How come I only find psycho girls to date me?

[Imlatino]

So I am not real big on the whole dating thing. But my only girlfriends have been like complete psychos.

The most recent of them was a complete liar/weirdo/psycho. Stalked my friend :/ when I told her it was over, she would not leave me alone, I literally had to call her, cuss her out and told her to stop calling me and she finally does...

My first girlfriend was okay but I didn't like her very much, more of like a friend. We were set up on dates. Now she is a weirdo/*****.. She solicits acts of sex online and shit man..

I wonder what if it about me that attracts crazy women? Why can't I date a normal girl.



Do women care a lot about good looks/body? Is that why I only attract the crazies?


aaaaaaaaaagh!

 

[Dax]

So I am not real big on the whole dating thing. But my only girlfriends have been like complete psychos.

The most recent of them was a complete liar/weirdo/psycho. Stalked my friend :/ when I told her it was over, she would not leave me alone, I literally had to call her, cuss her out and told her to stop calling me and she finally does...

My first girlfriend was okay but I didn't like her very much, more of like a friend. We were set up on dates. Now she is a weirdo/*****.. She solicits acts of sex online and shit man..

I wonder what if it about me that attracts crazy women? Why can't I date a normal girl.


Do women care a lot about good looks/body? Is that why I only attract the crazies?


aaaaaaaaaagh!

In my experience, yes. Women care a lot about good looks. But it's easy to fix. Like just a few months in the gym, basically. And avoiding too much fast food.

It's not that difficult. The next time you really want to eat something bad for you, think about some hot chick you'd really like to tickle. Pretend she's right there, and then ask yourself which you'd prefer: the whopper or the hot chick.

Oh, and dress better, if you can.

 

[Aimee]

do GIRLS only like good looks/good body?
do GIRLS?

oh puhlease.
guys are so much more into good looks and a good body then girls are!

girls generally go for personality while guys generally just go looks.
it's true and you know it.

 

[GQguy]

The people you surround yourself with are a reflection of you. This is even more so when it comes to the women YOU pick to date.

Do women care a lot about good looks/body? Is that why I only attract the crazies?


aaaaaaaaaagh!

I'm not sure what you mean as it relates to you. Do you mean you date crazy girls because they like good looks/body and you do? Or that you can't finnd a normal girl because they only like good look/body and you don't have that?

Either way most women ALL THINGS BEING EQUAL would take a better looking guy over a not so good looking guy. Unless they have esteem issues of some sort."A good looking guy couldn't possibly stay faithful to me" "I can't keep up with him, it's too much pressure to compete with his options" ect.

Anyway

GQ

 

[rhiannon]

Of course, good looks help - but only at first. If you learn to know someone better, looks tend to become unimportant. Most women look for a guy who makes them feel special.

 

[LD_Tickler]

do GIRLS only like good looks/good body?
do GIRLS?

oh puhlease.
guys are so much more into good looks and a good body then girls are!

girls generally go for personality while guys generally just go looks.
it's true and you know it.

Shenanigans times infinity. I've seen enough women act as shallow and looks-oriented as can be to convince me that the whole "women care more than men about personality" is a total fallacy.

I'll agree that maybe women are more willing than men to look to other, redeeming qualities when the looks aren't there, but appearance is still right up there on the priority list.

 

[BlackestLily]

Well, I'd closely examine someone before you actually agree to be solid. If you find women who are very loud and outspoken, live in emotional extremes, and react to relatively low key situations like Armageddon just happened, chances are higher she will react in a much more extreme way when you call the relationship off. And I'm not sure why you're keeping close tabs on the sexual habits of your exes, but I wouldn't really concern yourself with that anymore.

As for women seeking guys who take care of their bodies, I fail to see the correlation between women who like guys who do that, versus those that don't care. Crazies are there, no matter their preference.

 

[Dax]

Shenanigans times infinity. I've seen enough women act as shallow and looks-oriented as can be to convince me that the whole "women care more than men about personality" is a total fallacy.

I'll agree that maybe women are more willing than men to look to other, redeeming qualities when the looks aren't there, but appearance is still right up there on the priority list.

This.

 

[Dax]

Well, I'd closely examine someone before you actually agree to be solid. If you find women who are very loud and outspoken, live in emotional extremes, and react to relatively low key situations like Armageddon just happened, chances are higher she will react in a much more extreme way when you call the relationship off. And I'm not sure why you're keeping close tabs on the sexual habits of your exes, but I wouldn't really concern yourself with that anymore.

As for women seeking guys who take care of their bodies, I fail to see the correlation between women who like guys who do that, versus those that don't care. Crazies are there, no matter their preference.

Very good advice here.

 

[mysterion]

The people you surround yourself with are a reflection of you. This is even more so when it comes to the women YOU pick to date.

