Why is it so hard to meet a damn girl on here?

[BigJim]

Never!

My point exactly. 😛

 

[Speedbump]

Stop seeking out what you want. Then opportunity shall fall into your lap.

The biggest load of bullshit advice that gets passed around.

However on sites like this, the opposite rarely works either.

 

[GEORGIATKLER]

I post on Rachel Ray's site and there's still nothing to eat?

Try meeting someone for dating on one of the dating web sites. The ladies you chat with and meet will be real and in your locality. Find someone with a variety of common likes and goals. Let the tickle cat out of the bag s-l-o-w-l-y, so to speak. Treat the ladies with the respect they all deserve. For guarantees try the "Death and Taxes Forum".

 

[Speedbump]

Yes, yes, Georgiatkler speaks truth.

But definitely, I hear if you treat women as if they're real people, then they like you more. I'm not sure if it works, but they kinda smile at you a bit more before they go off and have sex with someone else.

 

[unclebill]

To the OP, great thread!!!🙂

I`ve made a few female friends since I joined the TMF, and actually met a couple of them three years ago at a west coast gathering and have returned to L.A. twice and had a wonderful time. I also met a beautiful TMF lady and her husband while on a business trip to Philadelphia last summer and had a fabulous tickling session with her. I`m sure I could meet more, but I`m really not very comfortable at gatherings.....I`m much more of a one on one type. Tickling is very sexual to me, and walking around with a badge with my screen name and gang tickling some poor girl along with five other guys simply doesn`t appeal to me..

When you break it down, there really aren`t that many female members who actively participate on a regular basis. The guy/girl ratio simply doesn`t add up in the guys favor. I actually feel sorry for many of the ladies here. They get active in threads, post a few pictures of themselves with good intentions and soon are fought over like the last chicken wing at a Super Bowl party. They, like many of us have discovered the TMF and are trying to explore this wonderful fetish at their own pace but often are smothered by literally hundreds of men.😱

I am currently dating a woman fresh out of divorce court, and its far too early in the game to determine if there`s any kind of future, so in the meantime I`ve decided to return to my roots and live out my fantasies via pay for play. In Los Angeles, Passive Arts and The Dominion are like Disneyland for adults. You can`t go wrong with either dungeon. I`ve visited both places a few times, and words can`t describe how much of a joy it is to use the finest bondage equipment in the country in an equally orgasmic setting. No doubt I`ve come into my own as a ler, and learned which buttons to push thanks to the lovely ladies who work there. I actually learned just how effective turkey feathers can be on a womans foot when used properly. And the ladies at Tickle Abuse are on my tickling menu one of these days, as well. Kudo`s to Tom for making sessions available to the community. And in the near future I will be tickling a few of the smoking hot college girls at the Philly Foot Worship/Tickle parties.

 

[GEORGIATKLER]

She wants to bang even my imaginary friend before me???

Speedbump: I completely forgot about the bio-degradable, semi-edible handcuffs part..........

 

[Mitchell]

A few months is a very short time on this website. I've been here for eight years.

In that time, I've had two near misses, with girls I really liked, who I talked to for a while, and I thought it was going to be something, only to find that they left the site, because they had been offended by others, and didnt want anything to do with anyone from this site anymore, for whatever reason.

Also, new girls on this site many times get scared away. If you're a new girl on this site, you will likely get bombarded with hundreds of messages asking you about your feet, and ticklish spots. Unless one has a thick skin, such can often scare new girls off. I'm not saying this happens all the time, but it does.

The situations I did have that almost turned into something, occurred after I had been here for years, and when I wasnt looking for it. I came to this site at first, with the intent of just meeting others, with common interests, to share online. Such has happened.

If you are serious about meeting a partner for tickling, I suggest one of two things. One, either put periodic personal ads in the personal section, and be patient, or two, go to a site like Match.com, and put a regular personal ad with tickling as one of your interests. Either way, if you keep trying, I'm one who believes success will come to you.

Good Luck,.
Mitch

 

[Speedbump]

Speedbump: I completely forgot about the bio-degradable, semi-edible handcuffs part..........

How could you leave out something of such vital importance!!?!?

Also.. semi-edible? How does that work???

 

[Belmont]

Everyone has poked fun at the 5 months, so I'll leave that be. Just put yourself out there, and maybe you'll randomly strike conversation about Slayer and get the best relationship of your life out of it. Hypothetically.

I was lucky. Odds are pretty crazy here. Have faith, but don't beat yourself up.

 

[c7_assassin]

I have a couple pieces of advice, as someone who has had relative success in this area (and none of it because of my looks, I assure you...🙄).

