Any opinions on whether a person is born with a tickle fetish or..

[Tickleslave83]

I've just always liked it from a young age so I feel I was born with it. It's only later did I start to find it sexually exciting as until my 20s I was fairly asexual.

 

[ndj101982]

Many childhood trauma's are repressed, and will not be remembered except through regression hypnotherapy. We may not remember our childhood trauma's, but that doesn't mean their wasn't any.

A fetish has nothing to do with a trauma. A fetish can be involved with events that happened in your childhood, but they are not traumatic. A trauma typically causes inexplicable phobias later in life. Like if you fell from something at a young age you could wind up having a fear of heights. If you were in a tight space as a kid and freaked out, you could become claustrophobic (this one happened to me).

A fetish is derived from something that triggers pleasurable feelings.

 

[flfootmod]

No doubt in my mind I was born with this passion to tickle and be tickled and attraction to pretty feet.... It came genetically!!

 

[love feet]

This. I agree with this statement. When we're born, our minds are sort of a "clean slate" and then the absorbing of information and hardwiring begins. Our minds are sponges.

I know someone who never came into their tickling fetish until they were in their late 20s. Not everyone knows at such a young age.



This is not true. Not all of us had some childhood trauma that could trigger something like this.

I did not say i agreed with that its what some say!!
not me!

 

[love feet]

Well, I had a pretty trauma-free childhood. Unless you are talking about the trauma of being born! 🙂

never sed i agreed with the theory!! its out thare

 

[miskiduk]

Hardwired.

This is what I suspect to be the case, although not quite as clear-cut as there being something like a 'tickle fetish gene' of course.
I've always thought that fetishes in general are the result of a "hardwired" mindstate that gives a (possibly even fairly loose) propensity to receive sexual feedback from certain factors. The development, and refinement, of the particular fetish can come later in life as a result of learning and experience, but will fall within the parameters of that which has been "hardwired".
I think tickling is very closely related to the BDSM scene, which is relatively more common. Power-play is an extremely common theme for sex - most people at least enjoy the thought of it, if not to practice it. Tickling does seem to fall into this category.
I suspect it is the result of a stronger hardwiring than average for a propensity to power-play, and a stronger desire for mutual enjoyment (laughter and happiness) than the typical BDSM pain-giving (although a feasible alternative and complement for those into that too). A very early learned response to a "hardwired" desire.
Personally, I love both dominating and being dominated in sexual situations - but do not enjoy pain in the least, neither giving nor receiving. Tickling is a non-painful way to dominate and cause a similar panic/aversion response - and the only other similarly effective physical way that I can think of.
Not to forget that simply having your hands running over each others' bodies (and inducing movement and reaction) is obviously sexy regardless of preferences!
Hope that makes sense, I'm shit at explaining what I mean 🙂

 

[juiceboxs]

cildhood

Well, I had a pretty trauma-free childhood. Unless you are talking about the trauma of being born! 🙂

I might be this way cus i had a child-free trauma hood.

 

[Strider]

As far as I'm concerned, I was born kinky. My interest evolved largely in tandem with my sexual and emotional vocabulary, but it was always there. The individual I think of as being my Mentor told me that you don't choose the lifestyle, it chooses you. I've still never seen anything to make me think otherwise.

 

[Skipadeedoodah]

I find it interesting that so many people in here are saying, "this IS the answer. People ARE born with it/It is DEFINITELY developed," when in reality not one of us has a clue. Of course we all have our opinions and none of them are invalid, but people presenting opinion as fact is ridiculous. Scientists have spent hundreds of years on the nature vs nurture debate and haven't come to a solid conclusion. To suggest that you have it all figured out, and know for a scientific FACT that it is one way or the other just makes you sound arrogant and uneducated, in my opinion.

I also enjoyed the argument presented somewhere in the beginning that suggests that you are not born with a tickling fetish, but you are born gay or straight...which is to say that you choose or develop your kinks, but you cannot choose your sexual orientation...which is to say you can choose what turns you on, but you cannot choose what turns you on. Hmm...

As for my own interest in tickling, I'm guilty of what LD mentions. I don't remember developing it, and it's been a part of me for as far back as I can remember, so I tend to assume it's just always been a part of me. However, I also do quite a bit of thinking about my very early childhood experiences to try and figure out where it came from if it was developed somewhere early on.

 

[OKC_TklCpl]

Ive discussed this topic in detail with my wife. The question of why I like to tickle and what aspects of it are important while doing it. At one point she stopped me and asked if I was absolutely sure I wasnt molested as a child. I know that my uncle molested my sister when she was very young and that fact will be forever hidden from her, But I wonder if there are aspects of my own childhood that will never be spoken of to or around me. There are many aspects of childhood that I feel I should be able to remember but cannot, entire years that may be repressed. I revealed to my close cousin at one point while drinking, my love of tickling and she told me that she had it too. She said she loved it and then talked about "all those times out at granny's land behind the greenhouse".. honestly I have no memory of this. Why cant I remember it if it is the starting point for her love of it and I was the apparant cause?

 

[TicklishTony]

In my experience, we are born with a lot of things hard-wired. Is this one of them? Who knows? But it's something I've loved as long as I can remember. It wasn't till I was 14, however, when I was lying on a bed in a hotel room, that I found myself imagining being tied to the bed, spread-eagle, at a tickler's mercy. I can still picture the moment.

 

[GEORGIATKLER]

Yes. I was in the first batch recalled, thank you very much!

