Guys: If You Want To Really Know Why Women Go For Bad Boys And Ignore You, Read This

[featherfingers]

The question on a lot of single guys' minds is, "Why do so many women go for bad boys when I would be so nice to them?" Maybe this article will help answer that question. And ladies, I'd like you to read this, too, and tell us if you agree or disagree with the author. Maybe being a nice guy isn't such a good idea after all...

http://www.datingtipformen.com/lp/sexual_body_language

 

[Flatfoot]

I've read stuff like this before, in Maxim. It's all pretty good advice that basically centers around getting women to respect you. If you want someone to be interested in you, it's pretty important that they respect you. Otherwise, human nature will have them walk all over ya.

 

[dskodj]

That is actualy very very ineresting and soooo true 100%! All that stuff I honestly say I have to agree with from my experiences in the past.

 

[AquaFeline]

Nice guys make the best boyfriends. Unfortunately most people associate nice with a lack of self confidence. Even if there is a lack of self confidence I find it almost never has any correlation to the actual worth of a person. This article is saying that most women take men at their face value (ie if they present themselves as having no worth, they are worthless) and says that they should act more confidently. I dig this but I sure hope that most women would be able to see beyond.

 

[featherfingers]

This article is saying that most women take men at their face value (ie if they present themselves as having no worth, they are worthless) and says that they should act more confidently. I dig this but I sure hope that most women would be able to see beyond.

I agree with you AquaFeline that self-confidence is very important. Nobody wants to be with someone (male or female) who is a downer to be with because they lack self-confidence or are a sad sack all of the time.

Where do women draw the line between confidence and arrogance, though? I worked with a guy who was totally convinced that he was God's gift to women. He told me, "Frank, women would rather be with me because I have that look that will guarantee they'll have beautiful children"... I don't remember what he said verbatim but it was along those lines. I never met such a self obsessed person like him before. Would women consider a guy like that a catch?

 

[steph]

No f'ing way is this jackass a catch, unless you're into catching boneheads. I went thru a brief embarassing shallow period (around age 21) where I wouldn't date a guy unless he was and/or looked like an actor or a model. I saw the light when one guy, a part time soap actor and a stripper put his roid enraged head thru the bathroom mirror during a "bad hair day." 🙄 Aqua's right, nice guys make the best boyfriends. Only little girls like guys who treat them like crap, no matter what they look like.

XOXO

I worked with a guy who was totally convinced that he was God's gift to women. He told me, "Frank, women would rather be with me because I have that look that will guarantee they'll have beautiful children"... I don't remember what he said verbatim but it was along those lines. I never met such a self obsessed person like him before. Would women consider a guy like that a catch?

 

[featherfingers]

No f'ing way is this jackass a catch, unless you're into catching boneheads. I went thru a brief embarassing shallow period (around age 21) where I wouldn't date a guy unless he was and/or looked like an actor or a model. I saw the light when one guy, a part time soap actor and a stripper put his roid enraged head thru the bathroom mirror during a "bad hair day." 🙄 Aqua's right, nice guys make the best boyfriends. Only little girls like guys who treat them like crap, no matter what they look like.

XOXO

Thanks for confirming what I already suspected... that guy was pretty vain and arrogant. I appreciate your story, too, Steph.

I remember back in the 1980s, I was hanging around these 'bad boy' friends of mine and they told me that if I wanted to meet more women, I'd have to stop being such a nice guy. So, I put on my most arrogant act and set out to treat women like those friends did... after an hour, I felt like such a phony that I just went back to being me and realized that there was nothing wrong with me... it was those jokers I was associating with and the dimwit ladies who lusted after them that had the problems.

 

[steph]

Yep Frankie~that nightmare period for me took part in the 80s too(shudders now at the vain jackass I was in those days...)I went after guys like that because I could land them and I knew it. It became like this challenge to win over the hottest looking guy in the room~99% of the time I pulled it off, although I'm no supermodel. What is the saying? "Beauty is only skin deep but ugly is to the bone..."

I had the twisted theory that if a guy who looked like that wanted me, I must be valuable...🙄 Took me awhile to wake up and thank God I did...

