Cybering in the chatroom

[Headsnap]

It's probably been brought up before or in the super-secret hidden forums that only privileged members of 'Teh Commun1ty' have access to but I couldn't give a shit, I'm bringing it up again.

I don't go into the chatroom to watch people roleplaying and cybering and whatnot. If I wanted to do that I'd do what most cybersex fuckwits do and get me down to the Yahoo! Teens chatrooms where I could pretend to be a teenager and 'simulate' intercourse and sex4yn3ss by typing stuff between a pair of asterisks. Nobody wants to see that shit, and if you're so devoid of human contact/ desperate for attention that you're willing to spank it to asterisk-enclosed text on a java applet then you need to have a serious word with yourself. Either that or cark it under a bus, either way is fine with me.

Another point is the constant bewailing I see by people who claim the chatroom is a "tickling chatroom". To the best of my knowledge it's not a Tickling chatroom; it's the TMF's chatroom which, like the TMF itself, is meant as a hub for ticklephiles to meet and mingle with like-minded vermin. That doesn't mean that all the talk has to be of tickling and ticklish spots and bondage and fetish related stuff; look at the General Discussion forum, how many tickling related threads do you see around here? Not many, sir. Not many. Not everyone is as big or lonely a freak as you are, and as such many people don't feel the need to satiate or attempt to get comfortable with their fetish by talking about it constantly. These folk like to talk about other stuff when they're in the chatroom. That may or may not include the politics of Northern Ireland, the Nazi party, MMA, the best places to play the slots in Las Vegas or other such topics. If you don't like that feel free to piss off, but stop moaning just because nobody takes you on when you ask "SO HOW MANY OF YOU LADIES ARE BAREFOOT RIGHT NOW?!?!"

So yeah. In conclusion the play-pretending in the chatroom needs to stop, or you need to create another room where you can pretend you're all tickling TicklishGrl4Life in private so I don't have to have my screen clogged up with your nonsense. And stop moaning that there's not enough tickling talk in the chatroom too just because people are gabbing like normal human beings; what you really mean is "Wah wah I wanted a woman to cyber me to climax/ hook up with but thats not happening wah wah this chatroom is NOT FIT FOR PURPOSE". Learn to relate to people as PEOPLE rather than sides of ticklish meat and you'll enjoy more success. And stop cybering, it's not attractive. You doss bastards.

Cheers,

Rt. Hon. Reverend H. Snapplebottom (BASC Hons., Oxford)
Internets Crusader

 

[Morpheus72]

Man, I love the 'Snapper, I really do -- you rock, bro!!

But I gotta say, if you don't like it, mute it. The mute button works really well for me, and I use it often. Or instead, just go off on the people "cyb3rtkl'n" in "teh chatr00m" lolzorzz....that would be fun to watch.

I just really would like to ban use of the abbreviation "ur". Can I get an amen?

Anyway, thanks for the laugh, you always crack me up....

Morph

EDITED to add: The best place, statistically, to play slots in Las Vegas is downtown and away from the strip. Realistically though, either you're gonna get lucky, or you're not. It doesn't matter when you're playing for a few hours.

 

[Headsnap]

Amen, sir, amen. I didn't know there was a mute function, that would be super-fun to use! Please to explain how this works, that I can avoid posting drivel like this in future! I've tried going off on the cyber-demons but all I get in response is a temporary cessation until someone decides they need to crack one out on their keyboard at which point the nonsense resumes with renewed vigour.

I'll remember that about Las Vegas too. Do they have shake alarms on the bandits by any chance?

 

[Knox The Hatter]

Accepting Headsnap's point (and also taking into account that the usual rapier-like 'Liverpudlian Wit' mixes uneasily with the American predilection for waking up in the morning and wondering just what offense will be taken today; currently I'm waiting for the impact of the incoming missiles), I wish to counter with something very few of the newbies here understand. Cyber tickling, when done correctly, can be great theater for the other members present. When not done correctly, it can be an annoying bore. We haven't had great cyber gang tickles in the chat for years now. Most of the newbies don't know, and they certainly wouldn't give a Dick Cheney either.

