they frequently find themselves in situations where they have made bad decisions and alienated others, perhaps the guilt of such actions is going to weigh on them more than matters of the heart. So really, there is no right or wrong answer, in my opinion.

 

[starburstz91]

They both suck, but I would honestly think that suffering from a guilty conscience would be a lot worse.

I've been through both many times, and having a broken heart doesn't mean that you messed up. It just means that it wasn't meant to be with whoever you were with, or something just didn't click. The best thing about it is the fact that you'll always recover, find a new, etc. Sorrow doesn't last forever.

If you're guilty, however, that shit can stay with you until you do something right about it. For example, if you bullied a family member when you were younger, and feel guilty about it, there's sometimes that chance that you can make things better with that person. If you don't, than the guilt stays.

Basically, a broken heart is always healed, a guilty conscience comes back sooner or later, and can turn up more than once.