Why the TMF?

[tklgal226]

Ok, so this might be a little random, but I was shifting through some old threads during a slow period at work and started to wonder...

Why are you all here? (In the social sense! 😉 )

What got me thinking is the fact that we have over 50,000 members, but as another thread pointed out, only about 1,000 of us are actively posting. Does that mean that only that many of us have a "hard-wired" fetish? Or only that many of us are "out" about our fetish?

What's more interesting is that I have a couple real life friends on here who NEVER post. I got lucky that they pm'd me out of the blue, or found me on myspace - otherwise we may have never met! And some of them are as "hard-wired" as it gets (guess I just answered my own question about "only" the hard-wired people posting, haha)

So what's so different about the 1,000 of us that post - or furthermore, the 100+ folks who attend NEST? Is it just that we/they are more open? Have too much time on our hands? 😉

Personally speaking, I can say I'm not open at all in my "regular" life - only 3 vanilla people know about me. But I wish it wasn't that way, because even with my closest of friends, I feel like I'm holding back by not telling them. But I never will -- I know myself. I'm still having something of a hard time dealing w/ this fetish. That's why I like being involved in the community. I think everyone needs to feel like they belong somewhere, and the TMF has made me feel like that. I may not be as involved as I was once upon a time, but I have fond memories from those days, and hope to develop the same type of community relationship again.

Even though this subject is incredibly sexual for me, I do want to go to NEST someday - just to meet others like me. I assume other people would be dying to go for the same reasons, but maybe I'm wrong?

So, just our of curiosity - why do you guys think you're so involved on here, while others remain silent?

🙂

 

[Tamia78]

For me personally, I'm an outgoing person anyways, and there are some wonderful people I have gotten to know here on the TMF. Some I've met, some I haven't met, and some I hope to meet soon. And the great thing is, we share the same love for tickling. Here I can come chat about anything under the sun with them, and I don't feel weird for telling people I like to be tickled. Most here would agree with me anyways.

I think I'm involved because of the diversity of people we have on here. I like hearing different opinions, and have respect for alot of them, even if we don't always see eye to eye.

Some choose to remain silent because they're shy maybe, or just don't feel comfortable sharing their tickling fetish with the public yet. Some come on here just for the clips and pictures and stories. Nothing wrong with that at all. I just have a big mouth, lol.

--T

 

[SlightlyEvil]

For me, it's fascinating to read the thoughts of people I know I share a specific interest with. Deep down I'm probably looking for comments i can relate to, as in nod my head and think "i know exactly what you mean", "been there" and so on.

Oh, and the clips ofcourse

 

[Majestic]

Why am I here?

I was introduced to the site and the fetish in 2001. I have been a lurker for the most part until recently but only because I felt inexperienced compared to the others and felt that I didnt have alot to contribute. Then I decided, what the heck. I bet they could all teach me something and if nothing else I can celebrate their experiences when they post them. I am not shy about saying I like to tickle or be tickled but I am shy about rounding up victims. I think I am here to learn and hopefully one day I will attend a NEST and be right in the thick of things with like-minded people and it's also fun to hear other opinions about the fetish. That's it I guess. =0)

 

[maniactickler]

Its a good place for me to vent. plus to continue to search for a local woman to have some tickling fun with.

 

[ChosenofMystra]

Its a nice place to chit-chat, make friends and discuss my fetish with open-minded people. It was also the first tickling-themed website I came across so I like it for that as well.

 

[cloudgazer2k]

i found this site as i searched through the various paysites of yore. i saw the forum in its beginnings, when most of the members were veterans of IRC and BBS chats. i saw opportunities to speak to others who were similar to me, and as the years went by, i have forged wonderful friendships with people who i share much in common with other than tickling.

this site was my confession to myself that i had multiple fetishes, with tickling being highest in the ranks. as i matured, so did my tastes and curiousness. here, i could chat with people who knew about my fetishes and didn't criticize or mock me for it. so, for 7 years i have been visiting this site, meeting more and more new people and hoping that, someday, i may meet some of these wonderful personalities in the flesh, and tickle some of them as well 😀

 

[EvenSteven]

Once i found out about this site it only took a short time to decide to join. i always thought there should be a place where tickle-fetish people could exchange ideas so we know that we are not uniquely weird. Beyond the simple exchange of ideas, i must admit that i am really hoping to link up with someone for a real relation in which tickling is a part. From What i have observed, Colorado does not have a lot of ticklers, but i will never give up the search.

 

[Ayla ny]

It started off as a way to vent. I had lots of pent up stuff being married to someone who gave me a funny looks when I said that I wanted him to tickle me.

Got rid of that whole scene and then…

It ended up being a way see what people who interest me have to say and a way to see drawing, stories, pics and vids that interest me.

Cool question!

 

[James_Bond4334]

Many of the 50,000+ accounts are older members. You cannot fully delete your account here. For those who don't post anything, they are most likely people who joined to view videos, pictures, read things but just simply not participate.

I did attend NEST and loved it! I met people like me and was enlightened to new lifestyles of people who view tickling in different ways. I went to meet the people who I have only chatted with on-line. I recommend it completely, because whatever your views are on tickling, you can go and have a fun time.

