NO.
There's a difference between being IN LOVE and being IN CONTROL.
There's a lot of people in love, and damn happy, but sadly, there's an equal number, or more, who are in control - their partner believes being "in love" means
"controlling the other person."
I had a marriage like that, that was obviously miserable, and I've known countless other people in the same boat.
One partner lords over the other, looks down on them, and that feeling of being superior is what drives them day to day.
Today's modern feminist's are all about the women being "in control," though they may call it love, and scores of men are all about control, so this isn't
a female/male phenomenon. The person who monitors their partner's internet activity, cell phone calls, reads their mail, always wants to know what they're doing/where they've
been in a suspicious way - both people are miserable, the victim because they have this crazy jealous person always spying on them, so they're not free to be the full person they
could in a healthy relationship, and the jealous/dominant one, who is always on edge, because their partner may be "doing something" that they can't control.
Leaving the TMF would be the first thing a controlling person would make their mate do, and would always use it to put them down, as a pervert, sicko, what have you.
They'd always throw that back in their face, as if it's a crime, when they're losing a fight (which they always start) or want to otherwise control the other person's
behavior, which is usually every 10 minutes.
If you're in a relationship like this, GET OUT GET OUT GET OUT right NOW!
They controlling person, by definition, will NEVER change, will NEVER "get better." They may calm down if they believe their partner will leave them, thus depriving them
of a being to control, but they know they can come back later and continue to beat that person down when their partner lets their guard down.
A real healthy relationship is based on trust, acceptance, etc. Let me give you an example - if I found a girl, and say she had a clown fetish, a fetish I don't have at all,
but would tie nicely into my own interests - I love tickling, laughing, and pantyhose, and she could fit all those. If she visited the clown fetish forums every day.....I could
care less! I would trust that she'd be faithful to me, because if I didn't trust her, then I'd let her go. I wouldn't be spying on her internet activity every day when she's asleep,
or monitoring her phone calls, because then I'd be miserable always suspecting her of " doing something" "behind my back," and that wouldn't be love, and she'd obviously be miserable,
knowing she can't enjoy her interests and knowing I'd always be suspicious of her - she'd be tolerating me until she eventually left anyway to find someone who's not a perpetual spy.
I've known people who were crazy controlling people, and that's their energy, that's what keeps them going. They're like a cop finding the criminal, except that the "criminal" is their
spouse. That's not love, and the other person is ALWAYS miserable.
If you have a partner that makes you leave here, then leave your partner, because trust me, it won't be "just the Tickling Media Forum" you'll be leaving.
It'll start being friends, then more friends, then family, then church, then activities and interests, anything they feel they have no control over......
And I don't want such possessiveness.
