An older woman

[kis123]

Well, I dig knogs, kis and tkperv. I'd love it if we stop fighting honeys. Sometimes, in the end, the heart wants what it wants, yes?
XOXO

I'm not fighting at all-I'm trying to insert common sense into nonsense!

If someone doesn't have actual experience to provide to a situation, then it's only opinion. Nothing wrong with having an opinion at all. When someone has experience, the opinion gets a little more weight and possibly something additional for the reader to consider.

I don't have to fight-it's NOT my problem anyway. I have enough of my own problems. Knogz asked a question, I and tkperv gave very different answers. If we can't do that in a civilized fashion, why have this board in the first place?

 

[kcantankerous]

I learn best by listening to others.

I asked for everyones opinion about this subject TKpervert, because I wanted a broader range of opinions. I like to think I make decent moves because I don't have to always learn first hand. I want to thank everyone for taking the time to share your knowledge.

 

[the_Baron]

...so she ovulated before U were even a fetus. just doesnt seem right.....

 

[kcantankerous]

It's kinda funny that some of you guys that seem to be against me dating a woman 23 years older, are the same ones reading, fanticising, or watching videos of young girls getting tickled or having sex. Would it be right if she was a highschool student or something. All those olsen twin freaks, and shit are actually trying to reason why I'd be attracted to a beutifal older woman? Yes it is interesting that she was alive 20 years longer than myself but; compared to most of the guys who post on here, at least I'm legally an adult. Whats some of you guys excuses for slobering over highschool freshman.

 

[kis123]

...so she ovulated before U were even a fetus. just doesnt seem right.....

She ovulated around age 12-14, so what's the point here?

So if knogz was a twenty something female and was attracted to a 45 year old man, that would be okay huh? That's been going on since the beginning of time and society still accepts the May-December relationship. But if a man's attracted to an older woman, it doesn't seem right?

That's what doesn't seem "right" to me at all.

 

[kis123]

It's kinda funny that some of you guys that seem to be against me dating a woman 23 years older, are the same ones reading, fanticising, or watching videos of young girls getting tickled or having sex. Would it be right if she was a highschool student or something. All those olsen twin freaks, and shit are actually trying to reason why I'd be attracted to a beutifal older woman? Yes it is interesting that she was alive 20 years longer than myself but; compared to most of the guys who post on here, at least I'm legally an adult. Whats some of you guys excuses for slobering over highschool freshman.

Ouch!

 

[blondie46]

wanted to add something here (u'all will probably say, "well, duuuh"). Most of us older women look better than ever due to diet, exercise, education, great beauty products and cleanass livin! Put that with accumulated wisdom & experience...ahem, whatcanisay... I think the cliche is that 40 is the new 20...so what does that make the 20? Naa, I'm not being arrogant, just accurate, and supportive of knogz.

 

[steph]

Amen blondie (and you're so cute for that!)
XOXO

wanted to add something here (u'all will probably say, "well, duuuh"). Most of us older women look better than ever due to diet, exercise, education, great beauty products and cleanass livin! Put that with accumulated wisdom & experience...ahem, whatcanisay... I think the cliche is that 40 is the new 20...so what does that make the 20? Naa, I'm not being arrogant, just accurate, and supportive of knogz.

 

[mark 19]

As most probably know I'm a very very selective person when it comes to dating, let alone starting a relationship. Anyways, I have found the woman of my dreams. With many of the qualities I want in a lady. Problem is she's 23 years older than me. That's right course I really don't care about that too much at this point but, I am kinda worried about how I might feel after I've finished my masters degree, then she'd be in her lat 40's early 50's. I am slowly warming up to the idea of having children, and the all important growing older with your spouse thing. But I'm worried because she is the only person I met that has all the qualities Im looking for, the age being the only draw back. Not to mention she's a beutifal mature woman, and exotic, not like the average looking 40 year olds out there. She's strong willed, and raised some good kids. Positive and hard working, and has a pretty voice. I'm tired of the garbage I have to sift through in the 20 year old bracket, which I fall in. I'd give anything to be older, so I can grow old with her. But I don't know if I can make the commitment knowing that she and I are 2 decades apart. I want to commit to her, but during the prime of my life she'd be nearing 60 and I dont care what anyone says, thats when most start falling apart, so to speak. Hmm anyone else had this type of issue?

There’s noting wrong with older women, although having said which by older I mean like 23 not 19 still if it helps my parents have a 10 year age gap give of take and unlike a lot of my friends parents they are still happily married and going strong so if that helps…. 😱

 

[Wildtime]

If Demi and Ashton could, why can't you...

It's not weird, it's trendy. Besides, you're going for your Master's, which indicates to me that you're emotionally mature--and that you need someone who is nearing your level of maturity 🙄. Now, although all the 18-29 year old women here on the TMF are exceptionally mature, a lot of girls in their twenties act like bubbleheads , so it's doubtful that you'll find someone that won't irritate the crap out of you. However, you've found someone who could potentially be your soulmate--that rarely happens to people so don't let go.

As for the age thing, two words: Lynda Carter

 

[mark 19]

Nothing wrong with bubbleheads just coz they aren’t soulmate material doesn’t mean that some of them aren’t fun to be with 🙄

 

[Wildtime]

Bubbleheads just wanna have fun...

Nothing wrong with bubbleheads just coz they aren’t soulmate material doesn’t mean that some of them aren’t fun to be with 🙄

I don't have anything against bubbleheads , some of my best friends are bubbleheads

 

[crydun]

Hey Kis.......

What are you afraid of??? The possibility that this relationship might work?? Why so negative and so insistant in pushing your opinions?