The ignore button's a great thing, Snappy. With one click of the mouse, ignorance instantly disappears and the air becomes that much fresher. I use it every time I'm in there. It's great. The miracle of technology!

 

[TicklishGrl4Lfe]

I'm sorry.

I honestly do not mean to upset you with my cybering, Snap. I can try harder to spare you from the horror of pretending to get tickled. It's just a fun thing, nothing like actually getting tickled, but fun if done correctly, as Knox said. If I am cybering either block me, or tell me to stop and I will.

I respect your opinion Snap. I am not angry at your mentioning my name, because I DO tend to cyber a lot in the chat, and totally understand that it does interfere with other's conversations.

TG4L

 

[Headsnap]

Accepting Headsnap's point (and also taking into account that the usual rapier-like 'Liverpudlian Wit' mixes uneasily with the American predilection for waking up in the morning and wondering just what offense will be taken today; currently I'm waiting for the impact of the incoming missiles), I wish to counter with something very few of the newbies here understand. Cyber tickling, when done correctly, can be great theater for the other members present. When not done correctly, it can be an annoying bore. We haven't had great cyber gang tickles in the chat for years now. Most of the newbies don't know, and they certainly wouldn't give a Dick Cheney either.

To be honest I myself find the concept asinine and puerile, though I'm a reasonable sort and believe in one man's meat being another's poison. I don't mind people doing it, as long as it's not spammy nonsense about stealing people's credit cards and that sort of shite. That's just pathetic.

The ignore button's a great thing, Snappy. With one click of the mouse, ignorance instantly disappears and the air becomes that much fresher. I use it every time I'm in there. It's great. The miracle of technology!

The miracle indeed! A goodly patron showed me how to use it before and now I'm all Ignore-d up, though it's worrying that after I ignored the cyber-demons all I was left with were the entrance and exit messages and a few lines of Morpheus responding to unseen questions. Seems cybering is more prevalent than I thought, even amongst 35 year olds!

 

[RChello]

never argue with an idiot...

he'll only bring you down to his level and beat you with experience🙂

 

[Myriads]

Cybering is a valid use of the main chatroom. It will not be banned.

I do agree with the point that the TMF's chatroom is there for MORE then just sexually related things. It, like the forum itself, is a place for people to meet and interact on many levels and topics.

Myriads

 

[Leo tickles]

Why should we stop cybering just so you can talk?
And why should you stop talking just so we can cyber?
Mute/ignore button is your friend.

 

[Speedbump]

Headsnap makes me laugh. I've only been in there a couple times recently, but I found it ridiculous how much cybering was going on a lot of the time when I used to go in more often. It just makes everything so awkward and annoying.

Also didn't know there was an ignore button, but whatever, not like I go in there anymore.

And to the post about 'ur', amen. There are many other abbreviations I'd like gone also, but blah.

 

[NavelTickler75]

I can understand his position, but he needs to get a grip. If he does not like it, push the ignore button so he does not need to see it.

We all go in there for different reasons, if he doesn't like that, he can easily again ignore and let those of us who like fun in our own way do so.

 

[ChosenofMystra]

Personally, I find cyber-tickling to be a waste of time, and I agree with you that it can be extremely annoying at times. But why let it ruin your fun in the room?

There is an ignore feature for a reason, I would implement its use if it bothers you that much.

 

[Rory]

Headsnap rocks.

I agree. Obviously, there's no way to really "ban" cybering in the chatroom, but if the sexually repressed dorks doing it would have some common courtesy to do so in private, that'd be great.

 

[Helena]

Hello,
I think that we can have a meaningful discussion about the chat room without trying to personally attack users:

"sexually repressed dorks"?
"cyber-demons"?
"cybersex fuckwits"?
"Not everyone is as big or lonely a freak as you are"?

I can't laugh off comments like these. They are completely unnecessary. It upsets me that "the tickling community" is becoming this hostile.
I'm not going to give my opinion on "cybering in the main room".
But as others have said, use your ignore button.

 

[minerva]

Bravo Helena!
I'd certainly prefer those who are coming here to have some fun to those who are coming here mainly to insult others.

