You know it is sad when . . .

[kcantankerous]

Hello all,

I decided to stick this here because it has a tangential relationship to tickling. So I have recently felt the latest sting in my personal life which has let me to download some clips. All of which I was quite happy with and you can find the reviews in the appropriate sections.

You know it is sad when you are hoping a praying for someone to come up with a particular model that you think is hot, to be tickled in a particular clip. That is what I have finally admitted to myself today. Maybe this thread doesn't belong here but I have realized that among everything else I don't have an outlet for my tickling desires in the physical world nor I hand out with a single females in my personal life.

This is not a woe is me type of thread more of a revelation. I'm beginning to wonder if this is unhealthy for me. On the one hand purchasing and viewing clips allows me to escape from reality, even if its' just for an average of 5 minutes per clip.

I endeavor to think that it is even cheaper in the long run to consume clips than court/date/romance/ an actual person. This may be true but as many of you who are in a relationship are aware, at some point clips are simply not enough. Dungeons and prostitutes not withstanding, there are few options that one can undertake.

Anyways I appreciate Tickle Abuse, Czech Tickling, Virgin Pink Soles, Lily Haze Midnight Snack, Tickle Haven, and Tickle Cuties (Kenplaystheguitars site). Over the last 3 months I have been using these sites as an outlet. I do not believe I reviewed Czech and Tickle Haven quite yet. At any rate I plan on supporting as I've said before.

Still I wonder if clips will work indefinitely or if I may look back years from now in the same predicament. I hate these kind of threads because it feels like a should break out the worlds smallest violin. I dunno, maybe some of you feel the same or maybe I'm a pariah in this regard.

Thanks,
K

 

[robmic]

While the clips may take you to a better place for a short while, I believe that you should never lose the optimism to find the real person in life that will give you genuine satisfaction and love. If you look long and hard enough, you just might be successful.

 

[Captain Morgan]

It sorta seems like this is the tragic flaw in our "double-lives" so to speak. There's way way way WAY too many people that go so wrapped up in the tickle/bondage/dungeon fantasy world (whatever your cup of tea is), that all of a sudden they...I don't wanna say lose touch with reality...let's say get a little lost as to what they're looking for in life.

But I'm with you 100%. Sometimes when you're that obsessed on the scene, it's hard to be satisfied with the basic romance. I agree with robmic. The clips are wonderful, but your focus should always be on finding that one person in real life who makes you happy. There's no greater feeling than that.

 

[TicklingTips]

Want to motivate yourself? Watch clips...but don't, well, help yourself out.

That'll motivate you to find a real woman!

 

[tentative_lee]

I agree with the opinions above... Although I may be on the opposite side of the debate.

I'm in a wonderful relationship with the man I love, but have only just acknowledged and realised my life long feelings about tickling.

So while I wouldn't trade in my loving relationship for my newly understood fetish (totally believed I was alone in it and defective in some way - sigh), I'm trying to figure out how to introduce it and explain how much a huge part of me it is, into an established relationship with a pretty definite non-ler. Good luck. I don't believe there have to be any sacrifices, just the courage to one day find a way to merge the two together. Whether you're coming from your side or mine.

 

[Libertine]

Because you are still young and redeemable, in the sense that it is still very possible for you to turn your life around, be assured that every penny and every second you spend buying a clip or watching one is a waste of time, because you need both money and time to interact with the real thing, and that can simply mean buying a girl a coffee at Starbucks, not treating her to the honeymoon suite at the Ritz. Two things you should do are 1) google BDSM and your town or city, and go to a few munches; 2) start saving for NEST. You have five months. Real live girls attend, of all ages, not models doing stuff that doesn't interest them for money, but real women who honestly enjoy tickling.

It's your choice- be brave and get yourself out there, or waste your life watching a computer screen while simultaneously conducting yourself in a fashion that will ensure no-one will want to shake hands with you as long as you live...

Get out into the world and socialise even if you don't feel ready, have the balls to keep trying when you fail because sometimes you will fail, and you may succeed. At present you've chosen a path that guarantees defeat and self-hatred. You can't win without playing the game.

