Are we wierd?

[BigNorm]

has anyone taken a step back and tried looking at tickling from a nuetral stand point? does others think it's wierd? please, discuss.

 

[MistressValerie1]

Since tickling is a common act of flirtation even among vanillas, I think that we are only "different" in the sense that we place a higher degree of importance on it than is accepted in the mainstream world. Of course, bondage and toys are less accepted than plain tickling and thus might be seen as strange by outsiders.

 

[BigNorm]

hhhmmm.. true.... what are vanilllas? don't suppose it's someone you lick and they taste like vanilla

*has a flash of genious*

vanilla flavored soles... hmmmm.. *drools*

 

[TheChameleon]

vanillas are people who don't have the fetish stated in the conversation.

 

[CoopXLR]

does others think it's wierd? please, discuss.

Are you for real?? Of course we're weird. That's why until the internet came along we basicly had no one to confide in. Can you imagine being in Jr. High and telling your friends "Well, I think tickling is really sexy and..." However, that would cause plenty of laughing but, not the kind you were hoping for.

 

[somebody231]

Ofcourse we're weird, but damn proud of it too! :happy:

 

[-Kunoke-]

I prefer the term unique beca--ah fuck. Screw it, I admit it. WE'RE WEIRD PEOPLE 😀

 

[scavenger]

Before I started using the internet and found this place, I used to think I was some kind of weirdo. But then I discovered there were lots of people just like me (just look at how many members there are here. And there are surely more like us who who do not have access to internet/discovered this place.
What I want to say, is that we probably number in the hundreds of thousands, if not MILLIONS. Though other people might consider us as being weird, there are just too many of us to just be dismissed as isolated cases of "weirdness" 🙂

I myself am proud to be different.

 

[Hahathna]

Well... I've talked with other members of our crowd, and the story is pretty much the same across the board - before discovering the on-line tickling community, everyone felt as if they were a complete weirdo, alone in the world because they knew of no one else who was into it. It almost seems like a stage each of us goes through.

While I don't agree with the term "weirdo," I do realize that everything is relative, and tickle-philes as a whole are a different breed than most other fetishists. "Vanillas" (per the term used earlier in the thread) see us as complete weidos and freaks, while many "hardcore" fetishists look down on ticklers as being too tame. Guess it all comes with the territory when you have a fetish that skirts the boundaries between the worlds of the "normal" and the "abnormal."

"Normal" society deems the tickle-phile as "weird" because we get pleasure out of something that we're not supposed to like anymore. Tickling is an activity for childhood... as we grow older, we're not supposed to do it as much (if at all), and we're defintiely not supposed to derive pleasure from it. To me, this reeks of those Puritan values the have kept this country sexually repressed its entire history (i.e. we're not supposed to enjoy sex because if we get pleasure from it, it must be bad). Based on this thinking, tickle-philes are weirdos because we enjoy something that we were supposed to stop enjoying when we were kids. To me, I think it's all a load of horse hockey.

I have several friends who aren't into tickling who know I'm in to it... and truthfully, they could care less. Several years back, I finally worked up the courage to confide in my older sister my "deep dark secret." When I told her I was into tickling, her response was "Ok... and?" When I explained that was it, she said there were a lot worse things I could be into and pretty much left it at that. Now maybe I've been blessed with family and friends who are extremely understanding... or maybe those things that I thought made me such a weirdo were all in my mind, put there by a society that wants to label anything outside it's narrow definition of the norm as "weird." Either way, these are topics of discussion for people with much bigger brains than mine to ponder. Me... I just want to find a cute girl to play with!

So... are we "Weirdos?" To be honest, I haven't a clue. Yes, we're different, but being different helps make the world an interesting place. What I do know is that if we allow others to define us, then we lose the power to define ourselves. We only become "weirdos" if that's what we believe ourselves to be.

Sorry for the rambling... we now return you to your regularly scheduled program already in progress.

(Steps From Soap Box and Quietly Blends into Crowd)


Hahathna 😱

 

[steph]

100% weird, and loving it...
XOXO

 

[gilmourwaters]

we're not weird...just think of all the other fetishes out there.They all have there own groups,there own population just as big or bigger than ours.Most people have something "a little left of center" that they're into for whatever reason.Some chose to keep it to themselves for there own reasons , some (like me) choose to be open about it and damn the man!..but we are NOT "weird"

 

[banana]

I think that tickling is generally accepted by the public.
Bondage are extremely common in porn, but not many women like it. So many people chose to hide it. But many women can accept tickling, they just dislike bondage. However, they may like it once they try it, try to be tied down and tickled lightly. Some of them may even want more, and in my opinion, not many of them will get angry and ask to be untied immediately unless the tickler is bad.

Sometimes, I really hate the fact that people think something is wierd before trying. Yes, I admit that I think something are wired before trying it. But tickling is so harmless that people shouldn't think it in the same way without trying or finding out more about it. And in the end, things that are enjoyed by people are always good.

 

[CoopXLR]

Nice speech, Hahathna. I don't think that "weird" necessarily mean "bad" or "sick" but, I've always considered my self weird and tickling is just one part of it. Before I discovered the internet, I was strictly in to softcore tickling but, something about all of this exposure to all the other variations of it did something to me or maybe just helped to uncover something that was already there. Back when I was softcore, people would probably have been more likely to except it but, now that I've become sexually obsessed or more sexually obsessed with it would-be knowers would likely lable me a sadistic monster and though I am sadistic to a degree, I would never ever use tickling to harm someone unless they severely wronged me or someone I care for. So, when it comes to people like me and what tickling is to me then, I supose we hardcore types are weird but, I don't loose any sleep over it and certainly don't mind playing the bottom either. I figure the fact that I'm also a masochist pretty much balances it out anyway.