So she's good enough to screw and shack-up with, but not to marry? That goes way beyond shallow!

If knogz is willing to take the chance of loving an older woman, it should be respected whether you like his choice or not!

How do you know he hasn't come to a decision by himself? He's only listened all opinions-the final thoughts about this will come from him on his own!

You're being way too judgemental! If you don't like his decision, don't make it for yourself-but leave him alone to make his own way!

are you sure we weren't sisters in a former lifetime. I agree with you, word for word. Especially the first line.

 

[TKpervert]

I'm not afraid of anything, I think it would great if this relationship resulted in eternal bliss.

But it won't.

knogz is infatuated (at the age of 20) with an older woman and will make a regretable mistake if he lets it continue. It won't work, in spite of all the romantic feel-good crap I see here.
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[kis123]

I'm not afraid of anything, I think it would great if this relationship resulted in eternal bliss.

But it won't.

knogz is infatuated (at the age of 20) with an older woman and will make a regretable mistake if he lets it continue. It won't work, in spite of all the romantic feel-good crap I see here.
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Yeah, you are afraid of something.......that it actually may work!

It doesn't matter if it goes completely to blazes!! It only matters if he deals with his feelings for this woman and pursues them. It only matters if he takes it as far as it can go. I'm not necessarily saying they'll get married and live happily ever after. That's between him and her. Maybe it'll go the distance. Maybe he'll fail miserably and come back to this board and tell you just how right you were. Who the hell cares what the outcome is as long as he makes some kind of move and not be frozen in fear of the "what ifs"?

If it were me (and it isn't), it's better than to miserably fail at doing something than to successfully do nothing. From where I sit, he has everything to gain and little to lose by being with this woman. It could be for a season, or it could be for a lifetime. No one knows where it could go but the two of them. This ain't no romance novel-it's not going to be easy. Actually they could end up catching hell over it. They (not you or even me) get to decide how important that is to them.

It is too bad that you have become so jaded and so cynical that you can't seem to see the forest for the trees. I've lived on this earth for awhile and have caught a lot of hell. But I still have hope for the human condition-I still believe that there are people on this earth that will make it in relationships and even marriage. I'm probably not one of them, but I won't get involved in other people's business. I've done that before and lost a very good friend from it. I now stay out of the way of love (infatuation or whatever someone else wants to call it). A person won't know what works for them until they try, and he should try or he may spend his life in "what if", "if only", and "coulda, woulda, shoulda" land. Personally, that's a crappy place to be.

 

[TKpervert]

Yeah, you are afraid of something.......that it actually may work!
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Kis, re-read my post.

Then try to respond without the psych-101 pap.
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[TKpervert]

Sorry Kis, that was a little abrupt, I apologize.

I've said my piece and have no more interest in this thread.

 

[kis123]

Kis, re-read my post.

Then try to respond without the psych-101 pap.
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I re-read your post and still come to the same conclusion.

I also appreciate and accept your apology even though you didn't say anything wrong. You are entitled to your opinion. You could be absolutely right about all of this. I am just saying that knogz will have to find that out for himself. Neither you or I can do that for him.

Now everyone make nice and do something that will make you smile today! 😀

 

[kcantankerous]

I may be 20 but I do know the defense between infatuation and actual love.

 

[kis123]

I may be 20 but I do know the defense between infatuation and actual love.

When the smoke clears and dust settles, and all is said and done at the end of the day, it falls on you my dear. Make the decision that best serves you and deal with the issues that follow that decision. I don't know you well, but I know you spend a lot of time in thought before you actually come to a conclusion then you make your move. This situation is no different-take your time and do what is in your heart. The worst that will happen is that it didn't work out. But, what if it does? 😉

 

[SlaverTickler]

:As for the age thing, two words: Lynda Carter

That name, I've heard it before, but where?

 

[Bugman]

A guy i used to work with is 48,his wife 64.They have been togeather over twenty years.I had a cousin who was married to a guy almost 30 years her senoir,and they had a great marrige right up to the day he died.In your case,if having your own children is important to you i would say you might need to look for someone else.Otherwise i would say go for it.Best wishes to you both.

 

[Chuck D]

As most probably know I'm a very very selective person when it comes to dating, let alone starting a relationship. Anyways, I have found the woman of my dreams. With many of the qualities I want in a lady. Problem is she's 23 years older than me. That's right course I really don't care about that too much at this point but, I am kinda worried about how I might feel after I've finished my masters degree, then she'd be in her lat 40's early 50's. I am slowly warming up to the idea of having children, and the all important growing older with your spouse thing. But I'm worried because she is the only person I met that has all the qualities Im looking for, the age being the only draw back. Not to mention she's a beutifal mature woman, and exotic, not like the average looking 40 year olds out there. She's strong willed, and raised some good kids. Positive and hard working, and has a pretty voice. I'm tired of the garbage I have to sift through in the 20 year old bracket, which I fall in. I'd give anything to be older, so I can grow old with her. But I don't know if I can make the commitment knowing that she and I are 2 decades apart. I want to commit to her, but during the prime of my life she'd be nearing 60 and I dont care what anyone says, thats when most start falling apart, so to speak. Hmm anyone else had this type of issue?

You know what you want, you know what you need to do.. hopefully everyone said what you needed to hear to motivate you that direction..

 

[Bugman]

Beauty,whatever that may be fades over time.If you really love someone,it matters not.You might get *ugly* before whoever you wind up with.I have had some lady friends that would not be thought of as beautiful in the physical sense,but they had a certain something that drew men to them.If you are looking for perfection in all the ways you think of it,i wish you the best,but i would not bet on your chances of finding it.