How "into" tickling are you?

[larichmond]

I was talking with my boyfriend about our fetishes (I have a tickling fetish and he has a foot fetish), and he said that he thought my tickling fetish was particularly strong compared to his foot fetish.

He said that he likes feet, but he watches regular porn and he wouldn't say he gets his main sexual satisfaction from looking at feet. I, on the other hand, pretty exclusively watch tickle videos, read tickle fiction, or look at tickle art to get aroused. When my boyfriend and I are intimate, tickling is such a huge part of our activities; it's really important to me that tickling is included somewhere, or I won't be very satisfied.


So my question is.... am I "crazy obsessed" (my bf's words) with tickling? Or is this more typical among you all? Do you get your main sexual satisfaction/arousal from tickling, or is it more of a side thing? How often do you look at tickling media?

Let me know if this doesn't make sense, and I'll clarify. Thanks for reading! I look forward to your responses.

 

[knicks255]

Personally I'm...sort of into it. Like, I enjoy it, I'm on two forums about it, I like to talk about it with people, but it's not an enormous part of my personal life. I can get aroused or attracted to non-tickling things. I could live without it.

 

[Beckers1]

I could have a happy, healthy sexual relationship with a partner without any tickling whatsoever. I enjoy tickling but I don't need it by any means. Idealistically I would have it in my relationship but I wouldn't be with someone specifically because they share my fetish.

 

[TKLVR181]

You're not alone, larichmond. It's a big part of my life, and an embarrassingly big part of my thoughts. Though I should point out it's not necessarily a sexual thing for me, which I realize is something that makes me a bit different to most of us here. Tickling is often mostly about the attention and the thrill of a 'safe yet helpless' situation as a lee.

I claim a 'humiliation fetish', and it can be the typical humiliation fetish but sometimes it's more like just getting a huge kick out of being playfully embarrassed. That's a bigger part of my life than just the tickling thing because people, real and online, can (and do) fluster the heck out of me just for the hell of it. I get butterflies, blush, grin, and am usually in much better mood afterwards 😛 Tickling seems to be an offshoot of that for me.

Though as a 'ler, while often just playful, I can definitely get something of a kick out of it 😛

~K

 

[TheTickleMonster]

I would say I'm quite into tickling. I don't watch regular porn. I only watch tickling videos and I don't even really like the videos with the naked women getting tickled, I prefer them having clothes on... minimal clothing but still clothing. And I don't think I could date someone that isn't ticklish. Or I might have to find some tickling somewhere else... I love tickling, even if it's not sexual and just for fun or to show someone I love them so it's a big part of my life, even though I don't get to tickle people that often.

 

[TicklishBlackGuy]

I have to agree, i would love it to be a big part of my life. I can't see myself living without it at all. Especially if i get in a relationship I would want someone to share in that same feeling I have

 

[Critical Kai]

I think it's pretty important to me. I don't necessarily obsess over it and it isn't a part of my everyday life. But it's my only notable fetish and I generally find myself aroused by it over other things.

 

[Lurker]

I have a foot fetish, and I'm pretty much only attracted to feet. I guess a nice face is a welcome addition, but I have to admit, I don't have any natural attraction to any other parts of the body, including the chest.

 

[Kame1]

For me the foot and tickle fetish are extreme important parts of my sexual fantasies. I don't really watch normal porn videos if they don't have at least a little focus on the feet. And I absolutely love good tickling artwork (either 2D or 3D).
I don't necessarily need the tickling because I also enjoy massaging and caressing feet, and I also don't necessarily need the feet when someone enjoys to be tickled on their upperbody. But without any of those two options it might be not arousing for me at all ^^

(I hope somebody understood what I meant because my english kinda sucks today xD)

 

[chicag0]

I think it's "obsessive" when it starts negatively affect your life. This doesn't necessarily mean if someone you're dating doesn't like it, you're automatically obsessed. But I mean, if you're late to work cuz you're flicking the bean to tickle porn, or you don't spend any time with your friends / family, cuz you're too busy gettin ticklin in, etc.

I'm probably obsessed in some peoples minds because I am very active in the community, go to gatherings, etc. But to me, that's normal.

 

[MistressValerie1]

I like tickling, but I usually think of it as an added bonus to my love life rather than the main attraction.

 

[tickle_fan031]

Tickling is a fairly big part of my life. It enters my thoughts a lot. I think that could maybe be because it is rare for me to actually be tickled so I find myself daydreaming a lot. I go through phases of seeking tickling media. Depends if my daydreams and chats with online tickle friends have been enough for me to get my fix. That said it doesn't interfere with my normal everyday life. I stay up late sometimes stupidly late just to chat to people in different time zones but that isn't always just because I want to talk tickling. My mood also depends on how much I crave it. If I'm feeling down then I crave it more.
However I share Beckers' view that if I ever find my Mr Right then he does not have to share my fetish nor would I expect him to like it because I want him to. If he was into it then I'd see it as a bonus. it might mean the odd playful tickle here and there like most couples do outside of the tickling world and that would suit me fine. My tickle fetish comes second. I've experienced that with my best friend who I told that I liked to be tickled. When I asked her to tickle me she did on and off for a few years. After a long spell of her not tickling me I asked her again and she said it made her feel uncomfortable. That was the last thing I wanted and her friendship meant far more to me than the tickling did. Sometimes I miss it but I don't hold it against her. We just carried on as normal.
I'm part of the minority were tickling isn't sexual for me. Mainly because I've been tickled by female friends and family so I think I would've found it too weird and more awkward if I did get turned on by it. It's playful but with bondage. But I imagine that it could be sexual with the right guy that I loved and was in a great relationship with him.
I'm also similar to Karen in the sense that I enjoy the playful humiliation that comes with tickling. There are times I crave that more than tickling. I love being teased about how ticklish I am and my reactions to being tickled etc(which is applicable whilst I'm being tickled or chatting with online tickle friends that I've met and had sessions with). I'm easily flustered so it doesn't take much for me to get butterflies but I love that. I don't like it in any other situation though it is only relevant to tickling.