After years of therapy I finally realized I had been a Sonicare toothbrush in another life........ I think we grow toward tickling based on experiences early in life. Which of course then begs the questions: Which experience(s) and can you even remember them and how/why did they lead you down the tickled pink road? Many vanilla people in their early years were tickled or saw others tickled, but they did not develop a tickle fetish. (Moment of silence for the less fortunate). Are there any people on TMF that are one of a set of identical twins? How do you and your sibling compare as to the love/fetish of tickling? Even then we will not have a definitive nature vs. nurture( no, not the landmark Supreme Court case)answer unless they were separated at birth and raised much differently. I remember being tickled as a child in a pleasant way. I also have a foot fetish and can remember an interest in female feet from an early age. It's not like a cute older cousin did "toe" out the candles on my birthday cake at age three and here I am. It is always interesting to hear everyone's remembered experiences.

 

[Sunriseticklee]

Early.... EARLY childhood for me. I just had so much fun with it when I was younger. And it was sort of fun, affectionate, cute, flirty... finally when I became an adult- sexy

My love for tickling has evolved just like I have. If you ask me, I'd say it was from birth, but I can't prove it. I'll say it was from like.... 3 or 4 years old for me.

 

[EmbraceSerenity]

Interesting thread. I do wonder if you were never tickled as a child, would you develop the interest later on, to "see what the fuss is about"? If you aren't ticklish, would you still like to watch people being tickled or engage in tickling? Although being tickled by someone who is not ticklish sure takes a lot out of the fun. 😉

As a child we had regular tickle fights at parties to which I would make excuses so people wouldn't tickle me, and them doing so anyway and my brother was merciless in pinning me down and torturing my underarms. Interestingly, even now, he tickled his girlfriend so maybe he has the fetish too?

 

[PhoenixRising]

Whether I was born with it or it developed later, I've had it for as long as I can remember. All I can say is I'm glad it's a tickle fetish, and wish more people had it. The laughter that comes from tickling just might be the one thing that can heal this planet. Then of course there's comedy.

 

[TB1024]

I was born with it. There were no external sources that influenced me in any way. I can just remember always liking it, for whatever reason. Ah, my earliest memories were tickling the babysitter, that girl had very ticklish sides. ^_^

 

[DontAskJusTckle]

I seriously doubt that anybody is born with a fetish or even a gender preference. These are all developed in the first few years at the earliest. There's not a one of us who can remember that far back.

 

[milagros317]

I was either born with it or it developed very early because I had fully developed interests in both tickling and female bare feet by the age of four. 😀

 

[MaleTickleeDC]

I seriously doubt that anybody is born with a fetish or even a gender preference. These are all developed in the first few years at the earliest. There's not a one of us who can remember that far back.

I disagree. I think people are born with their sexual orientations, fetishes, etc. I think to the extent that people develop these things later in life it comes from the natural changes within their genetic composition.

I feel like a lot of people prefer to believe that humans are a blank slate who can be molded in any which way. I think that this is a popular belief because it allows people to feel that they have some amount of control over how humans turn out, and leads them to believe that if we just work hard enough we can perfect the human race. Personally I think that's a bunch of crap. I think that people are born with their differences, oddities, and quirks and there's not much that can be done to change that (other than genetic engineering, of course).

 

[TB1024]

There's not a one of us who can remember that far back.

Maybe if someone abused a lot of alcohol or drugs, that'd be true.

 

[SmashTV]

I've always had a fascination with female stocking feet, and think that my tickle fetish is a natural extension of this. However, other than seeing shoeless women in public and on TV, I don't know of an incident that triggered my foot fetish, I just knew I enjoyed seeing women's stocking feet.

Maybe I WAS born with these terrible afflictions, then... ; )

Cheers, everybody,
SmashTV

 

[Sharkiegirl]

I remember feeling "weird" about tickling as early as preschool, so as far as I know I was born with it!

 

[DontAskJusTckle]

I disagree. I think people are born with their sexual orientations, fetishes, etc. I think to the extent that people develop these things later in life it comes from the natural changes within their genetic composition.

I don't buy that for a minute.

I feel like a lot of people prefer to believe that humans are a blank slate who can be molded in any which way. I think that this is a popular belief because it allows people to feel that they have some amount of control over how humans turn out, and leads them to believe that if we just work hard enough we can perfect the human race. Personally I think that's a bunch of crap. I think that people are born with their differences, oddities, and quirks and there's not much that can be done to change that (other than genetic engineering, of course).

Some people believe that fetish and gender preference are something we're born with. I'm convinced one reason they do so is that it absolves them of the responsibility for the choices they've made in life. Another is so that they can piss and moan about being "victimized" for something they were "born with," effecting jumping on the civil rights bandwagon, which is already carrying an oversize load as it is.

Maybe if someone abused a lot of alcohol or drugs, that'd be true.

Really? So...tell me. What do you remember between the ages of 1 and 2?

 

[TickVix]

I think it manifests from some personal experience For instance I used to get tickeld a lot before the age of 5 by my parents and I'm linking that to why I am now a lee. Not sure if it's something inherited from birth, but you never know right?

 

[rhiannon]

I'm convinced one reason they do so is that it absolves them of the responsibility for the choices they've made in life.

Are you saying you believe that you choose your sexual preference?

For instance I used to get tickeld a lot before the age of 5 by my parents and I'm linking that to why I am now a lee.

I was always furious when my parents tickled me, because I was turned on as long as I can remember by tickling. More watching it then getting tickled though. I know when people tickled me it made me feel terribly uncomfortable, probably for the very reason that I always had this fetish. It just felt wrong.