Why is it so hard to meet a damn girl on here?

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I didn't mean to do that. I just saw what he wrote about nest and I put it. I just deleted the last sentence because I don't want to make him feel bad.

Your legs.. is good..

uh..

.. what?

Anyway, I wasn't being serious, I don't think you had to delete your last message. 😛 Kinda overreacting.

 

[porcelaindoll2]

Your legs.. is good..

uh..

.. what?

Anyway, I wasn't being serious, I don't think you had to delete your last message. 😛 Kinda overreacting.

Oh lol I take things too seriously sometimes.

 

[Wildben]

one of the reasons its hard to meet girls is the ratio. there seems to be wayyy more guys than girls into tickling. the girls really can take their pic

keep trying, maybe post some pictures of yourself or something on your profile. dont "wait for it to fall into your lap though", that'll never happen here

 

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one of the reasons its hard to meet girls is the ratio. there seems to be wayyy more guys than girls into tickling. the girls really can take their pic

keep trying, maybe post some pictures of yourself or something on your profile. dont "wait for it to fall into your lap though", that'll never happen here

5% Women.
85% Men.
10% Men pretending to be women.

 

[Wildben]

hahaha too true

what is up with that by the way, i dont understand when guys do that

 

[porcelaindoll2]

hahaha too true

what is up with that by the way, i dont understand when guys do that

Yeah I wish someone could explain that too. My best guess is desperate gay guys who feel if they pose as a chick they will be more likely to get a male. I hope this isn't the case .

 

[Adam]

Yeah I wish someone could explain that too. My best guess is desperate gay guys who feel if they pose as a chick they will be more likely to get a male. I hope this isn't the case .

I tend to think that the majority of them are simply trolls that enjoy watching guys fall all over themselves. I also believe that there's a deeper issue at hand... that said trolls are acting like the very "women" that they wish so desperately would fall for them. A bizarre kind of role playing in a sense, that unfortunately can have hurtful consequences to the poor saps that get duped.

But to keep on topic, the OP has to remember to treat the women of the forum like he would if he were having a face-to-face conversation with them. A little respect goes a long way. May not ever lead to a play date, but it can't hurt.

 

[NavelTickler75]

Meeting is one thing,...treating is another.,..if don't show respect ,..you,ll get none in return.

damn straight!

 

[TangerineTicklee]

Stop seeking out what you want. Then opportunity shall fall into your lap.

Wholly agreed.

Not only that, but you DO have to understand that a lot of females on here get ATTACKED by the males ... or sometimes ... "females". 🙄 A lot of females here feel like they are being used as sex bate, and oftentimes are, and they are therefore resentful of the males. I know I am, so when I get IMs or PMs from guys, I'm immediately on guard. That almost always makes them angry, but I could care less, just so long as they aren't bothering me.

If you really want to get into a girl's life, you have to be sincere. For the females that I have known - as well as myself - a sincere guy goes a long way. But if you only chalk up her existence to tickling, or tickle-sex, then expect a lot of attitude...

😉

 

[naughtylucy]

i like the thread - i agree with a lot of the advice here. i don't think anyone has to have zero expectations about ever meeting someone on the forum. probably a good number of us are on here with the hope to do just that. so far i've met two people from the forum in person, and one of them just turned into a very good friend. the other one was a tickle partner for a while.

the thing is, you want to be absolutely 100 percent positive the face on the other side of the computer is not going to hurt you. and you can't be 100 percent positive. so if i start feeling pressured by someone to meet, especially if they are offering to travel to get to me - which is incredibly nice of them and flattering - but if i start feeling that pressure and i'm still uncertain about the person i probably won't agree to meet. there's also a ton less pressure if you're living in the same location - you can agree to get coffee or something and if there aren't any sparks you can say 'well, it was nice to meet you. bye.' if they've traveled all the way to get to you there are going to be some expectations. so my advice would be to ease off the pressure. if you can tell them that meeting doesn't entail expectations that you are going to tickle them - that you will just meet and see how things go from there - chances of getting someone to meet in person are much higher.

now, can someone explain to me what is going on between the canadians? 🙂

I think you're the first one to point this out. Sensible. I become wary when someone seems to be making meaningless small talk in an effort to get to the amateur photography stage, or the meeting in a seedy cafe stage. And there IS a lot of added pressure when geography becomes an issue.

