How do you define love? :)

[Ticklemmmeeeeee]

Natural tickler wrote:
Love is sharing, caring, committment

Love is two souls, coming together as one

yet remaining your own person....I think it's important to our well being and essential to the relationship to maintain that which we possess of ourselves after you are sharing yourself with another...i.e., I think if you have to give up your interests and friends to be with someone they don't love you for who you are but are trying to change you into what they need you to be...I know, I suck the fun and romance out of everything...give me a moment and I'll ruin it...lol

Love is flowers for no reason, saying "I love you" just because;

where I come from receiving flowers for "no reason" always indicates a reason....I have always felt that everyone has an agenda.....how sad is that?....~sigh

Love is just being an ear to listen and not a problem solver

Love is tenderly soothing an individual after a long stressful day

and......what about the foot massage???...lol


Love is keeping a smile on someone's face, while they are trying too hard to stay mad/upset

the occasional poke and squeeze will usually get even the most stubborn female giggling in spite of the fact that she maintains she is not ready to not be mad yet and you can't make her laugh....hypothetically speaking of course....dooo dut dooo...lol

Love is sleeping on the floor after she kicks you out the bed

I say kick her back and take whatever spot you want!!!...j/k...lol

Love is telling her all the things she wants to hear....until...well, you know

until umm...she says...."Stop telling me things I want to hear!!!!"...lol

Love is keeping the toilet seat down for her

Did I say enough, TM???

yep🙂🙂


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[giantfan121262]

I am assuming in light of the eloquence with which you stated the remainder of your post that you're expressing a deep desire to be with rather than without that person...not that ones life is not worth living if not with any one person ...your thoughts are beautifully expressed 🙂[/COLOR] [/B][/QUOTE]

Thank you

I assure you I don't mean it in the literal sense. I am merely expressing my intense desire to be with that person.

I would also like to add that love is also accepting the person for who he or she is, not what you want him or her to be. You have to be willing to accept the shortcomings as well as the strengths. Taking the bad with the good, so to speak.

 

[giggleygirl25]

Love is that thing that comes up and whaps ya in the face when you're not looking....especially when you're not actively looking for it, i've had alot of friends tell me that it'll show up when i least expect it and that if i don't go looking for it, it'll show up on my door....not sure if that's true, but ehhh since anything is...i guess that is

 

[Mischief]

Love is kind of like pornography. I can't define it clearly for you, but I sure know it when I see it. 😉

To be honest, I think trying to "define" love robs it of a lot of its power and beauty, so I don't typically bother any more. Here are some random observations, however, about love:

There are many different kinds of love, some are fleeting, while others endure forever. I think love frequently requires adjectives to clarify which kind of love we are talking about.

People talk about love far too often, in my opinion. "I love your new haircut", "I love my car", "I love my job", etc. Personally, I think using the word that often cheapens it's true meaning. And don't even get me started on phrases such as: "I love you, but I'm not in love with you."

Hollywood seems to talk an awful lot about love, which is funny when you think about it. After all, outside of Jessica Tandy and Hugh Cronin, can you name a single Hollywood couple that stayed together their entire life?

Love is what makes sacrifice possible. For example, doing without something that you want so your love can finish college. You believe and trust that when the time to reciprocate comes around, that they will be around and willing to do so because they love you. No contracts or paperwork, just trust and faith.

 

[milagros317]

Originally posted by Mischief (most deleted)
Love is kind of like pornography. I can't define it clearly for you, but I sure know it when I see it. 😉

It's easy to define pornography. 😀

Pornography (noun) Material created with the intention that people will use it to inspire themselves to masturbate.

 

[Knox The Hatter]

"Hollywood seems to talk an awful lot about love, which is funny when you think about it. After all, outside of Jessica Tandy and Hugh Cronin, can you name a single Hollywood couple that stayed together their entire life?"

Good point, Miz...but I can come up with an even better long term example: Paul Newman and Joanne Woodward. I mean, Hume Cronyn and Jessica Tandy could never claim to be sex symbols...

 

[Mischief]

Good point, Miz...but I can come up with an even better long term example: Paul Newman and Joanne Woodward. I mean, Hume Cronyn and Jessica Tandy could never claim to be sex symbols...

Well, that and Paul Newman and Joanne Woodward are still (to the best of my knowledge) alive and kicking! Yours is a much better example.

 

[4Pawz]

This is one of those hard things to answer, mainly because it isn't necessarily a definition as you put it, but a sense of being, which is different for each person.

