Why Women Dominate the TMF

[Babyshambles]

Why do women get more from theTMF than men? Here's a scientific explanation...

Women on this forum live in a fortunate set of circumstances. Whilst a man is very lucky if he finds a relationship with a woman into tickling from these boards, women find it relatively easy. Women are bombarded with multiple messages from men. Women respond to only a few of these. That is rational. Women are advanced by many men. They haven't got the time of energy to spend on every person. They have to be choosy. Women are choosy.

Now read my explanation. Note that one interpretation of this, is that the roles would be reversed and men would be hit on by lots of "pervy women" if the roles were reversed!!!



Consider this social economics experiment...

10 men
10 women

They are asked to pair off and every couple gets £100 ($200) real money. Easy, everyone can find somebody. The couples will likely split the money 50-50 so that every man and every women gets £50. So far so good.

Now, lets change things a bit.

9 men
10 women

Does this matter? It seems to be significant

Suddenly everyone pairs up, leaving a girl by herself. How horrible for her. Now, every couple still gets £100. Will each man and woman in the couple split the money 50-50 as shown below: -

Couple 1 (£100) = Man (£50) + Woman (£50)
Couple 2 (£100) = Man (£50) + Woman (£50)
Couple 3 (£100) = Man (£50) + Woman (£50)
Couple 4 (£100) = Man (£50) + Woman (£50)
Couple 5 (£100) = Man (£50) + Woman (£50)
Couple 6 (£100) = Man (£50) + Woman (£50)
Couple 7 (£100) = Man (£50) + Woman (£50)
Couple 8 (£100) = Man (£50) + Woman (£50)
Couple 9 (£100) = Man (£50) + Woman (£50)
Lonely woman (£0)

Probably not. Lonely woman is getting nothing. Maybe she'll go to one of the guys and say, "...choose me. If you do, I'll only ask for £20, meaning you get £80. We both win!!"

So that's what happens, leaving

Couple 1 (£100) = Man (£50) + Woman (£50)
Couple 2 (£100) = Man (£50) + Woman (£50)
Couple 3 (£100) = Man (£50) + Woman (£50)
Couple 4 (£100) = Man (£50) + Woman (£50)
Couple 5 (£100) = Man (£50) + Woman (£50)
Couple 6 (£100) = Man (£50) + Woman (£50)
Couple 7 (£100) = Man (£50) + Woman (£50)
Couple 8 (£100) = Man (£50) + Woman (£50)
Couple 9 (£100) = Man (£80) + Woman (£20)
New Lonely woman (£0)

Now the new lonely women is losing out on £50!!! And she's been dumped by her guy. So now, maybe she decides that £20 is better than nothing and goes to one of the guys and tries to strike a deal and the following might happen: -

Couple 1 (£100) = Man (£50) + Woman (£50)
Couple 2 (£100) = Man (£50) + Woman (£50)
Couple 3 (£100) = Man (£50) + Woman (£50)
Couple 4 (£100) = Man (£50) + Woman (£50)
Couple 5 (£100) = Man (£50) + Woman (£50)
Couple 6 (£100) = Man (£50) + Woman (£50)
Couple 7 (£100) = Man (£50) + Woman (£50)
Couple 8 (£100) = Man (£80) + Woman (£20)
Couple 9 (£100) = Man (£80) + Woman (£20)
New Lonely woman (£0)

The new lonely women continue to act in this fashion until you get something like this: -

Couple 1 (£100) = Man (£80) + Woman (£20)
Couple 2 (£100) = Man (£80) + Woman (£20)
Couple 3 (£100) = Man (£80) + Woman (£20)
Couple 4 (£100) = Man (£80) + Woman (£20)
Couple 5 (£100) = Man (£80) + Woman (£20)
Couple 6 (£100) = Man (£80) + Woman (£20)
Couple 7 (£100) = Man (£80) + Woman (£20)
Couple 8 (£100) = Man (£80) + Woman (£20)
Couple 9 (£100) = Man (£80) + Woman (£20)
New Lonely woman (£0)

The new lonely women may decide that £10 is better than nothing and a new deal arises, until eventually all men get £99.99 and 9 women get 1p and 1 woman gets absolutely nothing!!!!

Interesting how just a slightly bigger number of women leads to a big advantage for men. Now consider the TMF. There is not just 10% more women. There is probably 95% more women. They are in a HUGE bargaining postion. They get a LOT more at the expense of men.

