Are you ashamed?

[ParanoidChant]

Have you ever been ashamed of having a tickle fetish?

I'm not passing judgment and I don't want to seem sensationalist, but the concept was brought up in last night's radio show about people trying to deny that tickle vids are porn due to embarrassment.

I'll be interested to hear your input. I'll add mine in a bit.

 

[McNoodle]

I have never been ashamed of it, no. It is not something I chose nor something I was given a choice with so shame doesn't come into the picture.

 

[Scouse]

Most definitely not. Its something I've been reasonably open about with most girls I've been involved with, and when it comes to porn, its the only kind I watch regularly. 🙂

 

[wishfoot88]

when i 1st found out i was but that quickly passed.

 

[Francie_Pants]

I'm not ashamed of it, but I am careful who I discuss it with, because some people tend to blow things out of proportion.

 

[badreligion]

Nope

 

[Tiger.Lily]

I used to be ashamed.

It wasn't until this past year that I've gotten over it and fully embraced it as one of the biggest parts of my sexuality.

 

[ThatPercussionGuy]

Nope, never been ashamed. I've always felt it was playful and fun. After all this time I still can't get over how many other people enjoy it like I do...

 

[Whacky Macky]

I actually started a thread like this myself, a year or two back.

Bottom line: the worst you can expect is a "that's weird" or a raised eyebrow.

 

[3xPIN]

I am neither ashamed nor proud. I am who I am. It really is that simple. I am ashamed of my actions, not my personality. I have a tickle fetish. I don't know why I just do. It can't be helped. I haven't hurt any one or done anything wrong.

 

[Sleepy Jean]

I was never ashamed of being turned on by tickling. If I had been ashamed I would have sought some kind of psychological help -- deprogramming or the like.

But when I was a teenager I was extremely bothered by it. I didn't consider this to be normal and I wondered what the hell was wrong with me. It was especially bad for me because I was a girl. It seemed more normal for guys being turned on by bondage and torture, but what kind of a sick, perverted little girl desires being tied up and tickle-tortured to the point of insanity (or beyond)? What kind of a dirty little miss gets wet over such thoughts?

I was afraid I would either have to repress my desires, find a way to change or drive away every man I might have cared about. Or, even worse, have to put up with guys who would be happy to tie me up and tickle me, but had no clue about why it was erotic for me and might have regarded me as a *****.

I was so fortunate to fall in love with a man who, although he does not quite understand why I'm like I am, wants to make me happy and understands that this is how to do that. Tickling doesn't turn him on, but seeing me in the kind of erotic frenzy that tickling causes me turns him on to no end. It has worked out so well.

Still, I keep my love of tickling to myself. Even my closest friends don't know this is my favorite way to get sexually aroused, and how it makes me come over and over before penetration. I'm really nervous about that. Maybe the fears I had as a teenager never really left, in spite of having all my dreams come true.

So while I'm not ashamed, it's still not something I'm willling to share with others. That's why I like the TMF. You people all understand this, and God bless you.

Love,
Jean

 

[luvgirlsfeet]

I've never been ashamed nor will i ever will be

 

[Deleted member 66627]

Yes. For a long time.

When I'm left alone to my own thoughts and are in sitauations away from my friends and folks here on forum, I sometimes still feel ashamed.

It's hard to walk out of that thought process when I was left alone to it for so long.

 

[DJ Tickler]

I am not ashamed…but not everyone understands that is why I do not tell a lot of people.

Recently I was speaking to a girl who I was getting to know and she knew I had this tickling fetish because her girlfriend has it. She doesn’t indulge her girlfriend so I was trying to convince her to give it a go and she said that I was “weird”…ME!!!…WEIRD!!??!!

This girl does however like S&M and I explained to her that this was just a more innocent version of it. End result I will be tying her up and tickling her when she comes over (When this happens is another story but it is going to happen).

Now this might be because I am VERY good at selling myself but the point of the story is if I can sell the idea to someone I can’t be ashamed of it.

My advice is if someone says you are weird, look at their life and see if they are vanilla or just don’t understand it. Vanilla are usually set in there ways and the ignorant…well, I have no problems giving them the education

NEVER BE ASHAMED OF WHO YOU ARE!!!

DJ Tickler

 

[ViperGTS]

Not at all.

I found the TMF when I was a young man, so I guess I didn't have the time to become ashamed of my kink.

 

[slacker2114]

Yeah, I used to be ashamed to admit to anything like that. Ten years ago, if someone found out, I would freak. But since discovering the forum years ago, I've slowly gotten away from that. It helped me understand I wasn't a perverted lunatic and was certainly not alone.