There's different levels and degrees of love. You have the unconditional, never going to change, love you have for a person you want to spend the rest of your life with. Which is the most complicated, and in my mind scary. I've felt this once in my life, and the feeling never goes away for the person, it's always there no matter what I do.

There's the unconditional love you feel for a friend. Someone you know you can always count on, and you can't wait to talk to and do things with. Ones you never lose contact with and want to be around forever.

There's the love for an object or a pasttime. Work, food, a hobby, etc.

Either way, the I think the word is definitely overused. I had a guy said he loved me after one date. I cannot love someone I don't know.

That is just my definitions. Others have different definitions and feelings toward it. Just remember that love and care are two different words 😉 Okay, lecture over, class dismissed

Pawz

 

[Ticklemmmeeeeee]

Krokus... I agree love is the most important thing we will ever experience in a lifetime....as far as not letting it go...unfortunately we only possess 50% of the power to achieve this but even when it's over we can continue to love whomever we wish...no one can ever take that away... 🙂 🙂

giantfan....you're welcome🙂

GG25...amusing description with the whapping of the head...lol..and I think you're absolutely correct about not looking for it...what is that saying?...hungry people make poor shoppers?...er something...lol...I , like you, am confident that when love is supposed to find us it will know where to look...perhaps it already has for me...who knows 🙂...and I have no doubt it will for you...how do I know this?...I don't of course but anyone so full of love has to attract it so I think as long as we treat ourselves and others well and keep our hearts full of love and not hatred we are ready as we will ever be to respond to love when it comes knocking...I just hope it doesn't decide to call me on the phone, I never pick up...lol...🙂 🙂

Mischief...you raise an interesting point...and 4pawz talks about this as well....the terminology of love is used so obscurely and intermittently and as you both point out...overused...additionally, think about how love can be used to define different expectations....i.e., the love we have for our pets does not invite a two sided growing relationship...we do not want our pets to evolve from being dependent upon us...we don't one day wish our dog will attach her own leash, walk herself, feed herself and move out into the world....but the love we have for humans is one of reciprocity as well as eventual autonomy in the case of a child and personal growth as a lover....interesting stuff this thing called love 🙂


Milagros...It is indeed easy to define pornography but who writes this theme music!?!?!?!??...what's up with the bow wow chica chica...or in the case of tickle porn...shall I say bow wow tickle tickle...lol

4pawz....I know exactly what you mean...the word is used so often and in so many trite ways it almost loses it's level of importance....people have told me they love me because I am into tickling....nothing is a faster turn off than to be loved for an interest rather than your character and the things about you that you value in yourself....thanks for good insight...

I'm really glad I started this thread...so many great viewpoints...thanks guys 🙂🙂

 

[BigBrownEyes]

I'm not sure that I can provide an adequate definition for love. All I can say is that I felt it for real once and it blew me away. Such an incredible feeling.

When I was in love, everything else seemed less important. I just didn't care so much about the trivial things that usually cluttered my mind and actions. I also began to face day-to-day encounters, and situations, with a new calmeness and confidence. It was as if a missing part of me was put into place. It also seemed like it was the end of a search. For awhile, I was able to carry out my others responsilities in much more focussed manner, like I wasn't looking for answers anymore. Maybe the simple answer is that if your personal life is good, then the overall quality of your life improves.

It didn't last, but I feel extremely lucky that was able to feel real love once.

 

[Neutron]

A Myth..

Tron

 

[Ticklemmmeeeeee]

BigBrowneyes... it is an unusually amazing feeling....~sigh

tron...I felt as u did once...and at times, even though I have been in love deeply (only once) I still sometimes doubt the validity of what I had because I hate that I don't have it still ....it is real though....I pray for mankind that everyone feels it at least for one moment before they leave this world...

 

[TklDuo-Drew]

Pizza!


That's how I define it, anyway.


Drew

 

[JoBelle]

The first thing that pops to mind was mentioned by other here already. There are different kinds of love.

You may love your parents for the gifts they gave you....through good example or bad. It's generally the first love we all have and sets the tone for how we approach the next. We love our children with a power that I can't explain. It's the love for my child that makes me care about everything else when I might otherwise not. I won't even attempt to explain the power of that emotion.

I loovvve my new computer! 😉

But...

I have a couple of thoughts on the type of love that most are addressing here.