Note - in the example above I used 10% more women to get you to think. At the TMF there are actually more men than women and the difference is greater than 10%.

That probably explains the balance.

Basically, men at the TMF are like the lonely girl in the example above, willing to accept a penny rather than nothing. Two interesting points: -

EVERY MAN LOSES OUT!! - We all get just the penny
Most MEN GET NOTHING!! - Even a penny would appeal to these poor suckers

 

[kilitiinko1]

*Sulks off to the Stories Forum.....

 

[Babyshambles]

*Sulks off to the Stories Forum.....

Now the question is. Are you a penny man or are you getting absolutely fuck all from the women at the TMF?

I''m definitely the latter and look at all you penny men with envious greed. I will petition the treasury to issue half penny denominations and then the fight is back on Mothers....

 

[LindyHopper]

One refinement you're missing here: not every man loses out. Some men on the TMF get their £50. Some of them get even more. These are the men who demonstrate that they have something to offer the very choosy women on this forum.

Any male on the TMF has the potential to be one of those men. If you're settling for pennies, or nothing at all... try looking at those £50 men to see just what it is they're doing to get women to look their way. You just might learn something useful.

 

[simulated]

I'm not losing out, nor are many of the men I know on the TMF.

 

[ObservingEgo]

Women dominate the TMF because men let them. That's the most simplified answer!! Women aren't choosy... they're indecisive and fickle. And while you think the women have it better here than men, I'm willing to bet it's the other way around!!

Men here have it better than the women because of the stories, clips, pics, and all the male members who don't know what they're doing. Those dudes are just lovable losers providing short-term electronic ego boosts. Lets not forget the gay and bisexual crowd of males... they also have more options than the women.

And the worst part about all this and why women have it worse than men... is because their bodies are so much more sensitive and prone to feeling sexual pleasure than a man's!! The women may getting short-term ego boosts, but they aren't experiencing anything worthwhile or enough to state they have it better here than men!!

 

[Bohemianne]

Babyshambles, has any of the "critters" subjected you into "jelly state" evenings lately? Aw, not good to answer a question with a question....I'll be back.

 

[Babyshambles]

Babyshambles, has any of the "critters" subjected you into "jelly state" evenings lately? Aw, not good to answer a question with a question....I'll be back.

I can't pretend to know what you're talking about Miss Bohemianne, so i'll answer not.

Interestingly, women MAY be losig out here. Men MAY have it better overall - clips, stories etc. and the benefit of getting way more sexual and other satisfaction from watching a clip of somebody being tickled than any woman could.

But if the TMF was a sealed universe, women would be WAY better than men. There would be no £50 men - unless they had something than most men did not. It depends on ratios. No woman would buy a man for £50 when she can get him for £30?

Say 100 men to every women at TMF

Men are easy to come by, so women get men cheaply. Lets say only 20 men have something that women want. Still means 20 good men fighting over woman.

But there are lots of complications. Most people here do not have equal access to other people. We're separated by geography, age, language etc. So it's not a level playing field.

I may put on my thinking cap and consider the true situation for men and women here - given all the variables - not just number of mena dn women which is a gross oversimplification (but one that works)

 

[Bohemianne]

I can't pretend to know what you're talking about Miss Bohemianne, so i'll answer not.

Interestingly, women MAY be losig out here. Men MAY have it better overall - clips, stories etc. and the benefit of getting way more sexual and other satisfaction from watching a clip of somebody being tickled than any woman could.

But if the TMF was a sealed universe, women would be WAY better than men. There would be no £50 men - unless they had something than most men did not. It depends on ratios. No woman would buy a man for £50 when she can get him for £30?

Say 100 men to every women at TMF

Men are easy to come by, so women get men cheaply. Lets say only 20 men have something that women want. Still means 20 good men fighting over woman.

But there are lots of complications. Most people here do not have equal access to other people. We're separated by geography, age, language etc. So it's not a level playing field.

I may put on my thinking cap and consider the true situation for men and women here - given all the variables - not just number of mena dn women which is a gross oversimplification (but one that works)

^ Come on...Let's drop the computations and bucks...There is a big difference when a woman uses her intellect to the max than simply lifting her skirt and showing her "jewels"...