I think we all just have to realistic about meeting people. Just as in real life, there are limitations such as where we live, our personal commitments etc that have nothing to do with how much we want whatever it is that we want sexually. (But even if the OP lives around the corner from a woman who is on the forum, there's very little chance she'll want to meet him if he's a wanker.)

Ahem. 'Very good friend?' Presumptuous! I think chilly acquaintance is more accurate, or possibly arch enemy veiled in a guise of cordiality. On that note, I recently overheard a debate amongst some of our mutual acquaintances about how we know one another. I naturally left it ambiguous, for entertainment purposes.

We're taking over. Slowly. And politely. Just like how we own your entertainment industry right now.

Damnit, we're meant to be doing this by stealth. Hush your mouth.

In case you've forgotten, these rules are:

1) Describe your giant penis.
2) Never give up!

Good luck, and godspeed!

Very true. There's nothing so sexy as a desperado in the bushes with a huge cock.

 

[Lord Doctor]

Stop seeking out what you want. Then opportunity shall fall into your lap.

This. Because it applies eqully to most if not all aspects of life. Basic psychology... need always brings you need 😉

Though if you do meet one, and you get the "My webcam has a crack in it" line... run like hell!

 

[rhiannon]

"My webcam has a crack in it" line

So real women have webcams, or what does that mean? 🙂

 

[Lord Doctor]

So real women have webcams, or what does that mean? 🙂

It means if I have tried to verify if someone is who they say they are, and i get that line - always that line, I've noticed - after let's say months of communication, then likely said person is not who they claim to be 🙂

 

[Mitchell]

rhiannon, there used to be a former member here, who I wont name of course, who would always say to me, and other people, things like "Unless you see the person on webcam, or hear their voice, you have to assume fake female, and that they are really a guy, posing as a girl". That used to tick me off to no end. This person and I were good friends when I first joined the forum, but, after a long time of that behavior, it became grating, and wore on our friendship.

I try not to put too much thought into it. I'm not naive to think that people dont misrepresent themselves on the internet, because I know they do, but, in my eight years here, if a profile said "Female", and I wanted to try and talk to that person, I did, without putting too much thought into it. My view is, if you put too much thought into everyone you talk to on the internet, you'll be spending more time doing that, and less time what one should be doing, having fun and getting to know people.

Mitch

 

[rhiannon]

Well, from me you would get the sentence 'I don't have a webcam', and that hasn't changed for years and is not a line. 🙂

@Mitch: Very wisely said!

 

[Lord Doctor]

It's not as common as peple think. But that particular line I mentionned there... what it really ...to clarify myself there, it's only when I get suspicious, which is rare. And when I hear that line so many times... it's probably the same person posing as different people... who get mad with me because I won't cyber.

 

[Mitchell]

If I wanted to meet a girl on here, I would try one of three things. First, the personal section. Second, the pen pal section, and third, a post worded something like this: "Long term TMF member, interests include, (whatever I'd say) both ler and lee, also likes female feet, seeking Single female, ages (However old I'd have to decide, likely mid 20s to mid 30s) for communication, chat, friendship, hopefully leading to... whatever. If I didnt get a reply the first time, I'd change the wording of the ad. Such an approach would make a reply much more likely, instead of something like "Intense tickle fetishist with huge foot fetish, looking to tickle you to death, and suck toes, and eventually have you stand barefoot on ladder" (I'm overdramatizing the last part, but the point is clear)

I've never viewed the TMF as a "meet market". I know that many people on here are coupled, either on forum or off, and many are just here to chat. I figured, if something developed from conversations I had, great. If not, I'd have friends to talk about tickling with.

To the OP: Keep trying, and maybe expand horizons to actual other meeting sites, and I'm sure you will find what you seek.

