Advice Please

[Tim Mit]

Ok for starters forgive me if i have posted in the wrong place ! lol.

Right ok i have been with my partner annabelle for 12 months now and i she loves to be tied up but yet she likes the the idea of me tickling her feet but she say's she is nervous , she knows i wont hurt her when doing it , i watch new clips often from a couple of websites i have accounts with , yet Annabelle seems to get a little bit upset i don't know , but i have said i will tickle her if she want's but she just gets frightened again. any thoughts , i think the girls might understand better on this issue but anyone's welcome to give idea's.

the biggest problem of all is i don't want to upset her.

 

[maniactickler]

Ok for starters forgive me if i have posted in the wrong place ! lol.

Right ok i have been with my partner annabelle for 12 months now and i she loves to be tied up but yet she likes the the idea of me tickling her feet but she say's she is nervous , she knows i wont hurt her when doing it , i watch new clips often from a couple of websites i have accounts with , yet Annabelle seems to get a little bit upset i don't know , but i have said i will tickle her if she want's but she just gets frightened again. any thoughts , i think the girls might understand better on this issue but anyone's welcome to give idea's.

the biggest problem of all is i don't want to upset her.

Once shes tied up, there isnt a damn thing she could do. id go nuts on her feet!

 

[cloudgazer2k]

Once shes tied up, there isnt a damn thing she could do. id go nuts on her feet!

barring that idea, try this...

it's all about trust. all about knowing one another. do some light bondage and tickling first. if she digs it, add to them. if not, at least you tried.

 

[RobAce]

I had this problem once a long time ago...before I was married, so it would be like 10 years or so ago.
What I did is when I tied her ankles up I made the knot have a short string and a LONG end. The Long end when pulled with some pressure untied the knot around her ankles, thus enabling herself to release the bondage on her feet. Her hands were cuffed around her waist so she was able to pull it easily.
After a few "tests" with no tickling she saw that she in almost any position was able to release her sensitive soles if the onslaught was too much.

Then............well, of course we enjoyed many wonderful evenings together and eventually she allowed full bondage without an out.

Hope that might help..........

Rob

 

[kis123]

Once shes tied up, there isnt a damn thing she could do. id go nuts on her feet!

You're obviously not a fan of long-term relationships, are you?

I understand exactly how she feels; she probably has bondage issues like I do. Everyone (well, almost everyone) gave you sound advice. I like Rob's idea of giving an "out" at first then eventually upping the anty with each session. She may learn to love it.

Hope everything works out for you both.

 

[steph]

I don't have issues with bondage but I loved Rob's idea too~baby steps~pure brilliance!
XOXO

I like Rob's idea of giving an "out" at first then eventually upping the anty with each session. She may learn to love it.

Hope everything works out for you both.

 

[Strider]

Float the idea of tickling her without bondage before moving up to using restraints.

 

[RobAce]

Now if I could somehow find a way to tie myself to kis and steph.......

Ahhhh, at least I have something to dream about now!
If you try it out, let us know how it goes. I dont need details, but Id like to know if it worked or not.

Rob

 

[aurora5150]

i like rob's idea too but i'd go even slower. maybe let her try on one restraint but don't attach it to anything just so she can get a feel for what it feels like.

have you asked her how she would be willing to be introduced to all this. hope things work out. good luck.

 

[kis123]

Now if I could somehow find a way to tie myself to kis and steph.......

Ahhhh, at least I have something to dream about now!
If you try it out, let us know how it goes. I dont need details, but Id like to know if it worked or not.

Rob

I have family in the Atlanta suburbs baby, just to let you know! I just missed a family event recently; if I remembered you were there....let's just say I may have made a greater effort to come down there......

Now back to topic!

I like anything that will at least make me feel I have some control. I'm not talking about topping from the bottom control, but I simply can't be completely void of any control. Maybe that's what's the problem is here; just too much control on one end and not enough on the other.

 

[RobAce]

I have family in the Atlanta suburbs baby, just to let you know! I just missed a family event recently; if I remembered you were there....let's just say I may have made a greater effort to come down there....

You let me know when and where.....Ill make your trip worthwhile

On Topic: I also agree with the ideas of buying some restraints and letting her hold on to them to get the "feel".
Another idea...if she or you would be up to it:

Another woman I dated was very hesitant, but I allowed her to put me in some light bondage and once she saw how things went, she was happy to allow me some "fun time" as well.

Rob

 

[Tim Mit]

Thanks

Thanks for all the Advice follow everyone's advice and will see how Annabelle feels without being tied up etc and see if we can get through the problem.

in reply to one of the posts , good news i don't it's an issue of trust as i helper over her fear of flying slowly and now me and her go flying quite often ( I have a Private pilots licence )

 

[tricham]

Ok for starters forgive me if i have posted in the wrong place ! lol.

Right ok i have been with my partner annabelle for 12 months now and i she loves to be tied up but yet she likes the the idea of me tickling her feet but she say's she is nervous , she knows i wont hurt her when doing it , i watch new clips often from a couple of websites i have accounts with , yet Annabelle seems to get a little bit upset i don't know , but i have said i will tickle her if she want's but she just gets frightened again. any thoughts , i think the girls might understand better on this issue but anyone's welcome to give idea's.

the biggest problem of all is i don't want to upset her.

Another thing you might want to try is some toe sucking, & give both of you a little taste of what she may be in store for

 

[kis123]

You let me know when and where.....Ill make your trip worthwhile

On Topic: I also agree with the ideas of buying some restraints and letting her hold on to them to get the "feel".
Another idea...if she or you would be up to it:

Another woman I dated was very hesitant, but I allowed her to put me in some light bondage and once she saw how things went, she was happy to allow me some "fun time" as well.

Rob

Oh, so you switch??

I'll keep that in mind my dear

Back to topic;

If you've been able to help her overcome other fears, this one would be relatively easy as long as you remain compassionate and patient. Once she gets a really good foot tickling session, she'll run you over to get more, take it from me.......

 

[ctd]

Don't get too verbal

Just Do It!