21/female needs relationship advice =)

[iambrittanys]

hi lee's & ler's!
I am a 21 year old female in a relationship w/ someone who has a tickle fetish. We've been together 3 years and cant see each other apart. His want to tickle others has grown over time and is effecting both our relationship & social life. I let him tickle me all the time and we try new ways of tickling but the want isnt decreasing. I guess were just looking for any kind of way to decrease his obsession. If you have any advice for me/him/or us just pm me or reply to post & I would greatly appreciate it! Thanx! =)

 

[Marquis De Sade]

Sounds unsettling. Depends on what it does for him though. For some it's fun and playful, nothing more. For others it's a sexual turn on, used as foreplay. What goes on the bedroom is usually a good indicator of other parts of your relationship so I would examine that aspect of your bond more than the tickling itself. If one of you says nothing else in the relationship other than the sharing of his fetish has eroded over time or at least needs attending to, someone's in denial.

 

[Marquis De Sade]

Hold up. Confused. You only have 3 posts so I looked 'em up. If you're cool with other guys tickling you, why doesn't he get to play with other girls? Fair's fair, right?

 

[Libertine]

I'm afraid that all you need to know is contained in this poem by Ogden Nash:

Hoggimus higgimus, man is polygamous;

Higgamus hoggamus, woman's monogamous.

 

[Skulls]

Hold up. Confused. You only have 3 posts so I looked 'em up. If you're cool with other guys tickling you, why doesn't he get to play with other girls? Fair's fair, right?

Fair question, we will keep in mind that it was back in October and things may have changed, but still fair question since it does mention having your boyfriend present during said session.

As to advice if I didn't know that or assuming things have changed since, I'd say it depends on how he views the tickling....but lean towards 90% if you're exclusive, it's wrong of him to desire that.

 

[maniactickler]

This is what ive always said, its the classic boredom. no matter what things you try, or experiment with, it wont help. tickling the same person year after year will get old. this is why i fear a committed relationship. my advice is either stay single, or let him and yourself tickle others.

 

[daddy]

This is what ive always said, its the classic boredom. no matter what things you try, or experiment with, it wont help. tickling the same person year after year will get old. this is why i fear a committed relationship. my advice is either stay single, or let him and yourself tickle others.

Best advice I have heard in years! Cheers brother Maniac 🙂

peace out,
daddy

 

[AphxA]

its excitement that he needs..hmmm? pull a gun on him. That outta spice things up.

 

[FeatherMAN28]

I suppose it differs from couple to couple...my girlfriend and I just got engaged 2 months ago, and we have been together for 6 years. We still love tickling each other as if it were something new 🙂

 

[Em Es]

Could be the beginning of the end

iambrittanys, it sounds as though you gave him everything you could. As others here say, it could be that the relationship has run its course.

But before we throw in the towel, can you tell me:

Is your boyfriend just talking about tickling other girls, or has already done it? If he's tickled others, who are they? I mean, finding another girl who will let you tickle her is not as easy as finding one to date!

Have you thought about finding other girls to join in the fun when he tickles you? That could spice things up without him going behind your back.

Did he say he wants to "decrease his obsession," or is that just what you want?

 

[LD_Tickler]

Sounds like it's just the typical instance of things getting boring in the bedroom, only instead of sex, it's tickling. Do what people do when sex gets uninteresting - find ways to make tickling new and different.

 

[ViperGTS]

Let him tickle other girls.

It's not very complicated.

 

[rhiannon]

Let him tickle other girls.

It's not very complicated.

You make it sound like there is just no feeling at all involved when one partner does something with someone else! 🙂

It IS very complicated. Very VERY complicated!

 

[ViperGTS]

Well, apparently he is ok with her being tickled by other guys, if you look at her posts. To not allow him to tickle other women would be hypocritical.

 

[BlackestLily]

hi lee's & ler's!
I am a 21 year old female in a relationship w/ someone who has a tickle fetish. We've been together 3 years and cant see each other apart. His want to tickle others has grown over time and is effecting both our relationship & social life. I let him tickle me all the time and we try new ways of tickling but the want isnt decreasing. I guess were just looking for any kind of way to decrease his obsession. If you have any advice for me/him/or us just pm me or reply to post & I would greatly appreciate it! Thanx! =)

Is it just him having it, or do you share the same fetish?

 

[rhiannon]

Well, apparently he is ok with her being tickled by other guys, if you look at her posts. To not allow him to tickle other women would be hypocritical.

Hypocritical or not - it doesn't mean that there are not bad feelings involved. I agree that she can't have other guys tickle her and then not allow him to tickle other girls, but I also don't know why other guys are allowed to tickle her - is it something her boyfriend wants to witness? Does it turn him on? Did he ask for her to do it? If so - then there is nothing hypocritical about her not wanting the same thing with him and other women!

 

[iambrittanys]

HI, that was months ago, & now he isnt comfortable w/ other dudes tickling me now

 

[iambrittanys]

He has the fetish, but I have cum 2 really enjoy it =)

 

[milagros317]

He has the fetish, but I have cum 2 really enjoy it =)

It would seem that, after tickling you to his heart's content, he ought to do something that you like that makes you cum. Surely he should be willing to do that.

 

[TickVix]

maybe you two can attend a tickling gathering of some sort and engage in tickle sessions together, meaning you and him both tickle someone together this way he isn't doing it solo. It may help a little, but to be honest it sounds like his want may not decrease any time soon, which is why I suggest going together and partaking in it together. It sounds like you two are able to communicate about this which is an excellent thing. I wish you all the best