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Getting some stuff off my chest

Just read through this and my own thoughts pretty much echo TropicThunders.

Wow. An enthralling read, entertaining, amusing and ignorant in equal measures. I just cannot get my head round the fundental flaw of someone who is planning to launch a women-friendly website having absolutely no concept of the word friendly. I'm all for healthy debate and respecting difference of opinion, but when you make your point in such an abrasive manner any valid points you do have become worthless.

Hopefully when you've had your break and the time comes for you to revisit the site you'll have grown up a bit and find some of the things you've posted more than a little embarrassing to yourself. I can honestly say that some of the over opinionated shite I posted on here when I was younger makes me cringe now. Don't worry though, as you get a little older and wiser you'll become more tolerant of other peoples opinions, realise most issues aren't black and white and actually enter into a debate accepting the possibility that by listening you could even alter your own opinion rather than use the debate as a soapbox to repeat the same entrenched beliefs and mantras.

And another thing, the concept of standing up for womans rights, beliefs and liberties means absolutely nothing if you can't respect and be tolerant of women as individuals first.
 
haha brilliant! sometimes, when i see long threads like this one i skip to the last page and just read the comments there. then i fill in my own blanks. whatever this thread was about the guy fucked up baaad huh? if i had more attention span id find out whats goin on...
 
blootwentytoo said:
These are just some thoughts, the beginning of what I'm hoping to turn into something really grand and wonderful. I know I'll get backlash, and that's ok - that always happens when someone tries to instigate change.

Lately I've come to the conclusion that it is really important for me to start taking pride in my sexuality, and to be as open about it as possible. My entire life, like most of us, I've kept my sexuality in the shadows. I wanted desperately to keep this private. I saw it as sort of hinderence, something sort of embarrassing. I would try to fool myself into thinking that it wasn't a big deal. Something I could do on the side, something I didn't have to confront, soemthing I could ignore. I didn't see it as a legitimate way of life. I'm really beginning to believe that it is not possible for me to have a relationship that is not based on tickling, as tickling is my sexuality.

I want to turn this fetish into a legitimate way of life.

The community, as it stands now, does not contribute to that. It treats tickling as a deviance, and something that cannot be a significant and legitimate part of the basis for one's whole life. It treats its members, not as multi-dimensional people, but as out of control sex drives, independent of any other facet of life.

Like the gay community before the days of stonewall, we approach our sexuality as something separate from legitimate relationships, from our public life. We are focused on hook-ups. Not dating, not relationships, not marriage. We are not fully addressing or appreciating that this is our sexuality in the way that herterosexuality and homosexuality is, and that if we do not start to build relationships on it, we are depriving ourselves. lying to ourselves.

Most importantly, the community, and TMF especially as the main gathering place for people with our sexuality, is entirely focused on the instant sexual gratification of men. The ads that cover this site, every single subforum, the fact men largely outnumber women here, and the fact that most of the women who do post here are not ticklephiles but tickle-porn actresses, or tickle-prostitues, and that many of the men on here are tickle pimps, make that obvious.

For this reason I have never felt comfortable on this site. I know for a fact that many women ticklephiles feel the same as me. It is difficult to take pride in our sexuality when our community only ever degrades our sexuality. I think the nature of a tickle community that only exists to give men instant sexual gratification, not to mention commodifying women and not treating them as equal and respected members of this community, is setting us back as a people. and we are a people. this isn't a little kink that we have. this is who we are.

It's going to take me a very long time, but I am going to start my own women-friendly tickling forum, which will be focused on community. Women will not be commodified, demeaned, or disrespected. It will be a welcoming place of equality that speaks to women's experiences.

Equally as important, dating and relationships within the community will be encouraged. Tickle sessions, and hookups will be discouraged. escorts, professional dungeon parties, and such will be prohibited.

It might be years until i actually get around to this, but it will happen. It's tme for the tickle community to get out of the closet, the shadows, the gutter, and to start embracing tickling as something as legitimate as vanilla dating and marriage.
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Thank you, thank you, thank YOU. You have certainly said a mouthful and I agree whole-heartedly.
 
It's a waste of time to out yourself to the non-tickling community. You are not going to get more action and they will just look at you like you are weird.
 
I haven't posted much but I feel the need to chime in. I think the poster has a point. There is a reason why women don't come out here as much as men. In my experience here, it seems the only women that post are those that already have a significant other. If I'm wrong, I stand corrected. But, I suspect the biggest draw of this site is the clips section and I think that may turn off some women since they say, men are more visual. I would welcome a site that was more "women friendly". I think it would provide a forum where more men and women can meet. But, I do have to say that this site has gone a long way in helping me accept who I am.
 
But, I suspect the biggest draw of this site is the clips section and I think that may turn off some women since they say, men are more visual.
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This is a generalization and clearly wrong! I am a woman and I came here for the longest time just because of the clip section.

You can never please everybody!

Thank you, thank you, thank YOU. You have certainly said a mouthful and I agree whole-heartedly.
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Seriously? You might want to read again, especially the stuff that was written afterwards!
 
Nah... I like clips too.

Maybe it would be more accurate to say that some women are less open about it or that less women post about it?

I don't know, but I have a BIG clip collection, and I've made some myself. 😀
And my sisters have the BIGGEST porn collection! Good gracious!
 
Well said. I've seen much evidence of this and with few exceptions it is pretty dead-on accurate.
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I think what you guys are still caught in is the old-fashioned belief that women don't watch porn because we are...I don't know...too nice? 🙂 Same thing with ONS and a lot of sexual partners....it's fine and dandy if men do it, but WOMEN DON'T DO THAT! 🙂

Time to change your fantasies about women, guys! 🙂

I say, if you are open enough to visit a fetish forum, you aren't offended by porn! If you are, this is just not the right place for you!
 