Now, I'm at the point where, while I don't advertise it, if someone finds out I don't really care.

 

[Flatfoot]

I've still got mixed feelings about it. A year or so ago, I had finally gotten to the point where I felt that there was nothing wrong with me, and from everything I had read here, and from news articles/advice columns concerning fetishes, in general, where the consensus seems to be there's nothing wrong with deviant sexual practices as long as all parties involved are consenting.

I don't want to go into too much detail about what's flipped that mindset around, again, but I'd never brag about it to anyone. Something else that comes to mind is something an old supervisor said once (not about sexual fetishes, but a general discussion to a bunch of troops about things you shouldn't do that could get you in trouble.) that goes, "If it's something you wouldn't brag to Mom about, you probably shouldn't be doing it."

I know that statement's a bit of a stretch when tied to sexual activities, but in general, it's something I'd like to keep private.

Something else that bothers me is the fact that I'm a father, now. My son crawls like a champ, will be walking on his own any day now, and eventually will grow old enough to be a curious, coherent conversationalist, who I REALLY don't want to wander into our closet and stumble across the shoe box containing wrist and ankle cuffs, blindfolds, and such. They haven't been used in a long time, but I still don't want to get rid of them. I'd really like to play again, but I just don't see it happening. I don't know. I miss it, but this fetish seems more of a pain in the ass for me than anything else.

I thank God that my interests are not so deeply ingrained that I can't have sex without them. One thing I think I understand is that it's not just tickling I enjoy, but it's affection that turns me on, and I associate tickling with affection.

Overall, at times I think I wish I could be "cured," but something tells me it's still not wrong, and it'd be like being "cured" of being attracted to women. The thought of being "cured" kinda bothers me, like I'd be getting a lobotomy, or something.

I also spend a large portion of my day preoccupied with thoughts of this fetish, which bothers me, because I don't enjoy or look forward to anything except work and watching WWE. Everything else just seems like a time-passer.

Yeah, I think I'm ashamed.

 

[Babyshambles]

Have you ever been ashamed of having a tickle fetish?

I'm not passing judgment and I don't want to seem sensationalist, but the concept was brought up in last night's radio show about people trying to deny that tickle vids are porn due to embarrassment.

I'll be interested to hear your input. I'll add mine in a bit.

Yes.

If I could change it I would.

c'est la vie.

 

[Cy/MiG]

I used to be ashamed, no doubt.

Now much less so.

But I've always been discreet, still am.

 

[milagros317]

Have you ever been ashamed of having a tickle fetish?

Absolutely not. It's nothing to be ashamed of, if expressed in play with consenting adults.

 

[baldadonis]

I'm definitely not ashamed. I embrace and love what tickling has brought me in my life.

I don't advertise it to others because I know not all my friends and family will understand it, and I don't see the need to explain it to them. But, I'm to the point now where if they found out, I could explain it to them proudly without freaking out, and it wouldn't be a big deal.

 

[Musicroxmysox]

I was ashamed but I have come to enjoy that it is a part of me. I feel like I get more and more comfortable with it over time. Someday maybe I will even be open about it, but for now I am still on the hush hush.

 

[drew70]

I don't think I was ever ashamed. Embarassed maybe. Until I realized some of the sick and twisted shit some people are into. Pedophilia, asphixia, bestiality, golden showers, brown showers, Christ the list goes on.

I've learned to regard tickling as the coolest fetish in the world. It's all about laughter and the release of stress.

Having said that, I still maintain that tickling videos in and of themselves are not porn. Some clips have nudity or other erotic elements that can qualify the film for porn status, but if we're talking a fully clothed person tickling another fully clothed person, that's not porn.
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[ParanoidChant]

Thanks for all the replies so far, everyone!

I like threads like these that deal with the psychological aspects of our fetish. Obviously, insecurities are more likely to develop if you're drastically different from almost everybody else, and I've noticed that most people have mentioned that they've become less 'ashamed' the more they've frequented this place and felt more accepted.

I'm not as 'fortunate' as Flatfoot in that tickling is the major component of my sexuality, and I figure that the shame I myself feel about my fetish comes primarily from that fact: who knows how much better my life could've been if I were normal? The more I talk and discuss my kink with you guys, the more I realize that the answer to that question is 'nobody' and that I should stop wasting time thinking about it and simply accept that my life is different from most everyone else.

 

[Coda]

I'm certainly not ashamed of myself. In addition to that, though, I'm constantly curious about why my own particular feelings exist, as well as others'. In addition to the fascinating pleasure of having a fetish, it's a rather wonderful mystery, in the same way that it's interesting to work on the question of why some people are obsessive-compulsive, why we love each other, and so on.