We played poker, went out to lunch, sightseeing, swimming. Whatever! The trip isn't an all out tickle-fest as some may think. I barely did any tickling the whole 5 days I was there, but I still had the time of my life hanging out with new made friends.

 

[kilitiinko1]

I enjoy it here?

... but I am shy about rounding up victims.

Whenever you are ready to round one up,let me know! I stand at the ready!

Like most others here,I enjoy the sense of community that exists between like-minded people.I`ve chatted with so many wonderful people here over the short time that I`ve been here,and feel that I have made some real friends.Here,I can fit in,and not worry so much about how others judge me,whether it be as a male `lee or someone with a budding BDSM interest.I know that I can get advice when I need some,consolation and prayers,or even a cheerful "Good morning!" in the chatroom!

There are people here from all walks of life and many different countries.The diversity and life experiences of others make this place so special.Add to that the talented artists and writers,as well as the people who find amazing photos and links to other sites and such,and it`s easy to see there is something here for everyone!

I love all the wonderful info and material that this place offers,as well as all of the wonderful people who hang out here. I look forward to being here for a good long time,and I hope to meet many of you face to face.It is a thought that brings a smile to my face! 😎

 

[sushi854]

a lurker's view...

I'm definitely one of those frequent lurkers who rarely posts. I definitely enjoy reading of the camaraderie that takes place here and sometimes find myself a bit jealous. But my lifestyle is fairly busy and I am not a bit open about my sexuality with the exception of those lucky ladies who have had the pleasure to be romantically involved with me, and none of those really knew the "whole story." I have met up with other members in secret, but that never really went anywhere. I also worry about having to explain a trip to Philadelphia to an event like NEST to friends, family, coworkers, etc. Basically, I'm saying that I've felt it would be difficult for me to get involved here to the point of socializing with other members on a regular basis, so I check in regularly, post once in a great while, and mooch off of the generous folks who post video clips and other media. Maybe I make too big of a deal out of this, but for what it's worth, that's my story.

 

[Bugman]

I barely did any tickling the whole 5 days I was there, but I still had the time of my life hanging out with new made friends.

Well said my friend,thats what it's really all about.😀 I have gotten to know people here who will be friends for life.And going to NEST just cemented the bond i feel with so many here...

 

[arandy1247]

First let me say, Hello to you all. Yes this is a first post. Tlkgal226 got me thinking about why I have not posted, I have been a member for 2 years. Well first, I play me hand close to my chest. I am a quiet individual until I get to know someone, then all bets are off.

I don't know if I would call this coming "out", there very few people that know my fetish...2 to be exact. Other than you all of course. I have had a foot/foot tickling fetish since I can remember, as far back as junior high. I thought I was wierd. So I kept it to myself. I remember, many looking at many beautiful feet through out the years, and wanting so bad to touch and tickle them that it would drive me crazy. "Hard wired" I guess I could call myself that, if that means I have a tickling fetish. I remember seeing a beautiful pair of feet under the bleachers, at a little league game. I had to touch them, I couldn't, I did not want to draw attention to myself. But I don't know if I would use it to discribe members who are active in the forum.

I would love to meet you all, I would love to make the next NEST, I would love to have a "tickle date". I am just not open enough, to take the leap of faith. Someday, God I hope so.

I have seen posts from NEST, I have seen beautful pictures you all have posted, I have read your comments. I do want to be a member of this great community. Only I have very little to offer. This is great place to listen and watch people, you all are truly wonderful. I hope we will one day have the opportunity to meet face to face.

Have a great evening.

p.s. Thanks for the nudge Tlkgal226

 

[steph]

I've told my story here a bazillion times but I'll do it again for the noobs. 😉

I didn't think it was weird but I never lurked. I spent a couple of hours cruising the threads and I realized that unlike my other thousand forums, these people were not just clever personalities w/clever names hidden behind computer screens. Some of them were actually getting together, they actually cared about each other. Call me crazy but I could literally feel the love and energy through the computer. I thought "Gimme! I want some, to be part of this!" It just felt like home. I intro'd m'self and I guess somehow people must have liked me back because they still let me hang around, Still rocking and rolling, still having fun and entertaining people, still recruiting exciting new friends to our parties, still MATCHMAKING!
Life is good!

XOXO

 

[Musicroxmysox]

Well long story short I lurked for about a year and then just after I broke up with my ex-boyfriend decided that this is a part of who I am and my life and I will live it the way I want. For many people it is hard to come to terms/ a form of acceptance of their fetish. I think it too would be great if more of the members came out and said hello. So hey you... all of you out there.. come out...say hello.... we don't bite.....hard...(sorry just had to add that last bit.)

 

[NorCaliTickle]

Ok, so this might be a little random, but I was shifting through some old threads during a slow period at work and started to wonder...

Why are you all here? (In the social sense! 😉 )

What got me thinking is the fact that we have over 50,000 members, but as another thread pointed out, only about 1,000 of us are actively posting. Does that mean that only that many of us have a "hard-wired" fetish? Or only that many of us are "out" about our fetish?