If a woman uses the first armory, men will fight her to death, but in one lift of a skirt and showing the beautiful thing she's got in there, the man is left with no opponent but himself...In *some* realities, many women had used the latter armory and won battles without bloodshed .😱 😀

Men and women are complementary works for me.

 

[Babyshambles]

^ Come on...Let's drop the computations and bucks...There is a big difference when a woman uses her intellect to the max than simply lifting her skirt and showing her "jewels"...

If a woman uses the first armory, men will fight her to death, but in one lift of a skirt and showing the beautiful thing she's got in there, the man is left with no opponent but himself...In *some* realities, many women had used the latter armory and won battles without bloodshed .😱 😀

Men and women are complementary works for me.

Money is just used to represent value. Value comes in many different shapes and sizes. Interesting that men get more value when women are in the majority and vice versa for women.

Interestingly, there is a lot of evidence to back this up. One theory suggests that a reason for declining marriage numbers in some communities has something to do with women outnumbering men - especially where young men are in prison, or where men are outnumbered for other reasons. The theory suggests that men can get all the sex, fun etc. they want without the commitment of marriage - and hence marriage numbers decline.

Again, these things are multifactorial - but it's a nice theory??

 

[tickles]

Instead of putting down the women here....maybe try looking at our presence as something positive. It is true that this is a male dominated fetish. The women here are trying to integrate and express their desires, just like the men. We are the rare ones that share in the most intimate secret with the men here. There are some of us here that are serious posters and not putting our breasts, feet ,asses etc. out there just to attract attention. I don't have a PM box full of messages...I am a woman. I am looking to have common ground with the men and women here. If I can meet up with some of you....terrific. But the attention the men and women get here is based on what THEY put out .....nothing more....and it is equal to both sexes.

My bottom line point is...just because I am a women doesn't mean I get more attention......or that I have some advantage here over the men just based on the fact that I am a woman. What do the men here want form the women here?...or expect? I have asked this question before and generally don't get a serious answer.

 

[Babyshambles]

Instead of putting down the women here....maybe try looking at our presence as something positive. It is true that this is a male dominated fetish. The women here are trying to integrate and express their desires, just like the men. We are the rare ones that share in the most intimate secret with the men here. There are some of us here that are serious posters and not putting our breasts, feet ,asses etc. out there just to attract attention. I don't have a PM box full of messages...I am a woman. I am looking to have common ground with the men and women here. If I can meet up with some of you....terrific. But the attention the men and women get here is based on what THEY put out .....nothing more....and it is equal to both sexes.

My bottom line point is...just because I am a women doesn't mean I get more attention......or that I have some advantage here over the men just based on the fact that I am a woman. What do the men here want form the women here?...or expect? I have asked this question before and generally don't get a serious answer.

My suggestion is that YOU ARE at an advantage being a woman. In the same way that men in NYC are at an advantage because they outnumber women (albeit only by a small margin and for certain demographics - or at least they did a few years ago)

Because you are a limited commodity on the TMF, your supply is small. The demand is high - especially on an intrinsically sexual forum - your value is conseqently high.

This is just basic economics. You may not like it. But I propose that it's a theory that fits the facts. Do you really think that your inbox is full solely because of your wonderful personality?

So long as she doesn't have a negative personaility and so long as she makes herself visible enough, most women can reap the advantage conferred by the relatively small presence on this forum.

 

[Bohemianne]

My suggestion is that YOU ARE at an advantage being a woman. In the same way that men in NYC are at an advantage because they outnumber women (albeit only by a small margin and for certain demographics - or at least they did a few years ago)

Because you are a limited commodity on the TMF, your supply is small. The demand is high - especially on an intrinsically sexual forum - your value is conseqently high.

This is just basic economics. You may not like it. But I propose that it's a theory that fits the facts. Do you really think that your inbox is full solely because of your wonderful personality?

So long as she doesn't have a negative personaility and so long as she makes herself visible enough, most women can reap the advantage conferred by the relatively small presence on this forum.

^ LOL...I know what you mean from the start...I'm just trying to tweak it a bit to maximize the benefit....Welcome back! 😀

 

[tickles]

Babyshambles,

If I read your original post correctly....your point after all of that was that women can have it all and men get nothing....in the end. My point is....the women here are the link for men to share their fetish with the rare women here who share it too.....It can be a win if this "imbalance" was viewed differently.

My original post stated that my inbox.....IS NOT full.....never has been.

