I Came Out!!!

[TKLVR181]

Well, here's the story.

My grandmother, who has been my best friend and really more a mother than my bio-mom since I can remember, and whom I live with, caught me in a small lie about what I was doing online. She didn't know what site I was browsing, just that I was only supposed to be talking to Senshi, my fiance.

And I decided that, come good or bad, I couldn't keep lying to her. So I told Senshi what I was about to do, logged off, shut my lappy down, and started crying.

When I could stop crying, I simply said, "I have a tickle fetish." and proceeded to cry a lot more. When I could calm down, I told her about TT. Not that I am the second most active member on record 🙂super_hap), or that I indeed post at all, but that it is a site where I can find tickling-related stuff, such as pix, stories, and vidclips. I didn't use the word 'porn', but that's probably the way she iterpreted it at first.

I calmed down a little more and she asked "how I got into it" and I told the somewhat universal story of imagry as a younger child, and that fateful day I googled it and discovered I wasn't alone, wasn't a freak. I told her that I never make replies on here, only look.

I told her about butterflies and blushing, my inability to say the 't' word, and that my fiance is also a member of this site. I told her of lers and lees, of consensual and noncon (the latter of which I dislike, which relieved her), and how I'd tried, for five years, to tell her the truth. And finally had.

And she hugged me. Had a few more basic questions, 'does it turn you on', (sometimes) 'is there always bondage',(Not always), etc...and hugged me. Told me she loved me and that she thought it was strange and silly, but nothing she was ashamed of.

...I never have to lie about TT again. O.O

~K

 

[Senshi1]

Congrats!! 😀 It's a really difficult step - I've been there too - but once you do it, it feels really great. n_n

 

[Snail Shell]

Congrats, eh?

Snail Shell

 

[Excess]

*hugs* I'm happy for you so much. I'm glad that you're able to get all that weight off of your shoulders.

 

[Sockstickler]

Well, here's the story.

My grandmother, who has been my best friend and really more a mother than my bio-mom since I can remember, and whom I live with, caught me in a small lie about what I was doing online. She didn't know what site I was browsing, just that I was only supposed to be talking to Senshi, my fiance.

And I decided that, come good or bad, I couldn't keep lying to her. So I told Senshi what I was about to do, logged off, shut my lappy down, and started crying.

When I could stop crying, I simply said, "I have a tickle fetish." and proceeded to cry a lot more. When I could calm down, I told her about TT. Not that I am the second most active member on record 🙂super_hap), or that I indeed post at all, but that it is a site where I can find tickling-related stuff, such as pix, stories, and vidclips. I didn't use the word 'porn', but that's probably the way she iterpreted it at first.

I calmed down a little more and she asked "how I got into it" and I told the somewhat universal story of imagry as a younger child, and that fateful day I googled it and discovered I wasn't alone, wasn't a freak. I told her that I never make replies on here, only look.

I told her about butterflies and blushing, my inability to say the 't' word, and that my fiance is also a member of this site. I told her of lers and lees, of consensual and noncon (the latter of which I dislike, which relieved her), and how I'd tried, for five years, to tell her the truth. And finally had.

And she hugged me. Had a few more basic questions, 'does it turn you on', (sometimes) 'is there always bondage',(Not always), etc...and hugged me. Told me she loved me and that she thought it was strange and silly, but nothing she was ashamed of.

...I never have to lie about TT again. O.O

~K

Congratulations 😀 I know this took a lot of guts to do. I'm really glad to hear your grandma was ok with it, and now you don't have to worry about being found out. Kudos to you. I'm really happy for you!

 

[TKLVR181]

I love all you guys so much I'm nearly crying right now. THANK YOU ALL!!!

~K

 

[johnttickle]

That is awsome!
Do you feel a great wieght off you now?
I am always told that tickling isn't that bad of a thing when I tell someone about my fethish.
So good for you girl.

Aloha, John.😉

 

[TickleKay]

Oh boy. Well, all tears and emotion aside, I guess I'm going to be the oddball here on this thread and bashed to ribbons.

Not to be rude and no offense, because I'm proud of your "bravery" I'd guess you call it-- but-- I simply don't get it. I'm confused.

I've read things like this before. Why "come out"? What is always the big deal to ticklers and just ticklers alone?