This is the best advise you can get. These girls are just an internal state of your mind set.I had similar problems surrounding myself with abusive, dominant women and I had no idea why I attracted these kinds of energies. I eventually traced it back to having an abusive mother and realized when I was around these type of women I associated it with feeling loved. I learned to forgive my mothers actions and as a result I no longer attract undesirable women. Not saying this is your problem, just giving an opinion.

 

[GQguy]

This is the best advise you can get. These girls are just an internal state of your mind set.I had similar problems surrounding myself with abusive, dominant women and I had no idea why I attracted these kinds of energies. I eventually traced it back to having an abusive mother and realized when I was around these type of women I associated it with feeling loved. I learned to forgive my mothers actions and as a result I no longer attract undesirable women. Not saying this is your problem, just giving an opinion.

^^^said far better than I could ever say it. I'm with you man.

GQ

 

[alchemy]

So I am not real big on the whole dating thing. But my only girlfriends have been like complete psychos.

The most recent of them was a complete liar/weirdo/psycho. Stalked my friend :/ when I told her it was over, she would not leave me alone, I literally had to call her, cuss her out and told her to stop calling me and she finally does...

My first girlfriend was okay but I didn't like her very much, more of like a friend. We were set up on dates. Now she is a weirdo/*****.. She solicits acts of sex online and shit man..

I wonder what if it about me that attracts crazy women? Why can't I date a normal girl.



Do women care a lot about good looks/body? Is that why I only attract the crazies?


aaaaaaaaaagh!

I'm right there with you, brother. I've dated PLENTY of psychos. I had a girl break up with me once because she told me that I was a demon in human form that was sent to earth to take her away from the light of God.
True Story.

Hang in there

 

[alchemy]

Maybe this will help a bit

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[Snail Shell]

Hindsight is always 20/20. I'm sure none of these women were psycho while you were dating them.

Also, are you dating locally, by chance? I just looked up Katy, TX and unless King of the Hill has lied to me, a Texan town of 11,000 that imports all its tap water doesn't seem like the premier hot bed for eligible bachelorettes in the known universe.

Snail Shell

 

[rhiannon]

Shenanigans times infinity. I've seen enough women act as shallow and looks-oriented as can be to convince me that the whole "women care more than men about personality" is a total fallacy.

I'll agree that maybe women are more willing than men to look to other, redeeming qualities when the looks aren't there, but appearance is still right up there on the priority list.

The whole truth is, a well-filled bank account will make us look through any uglyness there might be!

 

[Imlatino]

haha yea. For now I will try to just make friends and make sure they are not crazy lol.

 

[socktickler86]

do GIRLS only like good looks/good body?
do GIRLS?

oh puhlease.
guys are so much more into good looks and a good body then girls are!

girls generally go for personality while guys generally just go looks.
it's true and you know it.

I'm flying my BS flag on this.

Both sexes are full of it. The difference is that a typical guy doesn't care about personality. However, a typical girl cares about personality but looks come first. I've been close to many girls in my years and whenever they say they're attracted to someone, it's because of their looks. You never see a so so looking guy with a great personality get many dates.

 

[unclebill]

Get a puppy. You`ll find them much more sane than women.

 

[Artoo]

...a normal girl

What's one of them, then?

 

[Em Es]

Imlatino

I've been a flop with girls my whole life and of the handful with whom the attraction was mutual, half of them were nuts.

My main problem was that I made myself too available. Were I not so eager to please, I might have swung a few fence-sitters over to my side. Having more sane girls who liked me might have improved my judgment, so perhaps I would have avoided the nutcases I dated.

Of course, I'll never know. But even if playing it cool did not result in one extra date, having the dignity I lacked would have paid off at least in terms of self-respect. Women do the choosing anyway, so why chase one who isn't meeting you halfway?

Read. Exercise. Work harder at your job or in school. Volunteer. I wish I'd done more of all that and less of trying to meet women who weren't trying to meet me. Instead I was the kind of guy a girl would have to be crazy to date.

 

[usgrant]

They probably aren't really psychos but you have little tolerance for people that are different from you... mind you, this is coming from someone who thinks everybody is fucking crazy.

 

[TickVix]

LOL, don't lose hope. I think statistically speaking there are more "normal" people in the world than psychos lol. So you're bound to encounter one.

 

[WorkInProgress]

There's one kind of woman you'll attract when you're urgently looking for a woman to date, and another kind of woman you'll attract when you're contented with being single and celibate and aren't worried about whether you meet a woman or not.

 

[GQguy]

There's one kind of woman you'll attract when you're urgently looking for a woman to date, and another kind of woman you'll attract when you're contented with being single and celibate and aren't worried about whether you meet a woman or not.

Brilliant!!

 

[WorkInProgress]

Thanks, my friend.