I Am Sorry

[kayleybear]

Hi everyone. Recently alot of things have been said about me and after talking with Jenna today Ive decided to address it. So before I get anymore hate mail or more harsh things are said about my friends I think its time I explain myself. Ok here goes. First off I want to apologize. The pictures that I had put up in the members section are not of me. I dont know who it is but apparently its some porn chick, but anyway thats besides the point. I was completely in the wrong for doing that but I want to explain why so that hopefully u can see where Im coming from. See when I first was shown this place I did not take it seriously. I honestly thought it was weird, and I didnt understand it. I still dont but Im getting there. So there were actually two reasons I put those pics up there, first because I thought it was funny at the time. I saw the pics u guys had up and it seemed like a porn site so I just put up some pics of some model to see what kind of response I'd get. The second reason was because I didnt feel comfortable at the time putting up a pic of myself for obvious reasons. And honestly I didnt think Id be in here again so I just thought it be funny and that'd be that. But the more I got to know some of you the more I liked chatting here regardless of the whole fetish thing. But then there was another problem. The attention I was getting was amazing. I should have stopped it right there but i didnt. I liked the attention and that people were always complimenting me. And really I didnt think people took it that seriously but I was wrong. The things that have been said have proven that. Now I understand that there have been people who have done this kind of thing before and thats why some people are angry but I hope by explaining why I did this u can see why its a little different. I wasnt trying to pretend to be this model but from my point of view I was being me just with a different face. Please understand I am not trying to make excuses, I was completely wrong and I should never have done it OR let it go on as long as it did. But I did. I want to apologize mostly to the friends Ive made in here and to Myriads. I never meant to hurt anyone, I was just having fun by being an idiot. I guess I didnt realize how big of a mess up this was until this week. I even asked Myriads to put up a pic I sent him that really IS of me and to take down the other ones but after this I dont know if that will happen or if I'll just be deleted. Regardless of how u feel about what Ive done if I can ask anything it would be that the mean things being said about Jenna stop. She had nothing to do with this and never saw the pics anyway. The two times she was in here was just in the chatroom and so she was completely in the dark and didnt have a clue what u guys were talking about. Anyway, she was mad at me too and Im sure she wont be back here. Well, I guess Ive said all I can say. Im sorry its soooo long but I had alot of explaining to do. Again to Myriads, all the friends I made and everyone else I am seriously sorry for being dishonest. I dont know what else to say and I know that some of u wont believe me no matter what I say or do now and I guess thats understandable. So anywayz I'll leave it up to u Myriads and all u guys as to whats next. I'd love to still be able to stay and chat with my buds but if u guys decide u dont want me here because of this, then I can dissapear too. This is ur place and I screwed up big time so whatever is decided is what Ill do. Again, I am sorry.

Kay

 

[german]

wow...I never spoke to you nor did I see the pictures your talking about...but its 'big' of you to bring this up and sort the issue out, I'm sure it will work itself out.

Priest

 

[luvgirlsfeet]

wow...I never spoke to you nor did I see the pictures your talking about...but its 'big' of you to bring this up and sort the issue out, I'm sure it will work itself out.

Priest

Double for me

 

[isabeau]

it takes a brave girl to admit what they did..kudos to you..and hon, everyone wants attention...

 

[jugner]

See when I first was shown this place I did not take it seriously. I honestly thought it was weird, and I didnt understand it. I still dont but Im getting there. So there were actually two reasons I put those pics up there, first because I thought it was funny at the time. I saw the pics u guys had up and it seemed like a porn site so I just put up some pics of some model to see what kind of response I'd get. The second reason was because I didnt feel comfortable at the time putting up a pic of myself for obvious reasons. And honestly I didnt think Id be in here again so I just thought it be funny and that'd be that. But the more I got to know some of you the more I liked chatting here regardless of the whole fetish thing. Kay

I never met you. So stay if you want. But saying "regardless of the whole fetish thing" was not a nice thing to say.