I mean, your private life is YOUR private life. Whether you personally act upon it or not, a fetish is part of your sexual makeup. That's a fact. Just as some people desire oral or some other sexual act to excite them, why should they feel guilty and need to come out about that to anyone not involved in your sex life directly? You wouldn't tell your Grandmother those things, would you? I wouldn't want to feel that I have to come out and tell anyone my personal private tastes on the other side of the bedroom door. That's my private sexual affair, not theirs.

Please know that I am not attacking you or putting your decisions down at all. We each have our own lives to live and need to do what makes us feel right.

But I notice that Ticklers in general always seem to feel some overriding guilt as to what they like, like they always need justification or something- whereas bdsm people never do. Why I wonder?

Ticklers online for years have tried to make me feel guilty due to my intense or deeper emotional level tastes, or even because I do sometimes like noncon as oppossed to totally consenting and preplanned. But again- that's my affair and my tastes. They're not in my bedroom- so I have no guilt- and don't have to come out or prove myself. I just need to be myself.

You're obviously an intelligent and warm human being with deep emotions and comittments. Be "you". You don't need to come out to anyone, justify anything, or feel guilty. Answer to yourself alone.

Just be you and what you are- you're perfect as is.

Kay 🙂

 

[Violetta]

*hugs!!!* Karen, you are so damn brave. Honestly. It takes a LOT of guts to spill everything to someone, even someone you trust. I'm really happy that you no longer have to live with the stress of hiding things. In time who knows. Maybe you'll be able to say the word "tickle." 😉

 

[Comfort Eagle]

*hugs!!!* Karen, you are so damn brave. Honestly. It takes a LOT of guts to spill everything to someone, even someone you trust. )

Seriously. I couldn't do that with my grandma. Friends, acquaintances, every girlfriend/girl I've been interested in for 3 years, but not grandma. Karen brave indeed. :amazed:

 

[Violetta]

Oh boy. Well, all tears and emotion aside, I guess I'm going to be the oddball here on this thread and bashed to ribbons.

Not to be rude and no offense, because I'm proud of your "bravery" I'd guess you call it-- but-- I simply don't get it. I'm confused.

I've read things like this before. Why "come out"? What is always the big deal to ticklers and just ticklers alone?

I mean, your private life is YOUR private life. Whether you personally act upon it or not, a fetish is part of your sexual makeup. That's a fact. Just as some people desire oral or some other sexual act to excite them, why should they feel guilty and need to come out about that to anyone not involved in your sex life directly? You wouldn't tell your Grandmother those things, would you? I wouldn't want to feel that I have to come out and tell anyone my personal private tastes on the other side of the bedroom door. That's my private sexual affair, not theirs.

Please know that I am not attacking you or putting your decisions down at all. We each have our own lives to live and need to do what makes us feel right.

But I notice that Ticklers in general always seem to feel some overriding guilt as to what they like, like they always need justification or something- whereas bdsm people never do. Why I wonder?

Ticklers online for years have tried to make me feel guilty due to my intense or deeper emotional level tastes, or even because I do sometimes like noncon as oppossed to totally consenting and preplanned. But again- that's my affair and my tastes. They're not in my bedroom- so I have no guilt- and don't have to come out or prove myself. I just need to be myself.

You're obviously an intelligent and warm human being with deep emotions and comittments. Be "you". You don't need to come out to anyone, justify anything, or feel guilty. Answer to yourself alone.

Just be you and what you are- you're perfect as is.

Kay 🙂

Kay, no one's gonna bash you for your thoughts and opinions. 😉 I may be overstepping some bounds, and if so, my apologies to Karen. But ya see, her grandma is actually a really nosy person and pokes into Karen repeatedly from time to time, and tends to keep a pretty close eye on her. (Maybe because she's such a troublemaker. 😛) So, doing this is a major stress relief for Karen, since she no longer has to hide and look over her shoulder when she is getting a chance to "be herself." It's not that she had to come out. It's just that it made life easier.

Seriously. I couldn't do that with my grandma. Friends, acquaintances, every girlfriend/girl I've been interested in for 3 years, but not grandma. Karen brave indeed. :amazed:

I know I couldn't! Heck, no one in my family knows. Only my room/playmates and a few good friends know about me and this stuff.