Rhiannon, I think it's actually a good thing that women watch the clips too! Wasn't trying to generalize or offend.
 
Women don 't watch as much porn as men... Women are not checking out guys in the street like guys are checking out women... Womn rarely abduct men for sexual gratification ... I can see a pattern here.
 
tickler4u2 said:
Rhiannon, I think it's actually a good thing that women watch the clips too! Wasn't trying to generalize or offend.
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You weren't generalizing; you said 'some women'. That's right, some women are turned off by it, some aren't. The question is, what kind of women would you like to see around? 🙂

As I said before, you can never please everybody!
 
This is true. I did say "some". Actually, whether a woman watches the clips or not has no bearing whether I would be interested in her. That would be too superficial. 🙂
 
to me sex is a small but very important part of my life, and tickling is a small but very important part of my sex life. i realized to late how important tickling was to me. i fell in love and married a woman that is in not into fetishes or tickling at all. i will not get a divorce over a fetish (it is a fetish). so i settle for professional doms who are happy to give me what i want. nsa tickling, no more no less. i do it one or two times a year and am happy with that. just because i seek hook ups or sessions does not mean that i disrespect my mistresses at all, i have the utmost respect for them, as people, not as commodities. just because a relationship is compartmentalized does not mean it is devoid of respect. that said i would have been a lot smarter to realize how important tickling is to me and married someone who was more sexually compatable. settling for professional mistresses has it's drawbacks too. it is very difficult to find lee's and i like tickling as much as being tickled, not to mention the cost. i said all that to say i don't think you should bash the whole community for being who they are. they are just doing what they believe will bring them the the most happiness just like i am, and i hope they are happy. I also think it is a great idea to have a datesite where people accept there fetishes and recognize how important peoples fantasies are. i hope you are successfull, it could help a lot of people.
 
God bless "tickle prostitutes" and "tickle pimps"!

okay, i read the first page and posted. now that i have read the whole thing, i had no idea how ignorant and mean she was. i am confused as to whether she wanted to start a dating site for people with a tickle fetish or if she wanted to start a tickling abstinance until seriously involved movement. she also thought that all porn was degrading to women, and is upset that tickling media has become more sexual over the years. she also put tickling on par with being heterosexual or homosexual which is just weird to me. i am a heterosexual that likes tickling. how can tickling be the foundation of someones sexual identity?

i have been into tickling and exploring my own tickle fetish for about 15 years. i am 37 now. i have been reading this forum since it started and my first tickling video was a vhs of mary's tickle torture from magic touch back in 199?

my own fetish has become more sexual because i love when someone uses pleasure to make me lose control of my own body. tickling is definitely pleasure for me and you use sexual pleasure to let someone know that you are in complete control of there body by keeping them on the edge of orgasm without giving them a release. you can do the same thing by not stopping after they have had an orgasm even though that can be painfull.

i have found out that i love power play, being in control of anothers body and someone else being in control of mine, but i don't enjoy pain and suffering on any level by me or my partner. tickling and sexual stimulation fit the bill nicely.

myriad classified tickle fetish as either sensual or sadistic. i think alot of people are a mixture of the two. i love being tied up and tickled to an extreme degree but it is definitly pleasure, not suffering. being totally out of control of your own physical and even verbal reactions without experiencing pain is a sensation or experience that is unique and hard to produce if you haven't been bound and tickled and or sexualy stimulated. if anyone doesn't understand why tickling media has become more sexual over the years maybe that can shed some light. maybe not.

and last God bless "tickle prostitutes" and "tickle Pimps" (where are you guys?) I am a proud and unapologetic "tickle trick". i believe that if sex workers were treated on par with the concert artist who gave up the family life in order to practice an art, the quality of sex workers would go up and would benifit the client as well as the worker. i believe the bdsm comunity does alot better than ordinary prostitution (probably because bdsm is sexual but not really sex, and in america sex is still viewed as sinful and dirty, especially outside of marriage.) but even professional mistresses deserve alot more respect and admiration than they get. that said, any woman who is ready and willing to meet her partners needs as fully as a professional but with love can easily outclass anyone for hire, or hook up. which is what i thought was the purpose of the original post. now i just think she was a selfrighteous ass.

this thread tickled the hell out of me.
 
Wow...some people really need to get a life outside of the internet!
 
The thing is this troll should have been banned the moment she insulted female posters on this forum by calling them "tickle prostitutes and tickle pornstars" . I don't know if the admin/mods did follow up on this and ended up banning her . Personally I believe her account is probably still active here . And if its indeed that way , then she's a coward for going on another forum to bash this one .
 
Now that I checked up her recent posts , I am pretty confidant that she's not banned on this forum . A mod can correct me , if my opinion is wrong .
 
Well....let her be a crybaby. I don't really see the problem here despite, as I already said, she needs to get a life.
 
blootwentytoo said:
I think the nature of a tickle community that only exists to give men instant sexual gratification, not to mention commodifying women and not treating them as equal and respected members of this community, is setting us back as a people. and we are a people. this isn't a little kink that we have. this is who we are.
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I was always under the assumption that most of the women in here had a mind of their own and wasn't under the influence of men. In your statement you seem to be saying they have no say in how they are treated and are just mindless hookers for our enjoyment. in my opinion, you have just degraded them as much as you say men here do.
 
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