 

[CellarDweller]

I once saw a talk show online that was centered around sex and love questions. It may have been called "Real Love".

Anyway, on the shoe was a therapist who was getting asked questions from young people in the audience, on the phone, or video phone. One of the guys in the audience stood up and asked about fetishes.

According to the therapist, he said there were "kinks" (for lack of a better word) and fetishes. A kink is a behavior that you enjoy, and turns you on, but you can have a healthy sex life without it.

A fetish is when that behavior has to be there 100% of the time, or you can't get sexual satisfaction (can't get erect, can't orgasm).

I fall somewhere between the two. I can enjoy a sex life without tickling, but I enjoy it more when tickling is involved.

 

[TheTickleMonster]

I once saw a talk show online that was centered around sex and love questions. It may have been called "Real Love".

Anyway, on the shoe was a therapist who was getting asked questions from young people in the audience, on the phone, or video phone. One of the guys in the audience stood up and asked about fetishes.

According to the therapist, he said there were "kinks" (for lack of a better word) and fetishes. A kink is a behavior that you enjoy, and turns you on, but you can have a healthy sex life without it.

A fetish is when that behavior has to be there 100% of the time, or you can't get sexual satisfaction (can't get erect, can't orgasm).

I fall somewhere between the two. I can enjoy a sex life without tickling, but I enjoy it more when tickling is involved.

I actually found that very interesting... the difference between kinks and fetishes. Thanks for sharing. Although tickling is something I really enjoy and love to do it all the time, but that persons definition I probably fall in between too... because I can get turned on without tickling but I still consider it a big part of my life. But if I am there making-out (or other things) with a woman I can still get turned on even if I'm not tickling her...

 

[Numbah-1]

On a scale of 1 to 10 I'm at like a 38 and a 1/2. Its.. blah blah blah whatever lol

 

[Senshi1]

I don't know - I have so many different things I like, and I like them to different degrees at different times depending on my mood. Tickling is a pretty massive one, but it came from bondage and general DiD/kidnapping, which was my original thing. Now, I like anything that is some kind of humiliating display of power, be it normal things like bondage or being stripped, to more niche things like being hung upside down or in some other embarrassing position, all the way to weirder stuff like made to wear something humiliating, or force-fed. I'll see something totally off-the-wall and think "ooh, that's cool", and chase it for an hour, or a day, or a week, and then move onto something else.

 

[wolfman40]

I Love tickling play with a willing partner.

But I equate to Burger King or Maccy D's

In that I couldn't have it every day, just a rare sexy treat.

 

[chicag0]

Nothing wrong with having it everyday tho. I do.

 

[Comfort Eagle]

I'd do it literally ever single day if it were possible.

 

[juanmiller]

I would say I was more "obsessed" with tickling before I found anyone IRL who was into it. Back then it was nearly always a part of my sexual fantasies and I did think about it a lot. And after finally satisfying those desires for real, for a while I did feel like I had to have it EVERY time.

But then in the course of playing with different people, trying out their kinks and thinking about what else I might like besides tickling, my horizons have broadened quite a bit. I still love tickling but I'm not as focused on it, and I've found that there's a point where I can do it too often to the point where it's actually a little boring and I want a break from it. (With how obsessed I used to be, I'm surprised to find that this is true now!)

I'm still a very kinky person and usually find vanilla sex dull, it's just that now I'm more adventurous and there are many things I can do enthusiastically that have zero to do with tickling, and I'm satisfied with them. On the other hand, I think that if for some reason I wasn't able to do tickling at least sometimes, I'd really feel the lack of it. A serious relationship with someone who absolutely hated tickling would probably never work for me.

 

[Cryptic71]

I'm largely un-aroused by mainstream porn.

That's one of my secrets to maintaining my cover. Whenever anyone tries to get me to watch something in order to gauge my reaction, I am completely unfazed. Which leads to everyone believing I've yet to "mature". Just the way I like it. Not only does it mean they're underestimating me, thus giving me the element of surprise should I need it, but also that everyone is far less likely to search for what I am *in to*.

.. *reads what I've just written* ... Huh. Got a lil off topic there didn't I?

 

[MistressValerie1]

I also have zero interest in mainstream porn, which helps me appear to be more innocent than I actually am :blush

 

[TKLVR181]

I also have zero interest in mainstream porn, which helps me appear to be more innocent than I actually am :blush

I'm actually quite relieved to see so many people with this view--if there's not bondage, tickling, or some degree of dom/sub relationship in porn I tend to just...not be interested. Nice to know I'm far from the odd one out! :blush

~K

 

[dude123]

Yep. I echo what everyone is saying. Nothing does it for me but tickling. I've tried to get into the other stuff. I even went through an, "I just want to be normal" phase. I'm cool with who and what I am now, though. It is good to have so many brethren and...sistren...to share with! The intrawebz is a magical place.

 

[Senshi1]

I'm actually quite relieved to see so many people with this view--if there's not bondage, tickling, or some degree of dom/sub relationship in porn I tend to just...not be interested. Nice to know I'm far from the odd one out! :blush

~K

I'll add my name to the list of people who aren't aroused by vanilla sex. I like bondage, humiliation, domination, exhibitionism, teasing, and probably a whole truckload of stuff I haven't even figured out yet, but depictions of ordinary sex are unappealing to me if there isn't some sort of kinky twist.