For starters, do not PM a girl specifically to talk about tickling. Remember that old experiment where a hot woman walked around a college campus and propositioned random guys for sex? Her success rate was almost 100%, naturally. And then a hot guy walked around and propositioned women for the same thing; he scored an even 0. That's because no woman in the world responds to that kind of behaviour, and the internet is not a magical fuck-genie that changes all the rules about how people interact.

I suggest you first respond to posts she's made; tickle her brain first with your wit. When you PM her, try to get to know her. Have a few conversations, and be on your best behaviour the whole time. This isn't a dating site, but if that's what you want then the rules of dating still apply. Why would she ever meet up with you if she doesn't like you or find you interesting? Remember, every woman here is besieged by drooling perverts 24/7; it will set you apart from the herd if you act like a gentleman and not a monkey who broke into the Viagra cabinet.

Beyond that, it all depends on who you are as a person, since getting a girl to like you depends on your personality. And if you're a genuinely decent guy who just strikes out every time with women, I suggest every so often stepping back and paying attention to what you're saying and how you're responding to her; are you sending the kind of messages a socially successful person would send? No? Well then change things up; be suave, for god's sake! Nice guys don't finish last for being nice, they finish last because the assholes of this world know more about playing the game than we do. As intuitive as women are, they don't have the ability to read minds, so they won't always choose us over the douchebags unless we're actually more appealing.

And if you're the kind of guy who only cares about getting some tickling action, and nothing at all about friendship, intimacy, or longer-term thoughts than the fulfillment of your physical needs, I suggest you keep that shit completely under wraps around women and absolutely do not post a thread soliciting advice about how to get girls to let you tickle them.

Oh...wait...

 

[Speedbump]

Have a few conversations, and be on your best behaviour the whole time.

Yes. For example:

You: "Hello yonder princess. How might thee be this evening?"

Hot Chick: "Hey, I'm fine u?"

You: "Marvelous. Do mine eyes deceive me? I have seen your lovely face in your signature and your beauty is captivating. But first, let us converse in a meaningful way that does not concern the bed chamber."

Hot Chick: "k"

Note: Be yourself in your PM's. If you can't woo her as you are, there's no point in faking false charms and disappointing the girl later. Then she's gonna get a hate on for dudes and the next guy's gonna get an earful of how much of a douche you were.

Seriously. Think of THAT guy.

 

[c7_assassin]

Yes. For example:

You: "Hello yonder princess. How might thee be this evening?"

Hot Chick: "Hey, I'm fine u?"

You: "Marvelous. Do mine eyes deceive me? I have seen your lovely face in your signature and your beauty is captivating. But first, let us converse in a meaningful way that does not concern the bed chamber."

Hot Chick: "k"

Note: Be yourself in your PM's. If you can't woo her as you are, there's no point in faking false charms and disappointing the girl later. Then she's gonna get a hate on for dudes and the next guy's gonna get an earful of how much of a douche you were.

Seriously. Think of THAT guy.

That sounds like sage advice, but note; Speedbump is from the Maritimes, and therefore his father was a fishmonger, and his opinion doesn't count. 😛

 

[Speedbump]

That sounds like sage advice, but note; Speedbump is from the Maritimes, and therefore his father was a fishmonger, and his opinion doesn't count. 😛

Yeah? Well you're from Toronto.... and ugly!

 

[Maestro1874]

I meet girls all the time here...at least...they say they are girls...

 

[JJB]

For starters, do not PM a girl specifically to talk about tickling.

Good, simple advice. That's a given, but it seems that most guys on here forget that.

I guess it's natural to assume that with so many people (mostly males) on this internet fetish website that most of them suffer from a lack of social skills. The same thing applies online and offline. You really need to know how to start a conversation... about things other than tickling. Yes, you're on the Tickling Forum, but I'm sure you have other interests. Tickling is just one slice of the pie. Remember those things? Other interests? No? You don't have any and think about tickling 24 hours a day? Oh OK, then you're hopeless! Just kidding. I'm on the Tickling Forum, but I'm also on countless other forums about countless other things. None of them are a bigger part of me than the others. If you're looking for a quick hookup or a tickling session, try Alt.com, Craigslist, or Fetlife. Obviously there's no guarantee anyway (unless you're planning to pay), because nobody knows much about you, but you likely won't find it here.