I'm being cruel to be kind.

 

[tentative_lee]

Hi, I'm sorry, I hope you don't mind the question... any of you. But I've searched and don't quite understand! What exactly is NEST?

Thanks for your reply, if you take the time... and apologies once more for asking such a rookie question!

 

[Libertine]

Hi, I'm sorry, I hope you don't mind the question... any of you. But I've searched and don't quite understand! What exactly is NEST?

Thanks for your reply, if you take the time... and apologies once more for asking such a rookie question!

http://www.ticklingforum.com/showthread.php?211840-nest

 

[tentative_lee]

Oh thanks!

 

[kcantankerous]

Hello all,

Libertine, I know you mean well so please feel free to be as blunt as you need to be. Even if you didn't mean well I would still ask for the same treatment. This thread is not to knock or otherwise disparage what producers do or the act of clip buying. The clips I bought so far I have not nor will I regret purchasing because I know I am helping not just myself but producers who actually seem to care about their product and their customers (others who I have not gotten to purchasing from yet are included).

The origins of this thread came about when I realized that I was spending hours trying to find a model so that I might be able to have a producer film a tickle clip with her (I am still interested in such a clip, btw I want to be clear that I was looking for her professional contact info, Not trying to stalk the woman, email blast her, or anything of the sort). Still I started think about why I had become that obsessed about that particular model. The short answer is she reminds me of the girl that I had been attempting to court without much success.

To be clear the TMF is my outlet for my tickling fetish, meaning I do not go out and open with "hey I want to tickle you" or anything of the sort. If I am courting I tend to set up dinner dates or what have you. Anyways, after many times of experiencing the old I wish person X or Y would just tell me they are not interested bit I contemplated saying f*** it. Even thought the model I'm interested in seeing is smoking hot doesn't mean that is the physical bar I set in reality.

Still I do find myself becoming more of a cynic about the courtship game. I find myself spending money only to get spurned because of a believe I have or because of some other benign issue. I might not be a democrat, I might not share the same views on X, I might come across as to egotistical or too meek, etc. Each one seems to thinks I have a character flaw and the other thinks that supposed flaw is a virtue that I don't possess.

It kind of gets tiring after awhile. I'm sure I could go to a bar, say what some lush wants to hear and get her in bed. However, that is not what I'm trying to do. Nor am I trying to slip a ring on some woman's finger after one date. For example, my latest crush I am just trying to take her out to eat somewhere. I may as well be trying to go on a one man mission to Mars. I understand things come up but at some point one begins to wonder. At this point I am trying to subtly get her to show her hand. That is if she's not interested lay those cards down.

The latest example is essentially among a long list of other such examples, not to mention observations of other situations. Maybe it is "the game" aspects that are beginning to irritate me. I clearly also have a deep fear or is it loathing of rejection. In the case outlined I want that for some closure.

Thanks,
K

 

[mabus]

kcantankerous, you may just need to work on your aggression/outgoing skills. (I tried to bring this up in the talk about girls being more aggressive when wanting to tickle their men - I used one wrong word -demand- when I should have used others, and got blasted and advice was totally ignored.)

I've watched guys be all shy and timid....and stay single forever, while the girls they loved went out with the guys who more aggressively asked them out.
I knew a guy who was somewhat of an asshole (okay, he was an asshole!) who was in the army, Mr. Aggressive, who'd have girls hanging all over him the SAME DAY they met, after like, an hour! I was Mr. Timid and tried to ask one or two of these girls out forever, and here this guy was having them laying on him after half an hour! He wasn't even interested in a long term relationship with them, he was just Mr. Take What Ever I want. If this guy had a fetish, believe me, it was satisfied, or the woman was quickly gotten rid of to get one who would.

Now, you don't have to be mean about it, or asshole about it, but girl's, along with guys, can't read minds.
If you don't just tell them what you want, you'll sadly never get anything.

