A little less desperate?!

[maryallison]

Hi,

I know I'm new to all this, but I have read lots of posts from guys who want to tickle girls, and its hard to tell the genuine from the amatuer (sorry). If a guy writes one sentence, or says he would 'love" to tickle me based only on my being female, that seems a bit...I don't know, sad. It seems that about 80 percent are just making it up as they go along. How about some advice from those who really know what they're talking about?

 

[FlockOfSeagulls]

just my 2 cents

i have been here a couple of weeks and the majority of the people are very nice and use common courtesy.It is pretty easy for the most part to tell when someone is teasing or kidding with lighthearted humor.but i have noticed a few guys that seem to chime in everytime a woman is just being polite, u can almost see there tongue hanging out of there mouths.these individuals r extremely blunt and r in my opinion almost a bit creepy. But saying that they seem to be few and far between and u will get that in every facet of society.

 

[stloldg]

Hi,

I know I'm new to all this, but I have read lots of posts from guys who want to tickle girls, and its hard to tell the genuine from the amatuer (sorry). If a guy writes one sentence, or says he would 'love" to tickle me based only on my being female, that seems a bit...I don't know, sad. It seems that about 80 percent are just making it up as they go along. How about some advice from those who really know what they're talking about?

As a male that love tickling I have to confess that a lot of guys sound like that because they really are. I was like that until maybe 2 days ago. LOL

It’s hard to find a lady that’s into tickling and a ticklee on top of it, like finding a raw diamond in the middle of zirconium. Female out number males at least 10 – 1, but the amount of females that love tickling and willing to be tickle or have their feet played it make it more like male 5 – 1.

I’m speaking for myself now, surfing the net since 94, I think I have chatted with 10 ladies that I can confirm was ladies that love tickling, before coming to this community. We act like a bunch of dogs on a single bone, which scares ladies away. I’m truly sorry, that we seem desperate. But as we find out that there are more and more ladies whiling to share our fetish we will start to be come more civilized again, I hope.

 

[steph]

Why so hard on the guys?
I'm not judging you, I'm just curious...All the ones I've met in person from here are just nice guys looking for a fun lee.

XOXO

Hi,

I know I'm new to all this, but I have read lots of posts from guys who want to tickle girls, and its hard to tell the genuine from the amatuer (sorry). If a guy writes one sentence, or says he would 'love" to tickle me based only on my being female, that seems a bit...I don't know, sad. It seems that about 80 percent are just making it up as they go along. How about some advice from those who really know what they're talking about?

 

[TicklishSinner]

maryallison, you just gotta give yourself some time here and really get to know these guys, I felt the same when as you when i first got here, but I got to know people and things just fall into place then, dont judge people to soon (i didnt mean that offensively)

 

[Mimi]

Steph and Sinner make a good point. As you spend more time on the forum, and get to know more of our regulars and more stable members, you'll be able to pick out which ones see you as nothing more than a female fantasy feed, and those who genuinely want to get to know YOU as a person, and enjoy everything you have to offer mentally, emotionally, and physically.

It just takes a little time and patience to weed through plethora of respondants you'll see. 🙂

Mimi

 

[maryallison]

Why so hard on the guys?
I'm not judging you, I'm just curious...All the ones I've met in person from here are just nice guys looking for a fun lee.

Well, in the last day or so I have posted on a couple of personals, ever so mildly - without even saying anything about myself - and a couple of guys pounced about how they are "dom" and want to tickle me, etc. and both guys just left it like that, in one sentence, like I'm going to answer them right away! Another one gave interesting, long descriptions but seems uninterested in girls my age.

 

[steph]

Hmm...

"girls your age"...
I'm not sure what this means. Are you 14? 150?

And if you didn't want to be "pounced on" when answering a personal, why not just send your potential 'ler a PM instead? Problem solved, right?

XOXO

Why so hard on the guys?
I'm not judging you, I'm just curious...All the ones I've met in person from here are just nice guys looking for a fun lee.

Well, in the last day or so I have posted on a couple of personals, ever so mildly - without even saying anything about myself - and a couple of guys pounced about how they are "dom" and want to tickle me, etc. and both guys just left it like that, in one sentence, like I'm going to answer them right away! Another one gave interesting, long descriptions but seems uninterested in girls my age.

 

[Mz Chaos]

Steph and Sinner make a good point. As you spend more time on the forum, and get to know more of our regulars and more stable members, you'll be able to pick out which ones see you as nothing more than a female fantasy feed, and those who genuinely want to get to know YOU as a person, and enjoy everything you have to offer mentally, emotionally, and physically.

It just takes a little time and patience to weed through plethora of respondants you'll see. 🙂

Mimi

Greetings...
I am also a new member to the community. I can sympathize with you.. you posted in the personals... I posted a pic. Both of which seems to have drawn a lot of attention.

At first I was overwhelmed, but as Mimi says, you have to give it time... talk to the guys... you'd be surprised at how many are polite, considerate, intelligent and great fun to talk with. Not all of the men here are crude (although, there are a few) and not all talk about tickling alone.

