why women in this site dont really talk to guys as they say they would?

[helplessandhappy]

Most women are very perceptive. They can tell the difference between someone who is genuinely sad, and someone who is trying to garner sympathy as a means to getting women.

Yes, and neither is attractive.

 

[C.A.B.]

Omfg this times infinity! Every time I see a thread like this it makes not want to talk to the guy(Yes I am taken, but in an open relationship).

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[maniactickler]

Ive tried this for years with very little success. a majority of women wont have any interest in you, even if your local. who knows the reason why.

 

[Bdsmtickler]

I even mention I'm NOT looking for a hookup,

Could that be the problem?

Because some women might start out saying that they do not want to hook up, but has a little secret fantasy that someone will sweep them off their feet with good chatting so they will change their mind?
And women who have absolutely no intention of hooking up may think you're using reverse psychology to put them at ease and then try to hook up.
Or maybe it is that saying "You're good enough for chatting, but I will never, ever want to meet in you in real life" - isn't exactly a compliment.

Just guessing - have no experience at all with that &#55357;&#56832;

 

[ticklesndimes]

Would it be fair to say that if somebody has a photo on their profile, that women on this site are more likely to respond and want to chat? Or does it not make a difference either way??

Yes to an extent. The MORE you make yourself known via chat rooms, posting, going to gatherings etc. the more people will talk. It's a plus if you have pictures but those can also be fake. Some people don't want to just talk about that and some do, if you have been on here for a while and don't have any post or even have your freaking profile filled out with SOMETHING don't expect everyone to be so willing to chat with you if you if you can't even interact.

That being said, even if you have all of that( which the OP does, though he is lacking in post) guess what.... It doesn't mean a girl will talk to you because she simply isn't interested in tickle chat or maybe she just doesn't want to talk. It's about preferences, connections, and being cautious. Just don't sound desperate or irritated, because that is a major turn off and a big red flag (in real life and over the internet).

I have messaged people on here (guys and girls) just because I like their profile( for age, sex, and usually what they want if they state it) or their post, and they just seem like a chill person to chat with or I just wanted to say something because I don't know.. maybe I liked their hair.

There are tons of personal post of people wanting to tickle chat, you're post isn't special, so just relax and enjoy the forum and just chat with people and maybe it will lead to tickle chat. It happens,just let it. 🙂

 

[crap_game]

I'd say the same thing to you as the OP. What are you offering? Why should any of us want to chat with you? If you're not looking for a hookup, what are you looking for? "Not looking for a hookup" could potentially be taken to mean "Not interested in a relationship" depending on how you say it. Not everyone is interested in a relationship and that's okay, but do be clear about what you want and what you're offering.



100 percent this. You've got to offer something interesting.



Absolutely.



We really are not that complicated! lol It's simple. If you want to talk to a woman, you have to show her why she should be interested in talking to you. There are billions of people on this planet and none of us have the time to sit around and talk to all of them. When a woman chooses to give her attention to a man, it's because he was able to show her that something about him is special. And no, sharing a turn on isn't enough--especially on a site like this where single girls get bombarded by messages from guys all the time.

No offense, but very typical statement "We really are not that complicated". LMAO!!!! Say what you want, I live with three women, one being my wife and the others are my two college age daughters. VERY VERY COMPLICATED PEOPLE! They are the spice of life though, not complaining. I found that the women who say "I'm not complicated." tend to be some of the MOST complicated! LOL As to finding a woman on the internet, never mind a fetish site, seems to be a very complicated method. Has it worked for others? Sure! But I would classify them as the exception. I would also note that all the caveats you placed in your explanation of how UN-complicated women are and what to do and not do is complicated in and of itself. LOL

 

[helplessandhappy]

Could that be the problem?

Because some women might start out saying that they do not want to hook up, but has a little secret fantasy that someone will sweep them off their feet with good chatting so they will change their mind?
And women who have absolutely no intention of hooking up may think you're using reverse psychology to put them at ease and then try to hook up.
Or maybe it is that saying "You're good enough for chatting, but I will never, ever want to meet in you in real life" - isn't exactly a compliment.

Just guessing - have no experience at all with that ��

Yep, totally agree. It stood out as a red flag for me right away.

 

[helplessandhappy]

No offense, but very typical statement "We really are not that complicated". LMAO!!!! Say what you want, I live with three women, one being my wife and the others are my two college age daughters. VERY VERY COMPLICATED PEOPLE! They are the spice of life though, not complaining. I found that the women who say "I'm not complicated." tend to be some of the MOST complicated! LOL As to finding a woman on the internet, never mind a fetish site, seems to be a very complicated method. Has it worked for others? Sure! But I would classify them as the exception. I would also note that all the caveats you placed in your explanation of how UN-complicated women are and what to do and not do is complicated in and of itself. LOL

You're right, we are complicated. I guess what I meant to say is we aren't all difficult to understand.