 

[Mitchell]

Kayley, I've always liked you, and considered you a kind and sweet girl. While I am disappointed to hear this, I don't think you should leave TMF because of it, if you enjoy the site. You are the person who you are, regardless of your picture, and the friends that you've made on here, will like you for that. I think it is courageous of you to admit this, and sincerely hope you decide to stay.
As for Jenna, I am sorry to hear that she has decided not to come back here. The one time I spoke to her, she seemed very nice. I guess what she does is ultimately her decision.
One final thing: A picture is only cosmetic. Whether we are attractive, or not, it is what we are inside that counts. When I took the picture posted in the forum, I was overweight, and it is hardly a flattering picture of me. However, I would hope that after 4 1-2 years here, whatever rapport I made with other members would be because of Mitch the member, not Mitch the guy for his looks. While I admit that I want to find an attractive woman for a partner in life, character, heart, and values are far more important than what she looks like physically.
Again, I hope you decide to stay. Hopefully, those who you have befriended on here will understand, and I am glad to hear that you sent Myriads your real picture. As for what happens next: I believe, that, in time, the attention given to this will die down. In the meantime, I would visit when you wish, and just continue to be the real you. Those who have befriended you, likely did so for the Kayley inside, and not for the glamourous picture. I know that in my case, I have continued to talk to you because you were always kind and sweet to me, and not because you had a gorgeous picture posted in the forum.

Mitch

 

[Bugman]

I dont know if you remember Kay,but you and i used to visit quite often in the chatroom and i though you were very nice.

The important thing is,you know what you did was wrong,and you are doing your best to correct your mistake.I hope you stay also,i think you will find most people here forgiving.This is the first i had heard about this to be honest.I'm sorry about your friend,maybe she will decide to come back sometime also.

 

[isabeau]

well yes please don't leave because of this...

p.s. this doesn't have anything to do with the subject, but why is the font or script or box so much wider on this thread? i had to scroll across to read the entire lines..

 

[KOBE]

First of all I want to say I think its really nice to see you do this kayley. I have talked with you a couple times in the chat and I can tell that you are a real sweetheart. You know what you did was immature but by doing this you are taking a huge step in my opinion. Its not like any of us here or anywhere really has never been dishonest at some point in our lives, I know I have. But just be yourself. Thats who we like.


Kobe

PS:And as for jugner's comment Im sure she didnt mean anything by the "fetish" comment. Thats what it is right? And she did admit she doesnt understand it. Wouldnt we rather have people here who dont understand it BUT are willing to try rather than people who just judge us?

 

[jugner]

PS:And as for jugner's comment Im sure she didnt mean anything by the "fetish" comment. Thats what it is right? And she did admit she doesnt understand it. Wouldnt we rather have people here who dont understand it BUT are willing to try rather than people who just judge us?

The word fetish didn't bother me, the word regardless did. I do want open- minded peopleto try to understand, just saying.

 

[KOBE]

Ya I know what you are saying and I agree. And from what I read I think she's trying which is a great thing!

 

[lespieds]

It is unlikely that someone is going to hold something against another person over an Internet forum. Unless the poster is really nasty.

I am new to this forum but not new to forums in general. It seems you have nothing to worry about.

 

[Myriads]

I'll switch in the new image this Sunday when I do my usual Member image update. No issues.

Myriads

 

[steph]

it's not like you're the only person in the member pics section posting a phony picture of themselves. You may be the first to admit to it though.
XOXO

 

[OnnaOtaku]

What I'm confused about is if you didn't take it seriously, then why post pictures at all? It's not a mandatory thing. Aside from you, there are undoubtedly other pictures in the Members section that are fake, but fortunately for you, you had the common decency and courage to admit it. Let's hope you start a trend for anyone else hiding behind fake photos and we can make forum a better, more real place to visit.

 

[Capnmad]

I know neither you nor your friend, though I think I was present when Jenna was in the chatroom, once. She mentioned you, I think.

I'm not fond of deception for any reason. I know you thought it was good for a laugh, and you were detached from it (the internet does that on many levels, lowering inhibitions, sometimes, and maybe standards of judgement, by extension), but you see now the result in your friend being hurt. It's a shame that happened, and I don't quite see why she was attacked just for being your friend, but whatever. Some people will do that, and the chatroom is sometimes a rough place for women anyway, if you have no troll immunity. Maybe this experience will help you learn and grow.

In a community that has, as I've seen, more than it's fair share of paranoia over the identities and intentions of others, it's a shame you had to start like this. Still, in owning up to your mistake, there's some merit, and I'm glad the Administrators are apparently letting you stay if you have friends here, even if you don't share any interest in the fetish aspect. As I'm sure you've learned, we're just people, too.

I wish you luck in your second time out, and I hope your friend comes to feel welcome here again, in time. It's a lot more fun and easy to get along if everyone's honest and up front with everyone else.

Take care.