I submitted my pic, because I like to know who I am talking to. It's good to be able to put a face to the otherside of the conversation. For a few days I kicked myself in the ass... my Yahoo chat list was ready to explode and the one here was getting pretty full too. This is where the weeding comes in.

Now... I am so glad that I had all that attention. I have met so many interesting men on here... some who have never even brought up tickling, imagine that! So many that try as I will, I can't seem to be able to keep up on answering their PM's. About 80% of those... hardly talk about tickling at all, instead, they have opted to get to know me and have given me the opportunity to know them. There are men from all walks of life here... from writers, artists, lawyers, doctors, mechanics, construction workers, shopkeepers...

The beauty of it is, they are like snowflakes. Each one magnificent and each one different from the rest. And to think, I have met but just a few compared to the amount of members there are here.

As for the blunt, one sentence responses... you have to give the guys credit for being honest. At least they are open and are not hiding a thing. You always have to option to choose not to talk to the one's you aren't interested in.

Give them a chance... talk to as many as you can... weed... and you'll be surprised at the numbers of great friends you will have.

 

[toneus79]

If a guy writes one sentence, or says he would 'love" to tickle me based only on my being female

Oh for gods sake, not another bloody woman on this forum Why can't we have some Extra Terresterals on here for a change. I would love to Tickle a Martian

In fact I would even settle for a Borg drone, like that Seven of Nine from Star Trek Voyager

 

[NeitherSparky]

I had my PMs turned off for a long time because it seemed like every time I posted anything, even if it was entirely non-tk related, I would get at least three PMs from random guys asking how ticklish I was, or telling me they'd love to tickle me, just because I was female. I find that very annoying and invasive. But whatever. I got over it. I know where the "delete message" button is.

 

[ticklishscribe]

I couldn't agree more.

And I hope you liked me Mz Chaos. I feel we have a good deal in comom and would love to chat and get to know you more, if that's ok with you.

Greetings...
I am also a new member to the community. I can sympathize with you.. you posted in the personals... I posted a pic. Both of which seems to have drawn a lot of attention.

At first I was overwhelmed, but as Mimi says, you have to give it time... talk to the guys... you'd be surprised at how many are polite, considerate, intelligent and great fun to talk with. Not all of the men here are crude (although, there are a few) and not all talk about tickling alone.

I submitted my pic, because I like to know who I am talking to. It's good to be able to put a face to the otherside of the conversation. For a few days I kicked myself in the ass... my Yahoo chat list was ready to explode and the one here was getting pretty full too. This is where the weeding comes in.

Now... I am so glad that I had all that attention. I have met so many interesting men on here... some who have never even brought up tickling, imagine that! So many that try as I will, I can't seem to be able to keep up on answering their PM's. About 80% of those... hardly talk about tickling at all, instead, they have opted to get to know me and have given me the opportunity to know them. There are men from all walks of life here... from writers, artists, lawyers, doctors, mechanics, construction workers, shopkeepers...

The beauty of it is, they are like snowflakes. Each one magnificent and each one different from the rest. And to think, I have met but just a few compared to the amount of members there are here.

As for the blunt, one sentence responses... you have to give the guys credit for being honest. At least they are open and are not hiding a thing. You always have to option to choose not to talk to the one's you aren't interested in.

Give them a chance... talk to as many as you can... weed... and you'll be surprised at the numbers of great friends you will have.

 

[TickledToDeath]

Hi,

I know I'm new to all this, but I have read lots of posts from guys who want to tickle girls, and its hard to tell the genuine from the amatuer (sorry). If a guy writes one sentence, or says he would 'love" to tickle me based only on my being female, that seems a bit...I don't know, sad. It seems that about 80 percent are just making it up as they go along. How about some advice from those who really know what they're talking about?

Give it time. Get to know someone or the people here by either their posts, emails, private messaging and reputation. In addition you can ask others about someone who......peaks your attention(I could have said tickled your fancy but damn how typical and cliche that would be).
You can also attend a tickle party or gathering too if you so desire.
Meet a few or a group of folks at one time and go from there.

Don't jump to judgements too quickly.
Sometimes the short and sweet one sentences are because THEY are feeling the other one out since there are alot of pretenders out there unfortunatly.
Pretenders meaning males pretending to be females on line just to get into conversation with.......well anyone.
Seek and thee shall find......eventually.
There are a ton of good people in here whom I am proud to call friends and you will find them for yourself.
We're here for ya!

 

[Sultrybrunette]

Take heart. After awhile they forget about you. New women come in and takes away their attention and leave you alone. Then you know who the guys that are really interested in you for you are.

 

[tickle_feety]

i can see exactly what you are on about ladies, being a guy our numbers in this forum far outweigh yours, you can only expect the odd guy trying to get a quick fix, hell im sure that ive done it once! ive only just starting to post on here after being a member for over a year now, but from my experience so far i have to say that you have all made me feel very welcome...and i hope that i can get to know each and every one of you...

if i was a beautiful lady, and i was receiving my 118th PM from some guy asking me how i want to be tickled, maybe i would feel as strongly on this subject as you...

well thats enough of my ramblings, i will leave you with this...does this not happen in everyday life? has a guy never tried to hit on you in a nightclub, and been just a little too forward? how many of those men wanted to talk to you?

hell, forget what i said, were all bastards 😛

i hope this makes sense, as im sitting in my cold ass room here freezin my nuts off, so im typing as quickly as i can to stop pneumonia setting in...so i cant really be arsed to proof read this...

