Divorced Parents? Yes? No?

[PenMasterRule]

My parents divorced when I was only 5.

 

[starburstz91]

My mother never married, but she had plenty of boyfriends.

 

[Aimee]

Divorced.

 

[steph]

Mine divorced when I was in 3rd grade after 17 years together. Their shoddy treatment of each other literally ruined my childhood. Between all their fights and lies and the people they went on to get involved with afterwards, I don't think I've ever really forgiven them. Oh, I'm not angry or anything anymore, it doesn't rule my life and I rarely speak to them. But. I do sometimes wonder who'd I've turned out to be if I'd had parents who cared about each other.
XOXO

 

[goddess_nemesis]

My parents have been married for nearly 27 years. They've had their ups and downs, but they still love each other as much as they did when they got married. What they have is something I hope I have with my future husband.

 

[Bugman]

My parents never divorced,but they should have.It's not that they fought,or cheated on each other.As i got older,i began to realise the marriage was a sham,at least on my mothers part.This was confirmed a few years after dad died in 1982 just weeks short of their 40th anniversary.She told us she married dad because he was the only one of the guys she had dated that her father approved of.Nice huh?

Living this lie did none of us a favor in the long run.

 

[Tortuga]

My parental breeders divorce was finalized when I was 2 years old, my mom remarried when we returned to the US. Because I was so young there really was no talk about my father, I always thought my step-dad was my real father. I didn't know about my father until I was 12 years old, meet him for the first time New Years 2005.

 

[haha4]

d-vorced

 

[Cave In]

My Parents have been together for nearly 30 years, they argue like hell sometimes, but thats normal in my family, something would be wrong if they didnt

 

[xSamanthax]

My parents were married for 40-some years before my mom died.

 

[love feet]

yes parental units are divorced not fun at all!!

 

[love feet]

Yup. Parents divorced. Bio-dad's dead.

aww i am sorry about your dad!!

🙁

 

[BigNorm]

sometimes divorce is better. my father died when i was very young, and my parents were very close, soulmates.

 

[ShadowFyre]

My parents are still together after 40 years. Do they fight? Of course they do. Sometimes they do get on each other's nerves, but I don't see them ever divorcing after all that they have been through.

 

[Coda]

You'd need to interview at least 10,000 divorced couples to acquire that statistic, and I'm guessing statisticians would demand at least a little more than that before they agreed it was meaningful. I'm sure Dr. Phil was just speaking emphatically. I've known at least a few divorced couples who are fine being around each other.

My parents are divorced (although they weren't until I was finished high school). I had some difficulty with that, but I think I would have been fine if I hadn't grown up being subtly taught that consensually ending a marriage vow is some absolute breach of morality; it isn't. I've known a couple of other people who have had a <I>really</I> hard time with their parents' divorces.

 

[Avenger314]

My parents have been married 32, almost 33 years. I can't envision life another way, even if I concentrate at it. We had a 50's sit-com style home.

* 6 PM*
"Mom, Dad's home!"
"Hi, son."
"Hi, dad! How was work?"
"Work was good. How was school?"
"School was pretty good."
"That's good. MMMM, something smells good. What's your mother making for dinner?"
"Lentil stew."
"Great, I love lentil stew!"

That's not an exaggeration. I wouldn't have it any other way.
My dream is to find a way to move back closer to home. I lived at home for 24 years, then moved out to pursue a PhD (I withdrew) and later moved west for a job. I hope someday I can move at least halfway home.

Anyway, there's my story.

 

[Bohemianne]

Nope.

[BTW, I also believe in true love, but you know, its meaning changes on a yearly basis. It is also like a plant. And at times it gets hazy too and hard to see in a dark space, lol...😀 😀 😀]

 

[Ticklemeslow]

My parents HAD to get married, my mom was pregnant with me. I guess they tried their best to stay married, but given the situation (living with my grandparents), they did pretty good. They divorced when I was 4 years old, and my Father did the "weekend visits, but all that consisted of was him picking me up and taking me to see his parents and then usually leaving me there for the afternoon with him coming back to eat dinner with us, then he'd bring me back home. The weekend visits stopped when I was about 7 or 8, and I saw him once at a funeral when I was 12, and haven't seen or heard from him since. All I know about him now is that he did jail time for dealing drugs, he is very smart, some very intelligent scientist at a research company.

I often wonder what it would have been like to grow upWho knows. It's one of the annoying questions that sometimes keeps me up nights, only sometimes. My mom is going to go see him and basically tell him off for not being a part of my life, and since I did find a pic of him online recently for his job, and he looks like death, I would like to know if he is sick, and if so, if it is genetic. I also would like to know if I have any half-siblings out there, just curious.

 

[Cavum]

I have never met my dad. He was cheating on his wife with my mum. My mum had no idea he was married and had kids. When my mum got pregnant with me and told him, he then sayd "it can't be my kid, cause Im married and have kids".

Right after my birth there was a trial and the police had to go get my dad just to take a blood sample to proof it. The last thing he told my mum after the trial was that he never wanted to have anything with me or her ever again in his life.


However...I allways knew I had siblings on his side of the family, even that I thought of myself as a only child. 2 years ago I found my big sister on Facebook. I sendt her a mail asking if her fathers name was "XXXX". I got a reply back that it was and she wondered why I asked. I then sendt her a reply back saying "hope you don't get a shock, but then your my big sister". Needless to say she was pretty shocked and she had no doubt about it when she saw the pictures of me. My other big sister was at her place when she got the mail. We called eacother and talked the same day. Our father had kept this secret for 25 years and they didn't know about me. It was a pretty emotional talk and they where very happy to get contact with me. And...again needless to say...they where VERY pissed on our dad for not telling this. So I went from being a only child to having 2 big sisters, 2 little sisters, 1 brother and being uncle for 2.

 

[Onlyfornow]

Divorced

 

[Skipadeedoodah]

My parents have been separated for almost 9 years and just recently divorced in the last month or so (they were "divorced" for all intents and purposes from the start - they just couldn't afford to get it done on paper). I wonder how much the infamous 50% would increase if it included long-term separations?

It's really a shitty situation - but my parents tolerate eachother when need be and we all get by.