So what not answer my question.....if we are at such an advantage....what's the problem?....What do you want different?....Actually, what is your bottom line point...?

 

[Babyshambles]

Babyshambles,

If I read your original post correctly....your point after all of that was that women can have it all and men get nothing....in the end. My point is....the women here are the link for men to share their fetish with the rare women here who share it too.....It can be a win if this "imbalance" was viewed differently.

My original post stated that my inbox.....IS NOT full.....never has been.

So what not answer my question.....if we are at such an advantage....what's the problem?....What do you want different?....Actually, what is your bottom line point...?

No point. Nobody's going to get rich out of this post - as much as I might like people to send me $10 bills for enriching their lives.

It was fun discussion.

It's surely at least as worthwhile as "Who hear likes sweaty girls with sneakers"

And I agree. It can be a win-win. Men certainly benefit more from having females here. And the comparative advantage enjoyed by women on these boards mightbe what causes them to come here and stay in higher numbers than if that advantage did not exist. This may in turn attract more women, leading to more-and-more women coming to these boards over time. Leading to the men on this board winning even more.

Women might then be attracted to an environment with other women. Leading to win-win-win.

It could have a very positively reinfocing affect.

All $10 bills gratefully received c/o Babyshambles, United Kingdom.

 

[alf]

i don't have a damn clue about what's the deal is with all this money count :/
besides i thought you left the forum ?

 

[lk70]

are you getting absolutely fuck all from the women at the TMF?

I'd love to hear the definition of "fuck all." You're getting absolutely fuck all from the women at TMF. What is it you WANT exactly? Be specific, so the girls can see.

You want a random "hot" girl to tie up and tickle?

You want a regular tickle buddy?

You want a ticklish woman to be in a LTR with?

I've been on the boards for awhile and have met lots of folks IP, some for just play, some for general bonhomie and one or two for an attempt at something longer, romantic and substantial. Truth is, I've given plenty of guys the opportunity to make me feel like more than a ticklish blow up doll. Sadly, not that many rise to the challenge.

I think there's a problem with using this site for potential dating partners. Guys have said it over and over again - "this is a tickling forum, of course we're going to ask about tickling." Huh. Well if you say so, but if I were going to offer one word of advice to the guys looking for a LTR here, I'd advise that you leave the tickling thing on the shelf for awhile and look for a woman who interests you in other ways. Then pursue things based on that.

The wonderful thing about this site is that you can be SURE that your potential mate is into tickling. For pete's sake, take some time to establish rapport and stop making nasty comments about the women here.

 

[Babyshambles]

Babyshambles: Rich people have an advantage in life

Some TMF People: Why do you hate rich people Babyshambles?

That is the logic of some of the people on here. How in the world can saying that women have an advantage be nasty? It is in response to a thread talking about women not being into males (from some other TMFer). I've just spun out an intellectual arguement for discussion.

And in later posts I talk about the advantage that men gain from women at TMF, and that there may be so many women here because of the comparative advantage that women enjoy.

At no point have I talked about wanting a LTR, a hot-girl to tie up and tickle or other such nonsense. I barely even talk about tickling here. Not really.

As I said half-jokingly once, I come here for the Politics and Religion forum only. All this tickling stuff is a distraction

 

[Babyshambles]

i don't have a damn clue about what's the deal is with all this money count :/
besides i thought you left the forum ?

I came back.

As for the money stuff. It's hard to put a value on happiness, or knowledge or satisfaction. It's easy to infer one's value of a situation from the money they are willing to pay for it.

It's not perfect. It's a major over-simplification. But it works.

It's like the earth being a perfect sphere. Of course it isn't, but it's so much easier for most purposes to model the earth as though it were a perfect sphere.

 

[chrisheaven]

I have fun here and have met some great women

 

[Babyshambles]

I have fun here and have met some great women

You're definitely a 1p guy - you lucky so-and-so

Smiley faces seem to havedisappeared. It was either a cat, or a green thing crying.

 

[chrisheaven]

Like to think of myself as a $1,000,000 guy actually

 

[babinsky]

Women dominate because they are here for different
reason's..Men are here to find a woman to tickle.
Women are here to socialize and belong to a group.
Two different lines of thought....

 

[chrisheaven]

interesting point of view

 

[innocentsexcat]

Kitty thinks you start threads to make trouble for some reason. This thread makes no sense to me at all. You seem filled with hate. You need to get tickled or something.