Mitch

 

[Mephistopheles]

If I wanted to meet a girl on here, I would try one of three things. First, the personal section. Second, the pen pal section,

I think those sections are not the right place for that; as shown in the waldo pic of the inverse copycat thread covering the same subject, the competition is so incredibly high that the chances of you finding somebody are next to zero.

Just hanging around on the forum and joining the community would yield a much higher chance of succes.

But as for me, I've pretty much given up hope 8 years ago because during the 9 years I've been frequenting this forum there have been less than 10 of my countrymen passing by, all of which were men and none of them stuck around. So basically even if I were completely integrated in the community (I still consider myself to be a bit of an outsider) the only chance for me to actually meet somebody would be to fly to the US. And if I have to spend $1K on a plane ticket, why not go to NEST? (something I'll probably do somewhere in the future, now I just lack the time and especially the money)

so to the OP: the only thing you can do is have a good time enjoying the goofing around in the community and perhaps you will be lucky sometime, perhaps not. Just don't get your hopes up.

 

[Angel77]

This. Because it applies eqully to most if not all aspects of life. Basic psychology... need always brings you need 😉

Though if you do meet one, and you get the "My webcam has a crack in it" line... run like hell!

Which is why if I'm chatting with folks I feel comfy with and they want to take a peek at my cam, I don't mind. With all of the fake peeps online anymore, sometimes it's nice to verify that you're talking to the person who's pics you see in their profile.

And yep, I've got on cam a few times with some TMF folks. I like to scare people. 😀

 

[Lord Doctor]

You're scary?

 

[Angel77]

You're scary?

Yes. Boo.

 

[Lord Doctor]

Oh So I see. The Eyes 😀

 

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rhiannon, there used to be a former member here, who I wont name of course, who would always say to me, and other people, things like "Unless you see the person on webcam, or hear their voice, you have to assume fake female, and that they are really a guy, posing as a girl". That used to tick me off to no end. This person and I were good friends when I first joined the forum, but, after a long time of that behavior, it became grating, and wore on our friendship.

I try not to put too much thought into it. I'm not naive to think that people dont misrepresent themselves on the internet, because I know they do, but, in my eight years here, if a profile said "Female", and I wanted to try and talk to that person, I did, without putting too much thought into it. My view is, if you put too much thought into everyone you talk to on the internet, you'll be spending more time doing that, and less time what one should be doing, having fun and getting to know people.

Mitch

I use that attitude when I'm playing online games. Generally, you see a female avatar, it's a dude playing one. Never really put much thought into it in places like this...

But then, I don't go out of my way to message every person that has "female" as their listed gender. I usually get messaged first, people notice my hideous personality, and then we go our separate ways. 😉

 

[Tickaler]

You're better off going to a bar and finding a girl who is into tickling than finding anyone on here. Forget the online crap. Meet REAL people. The point of this forum is to share interests, in my opinion. I would never trust to meet anyone from here, because like some folks said in this thread, a fair amount of the "females" on here are probably men.

Forget facebook and myspace. Go to the bookstore, coffeeshop, take a class. You'll find tons of nice ladies. A couple of those ladies will probably be into tickling, or at least like it. Much better odds than this site. And don't wait for things to fall into your lap. You have to take action. That doesn't mean be forceful, or anything less than courteous. Know your boundaries, and respect others' boundaries as well.

 

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You're better off going to a bar and finding a girl who is into tickling than finding anyone on here. Forget the online crap. Meet REAL people. The point of this forum is to share interests, in my opinion. I would never trust to meet anyone from here, because like some folks said in this thread, a fair amount of the "females" on here are probably men.

Forget facebook and myspace. Go to the bookstore, coffeeshop, take a class. You'll find tons of nice ladies. A couple of those ladies will probably be into tickling, or at least like it. Much better odds than this site. And don't wait for things to fall into your lap. You have to take action. That doesn't mean be forceful, or anything less than courteous. Know your boundaries, and respect others' boundaries as well.

You're saying I shouldn't be going out with my rape face on looking for lovin', and maybe some trouble?