I've loved, and married that love. Still love him too. Might not be the best outcome in all aspects. But, he's the father of my little one and I love him for being a good dad...even when the other aspects of that love change. That's the power of that 4 letter word. It lets you see past the things that might stop your vision. It gives you soul-eyes as I like to call it.

Then there is new love. My personal favorite. It's that blessed moment when you realize that someone is so very important to you. That they've become a part of your world that you don't ever want to give up. You worry with them. You laugh with them. They are on your mind at odd moments. You want to tell them stories, while they interrupt yours with stories of their own. You want to know them...and know them...and know them. They can be a friend or a lover, or both. But something happened, and suddenely, you realize there is an abiding emotion there that can't be explained away. Deep down, you love them. And they have a place in your life. Is there anything better?
As much as I agree that one should not DEPEND on others for happines. I can say that experiencing true honest love once will make it damn near impossible to want to be happy without it. You can do it....but it bites! ;p
LOVE.
Good stuff that.
Joby

**Wondering where the heck that DVNC character is, given the topic. Probably lovin' on someone! What! What!**

 

[omega]

Love never gives up.
Love cares more for others than for self.
Love doesn't want what it doesn't have.
Love doesn't strut,
Doesn't have a swelled head,
Doesn't force itself on others,
Isn't always "me first,"
Doesn't fly off the handle,
Doesn't keep score of the sins of others,
Doesn't revel when others grovel,
Takes pleasure in the flowering of truth,
Puts up with anything,
Trusts God always,
Always looks for the best,
Never looks back,
But keeps going to the end.
Love never dies

1 Corinthians 13:4-8 (The Message)

 

[AphxA]

Love is a game that you females use to Torment me with...

 

[giggleygirl25]

hmmm i thought it was Sex that we used to Torment you AphxA...i'll have to go have a meeting with the other women and inform them about the change😉

 

[the_Baron]

its not sex or love that you taunt us with. its the spectre of a possible tickle session that keeps us flustered.

 

[crydun]

Love never gives up.
Love cares more for others than for self.
Love doesn't want what it doesn't have.
Love doesn't strut,
Doesn't have a swelled head,
Doesn't force itself on others,
Isn't always "me first,"
Doesn't fly off the handle,
Doesn't keep score of the sins of others,
Doesn't revel when others grovel,
Takes pleasure in the flowering of truth,
Puts up with anything,
Trusts God always,
Always looks for the best,
Never looks back,
But keeps going to the end.
Love never dies

1 Corinthians 13:4-8 (The Message)

absolutely beautiful Omega!!! Right on!!

"When Love Starts Talkin, you got no choice but to Shut UP and LISTEN, It's a Powerful Voice!

Love is Alive!!

Love is hard to find and harder to keep.

Ps: Everything that Knox said is true. He's a mega jewel of wisdom. Here's 2 other couples that stayed married their entire lives. Jimmy Stewart and his wife(Delores I think) Roy Rogers and Dale Evans

 

[pghtickleguy]

Love is such a wonderful thing. I believe I had it once. It was so mesmerizing and so real. I myself enjoyed there company all the time. Enjoyed how we could complete each others thoughts. She even liked being tickled!!!!!!!! The warm feeling that takes over you when you see there face or even say there name is incredible. When all that seems to matter in the world is the two of you and even the major life situations seem miniscule. That is how love felt to me. I do hope I can experience it again one day. To me there is no greater feeling.

 

[crydun]

I agree, pghtickleguy. There is no greater feeling. It's highly erotic. Until he dumps me and I get socked in the gut by reality again.


P.s: TM, I LOVVVVE that pink kitty!!!

 

[trepak]

Just read this yesterday

'Love: Another problem Marx didn't solve.'
by JEAN ANOUILH

 

[trepak]

But I can think of other definitions of course.....

Love: It's a trick of the brain. Something mother nature has given to us to guarantee the evolution of our species.

 

[Admiral Trouser]

Eh. Love is so highly over-rated. Don't get me wrong...its great and all, nice feeling, good times, possibly great sex too. Anythings possible, they say. But then again, nothing lasts, everyone says (and knows) that it sucks when love finishes and solipsism resumes, ergo...we're pretty much destined to have our hearts ripped out of our chests sooner or later.

*reads above*

Go me! I am AT's cynical meanness!

AT (and cynicism).

 

[Stitch62679]

Love

Love is purpose. For when we forget all we do with the day, all we've bought and collected, all we've built our lives around, all we've dreamed, and all we've grown, even all the little things, we are still left with that single purpose: to love.

Love is like seeing, don't forget to open your eyes.