 

[Headsnap]

I'll take your point that some of the comments are slightly barbed, but I think you'll find those insults are born of frustration at the complete and total lack of regard shown by cyber-demons to people who just want to talk to other people rather than play-pretending they're buried under the sand with only their feet sticking out and what-have-you.

 

[Mistress Aura]

Hello,
I think that we can have a meaningful discussion about the chat room without trying to personally attack users:

"sexually repressed dorks"?
"cyber-demons"?
"cybersex fuckwits"?
"Not everyone is as big or lonely a freak as you are"?

I can't laugh off comments like these. They are completely unnecessary. It upsets me that "the tickling community" is becoming this hostile.
I'm not going to give my opinion on "cybering in the main room".
But as others have said, use your ignore button.

As much as I do thoroughly appreciate dry humour (and you know I do, Snapper!), I will stand with Helena on this one--and I assure you, I am totally sober this time.

How must this diatribe appear to someone who may have just gotten here and is finally ready to experiment with everything new TMF has to offer? When one is fresh to the scene, damn near everything involving tickling, especially brand new interactions with like-minded people, is a wonderful smorgasbord in a sense, and a release of what might be years-long pent-up need; cybering may be another need fulfillment to be sampled. I personally do not participate in it anymore for various reasons, but certainly I did at one time, when I was very new to it. Had I seen something along these lines then, it would have really hurt, and I would have felt downright stupid knowing I was being judged before I ever had a chance to make my own decision if I enjoyed it or not.

And that's it, that's the main point. Why, why, why go out of the way to say something designed to hurt, whether it's to/about a rookie or a seasoned member? I'm serious, what's the positive gain on either side from it?

If you find joy in cybering, then by all means, cyber away--it's safe and healthy fun. And if you don't like seeing it--well, if those who are participating are invited to create yet another room to do so...with all due respect, couldn't those who don't wish to see it exercise that same privilege themselves, if using the "ignore" function isn't an option and they want to chat unhindered by tickling-related repartee'..?

Mistress Aura

 

[NavelTickler75]

Hello,
I think that we can have a meaningful discussion about the chat room without trying to personally attack users:

"sexually repressed dorks"?
"cyber-demons"?
"cybersex fuckwits"?
"Not everyone is as big or lonely a freak as you are"?

I can't laugh off comments like these. They are completely unnecessary. It upsets me that "the tickling community" is becoming this hostile.
I'm not going to give my opinion on "cybering in the main room".
But as others have said, use your ignore button.

Exactly! This is what Mistree Aura is talking about in her rant. Those words chase people away. If people feel they have to use them, then they really should think twice, as they aren't necessary at all.

 

[NavelTickler75]

I'll take your point that some of the comments are slightly barbed, but I think you'll find those insults are born of frustration at the complete and total lack of regard shown by cyber-demons to people who just want to talk to other people rather than play-pretending they're buried under the sand with only their feet sticking out and what-have-you.

You know what, if you do not like it, push the ignore button, its fast and easy. No need to insult people with the name cyber demon. And poor Angel apologized for this to you, and you didn't even comment on it to thank her for her curtesy. Very rude.

 

[Capnmad]

Hello,
I think that we can have a meaningful discussion about the chat room without trying to personally attack users:

Some people can, and some people can't, luv. I'd like to think we could, but it's like banging your head against a wall here. And to be honest, I've taken something of a perverse shine to Headsnap over recent weeks, since one can recognize his indiscriminate slagging as a sort of baseline for his approach to everyone. Near as I can see, he insults royalty and rabble here with equal fervor, and speaks his mind in so doing. My baseline may be different and easier to stomach for most given my choice of language, but in our own ways, we're doing essentially the same thing -- treating people equally to the best of our ability.

What becomes concerning to me is when these patterns are too easily misperceived (scaring newbies off or maybe convincing them to adopt a hostile attitude to fit in, gradually making this an uglier place) and new folks, like Rory there, probably see it as an open door to insult and name-call selectively. Discriminatory (selective) insults are another place where unnecessary division occurs in this community. So while I feel that at some level, I "get" Headsnap, and I wouldn't choose to stifle his manner of expression, I prefer my own means of expression for setting a decent example to newcomers.

