I hope you find that, Artoo. I really do. But in my case, when that love gets ahold of you it's not your interests that should concern you, but hers. And if you are lucky to have what I had for a short number of years she will think the same way. It makes both people stop and really consider just what is truly important to the other person. You may have to give up something and she may have to give up something too. And if you both do so willingly then you have found what I did long ago. And it is the best feeling in the world.