What's more interesting is that I have a couple real life friends on here who NEVER post. I got lucky that they pm'd me out of the blue, or found me on myspace - otherwise we may have never met! And some of them are as "hard-wired" as it gets (guess I just answered my own question about "only" the hard-wired people posting, haha)

So what's so different about the 1,000 of us that post - or furthermore, the 100+ folks who attend NEST? Is it just that we/they are more open? Have too much time on our hands? 😉

Personally speaking, I can say I'm not open at all in my "regular" life - only 3 vanilla people know about me. But I wish it wasn't that way, because even with my closest of friends, I feel like I'm holding back by not telling them. But I never will -- I know myself. I'm still having something of a hard time dealing w/ this fetish. That's why I like being involved in the community. I think everyone needs to feel like they belong somewhere, and the TMF has made me feel like that. I may not be as involved as I was once upon a time, but I have fond memories from those days, and hope to develop the same type of community relationship again.

Even though this subject is incredibly sexual for me, I do want to go to NEST someday - just to meet others like me. I assume other people would be dying to go for the same reasons, but maybe I'm wrong?

So, just our of curiosity - why do you guys think you're so involved on here, while others remain silent?

🙂

Some people are just lazy about it! LOL and others are also shy and stuff but i mean like for me i didn't start getting active until recently and I have a friend of the forum since who knows when...still got to know people but never really true made any friends on the forum till recently...but i also think its probably just courage some people don't really know what to say

 

[Mostly Harmless]

I'm not posting much because of my Engrish - only look through Stories and TDiscuss sections.
But, as kilitiinko said, sense of community is a weighty reason =) Even if you're only a reader.

 

[taptoematt]

It took me a long, long time to post, in fact I had to work my way up by posting on other forums first. One day I finally got up the nerve and took the plunge. I had arrived. I think it was the fear factor that kept me at bay for so long. I found everyone very friendly but posessing a vein of suspicion for newcomers. This was understandable and did not bother me in the slightest,in fact it made me feel there where safety measures in place. I later attended my first NEST ( kind of ) and met the same people I've seen on this forum. Everyone was very friendly and I had a good time meeting them. The one revelation I had was, even though we are joined by a fetish, we are still just people, only another microcosm of society. What more can anyone ask for ?

 

[Em Es]

If only those who don't post would answer!

Tklgal226, you asked, "why do you guys think you're so involved on here, while others remain silent?"

One reason those who register on the TMF but don't post may be just to get access to pictures, video clips and so on. I guess other reasons include signing up on what turns out to be a whim; and simply disliking what they read and see.

There are three main reasons I frequent the T.M.F:

1. Pictures and videos - it was once an expensive gamble to view them when you had to buy a $10 issue of Tied & Tickled magazine or a $30 tickling video with no guarantee it would be any good

2. The comfort of knowing there are lots of folks out there like me - and the chance to communicate with them

3. The hope of meeting female tickle enthusiasts

You asked why so few attend NEST. I didn't go because of obligations. I'm sure for every person at NEST, there are several who would have attended if circumstances allowed. Wait 'til next year!

 

[Ticklerguy4u]

I am here because I like to tickle and I am interested in meeting others with the same interests. I've met a few here. I post sometimes when there is something I have to say. I was never one for random posts just for the sake of it, but its like being around people that are into the same things about tickling that I am. I don't get a weird look when I say..I love to tickle.

 

[Soda83pop]

My story has been told here so many times it probably is sounding like a fable at this point.

The very short of it is, I used to contribute vidcaps to probably the most popular foot site on the Internet. Some of my stuff was being posted at AMT and other sites (my good friend ToYou, for example). I started meeting all of these other people (db, Bandit, my tag team partner Nontkl, Ironic Tickler) who were doing the same type of thing (Celebrity contributions) for the tickling sites. The foot and tickling material often were on in the same, so I was talking with those guys before I ever became active here. I lurked for awhile because frankly the drama was so horrible at AMT that I didnt want to be associated with the crowd. My stuff would get posted here anyway whether I did it or not, so my friends that wanted to see my work still saw it (Im not a glory hound). I gave it about a year, then started posting.

I dont do tickle play, gatherings, etc....its not my scene. Im here mostly because of friends I made prior to TMF, and now because of the new people I have met.

 

[huskys]

I lurked for a loooong time before my first post, as do many people.
The reason that I'm still around is because I have had the chance once I de-lurked to interact with many wonderfull people.
Now I've just got to figure out how to drag the country of Australia closer to where most of you guys are so as I can meet you all !!! lol 😛

 

[911]

I became a member at first to see clips and pics, then I wrote a pen pal thing. (got no reply) I believe I came here for another reason but I'm not sure. I read post and people seemed to be friendly (most of them) and also seemed to know each other. Having lots of free time and no social life meant I needed a place to fit in. I've never fit in with a group before but I wanted to and wanted to know how popular this fetish was, could my fantasies become reality some day? By the time I relized there was no pretty girl living two blocks away who wanted to met me I was somewhat content with knowing there where people here like me some of which were going through the same problems as me. No one knows about my fetish and I have a social life so small it could ride a grasshopper so this is the one place I can be myself.