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Dealing With Being Tickle Starved

FeatherQuill

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So I have to ask, in what ways do you deal with being tickle starved? I'm a 'ler and haven't had a 'lee in almost 3 years now, and before that it was over 10. So some of my methods include daydreaming, writing, and watching videos but I'm curious to see how others deal with it, especially during long periods of withdrawal.
 
For me, as a ler, its just videos and the hope of finding an appropriate partner. I've come to a point of not knowing what's worse. No partner or a bad partner.
 
So I have to ask, in what ways do you deal with being tickle starved? I'm a 'ler and haven't had a 'lee in almost 3 years now, and before that it was over 10. So some of my methods include daydreaming, writing, and watching videos but I'm curious to see how others deal with it, especially during long periods of withdrawal.

There's no secret or magic formula. Just quit "daydreaming, writing and watching videos" (all solitary pursuits) get out there where girls are (pretty much everywhere) and start risking rejection by taking the initiative and learning how to socialise. A big part of this is learning to read the subtle signals a woman emanates when she's interested in you.

Take a long hard look at yourself and make any physical changes necessary like losing weight, ditching glasses for contacts, or getting a bit more toned. You don't have to be Ahh-nold, just a little bit better than average. Learn to work around what can't be fixed like height or baldness. (for instance I dealt with starting to lose my hair in my early 20s by biting the bullet a few years later and shaving it all off). Then keep trying and learn from each new association however brief or unsuccessful.

It isn't easy but eventually it clicks and your newly acquired skills can be applied to every new encounter. And it keeps getting easier.

That's all you need to do.
 
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Quit daydreaming, writing and watching videos (all solitary pursuits) get out there where girls are (pretty much everywhere) and start risking rejection by taking the initiative and learning how to socialise.

If women aren't interested take a long hard look at yourself and fix it or learn to work around what can't be fixed.

That's all you need to do.

This is the best advice you can get, seriously. Don't be afraid of rejection, it happens. Just get yourself out there and you may be be amazed at what you find!
 
This is the best advice you can get, seriously. Don't be afraid of rejection, it happens. Just get yourself out there and you may be be amazed at what you find!

You're right. I need to fix what I can and get out there. I've never been very social though but I have been working on it. I wouldn't say I'm afraid of rejection, it's more like I'm afraid of creeping a girl out. A lot of times when I go out I actually have a good time only to hear later that I was 'creeping' on the girl I was talking to. No matter how hard I try I'm always told I'm doing something wrong, at least that's what my friends say. Because of that I worry about doing it again and wind up just smiling and keeping to myself. What the hell is 'creeping' anyway? All I'm doing is making polite conversation. Making eye contact, smiling, listening to what she says etc, and yet somehow I'm always creeping. It really gets on my nerves because I'm not a creep. I'm just shy and trying to work on coming out of my shell, yet this constant reminder of being a creep keeps pushing me back in.
 
No matter how hard I try I'm always told I'm doing something wrong, at least that's what my friends say. Because of that I worry about doing it again and wind up just smiling and keeping to myself. What the hell is 'creeping' anyway? All I'm doing is making polite conversation. Making eye contact, smiling, listening to what she says etc, and yet somehow I'm always creeping. It really gets on my nerves because I'm not a creep. I'm just shy and trying to work on coming out of my shell, yet this constant reminder of being a creep keeps pushing me back in.

The same thing said in the same way to two different women will sometimes get two completely different reactions.

The same thing said to the same woman at two different times will sometimes get two completely different reactions.

It's not only what you say or how you say it, but also how she interprets it- and that's beyond your control.

Sometimes you simply have to roll the bones while accepting that the chance of succeeding is not always up to you, and just keep trying while carefully concealing that you are trying.

Simplicity itself. :frustrated:
 
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The same thing said in the same way to two different women will sometimes get two completely different reactions.

The same thing said to the same woman at two different times will sometimes get two completely different reactions.

Accept that sometimes success is completely out of your hands and just keep trying while carefully concealing that you are trying.

Simplicity itself. :frustrated:


Huh. Never thought about it that way. Thank you, I'll definitely keep trying. Practice makes perfect right? I know I'll find her some day.
 
Huh. Never thought about it that way. Thank you, I'll definitely keep trying. Practice makes perfect right? I know I'll find her some day.

The only other thing to remember is that a relationship based on only one thing cannot and will not last.
 
I am on the same boat with Libertine. Minus the giving up of glasses for contacts sentiment. I will always refuse to poke at my eye to get that worthless contraption to cover my eyeball everyday or so.
 
Probably the worst thing that ever caused a dry spell for me has been my situation for about the last 5 years.....unemployment! Last fall, I got a temp. job making good money and lots of o/t, and I was beginning to feel good about myself for a change. My self confidence was returning and I had that swagger again! But, I always had that cloud over my head that the job could go away any time if I didn't get hired permanent, so I didn't get too cocky. Then one Friday, the dreaded call came after work that the job ended! Talk about my good feelings taking a nose dive! But, this summer I went back to school and got my commercial drivers license. I hope to be back to work FULL TIME at a great wage! I hope that I get back to meeting women again and maybe find that special one! I am ever the optimist!
 
Work, drink, smoke weed, hang out with friends, and masturbate furiously.
 
wish I moved to tampa where alot of tickle action happens when I was invited years ago lol on a side note...novice when ive had this account since 02? lol
 
There's no secret or magic formula. Just quit "daydreaming, writing and watching videos" (all solitary pursuits) get out there where girls are (pretty much everywhere) and start risking rejection by taking the initiative and learning how to socialise. A big part of this is learning to read the subtle signals a woman emanates when she's interested in you.

Take a long hard look at yourself and make any physical changes necessary like losing weight, ditching glasses for contacts, or getting a bit more toned. You don't have to be Ahh-nold, just a little bit better than average. Learn to work around what can't be fixed like height or baldness. (for instance I dealt with starting to lose my hair in my early 20s by biting the bullet a few years later and shaving it all off). Then keep trying and learn from each new association however brief or unsuccessful.

It isn't easy but eventually it clicks and your newly acquired skills can be applied to every new encounter. And it keeps getting easier.

That's all you need to do.

Much easier and quicker to pay for it. Yes it's expensive but I compare it to paying the fee at another bank's ATM. I'm paying for the convenience of tickling a woman when I want, not having to have her around except when I want something from her.
 
In the first place, what creeps any girl out is if you are making conversation with her while your mind is really on something else that you can get from her. If you are not interested in her as a person and genuine in the conversation, she is going to notice. Women want to be wanted for what they are, not for what they might have to give.

So what you need is experience in talking to women and being open about yourself. The best way, in your situation is, like some have said, to visit a few call girls. I live in Europe where that sort of thing is quite legal and you don't have to fear exposure or arrest. Go to Amsterdam or Hamburg where they stand in shopfront windows, find one you like and go in and ask her if she is ticklish. Most will tell you, but you need to find one who speaks your language properly and you can talk to as well. Tell her about your fetish and about what you would like. You will not creep her out. She is used to far more creepy questions. Tell her about your problems with other girls and see what she advises. Do that a few times so that you have some data to work with and then see if you can put it to use privately.

You can do the same over the internet. Find someone you like the look of, phone her and ask her if she is ticklish, as well as one or other question you might need to know about. Then make an appointment.

Your last alternative is one of the dungeons, which are certainly expensive, but where I am sure you can get a good time. I have no experience in this, as they are not really needed in Europe, prostitution being legal here. You will find a dungeon in many of the brothels.
 
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wish I moved to tampa where alot of tickle action happens when I was invited years ago lol on a side note...novice when ive had this account since 02? lol

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