cross racial or ethnic tickling a prefrence or no big deal?

[brianspencer66]

Thank you!

Even if it did make a difference to you, that's okay because people have their preferences. I'm not saying that people aren't allowed an opinion (even if I don't agree with it). I'm just saying to state it without being insulting or demeaning about it.

Then again, I can't control people's responses even if I don't like them right?

Nope we cant, but we have the right to say we dont agree. And you and Bella both put your points across well.

 

[50greg]

Um, no, posting your opinion is fine; it's posting insults that causes strife. You can discuss the physical attributes of women that you prefer without being negative about those you don't care for. I'm 4'11 and thin only describes my patience 😎 ; I adore men who prefer shorter and curvier ladies. But that doesn't mean that taller and slimmer girls have 'clown' feet or 'horse' faces, gee whiz . You can have a firm opinion and preference and still be kind.

Bella

I like shorter, curvy gals, Bella. 🙂

 

[kis123]

Um, no, posting your opinion is fine; it's posting insults that causes strife. You can discuss the physical attributes of women that you prefer without being negative about those you don't care for. I'm 4'11 and thin only describes my patience 😎 ; I adore men who prefer shorter and curvier ladies. But that doesn't mean that taller and slimmer girls have 'clown' feet or 'horse' faces, gee whiz . You can have a firm opinion and preference and still be kind.

Bella

Bella; always the diplomat!! You're better than me sista"!

I had to physically restrain myself from the myriad of comments about men who like tiny women tend to have other "issues." You see, that would be me giving an opinion then negatively throwing jabs at what I don't care for wouldn't it??? That would be a loaded prejudicial statement based on nothing but supposition and stereotypes right??

I think I've made my point.........

 

[kis123]

it was fun! orientals , in my experience, are the most ticklish.
black women in my experience don't have ticklish feet. but that may be that they didn't take very good care of ther feet too?
i also have to admit i find the idea of a lady of color tickling me, to be quite erotic. just the thought of being tickled by a woman like kis 123, sends chills through me. the good kind, lol

Maybe the black women you played with just weren't ticklish on thier feet. Or maybe the ones you played with didn't take good care of their feet. It definitely doesn't mean that ALL black women don't care for their feet; that couldn't be further from the truth.

Now about those "thoughts"..........

 

[50greg]

Bella; always the diplomat!! You're better than me sista"!

I had to physically restrain myself from the myriad of comments about men who like tiny women tend to have other "issues." You see, that would be me giving an opinion then negatively throwing jabs at what I don't care for wouldn't it??? That would be a loaded prejudicial statement based on nothing but supposition and stereotypes right??

I think I've made my point.........

kissypoo-- I count you as a shorter, curvy gal, too. 🙂

 

[kis123]

kissypoo-- I count you as a shorter, curvy gal, too. 🙂

Yeah, there are a lot of curves hidden under these "rolls" baby!!

 

[50greg]

Yeah, there are a lot of curves hidden under these "rolls" baby!!

Be fun to explore around under there.

 

[Peace_sign]

But. I do find the notion of an "opposing racial preference" a little bit off-putting. I don't know why, there's just a "creepy" factor to it that I can't put my finger on.

I definately feel the same way. As an Asian girl, I tend to feel a little creeped when the preference for Asian girls come up. It's probably because I do feel a little stereotyped.

I also make it a point to not harp on people for having a racial preference. Because people have their own preferences and it doesn't define who they are (Which is why I admire Steph for putting her feelings out, while at the same time doing her best to not offend anyone who does have a preference 🙂 ). I think I have my own set of preferences that unintentionally discriminate against other people.

But for tickling, I don't have a racial preference.

 

[steph]

Well aren't you sweet for this? Thank you honey! I really appreciate that! (Great screen name, great energy BTW. I can feel it through my monitor~where you been hiding?)
I'm not-so-secretly relieved people understood how I felt. Such generalizations you know? Just...yikes...
XOXO

I definately feel the same way. As an Asian girl, I tend to feel a little creeped when the preference for Asian girls come up. It's probably because I do feel a little stereotyped.

I also make it a point to not harp on people for having a racial preference. Because people have their own preferences and it doesn't define who they are (Which is why I admire Steph for putting her feelings out, while at the same time doing her best to not offend anyone who does have a preference 🙂 ). I think I have my own set of preferences that unintentionally discriminate against other people.

But for tickling, I don't have a racial preference.

 

[huskys]

I have no preference whatsoever.
If there's a connection there, the same as in a relationship, then GO FOR IT, I say !!!

 

[tkl-pen]

I'm sorry ladies - I guess I should learn to be more sensitive and tactful - now I wish I could take back my comments.