I can only speak for myself, but I'm someone who communicates clearly. I would never be that woman who says "I'm fine" when I'm clearly pissed. If I'm pissed, my guy will know I'm pissed because I will very clearly tell him why and what I think we should do to fix it. Just like I've always been clear whenever I've posted anything personal on here. I've said straight up that I'm not interested in random sex/tickling and I only am here to look for a potential partner (or participate in these discussions). Anyone who has ever chatted privately with me on here has received nothing but staight-up honesty from me as well.

Women might be more complex emotionally than most guys, but not all of us are shitty communicators who play games. That's all I was saying. 🙂

 

[FootballGuy]

I Dont come on strong, hell I even mention I'm NOT looking for a hookup, just reaching out to someone who apparently has the same interests.

Saying you're not looking for a hookup translates through the female brain as you are definitely absolutely looking for a hookup. Just sayin'.

Leave that line out next time. In fact, don't even mention the words "hook" or "up" even if you separate them.

 

[TTT for joy]

There are a lot of nuances to talking to woman online. However there is one Cardinal Rule to consider before all others. The Prime Directive, so to speak, and it's simply this.

Never EVER post about how difficult it is to meet women, or complain about how women won't talk to you. That is the quickest, most sure fire way to shitcan any possibility of feminine interaction. I joke around on the forum frequently, but right now I'm totally serious. No matter how frustrated you are, suck it up and keep quiet about it.

Perception is everything. IRL, a woman has a lot by which to perceive you. Your clothes. Your shoes. (Women care about shoes - a lot. I don't know why, but trust me - they do.) They check out what kind of shape you're in as an indication of how well you take care of yourself. And very important, your hygiene and grooming.

And that's just the visual perception. If you're talking to them, they listen to how well you speak, the tone of your voice. They are taking in all this data, most of it unconsciously.

But online, all avenues of perception are suddenly narrowed down into this tiny little tunnel by which they get an idea of who you are. Your text. The things you say, and whatever avatar/signature accompanies your conversation. That's all they have, and it isn't much. So they tend to greatly rely on whatever they see from you. If they see you engaging socially in conversation, they see somebody who's socially competent, humorous, and somebody that people generally like.

But if you're dark, moody, sullen, and complaining about women? Well seriously, how attractive can that be to them?

The best thing to do is to act naturally, with a healthy balance of confidence and humility. And most of all, harbor no expectations.

Well: how fortunate I'm not here to find a mate, so I can complain all day long. 😀 I will most likely be unattractive to the ladies as you said, but perhaps some of them at least might be nice, pity me and give me a virtual hug and some much needed encouragement... who knows. 😀

As for the original poster: the problem is that we don't really know what he was expecting, so the different advice I see here are very varying and some of them come down to usual complaints about women and how complicated they are. In my opinion we're human beings, so we're all supposed to be complicated, that's what's great about us: if our psyche wasn't complicated, we'd all just be some kind of robots.

 

[duderino84]

Why are women complicated, mysterious and so hard to understand? That's like asking why String Theory or Quantum Entanglement are so frigging complex and abstract concepts. The mystery is a large part of the attraction. I'm married 23 years and my wife is still a riddle wrapped in an enigma at times. Meeting and talking to a woman on a fetish site seems to me would be like making jellow stick to the wall. Sorry I'm NO help at all. GOOD LUCK!

Because (according to a girl who's opinion I would consider average and common) if a relationship between a couple is founded on the basis of sex, it could become only about sex. What would happen when the sex stopped (it seems to happen, really)?? Would the guy remain loyal and stick by her side? Or leave? Or would the female in the relationship do similar?

So a relationship that is "all about sex" is an unappealing concept in that the anticipation of potential unpleasant results is even more unappealing, therefore, most/some women would stay away.

I don't blame them.

 

[helplessandhappy]

So a relationship that is "all about sex" is an unappealing concept in that the anticipation of potential unpleasant results is even more unappealing, therefore, most/some women would stay away.

I don't blame them.

Yeah, exactly. It's pretty easy to understand, I'd say.

 

[duderino84]

Yeah, exactly. It's pretty easy to understand, I'd say.

It is and it isn't.....I would argue at some point if a mutual sexual attraction wasn't shared between two people that get along, there would be no point in a relationship; that point kind of nullifies "it can't be all about sex". I've never heard of a happy relationship where both partners were not having sex.

 

[Myriads]

It is and it isn't.....I would argue at some point if a mutual sexual attraction wasn't shared between two people that get along, there would be no point in a relationship; that point kind of nullifies "it can't be all about sex". I've never heard of a happy relationship where both partners were not having sex.

Because folks don't talk about it. I know a lot of couples that got tired of sex at some point. Sometimes it led them to opening the relationship for their partner when one lost interest, other times they both breathed a sigh of relief on leaning that their partner was as tired of it as them.