I can't laugh off comments like these. They are completely unnecessary. It upsets me that "the tickling community" is becoming this hostile.
I'm not going to give my opinion on "cybering in the main room".
But as others have said, use your ignore button.

I understand what you're saying, but I'll use this opportunity to reiterate an old sentiment of mine. This is not a community except in the loosest sense:

a group of people living together in one place, esp. one practicing common ownership : a community of nuns.

("Common ownership" of course, not being the case, either. This is Jeff's house, and his alone. We're all just living in it. That's important to recognize.) This is not to be confused with:

a feeling of fellowship with others, as a result of sharing common attitudes, interests, and goals : the sense of community that organized religion can provide.

What fellowship there is here, I've discovered, is sometimes segregated, and in places, organized according to caste. Only some haven't yet had circumstance befall them such to see it's walls. It's up to individuals to take it upon themselves and find and encourage others to create greater unity, and in my opinion, we all should.

What this is is a collection of message-boards upon which several little communities, cliques, a few families, and individuals gather. There are individuals who are hostile. There are factions that rise behind them that are hostile. But also, there are people who are kind and legions behind them. I think most people here aren't intentionally hostile, but are passionate, and have trouble sometimes expressing it in ways apart from hostility. Those few who are genuinely hostile are deeply angry and needing a way to vent, take it out on those around them they deem expendable (people they don't know or don't like).

All this blather being said, cybering is a legit use of the chatroom. Conversation ebbs, flows and changes. There's tickling, and there's politics, and current events and just plain banter. Let me just say, use the ignore function. It's offered for your use, so please use it as you choose, and however often you need.

 

[Excess]

"sexually repressed dorks"?
"cyber-demons"?
"cybersex fuckwits"?
"Not everyone is as big or lonely a freak as you are"?

I can't laugh off comments like these.

But I can. 😀 Mainly cuz I can easily take any one of those, maybe change it a little bit, and apply it to so many other things and make it sound like that's everyone.

Now watch this:

(Insert user name here): Here Ex *throws him a beer*
Excess: Thank ya kind sir. n_n *catches and drinks*
HI_I'M_1337: Z0MG!!!!! WH4T A L00000000Z3R!!!! N0NE D0N'7 W4NNA C U CYB3R-DR1NK U N00B!!!!!

Z0MG C WhAT I D1D THAR?!!!! Does that make me a loser with no life? Not neccesarily. Just cuz I'm not a stuck up prick about things I type being a certain way doesn't mean I sit at home wacking off to myself typing random actions out.

That said, I'm not really in to cybering now, but I don't mind it as long as it's not overdone like anything can be. And yeah, those that just sit there constantly trying to "tickle" someone when that someone isn't interested are probably sub-human. But those that do it tastefully and not trying to force it down everyone's throats typically are ok. And if that annoys you, ignore or just start a convo about something. Of course, this doesn't always work, but those are the breaks of life.

 

[Azrael]

I just really would like to ban use of the abbreviation "ur". Can I get an amen?

AHHH-MEN!

 

[ViperGTS]

I'll take your point that some of the comments are slightly barbed, but I think you'll find those insults are born of frustration at the complete and total lack of regard shown by cyber-demons to people who just want to talk to other people rather than play-pretending they're buried under the sand with only their feet sticking out and what-have-you.

So, that reasoning excuses plain-as-day insults and defamations of character?

The intarwebz is not as serious business as you would like the think.

We are not here for YOUR pleasure, despite what you seem to believe.

If you don't like it, ignore it. Go with the flow or get out of the river.

Why should we stop cybering just so you can talk?
And why should you stop talking just so we can cyber?
Mute/ignore button is your friend.

I thought you were leaving, kiddo?

 

[Leo tickles]

Viper, you take longer to move on than my ex.


🙂

 

[The Sean Man]

Look at this way, Headsnap....if this were not an internet group, but an actual group of people sitting around having a good time....would you say the things you're saying face to face to the people in attendance?

It's sooooooooooo easy to say things behind the safety of a computer keyboard 🙄