 

[steph]

We've all said things we wish we hadn't babe. I'm always amazed at how perceptive and forgiving members here tend to be. I wouldn't lose any sleep~no one's blowing their head off over any of this (I hope.) Just learn from it 'kay?
XOXO

I'm sorry ladies - I guess I should learn to be more sensitive and tactful - now I wish I could take back my comments.

 

[Coda]

I think there are plenty of factors that could possibly make the idea of tickling between races seem exciting. Aside from the idea that particular races have particularly beautiful people (which is already subjective), all those factors are based on one culture's opinion of others.

I've never even considered that the idea of black people tickling white people or vice versa would have any special appeal, but I guess that makes sense and it's pretty interesting.

I'm already a fan of Japanese culture; their mainstream, their song lyrics, and their movies carry this highly appreciative attitude toward life which I think is really fantastic. I think somebody who demonstrated experience living in that kind of culture would be appealing. On the flipside, their culture also seems to be repressive in different ways than ours, which explains some of the bizarre ways in which their sexuality seems to manifest. (Not to mention, beautiful Japenese women are beautiful.)

I can't think of a particular race that embodies this, but there's definitely a thrilling appeal in a person of the opposite sex who bears some element of mysticism or foreign expertise (in the same way that it would be amazing to encounter, say, a fairy with magical powers).

Naturally, none of this should be acceptable in lieu of the basic requirements of good relationships such as love and respect, but I think it's fun "slumber party" talk.

 

[Comfort Eagle]

I wanna tickle an Asian girl. And an Iranian girl. And an Indian girl. And an Israeli girl. And a Canadian girl. And an Australian girl. And a goth girl...



Love me some variety. 😎

 

[brianspencer66]

Well I need to say that overall I have to admire the honesty and tasteful and most respectful restraint people have for the most part shown in this thread. We have ackowleged our diffrences yet have seemed to embrace them. At the same time many have expressed a feeling that cultural considerations harbor no real diffrence in their choice of a play partner. Maybe we are begining to learn from some of the other threads started in the religion and politics section where things can become quite unpleasent when dealing with racial issues. But ill take a wait and see attitude on that one. 🙄

 

[kis123]

I'm sorry ladies - I guess I should learn to be more sensitive and tactful - now I wish I could take back my comments.

Apology appreciated and accepted.

I don't wish you took back your comments; I just wish they were better stated. We can all learn from our mistakes if we want to; sounds like you do. Thank you..........

 

[tcklft]

I wanna tickle an Asian girl. And an Iranian girl. And an Indian girl. And an Israeli girl. And a Canadian girl. And an Australian girl. And a goth girl...



Love me some variety. 😎

You like goth girls? Really? 😉

 

[Peace_sign]

Well aren't you sweet for this? Thank you honey! I really appreciate that! (Great screen name, great energy BTW. I can feel it through my monitor~where you been hiding?)
I'm not-so-secretly relieved people understood how I felt. Such generalizations you know? Just...yikes...
XOXO

You're very welcome and thanks for the compliments!

This whole forum seems to be understanding and respectful. I've been lurking a while to test out the waters, but everyone's so friendly whenever I do post!

 

[steph]

Most are extremely cool.
I hope to see ya more often!
XOXO

You're very welcome and thanks for the compliments!

This whole forum seems to be understanding and respectful. I've been lurking a while to test out the waters, but everyone's so friendly whenever I do post!

 

[ThatPercussionGuy]

Makes absolutely no difference to me what race a 'lee is. If i'm lucky enough to find a female that allows me to tickle her, tickles me back and loves it all, then i'm going to smile, order a pizza or some thai food and drink some rum...'cause that would really make the day/evening perfect 🙂 lol


Tckleguy

 

[soletkler]

It seems to me that given the feeling of alienation so many posts speak of when referring to our collective fetish/interest/whatever you prefer to call it, this board should be the last place one would expect to find closed-mindedness towards the inter-relationships of races, ethnicities or creeds. Hopefully, we are all above that sort of thing.

 

[drew70]

For me, a woman's color and ethnicity plays no small part in her overall beauty, which includes looks, personality, demeanor, etc. I had several black female friends at my old job, a couple of whom used to massage me and tickle me. They were each beautiful in different ways. For both, color was a big part of their beauty. I loved the look of her dark hands as they tickled my ribs and tummy. Plus they both had that "take no shit" attitude mixed with a warmth and sweetness that to me seemed a part of their ethnic backgrounds.

I've also been tickled by female friends from Iran and Afghanistan. Both beautiful, and again their ethnicity played a major role in their beauty. I lived in the far east for two and a half years and received untold amounts of tickling there. Very different, but exciting as hell. And of course I've been tickled by women of my own caucasian race that were no less exciting than all the rest.

I guess I'd have to say that race and ethnicity aren't parameters by which I'd search out for ticklers, but I certainly won't ignore them either. 🙂