I recently posted about my age, 27, asking if people still consider it young or getting old. I guess part of the reason that I feel this way is because I'm single and live with my parents still. In some ways it makes me feel older, like I'm a total failure at my age not even having lived on my own yet. I think when I look at it from that perspective, 27 seems not young anymore cuz I haven't even accomplished the most basic of steps into adulthood, independence.
Basically, to explain this, my early 20's I was in school, but then left because I didn't know what I wanted to do with my life. I spent my early to mid-20s bouncing around jobs because without a degree I could not land even a half-way decent job. Everythign I was able to find was either overnight, extremely physical, or paid terribly. Not only were those jobs nothing that had opportunity for advancement, but I saw no chance of living a decent life with the overnight hours. That's not even throwing in how little job security there is with a no-skill labor job. Whether or not every job in the world has little job security, you are like 10 times more replaceable when you are doing no-skill labor.
I decided at 26 that I wanted to go back to school and finish my degree. A big part of that came from when I hurt my shoulder at work and realized that I can't really do physical work long-term because my shoulder still hurts now even after a year since the injury. For the past year I have been doing college, and hope to be done by about 29 1/2 ( 2 years from now) at the latest. The only problem is that because I am not working full-time beacuse I'm in school full-time, I can't afford to live out on my own. I'm not big on the roomate thing, so I would only really want to move out if I could afford something for myself, which isn't possible on a part-time wage. I have considered taking out larger student loans to get a place, but I have to pay all that back at the end. I haven't ruled that out yet because I don't wanna be single for the next 2 years cuz no girl will date a guy that lives with his mom and dad.
I guess my main question for the girls on here is, would you be understanding to this situation or would you say "no way" to dating an adult in his late 20's still living at home with his folks? I guess it is sad and seems irresponsible, but I am doing it hoping that with a degree I'll have a better life later on. I mean what sounds better: getting out on my own at 30 with a good career, or getting out on my own now and spending 40 years working dead end, low paying jobs just so that I could have a 4 or 5 extra years of independence in my 20's? I have listened to so many people in the past say how irresponsible it is to be living with your parents in your mid 20's, but I just don't see how it is wise to punish myself for the next 40 years with terrible jobs to get a few extra years out on my own now.
Basically, to explain this, my early 20's I was in school, but then left because I didn't know what I wanted to do with my life. I spent my early to mid-20s bouncing around jobs because without a degree I could not land even a half-way decent job. Everythign I was able to find was either overnight, extremely physical, or paid terribly. Not only were those jobs nothing that had opportunity for advancement, but I saw no chance of living a decent life with the overnight hours. That's not even throwing in how little job security there is with a no-skill labor job. Whether or not every job in the world has little job security, you are like 10 times more replaceable when you are doing no-skill labor.
I decided at 26 that I wanted to go back to school and finish my degree. A big part of that came from when I hurt my shoulder at work and realized that I can't really do physical work long-term because my shoulder still hurts now even after a year since the injury. For the past year I have been doing college, and hope to be done by about 29 1/2 ( 2 years from now) at the latest. The only problem is that because I am not working full-time beacuse I'm in school full-time, I can't afford to live out on my own. I'm not big on the roomate thing, so I would only really want to move out if I could afford something for myself, which isn't possible on a part-time wage. I have considered taking out larger student loans to get a place, but I have to pay all that back at the end. I haven't ruled that out yet because I don't wanna be single for the next 2 years cuz no girl will date a guy that lives with his mom and dad.
I guess my main question for the girls on here is, would you be understanding to this situation or would you say "no way" to dating an adult in his late 20's still living at home with his folks? I guess it is sad and seems irresponsible, but I am doing it hoping that with a degree I'll have a better life later on. I mean what sounds better: getting out on my own at 30 with a good career, or getting out on my own now and spending 40 years working dead end, low paying jobs just so that I could have a 4 or 5 extra years of independence in my 20's? I have listened to so many people in the past say how irresponsible it is to be living with your parents in your mid 20's, but I just don't see how it is wise to punish myself for the next 40 years with terrible jobs to get a few extra years out on my own now.