And many times girls who are hot are looking for Prince Charming, and if you're not it...there's absolutely nothing you can do. They can expect a higher calibre of guy.

I have a friend who just yesterday told me he basically gave up looking for women. He was always looking for the young hot type, while he was like, 34, living at home (but had never even moved out!) and had an average low paying job. He'd was also stubborn and irresponsible, and would argue about nothing stuff, like buying groceries for the house (he bought little) and doing chores.....childish stuff no hot woman, or average woman for that matter, would put up with. He didn't have much to offer the women.

So, you have to work on you, as a person - getting financially stable, being responsible, knowing how to treat a woman, all that stuff.
Then when you have a good, solid base to go from, you can work on your approach to women.
(I was never that good at that, so I'll let others jump in and take over!)

 

[kcantankerous]

kcantankerous, you may just need to work on your aggression/outgoing skills. (I tried to bring this up in the talk about girls being more aggressive when wanting to tickle their men - I used one wrong word -demand- when I should have used others, and got blasted and advice was totally ignored.)

I've watched guys be all shy and timid....and stay single forever, while the girls they loved went out with the guys who more aggressively asked them out.
I knew a guy who was somewhat of an asshole (okay, he was an asshole!) who was in the army, Mr. Aggressive, who'd have girls hanging all over him the SAME DAY they met, after like, an hour! I was Mr. Timid and tried to ask one or two of these girls out forever, and here this guy was having them laying on him after half an hour! He wasn't even interested in a long term relationship with them, he was just Mr. Take What Ever I want. If this guy had a fetish, believe me, it was satisfied, or the woman was quickly gotten rid of to get one who would.

Now, you don't have to be mean about it, or asshole about it, but girl's, along with guys, can't read minds.
If you don't just tell them what you want, you'll sadly never get anything.

And many times girls who are hot are looking for Prince Charming, and if you're not it...there's absolutely nothing you can do. They can expect a higher calibre of guy.

I have a friend who just yesterday told me he basically gave up looking for women. He was always looking for the young hot type, while he was like, 34, living at home (but had never even moved out!) and had an average low paying job. He'd was also stubborn and irresponsible, and would argue about nothing stuff, like buying groceries for the house (he bought little) and doing chores.....childish stuff no hot woman, or average woman for that matter, would put up with. He didn't have much to offer the women.

So, you have to work on you, as a person - getting financially stable, being responsible, knowing how to treat a woman, all that stuff.
Then when you have a good, solid base to go from, you can work on your approach to women.
(I was never that good at that, so I'll let others jump in and take over!)

Thanks, I appreciate the advice. I think that is what I will do. Once I get stable I will make shift to searching for a nice woman then.

K

 

[Jagermeistered]

Stability is so boring! Attraction is chaos theory... Unless, you meet a family-type of girl who wants to be bored with you(for the sake of having a family). If that is the case, duo-utility will diminish quickly...

I want a woman who is both my best friend, and my lust... Until, we are forced by reality, and that is to bury the other.

 

[kcantankerous]

Stability is so boring! Attraction is chaos theory... Unless, you meet a family-type of girl who wants to be bored with you(for the sake of having a family). If that is the case, duo-utility will diminish quickly...

I want a woman who is both my best friend, and my lust... Until, we are forced by reality, and that is to bury the other.

Have you found this woman my friend?

Thanks
K

 

[Jagermeistered]

Have you found this woman my friend?

Thanks
K

I think I may have... Perhaps, it's best to PM you about the situation.

 

[Marquis De Sade]

post edited...nvm.

 

[kcantankerous]

I think I may have... Perhaps, it's best to PM you about the situation.

Please do, if your up for it.

Thanks,
K

 

[kcantankerous]

Hello all,

I want to unequivocally say that I will still purchase clips in the future. Just not at the frequency that I had over the past month. This thread was about something else entirely that was on my mind. I still want that model in another clip as well lol. I will concentrate on finding decent employment and will move to the next stage afterwards. I appreciate everyone's advice and and appreciate still more advice from those willing to share it.

Thanks,
K