A lot of people enjoy the company of someone who cares about them, likes to share time and activities with them, and so forth. A relationship doesn't need to include a regular flow of moist spasms to function.

Myriads

 

[duderino84]

Because folks don't talk about it. I know a lot of couples that got tired of sex at some point. Sometimes it led them to opening the relationship for their partner when one lost interest, other times they both breathed a sigh of relief on leaning that their partner was as tired of it as them.

A lot of people enjoy the company of someone who cares about them, likes to share time and activities with them, and so forth. A relationship doesn't need to include a regular flow of moist spasms to function.

Myriads

Interesting perspective! I guess I'm incorrect.

Well I bet another reason women don't talk much is because on another bunch of sites (whisper, okcupid, meet me, plenty of fish ) they're regularly harassed with guys that are after a quickie, expressing it insultingly. Some women post screenshots publicly to try to ward off guys. That's probably a better "definite" answer to why we have antisocial social networks.

 

[helplessandhappy]

It is and it isn't.....I would argue at some point if a mutual sexual attraction wasn't shared between two people that get along, there would be no point in a relationship; that point kind of nullifies "it can't be all about sex". I've never heard of a happy relationship where both partners were not having sex.

Well I agree, there has to be sex. There just can't ONLY be sex. Every aspect of a good relationship has to be there.

 

[MrTicklefeet]

You've been on here since Nov. 2013 and you only have eight posts. Plus most of your posts were personal type threads you made where you're trying to find females or replies you made to other personals. You should start participating more, so people can get to know you better.

I like it when someone does a minamal amount of research into someone's lame claim and calls them out about it.
Otherwise, this has certainly wandered off topic. The original poster claimed about women who wouldn't talk to them 'as they say they would,' without ever revealing who 'they' might be. Who said they would? And why hasn't Mr Coskillas yet to return?

 

[tklmeplz]

This might just be me personally, but you asked for opinions.. 😛

I do my best to reply to most messages, but things that will annoy me straight away are horrible spelling/punctuation. I can't deal with it, and I'm sorry but if your typing annoys me, I won't be speaking to you. Age is another thing I look at/ask straight away, and if you're above my age preference, I will say something about that, and apologize. Most men I have encountered on this site are either looking to meet up (I am too, but after MONTHS of talking, not just one conversation) or role playing, some have even asked me for pictures of naughty things, which I did not appreciate..

It's the internet, and it is so easy to ignore a message just saying "Hey" even though they might be a perfect match. I don't know, just my personal opinion.

 

[duderino84]

This might just be me personally, but you asked for opinions.. 😛

I do my best to reply to most messages, but things that will annoy me straight away are horrible spelling/punctuation. I can't deal with it, and I'm sorry but if your typing annoys me, I won't be speaking to you. Age is another thing I look at/ask straight away, and if you're above my age preference, I will say something about that, and apologize. Most men I have encountered on this site are either looking to meet up (I am too, but after MONTHS of talking, not just one conversation) or role playing, some have even asked me for pictures of naughty things, which I did not appreciate..

It's the internet, and it is so easy to ignore a message just saying "Hey" even though they might be a perfect match. I don't know, just my personal opinion.

If not "hey", what else?

And yes, a lot of guys restrict their perversions for the internet and it comes across callous. But you have to kiss a lot of frogs to find the prince, no?

 

[helplessandhappy]

I agree, age does matter when it's beyond a certain number of years. A lot of people on this site are either way older or wayyyy younger than me. I was amazed when I found someone my age!

 

[GirlWhoLikes2Laugh]

First off a lot of women get sick of having the SAME conversation over and over and over and over... it's boring.

Secondly we're not all that difficult- we're skeptical of your intentions, most guys dont "just want to chat"- so dont come off like a desperate creeper and give us a chance to get to know you and you might be pleasantly surprised... I believe most people call this moment "breaking the ice".

Just because people have pictures on their profiles does not make them more likely to respond... just simply means they enjoy posting pictures for others to see... doesnt make them less skeptical of your true motivations.

not entirely sure where you've posted such thread but it could very well be not many women look in that area...

Then there's a whole nother group of females who, genuinely just dont want to talk to people period and are happy and content being lurkers on the forum. Honestly this can go either way, plenty of guys do it too....

Just my two cents for what it's worth.

I agree with you.

 

[knicks255]

Just treat women like you do male users. Don't put them on a giant pedestal or think they're greedy, conniving, scum or whatever. Just talk to them normally and give them a chance to show their personality. Women have those too.

 

[BrightEyes1082]

If someone messages me wanting to talk about tickling, I automatically assume he
is looking for nothing more than wanking fodder, and I'm simply not interested in
providing that.

 

[helplessandhappy]

If someone messages me wanting to talk about tickling, I automatically assume he
is looking for nothing more than wanking fodder, and I'm simply not interested in
providing that.

Yep. 100 percent this.