In my time here at the TMF, I know that I have made many friends. I am also well aware that there are many people here who could care less if I leave or stay. In the past few months, I have not only bashed many of the people I care about here, but I have posted many hateful and flat-out ignorant statements...Of course, I have done so many times on the TMF. I have had a problem for the past handful of years that basically boils down to this: I am having problems letting things in the past go. This has turned me into an Angry person. I get angry about things I know I do not have the power to change...and I get angry for no reason many times. I am now finally starting to work through these issues. I am now starting to do quite possibly the hardest thing I have ever had to do; Find Myself...Find out who I really am inside. I want to say that I am truly sorry to People like ShiningIce, siamese dream, Mimi, BigJim and so many others that I have offended. Hopefully soon I will be a new person. Thanks for your time.
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Finding Yourself
- Thread starter Krokus
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Krokus said:
And there was me thinking I was the only one........🙄
K, don't worry about being human. Be positive about being super-human. The first sign of that, is when you realise something is wrong. You did and you've started fixing it. Too few people manage to reach that stage and even fewer have the courage to openly admit it. You did...feel proud.😉
Damn, Krokus. Props t'ya, man. Gotta respect a man that finds a fault and calls it. Double bonus if ya fix it, too. We're here, regardless, and while I'll dig ya more wit'out the anger, I'm glad you're here at all. Ain't like a body can't simply reply to the anger. It just ain't a lot of fun, y'know?
If you're good now, you're about to be that much better. Respect t'ya, man. Hope ya do well at findin' what y'like about yourself. From what I see, there's definitely stuff there, and I'm only seein' the TYPIN'. If I can spot some, there's gotta be more beyond the net.
dvnc
If you're good now, you're about to be that much better. Respect t'ya, man. Hope ya do well at findin' what y'like about yourself. From what I see, there's definitely stuff there, and I'm only seein' the TYPIN'. If I can spot some, there's gotta be more beyond the net.
dvnc
Now THAT's what I call a REAL Man!
Krokus...You da man!
You've bared your soul. And you're working on making amends. That took an incredible amount of courage.
It's ok to show vulnerability, that shows strength.
It's ok to grow, that shows courage.
And it's ok to open your heart, that shows love.
Enjoy Living! How Sweet It Is!
Krokus...You da man!
You've bared your soul. And you're working on making amends. That took an incredible amount of courage.
It's ok to show vulnerability, that shows strength.
It's ok to grow, that shows courage.
And it's ok to open your heart, that shows love.
Enjoy Living! How Sweet It Is!
grippedchimp
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Good on you for admitting your faults. At least we know where we all stand. That said, it's good to release that pent-up aggression sometimes. You're a young man like myself, so it's natural to be bitter and angry sometimes, but be man enough to say sorry.
Now finding yourself is a hard thing to do. But God did say: "Respect others as you would respect yourself." So be good to others. It got me far in life (though some people never appreciate my kindness).
Now finding yourself is a hard thing to do. But God did say: "Respect others as you would respect yourself." So be good to others. It got me far in life (though some people never appreciate my kindness).
Yes, but...
sometimes the answer to "Who am I?", is that you're an angry person. I've tried working through a similar "rage" problem, and when all was said and done, I find that I don't WANT to be "blah" about some subjects...it's just not ME! Therefore, I exist with what my wife calls an overdeveloped sense of justice, and I make it work and manage to function fairly well in general. To change for the sake of change may be to bury the very thing/person you're looking for..., but, then again, maybe you're actually another dvnc in the making! My 2 cents... Q
sometimes the answer to "Who am I?", is that you're an angry person. I've tried working through a similar "rage" problem, and when all was said and done, I find that I don't WANT to be "blah" about some subjects...it's just not ME! Therefore, I exist with what my wife calls an overdeveloped sense of justice, and I make it work and manage to function fairly well in general. To change for the sake of change may be to bury the very thing/person you're looking for..., but, then again, maybe you're actually another dvnc in the making! My 2 cents... Q
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Thanks Krokus...
I hope you'll feel better about everything. I haven't been great myself lately but I'll be okay, and I know you will too. Good luck to you with everything.
I hope you'll feel better about everything. I haven't been great myself lately but I'll be okay, and I know you will too. Good luck to you with everything.
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Seems to be the time of self discovery and introspection. I too am going through this. Being in school and learning about child development has been very demanding on me. I am not only learning about how children develop physically, cognitively and psycho socially. I am also learning about my own development in retrospect. I am seeing how and why I am what I am today and what I need to do to be what I aspire to be.
I am slowly becoming a self sufficient adult, which is not an easy task. I missed out on a lot of things children need to experience in order to become self sufficient.
I know that with time, practice and a solid support system, I can achieve my goals.
This is the reason I may seem to change a lot. I am in the ongoing process of learning who I am and to be the best ME I can be.
Good luck to all that are also in this process.
Jen
No one can truly and fully love us until we are able to truly and fully love ourselves.
I am slowly becoming a self sufficient adult, which is not an easy task. I missed out on a lot of things children need to experience in order to become self sufficient.
I know that with time, practice and a solid support system, I can achieve my goals.
This is the reason I may seem to change a lot. I am in the ongoing process of learning who I am and to be the best ME I can be.
Good luck to all that are also in this process.
Jen
No one can truly and fully love us until we are able to truly and fully love ourselves.
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ShiningIce
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I too am trying to find myself.
hey Krokus, you took a big step in realizing what is going on. many people never discover that, and that is what can lead to more problems. i hope you "find" yourself, and once you do, you will be a great human being. none of us are perfect. you have always been cool with me, and i wish you the best of luck. by your own statements, you are going to be just fine in life. always keep your head up!! plus, anyone who loves tickling HAS to be a good human being!!!!
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krokus
i too opened up to the group about personal problems that have been affecting me. i think you'll find nothing but support here on tmf.
i am like you, in that i can't let things go. i can't forgive and forget. i too am a passionate person. these qualities are a handi-cap at times, and make one an "angery person", but they are who we are. if you find a way to live life with out holding on to the sins of others from the past, please let me know, my wife has a lot to appologise for and has tried, but i just can accept.
steve
i too opened up to the group about personal problems that have been affecting me. i think you'll find nothing but support here on tmf.
i am like you, in that i can't let things go. i can't forgive and forget. i too am a passionate person. these qualities are a handi-cap at times, and make one an "angery person", but they are who we are. if you find a way to live life with out holding on to the sins of others from the past, please let me know, my wife has a lot to appologise for and has tried, but i just can accept.
steve
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Boy, can I relate to that, Krokus! I used to be a real bitch! (Some would likely say that I still am at times...GUILTY!) Why? Because I had things I hadn't dealt with. I would excuse my actions and unkind words by saying that it was just my mood and I couldn't change my mood. One day, I realized something.
As long as I was unaware that there was something that needed to be dealt with, I really wasn't totally responsible for my actions. Once I realized that there WAS stuff that needed to be dealt with, I became responnsible...not only to change my actions, but to deal with those things. It's a tough thing to do at times. But, the struggle pays off. Hang in there. Know that you have others who are willing to listen and support you. Just be patient with yourself.
Ann
As long as I was unaware that there was something that needed to be dealt with, I really wasn't totally responsible for my actions. Once I realized that there WAS stuff that needed to be dealt with, I became responnsible...not only to change my actions, but to deal with those things. It's a tough thing to do at times. But, the struggle pays off. Hang in there. Know that you have others who are willing to listen and support you. Just be patient with yourself.
Ann
