Not everyone appears creepy at first glance. If someone's not wearing a sign that says "I'm going to cross your personal boundaries after speaking with you for five minutes." how are we to know that they should be avoided? Obviously some creepers just give off a creeper vibe, but that's not universally true.
Yes and no. Sure it's possible to meet a guy for a few minutes and agree to go on a date a few days later only to find out he's a creep. But we're not talking about a simple dinner or coffee. We're talking about touching/tickling...in front of one's significant other no less.
Incognito creepy guy: What is a creepy guy? In all of the post people will add to this list there will be two common themes. 1) The individual lacks social intelligence 2) The individual is selfish and apathetic to others.
The social intelligence aspect is easy to spot. How do they come across? Intelligent, witty, well spoken, groomed,stylish ect ect. Individuals that lack social intelligence will act and look awkward and simply doesn't know how to act with others. He/she didn't know that what they said was offensive. They didn't know drool would make someone uncomfortable. They wore their favorite t-shirt but didn't know the family guy t-shirt with the sleeves cutoff and the lack of a shave makes him look creepy. ect ect. These guys PM the girls on here saying weird stuff...but later apologize when told the error of their ways. They simply don't know any better. They can be spotted from a mile away.
The selfish aspect is alot harder to spot. Creepy guys can only see things from their point of view. They lack the apathy to understand others. Their needs and desire supersede everyone else's. They see a nice butt and they grab it because they felt like it. They stare at boobs...because they felt like it. Upon telling the individual that the staring makes the woman uncomfortable he'll say "she shouldn't put them out on display then". He's the guy that says "she deserved it because of the way she is dressed". This sort of creepy guy is harder to spot when they have high social intelligence. These sort of guys PM girls on here saying weird stuff and will ignore any request to stop. More time needs to be spent with this guy to see what he's about before one jumps to anything physical with him.
Mix social intelligence+empathy=charm. Charming people can influence the mental state of other positively through their innate/learned understanding of human nature. They know that first dates are stressful they ensure that the mood is light hearted... through jokes, fun convo ect.
These creepy gentlemen...err lers are a simple fact of life. A guy with an IQ of 70 will always have an IQ of 70. A jerk that is unapologetic about being a jerk will always be a jerk. But the lee's should be careful with whom they become tickling intimate with. There are tons of creepy guys lurking on this site...but there are many cool guys too. Cool guys while not infallible to creepy moments will usually make any experience better.
If you've got many horror stories about tickling gone wrong....then your standards are too low. Don't be afraid to raise them!
Said with brotherly love of course.
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