I've been a part of the TMF for nearly a decade now (2001, I think), and I've met a lot of 'lees on here over the years (in person, without going to a single gathering and with no plans to), including probably the best (and most ticklish) one I've ever met... literally, almost one year ago to the day. I've gotten my fill of tickling from her over the past year, and she's actually become one of my best friends (which is worth 100x more than a tickling partner). The conversations had nothing to do with tickling (on AIM and then when we started meeting in person), and I had no expectation of bringing it up. I enjoyed her company and getting to know the person she was (since we have A LOT in common!)... and then she brought it up to me. (I'll never forget that moment at the end of the night after dinner where she made her decision and said "I want you to tickle me" in the sweetest voice.)

You already KNOW that you both have tickling in common, so it's the OTHER part of your social skills that you need to work on. Start getting to know others that have similar interests to you (aside from tickling). I guess you either have it or you don't, because if you're holding your breath for the moment you can ask how ticklish every spot on her foot is, you can see through it. I see too many males complaining about never "getting a chance" to tickle somebody, and I really don't have much sympathy, because they can do something to change that. Nobody can be that hopeless, but I digress.

If you're not willing to put in that time, then don't be surprised and start crying that no ticklish female is going to put in the time on you. And for the ones that do (online) right away, in many cases, it's a lonely male on the other side of your computer screen. 😉 So have fun getting aroused by talking to somebody just like yourself.

If you want to just start talking tickling, JUMP THE FUCK IN! You don't have to be shy on here. You're on a forum dedicated to tickling, and there are hundreds of threads about it. Build up your reputation and let people get to know you. Then, they'll start PM'ing YOU! But again, that takes time (it could take months and even years), so if you're looking for a quick tickle, log off and try another site (or if you're in a larger city, you can pay for that sort of thing).

Otherwise, when you're going out on a date or meeting somebody, stop being so fucking obsessed with tickling. Seriously. Everybody. My tickling fetish is a significant part of me just like the next guy (or girl), but I've never had a problem bringing up a tickling fetish on a date, because I've learned the right time, right place and the right way to talk about it, and once you've actually built up the relationship to that point, women become very receptive of it - at least in my experience. Most of them actually began to enjoy it themselves, even if it wasn't a fetish of theirs. Again, there are no guarantees, but since none of us are perfect, you end up "liking" a person's flaws to "put up" with the other 95% of them that you really love. It's not rocket science... it's actually common sense. While a tickling fetish might be "weird" to some people (at first), once they get to know you better aside from it and like everything else about you, it's much more "acceptable" and not as crazy to them.

So... you can stop complaining and actually do something about it, or just try another site.

 

[asutickler]

Don't worry about it too much, just relax and get to know people. It works much the same way here as it does in real life.

 

[naughtylucy]

I suggest you first respond to posts she's made; tickle her brain first with your wit. When you PM her, try to get to know her. Have a few conversations, and be on your best behaviour the whole time. This isn't a dating site, but if that's what you want then the rules of dating still apply. Why would she ever meet up with you if she doesn't like you or find you interesting? Remember, every woman here is besieged by drooling perverts 24/7; it will set you apart from the herd if you act like a gentleman and not a monkey who broke into the Viagra cabinet.

Beyond that, it all depends on who you are as a person, since getting a girl to like you depends on your personality. And if you're a genuinely decent guy who just strikes out every time with women, I suggest every so often stepping back and paying attention to what you're saying and how you're responding to her; are you sending the kind of messages a socially successful person would send? No? Well then change things up; be suave, for god's sake! Nice guys don't finish last for being nice, they finish last because the assholes of this world know more about playing the game than we do. As intuitive as women are, they don't have the ability to read minds, so they won't always choose us over the douchebags unless we're actually more appealing.

And if you're the kind of guy who only cares about getting some tickling action, and nothing at all about friendship, intimacy, or longer-term thoughts than the fulfillment of your physical needs, I suggest you keep that shit completely under wraps around women and absolutely do not post a thread soliciting advice about how to get girls to let you tickle them.

Oh...wait...

I think this is very sensible advice, even if it comes from Ontario. The people I talk with regularly around here are people whose posts I've noticed, usually in threads where I've posted. And then we've talked a bit.

I've contacted people myself after noticing something they've written on the forum. What they have in common is that they've impressed me with something they've posted, they have a sense of humour, they seem to have a Real Life (and therefore understand the basic concepts of discretion, social skills and prioritising a schedule), and they can spell. Usually they don't whinge about not being able to meet any 'damn girls', which makes me wonder if they're old enough to be on a porn site.

There's not necessarily anything wrong with the direct approach, but you must present yourself as a human being who is approaching another human being. See how that works?

A couple of years ago I got a pm from a man on the forum who noticed we lived in the same city (in Scotland, at the time) and asked if I'd like to meet for coffee sometime. Simple, no? We exchanged a few messages, nothing complicated, just enough to establish the points I made above, met the following week and have been doing filthy things to each other since then. When we're in the same country.