 

[wendyandpeter]

Semantics 101

Well, here's the thing. OF COURSE it matters what you mean by 'weird,' right? If 'weird' means different, then of course. We're different. If what you mean by 'weird' is something else, like "damaged" or "sick" or "fucked in the head," then the answer all depends on which one of us you're talking about ;-)

All of us are different. We're different from the vanilla types, and we're different from other fetishists. And we're all different from each other.

A popular book on the subject calls BDSM "gourmet sex." I happen to like that term for what any fetishist does. There are those who deny that what we do has anything to do with sex (I happen to think THAT's weird (dilusional, actually), but it's a fairly common assertion.

In the end, it hardly ever gets you very far to talk about large groups of people. Saying that "fetishists are ...." is like saying "white people are ..." or "asian people are ..." About the most you can truthfully assert about a large group is something that makes them part of the group. But because anything you can say like that is usually obvious or trivial ("White people are white." "Fetishists have fetishes." etc...), those things usually are not worth mentioning. Here's the hard part: Some fetishists are just normal folks who like spice in their sex lives, or have an primary attraction to toes instead of boobs. No big deal. Others are dangerous, sadistic killers who should be fed feet-first through a meat grinder. Still others are self destructive people who are very good at taking others down with them. So who, exactly, counts as "us?"

My advice is that you'll get a lot more mileage out of turning your focus inward. First make sure that YOU'RE OK with YOU. Next, make sure you're OK with who you trust. Then make sure you're OK with your casual friends, associates, etc. By the time you finish doing that, you'll know who "us" is (for you), and you'll have answered your own question!

Take it easy,

Pete

 

[joeshushu]

Of course we are wierd. It totally screwed up my life as far as having any kind of normal existence.

 

[Yet_One_More_Idiot]

I've always known I was weird.... 😛 and I do think that vanillas probably view a ticklish fetishist as a bit unusual, but as has been said, it's absolutely nothing to be worried about compared to some of the other fetishes out there (eg. CBT, scat, necrophilia to name but 3 extreme examples).

And I'd rather be weird and interesting than normal and boring any day! 😎

 

[AphxA1]

nah we are pretty normal. If you have ever watched real sex on hbo. Fetishes are pretty normal. They just enhance your sex life. Think of it as something fun to do, rather than it being weird.

 

[Japp]

"Weird" is a relative term, isn't it? Well, there are people out there that eroticise feces, eyeballs, murder, braces, hair, wristwatches, cannibalism, carcrashes, stabbing, and much more. In that perspective, you have to ask yourself: Is tickling really that weird?

 

[chode]

Hey, i just started to date a gal that is a phsychologist. So right off i figured i would be getting anylized from the get go. And then i told her i have a tickling getish and a foot fetish and she was cool with it. She has really gotten into the whole thing. And its because she likes ME. If we find someone who likes us and wants to make us happy then they do things we like, weird as they may be. I asked her if she thought i was some werid perv and she didnt. She likes it and is enjoying the fetishes.

 

[lesdeuxgros]

hey bro, tickling is what we like so tickling is what we do.... anybody that has a poor opinion of us because of our fetish can fuck off in my opinion...........I just don't see the need to apologize for something so harmless.

 

[CoopXLR]

Others are dangerous, sadistic killers who should be fed feet-first through a meat grinder.

Woe! Cool! I have that same fetish! The thought of doing that to a truly evil person has always excited me! We should share links about industrial accidents some time. :happy:

 

[jtsettle1]

Weird, I suppose, is a relative term. I'm sure some would view us as weird. I like to think of it in a sense that we are able to see and gain pleasure out of something that most others do not. And I think that is pretty cool, actually.

So us, weird? No. Now, Koopacooper's avatar...that's pretty weird!! 😀 (j/k Koop!)

 

[ticklekid1]

*bat flutters onto a tier and opens its wings, a boy appears, he is angelic. Dark skinned. He looks at all who are in discussion and begins*
Well, I brelieve the reason that it may be deemed unusual, wierd, uncouth, and other terms which represent events out of the ordinary, would be simply because of as I believe someone earlier said, the bondage. After all, when we were younger, if we tickled someone, we would sit on them, or hold their feet and tickle them silly correct?

another voice: Correct.

And so as we progressed, as someone else said, we should have forgotten the pleaseure and rarely do it if at all, we became more efficient in our practices, our binds evolved from mere arms about feet or body on body tickling to shackles and chains and ropes. And the fact that the child hood activity has in some cases become x-rated can also give reason.
I do not actually know if what I said made any sense, but if you put this in order, for your minds, it may become understandable.
*turns into a bat and flies off of balcony over foggy mists.*

 

[wendyandpeter]

Hey, i just started to date a gal that is a phsychologist. .

Hey. Then I suggest you learn how to spell 'psychologist.' Otherwise, you might end up dating a fourth grade teacher ;-)

 

[TiCkLeSoCkS1]

were not wierd, everyone else is!!! 🙂