 

[OnnaOtaku]

I know neither you nor your friend, though I think I was present when Jenna was in the chatroom, once. She mentioned you, I think.

I'm not fond of deception for any reason. I know you thought it was good for a laugh, and you were detached from it (the internet does that on many levels, lowering inhibitions, sometimes, and maybe standards of judgement, by extension), but you see now the result in your friend being hurt. It's a shame that happened, and I don't quite see why she was attacked just for being your friend, but whatever. Some people will do that, and the chatroom is sometimes a rough place for women anyway, if you have no troll immunity. Maybe this experience will help you learn and grow.

In a community that has, as I've seen, more than it's fair share of paranoia over the identities and intentions of others, it's a shame you had to start like this. Still, in owning up to your mistake, there's some merit, and I'm glad the Administrators are apparently letting you stay if you have friends here, even if you don't share any interest in the fetish aspect. As I'm sure you've learned, we're just people, too.

I wish you luck in your second time out, and I hope your friend comes to feel welcome here again, in time. It's a lot more fun and easy to get along if everyone's honest and up front with everyone else.

Take care.

I believe her friend may have been attacked because people think that Jenna and Kayley and all her other friends are the same person. Just speculation and trying to clarify to you.

 

[KOBE]

Now thats paranoia! lol

 

[phfttklr]

I think I've only been in the chat room twice when you were there and I had no problems with anything that you said, at the time. If I found out in the beginning, I would have just rolled my eyes and chalked it up to just another idiot but I wouldn't have gotten mad, so maybe I saw you after you found out what it is really like here. It takes a lot for you to come out with this not only because you wanted to be honest but that you found out what this place is really like, not just about a bunch of perverts running around (well, most of the time ) and that we have developed some friendships here as well. It really is a great community and taken care of with great respect, as far as keeping it from becoming a trashy site.

Bottom line Kayley, it doesn't matter what you look like, it's your personality that comes shinning through. So, to get this off on the right foot, Hi, I'm ph, welcome and have fun.

 

[Knox The Hatter]

I'm right here in your corner, Kayley 🙂

 

[Iggy pop]

I don't know if this is the full truth

You know something about this still do not seem right, and I remembered what it was. It was this post by Kaley's friend sungirl,

I have a question for miss kayleybear.......where did you get those sweet pants? OH WAIT!! Thats right there mine! You can hang on to them til I come home for thanksgiving, then.....dun dun dun there mine again 😛 Well, it looks like you are suddenly the "tickle princess" huh? And I get no credit for my awesome photography! How rude! But of course I don't believe those pictures are you 😉 Isn't that hilarious? I had to go through it too, somehow you'll survive. Hey tell Trav and the guys I am sooo sorry that I couldn't make it to there first show, I was so bummed. How did it go? Why am I asking you this on here? I'll call ya tommorrow or you call me, k? See ya my sessy italian friend, I love you!! Talk ya soon,

Chloe (the sessier one)

So how could Sungirl talk about her photography skills and lend pant to the person in the picture, who Kayley claims is not her. And what about sungirl 778 pics, are they real? After this post, I would have to say I would be extremely doubtful. What about their friend Jenna?

So what is the big deal? Well, you are stealing somebody's picture and posting it on an adult website without their permission. It's a mild form of identity theft. I think the policy of posting pics may have to be rethought or changed in someway.

If you want to be a beauty queen or 6'4 hard body muscle guy fine, but just do it without stealing someone's picture.

 

[kayleybear]

I just wanted to say I appreciate everyone's comments. As for Chloe's comments she was being sarcastic. Its like text messaging or e-mail's. If u cant hear someones voice its hard to tell if they are being serious. I dunno. Again, Im sorry.

 

[Mitchell]

Kayley, I just saw your picture. You are very pretty. It is great to see the real you, and, you certainly are easy on the eyes, if I may say so!

Mitch

 

[Goodieluver]

it's not like you're the only person in the member pics section posting a phony picture of themselves. You may be the first to admit to it though.
XOXO

Hey, some of us have to hide our beauty from all you ladies oogling our pix day and night 😎

and kayley, you look beautiful in the new pic as well

welcome "officially" pic wise to tmf

 

[steph]

Bah! You know I'm a hideous freaking chud!
XOXO

Hey, some of us have to hide our beauty from all you ladies oogling our pix day and night 😎

and kayley, you look beautiful in the new pic as well

welcome "officially" pic wise to tmf