XOXO

 

[featherfingers]

What is the saying? "Beauty is only skin deep but ugly is to the bone..." I had the twisted theory that if a guy who looked like that wanted me, I must be valuable...🙄 Took me awhile to wake up and thank God I did...

XOXO

The 80s awakened me to my own value as a person... the 90s screwed me up all over again, but only the first couple of years of that decade.

Talk about a wuss... I worked with all of these pretty waitresses. I had a beard at the time, and if one of the girls told me, "You'd look better clean shaven", I'd walk in to work the next day beard free... only to hear a different girl tell me, "You look better with facial hair." I grew the beard back. Talk about wishy washy. I was tempted to leave one half of my face clean shaven and leave the beard on the other half so I'd have the best of both worlds. My supervisors wouldn't have gone for that.

I have a goatee now and I'm very happy with the way I look, thank you. But like Steph said, it's all down to what the person is like on the inside that counts... I finally like who I am in that regard, too.

 

[maniactickler]

Steph, would you go out with a guy like me? even though i look like mel gibson.....................after a car wreck! :O

 

[chrisheaven]

IMO it begins with self respect and moves on from there

 

[featherfingers]

IMO it begins with self respect and moves on from there

That's right, Chrisheaven. When you value who you are other people can see that and are attracted to that... depending on how they feel about themselves, of course. I've heard that how you feel about yourself can be felt by others, even before a single word has been exchanged... sort of like a vibe. It goes above and beyond physical appearance.

Love your signature photo, by the way!

 

[chrisheaven]

Thanks , Frankie
Yes- absolutely-- your thoughts do indeed create your reality

 

[Cav88]

Gosh, and I always thought it was because women liked being treated like crap. 🙄

 

[Neutron]

I've Never Been Ignored..

What's it feel like?

Tron

 

[steph]

LOL~the older I get, the less someone's looks matter to me...

XOXO

Steph, would you go out with a guy like me? even though i look like mel gibson.....................after a car wreck! :O

 

[featherfingers]

LOL~the older I get, the less someone's looks matter to me...

XOXO

You're one in a million then, Steph... in more ways than one.

 

[steph]

(batting long black eyelashes...)
So they tell me, Honeybuns!😉

XOXO

PS~I call it growing up!!😀

 

[featherfingers]

(batting long black eyelashes...)
So they tell me, Honeybuns!😉
XOXO
PS~I call it growing up!!😀

Does that mean the 20-somethings who won't give me the time of day will adore me when they hit 40? By then I'll be... older!

 

[steph]

Yep! 😀

XOXO

PS~Actually probably more like 30s I'd think, BTW...

 

[Dr. Bill Kobb]

How cum?

 

[steph]

That's when I started seeing things differently, more clearly I think, when I hit around 30...I guess it's different for everybody~ I do have a little friend, sort of a surrogate daughter, who's 20 and incredibly mature...I can't wait to see who she turns out to be!

XOXO

 

[Knox The Hatter]

That's when I started seeing things differently, more clearly I think, when I hit around 30...I guess it's different for everybody~ I do have a little friend, sort of a surrogate daughter, who's 20 and incredibly mature...I can't wait to see who she turns out to be!

XOXO

I have a surrogate nephew who's 24, insecure, wishy washy, and as gullible as could possibly be imagined, and the only time a woman ever looks at him is if there's a chance they could rip him off. He has no idea just what Self Worth is, and if you talk to him, it goes in one ear and out the other. He just gave three large to a female friend of his to move in with her, and every other day, she's losing her temper with him, telling him to find other lodgings for the night, and he scampers off, she tells him that the landlord's a Christian with reservations about males being with unmarried females. He has a sign over his head that says, "take my bank account, please!" He's not listening.

I've said this many times...when you learn to love yourself, it's easier for someone else to love you, too. When you believe in yourself, others will believe in you, too. The opposite sex senses desperation within a second or two, and even at distances. No matter how you present it, desperation's a quicker strikeout than anyone wearing a Mets uniform.

Be yourself, no matter what. No one likes a phony.

 

[steph]

I agree with 100% of this Knox!

XOXO

 

[Knox The Hatter]

Thanks, Steph, it gives me a good feeling! 😛