 

[kered]

Take heart. After awhile they forget about you. New women come in and takes away their attention and leave you alone. Then you know who the guys that are really interested in you for you are.

Sultry has a grasp on it in my opinion. I lurked around when I first joined and wondered about some of my fellow males from reading the posts. The best way for you to find out who's real and who's not is to join in and post. The first person to private message me was Isabeau and that's what kept me here. There are alot of nice folks here who start to worry if they have not heard from friends and you can make friends here. I even feel comfortable enough to put my members picture in this forum. So if you feel like talking Send me a private message and if I don't have the answer you need I can send you to someone who may be able to help you. Can't have too many friends, my girl.

 

[commander]

Maryallison, I don't necessarily think you're too young...you never told me/us your age anyway...It's just been my experience that women are more open to a submissive relationship around age thirty. And since I provided an email address and you didn't use it, I have to assume you're not ready yet. Time will tell.

 

[Ticklerguy4u]

Well I have to say on my behalf that a female has to be able to hold a conversation for me to have an interest. If not, she bores me real quick. I'll chat about anything too, from your corns to your cottonballs.

 

[Sultrybrunette]

Well I have to say on my behalf that a female has to be able to hold a conversation for me to have an interest. If not, she bores me real quick. I'll chat about anything too, from your corns to your cottonballs.

I can attest to that. Although I dont remember cottonballs coming up in our conversations 😀. That holds true with a guy also.

 

[steph]

some really fab advice here...

And I do hope you take it. I mean that in the sweetest way possible.

A lot of us have met with guys from all over the country in real life~some of us better known gals can give you recommendation if someone who interests you makes contact BTW...There's a huge amount of trust involved in this lifestyle. Meeting up with someone from here takes a lot of guts. Most guys understand that if you wanna get to know for months, they're okay with it. Like I said, every guy I've met from here has been AWESOME! So ask them if they have references, do a little homework~you won't be sorry!
XOXO

 

[Ticklerguy4u]

I can attest to that. Although I dont remember cottonballs coming up in our conversations 😀. That holds true with a guy also.

Thanks for the confirmation... it shows that I am not making it up.
Make note, cottonballs...next convo.

 

[Tamia78]

Speaking as a newbie myself, I'm reading through all the posts, and everyone has some great advice. Still trying to feel my way around here on the TMF, but so far have met some really great people and hope to meet more!

--T

 

[The Pianist]

I had my PMs turned off for a long time because it seemed like every time I posted anything, even if it was entirely non-tk related, I would get at least three PMs from random guys asking how ticklish I was, or telling me they'd love to tickle me, just because I was female. I find that very annoying and invasive.

You know... theres one thing for being upfront, confident and to the point.... but its something completely different thinking that doing the same thing that the last 400 guys did is going to yield any different results.

A great example I remember was a couple of months ago in the true story forum there was a series of posts about a guy tickling a girl (that had met on tmf) that quickly turned sour. The girl made it pretty clear that she was finished with the situation and didn't want anything more to do with him etc etc etc... so of course some other guy immediately challenges her to try and take on two guys (himself included of course) tickling her at once. 😕 Idealy... I'd use an emoticon of someone bashing their head against a brick wall... but I don't have one handy...

Anyway... the only people I've actually talked to outside the TMF were two girls that pm-ed me first cause they thought I sounded interesting (back in the day when I was a little more active... and trying to correct His Shadow Divine all the time). Unfortunately they both went to uni and I've gotten busy and contact was lost a good year or so ago now.

 

[commander]

And I do hope you take it. I mean that in the sweetest way possible.

A lot of us have met with guys from all over the country in real life~some of us better known gals can give you recommendation if someone who interests you makes contact BTW...There's a huge amount of trust involved in this lifestyle. Meeting up with someone from here takes a lot of guts. Most guys understand that if you wanna get to know for months, they're okay with it. Like I said, every guy I've met from here has been AWESOME! So ask them if they have references, do a little homework~you won't be sorry!
XOXO

The idea of getting references is very interesting...I'm new here as well, having heard about it from a friend, so of course it will take time before I will meet any woman here (if ever, let's be honest). If this NEST happens once a year, that's good, but perhaps not enough. Everyone seems spread across the country, but I am sure the regulars can devise a "system" of references...just a nod in Steph's direction on this.

 

[Knox The Hatter]

I myself have evolved my own weeding out process. It's come along quite nicely in my three years (!) on this board, and while it hasn't been perfect, it's well honed now. If you stay on board here, your own process will become well honed, too...you'll overlook the usual crowd of boors and mutants who say hello to you, and you'll pick out the guys who are really worth getting to know better.

These guys really are here. And, who knows, one of them might be in your area! People have met here and are starting lives together here. Perhaps you can insert yourself into this picture.

Good luck to you, and I hope you do get to stick around.