Let me be clear, there's no pretense of anyone wanting to have an asexual connection followed by...I don't know...monogamy or similar. But just because we're here for sexual reasons, doesn't mean we can dehumanise one another.

Unfortunately, you can't pretend to be a sensible human being if you haven't actually become one yet.

That sounds like sage advice, but note; Speedbump is from the Maritimes, and therefore his father was a fishmonger, and his opinion doesn't count. 😛

Are you talking about the Maritimes, boyo? This is for you http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RLMkV7VyPns

Yeah? Well you're from Toronto.... and ugly!

He can't help it, they put chemicals and Brian Mulroney in the water.

 

[suikoden]

Guy walks into a library, walks up to the counter and says:

"Cheeseburger and fries, please."

The librarian says:

"Sir, this is a library."

The guys says, whispering:

"Sorry, cheeseburger and fries, please."

 

[unclebill]

Don't worry about it too much, just relax and get to know people. It works much the same way here as it does in real life.

Very well said. These are real people, and not a tickle toy and I think many men lose sight of that when sending a pm or visitor message for the first time. All of the females I`ve become friends with in the TMF over the years had the same story.....guys sending pm`s for the first time asking for their most ticklish spots, or sending stories involving them being tied up and tortured. It really gets down to a lack of social skills.

 

[Speedbump]

I think this is very sensible advice, even if it comes from Ontario. The people I talk with regularly around here are people whose posts I've noticed, usually in threads where I've posted. And then we've talked a bit.

I've contacted people myself after noticing something they've written on the forum. What they have in common is that they've impressed me with something they've posted, they have a sense of humour, they seem to have a Real Life (and therefore understand the basic concepts of discretion, social skills and prioritising a schedule), and they can spell. Usually they don't whinge about not being able to meet any 'damn girls', which makes me wonder if they're old enough to be on a porn site.

There's not necessarily anything wrong with the direct approach, but you must present yourself as a human being who is approaching another human being. See how that works?

A couple of years ago I got a pm from a man on the forum who noticed we lived in the same city (in Scotland, at the time) and asked if I'd like to meet for coffee sometime. Simple, no? We exchanged a few messages, nothing complicated, just enough to establish the points I made above, met the following week and have been doing filthy things to each other since then. When we're in the same country.

Let me be clear, there's no pretense of anyone wanting to have an asexual connection followed by...I don't know...monogamy or similar. But just because we're here for sexual reasons, doesn't mean we can dehumanise one another.

Unfortunately, you can't pretend to be a sensible human being if you haven't actually become one yet.



Are you talking about the Maritimes, boyo? This is for you http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RLMkV7VyPns



He can't help it, they put chemicals and Brian Mulroney in the water.

Wow, Lucy, why ya gotta be such an instigator, huh? lol 😉

True as it may be!

 

[tkl-pen]

Yeah? Well you're from Toronto.... and ugly!

I'm glad I'm from Calgary - we're all nice out here!

 

[dvnc]

FWIW - I've dated several from here, and am marrying one of us. It didn't happen in 5 months, and I've met and befriended dozens of us. Over a hundred people now. Wasn't dating all of them (boy, would Danimal be spooked) but found some damned fine friends here while looking.

Some damned fine women, too.

One woman who wanted what I wanted was all I needed, and it's what I got.

Mind ya, I'm an old man, with an old man's perspective - be patient, or get used to disappointment. Then know that disappointed young men are one of the biggest turn-offs a woman finds on these forums. Choice is always yours.

That DOESN'T negate the true frustration of just wanting to connect. You, and the tens of thousands of others here, are just like the rest of the planet, and want variations on the same desire.

Make friends. Meet folks. Connect. It's the best reason for attending gatherings, 'cause folks with friends are folks a woman trusts FAR faster than the pretty boy who posts well.

dvnc
the scruffy old man who don't post nicely

 

[tkltease]

well lets see we talk alot about tickling and how we enjoy it but no chance of meeting anyone here unless at nest then that really sucks

 

[Bohemianne]

Active spontaneous posting helps a lot, I tell you. And don't get me wrong... Sweep it well with some flair of common sense <<< Sorry I have none of that.

You don't need to kiss every girl's @ss to win.

Lastly, starting this kind of thread is sorta "huh?" But don't worry, some people are just concerned of themselves they forget easily.

 

[BigJim]

'cause folks with friends are folks a woman trusts FAR faster than the pretty boy who posts well.

Bugger. 🙁