Big Jim:
You were well within your rights. It was obvious that the guy wasn't getting the hint. Drunk or not it was uncomfortable for you to tolerate it any longer after a few times, and you did what you had to do. If that were me, he would get more than a shove, I guarantee you. As Dave2112 said earlier, a simple "no thanks" should be enough, and that is all that is necessary. that is assuming that the person coming on will not take any additional steps or be more persistent.
One time I was hit on. I was about 18 at the time. I was at the bar trying to get a drink and a guy was eyeing me. When I noticed him looking at me, I asked "can I help you"? Well, he walked over to me and said "gee, you're big" (I was wearing a T shirt with the sleeves cut off )then he offered to buy me a drink. I gave the stock "no, thank you" and that was the end of it. I didn't talk to him the rest of the night eventhough I passed him several times after.
One thing I want to touch on is how homosexuality is used in conversation. I do not consider myself homophobic. I have friends that are gay, as I mentioned earlier in the thread, and I respect them as much as my straight friends. I even had a gay room mate after college. He didn't come anywhere near crossing the line with me. When he came out of the closet, I admired him immensely and our friendship became even better than it was. Anyway, getting back to my point, does anybody think that they are homophobic because you make homosexual references when you are putting somebody down or making a dig at somebody? My position is NO. I think you have to choose who you say it to, though. Obviously you wouldn't say it to a gay person because that is disrespectful to them. However, if you say it to a stright person you don't like or want to put in his or her place, you do it with the intention of annoying THAT person and nobody else. You know a remark like that is going to get under their skin.
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