are girls mostly attracted to guys with a muscular body

[Deleted member 94322]

I don't. I prefer scrawny/lanky guys. 😀

 

[FlockOfSeagulls]

I disagree. I will gladly concede that people who fit predetermined social models have an easier time of it; as a scrawny, goofy looking nerd I can certainly attest to that! But confidence comes from within; it has no need for external comparisons. And when you make that realization, and you follow your passions, then there's nothing that can hold you back. And I speak from experience in that regard, as well.

The confidence of others has no bearing on your own! You can be confident even if other people are confident too. The trick really is to simply find what you love and do it. Your passion will generate ability (people get good at things they do often, and the things they do most often tend to be the things they like the most) and your capabilities will generate confidence. Do what you love! The rest will follow.

I agree with the majority of what you said. Where I disagree is just because you are a phenomenal biologist[ just an example ] and have complete confidence in your abilities in that field doesnt necessarily translate into other aspects of life. Some of the world best scientists and composers and writers had real difficulty dealing with the everyday world . Alot of that had to do with their lack of confidence in their social skills

 

[Ticklish9's]

I agree with the majority of what you said. Where I disagree is just because you are a phenomenal biologist[ just an example ] and have complete confidence in your abilities in that field doesnt necessarily translate into other aspects of life. Some of the world best scientists and composers and writers had real difficulty dealing with the everyday world . Alot of that had to do with their lack of confidence in their social skills

Well I can't argue with that, I'm sure it's true. The question then, I suppose, is why that should be the case. Certainly if one is very competent then one should feel confident, and in fact, I bet our phenomenal biologist would feel supremely confident in the lab. For some reason though he or she allows a disconnect to form between the lab and the rest of life.

I wonder what causes that? Surely if one is confident in one's abilities then there is no reason to feel threatened by the abilities of others, and that is essentially what confidence is.

 

[asutickler]

Well I can't argue with that, I'm sure it's true. The question then, I suppose, is why that should be the case. Certainly if one is very competent then one should feel confident, and in fact, I bet our phenomenal biologist would feel supremely confident in the lab. For some reason though he or she allows a disconnect to form between the lab and the rest of life.

I wonder what causes that? Surely if one is confident in one's abilities then there is no reason to feel threatened by the abilities of others, and that is essentially what confidence is.

I think it requires more of a combination of confidence and social skills than just confidence alone. Napoleon Dynamite had plenty of confidence in his ability to draw Lygers and his skills with a bo staff... But he still never got any. 😉

 

[TickVix]

It's all about preference. Some women like husky men, some like muscular men and some like thinner guys. I've dated all three types and honestly the body aspect wasn't what I was attracted to mainly, it was definitely the personality and how well we meshed. There's someone for everyone out there 🙂.