 

[johnttickle]

My whole family knows. I have had this "Tickling Thing" since I could walk.
My family calls it the "Tickling Thing". I started tying up and tickling any girls that would let me, when I was very young. I still don't recall having to force any of them. Even all the girls at school knew about this, so I never had to come out. Also I never had any problems getting dates in High school, and had a lot of girls wanting to try the tickling thing. It helped being the local rock star growing up too.😀
I do feel for the people that are shy about it. So this is a big event that she let her Grandmother know.
So I'll say it again, Good for you girl!!!

Aloha, John😉

 

[ttheocjones]

I think you are very brave in admitting it to your grandma. Only a select few know about my foot or tickling fetish. But i like ticklekay feel it's a private matter than need only be shared with those who are involved in it with me. But i also feel that to each it's own so i will say i am proud of you for having the guts to tell all and you have my utmost respect and admiration.

 

[Camel26]

Kudos, Karen...I know that this will make things easier in your home, and where there is less tension and stress, there is more happiness...which you deserve.

You rock my stocks, and so does your Gran for having a real conversation with you.

Fabulous. Simply fabulous.

 

[eagphilly]

I may not know you, and you don't know me, but I know what you've done took courage, and I applaud you for that. I think we all know how it feels to kinda hide this tickle-fetish. I'm 19 and I've been having to hide it from my family, and at my college. What you did took straight up guts, and that is something I look up to.
I have a girlfriend, and I want to tell her about this...I've been getting there in baby steps. She knows I enjoy bondage, but there is still WAAAY more to discuss. I am inspired by you, and I sincerely send my DEEPEST blessing to you, your family, and fiancee.

 

[ShadowLight]

I'm glad you are less stressed, but I have to agree with TickleKay. Overbearing relatives don't necessarily deserve the "appeasement" of full confidentiality into our private lives as mature adults. I'm glad you feel better, but at the same time I wish you were more comfortable doing what ever you wanted without having to report to anyone else. Either way, I hope the result is for your highest and best!

 

[TKLVR181]

No overstepping done, Sammi. You're totally correct; she's a nosey brat, mostly due to the fact that my mom and uncle did pot under her nose at my age (and grew up to resent her for 'not being there'), and that she lost her husband in Vietnam and has a very real phobia of losing those in her life whom she loves.

No, I didn't have to tell her-but it makes life a LOT easier. In several ways--but the bottom line is this wasn't the first little lie revolving around TT she's caught me in. It's been happening for the past three months, and last night would have been the straw to break her back if I hadn't come clean.

Losing her respect and trust isn't something I could have lived with.

~K

 

[juggernaut]

You've inspired me, Karen. If you can do it... I can do it.


I intend to tell your grandmother all my secrets now, too.

 

[darkwolf1]

congrats on your sucess Karen, takes a strong person to face those they care about most, even when they know that there is no way of predicting how they will react.

 

[TKLVR181]

Har har har, Nerrad😀

Thanks DW ^__^

~K

 

[His Divine Shadow]

Indeed, nerrad, let us all confess! We can book a cathedral, stick Grandma K in the confessional booth and pour forth all our sins and hidden secrets. 😛

Congrats, K-Mama! While I'd never have need to tell anyone of my other side (No friends to speak of and my family has no use for such info) I do understand the weight that must be now lifted from your shoulders. :happy:

 

[tickle_fan031]

OMG hun that's so awesome congrats!!!Well proud of you.....it takes a helluva lotta guts to talk about it.Woot woot!!!!:super_hap *hi fives u*

Oh boy. Well, all tears and emotion aside, I guess I'm going to be the oddball here on this thread and bashed to ribbons.

Not to be rude and no offense, because I'm proud of your "bravery" I'd guess you call it-- but-- I simply don't get it. I'm confused.

I've read things like this before. Why "come out"? What is always the big deal to ticklers and just ticklers alone?

I mean, your private life is YOUR private life. Whether you personally act upon it or not, a fetish is part of your sexual makeup. That's a fact. Just as some people desire oral or some other sexual act to excite them, why should they feel guilty and need to come out about that to anyone not involved in your sex life directly? You wouldn't tell your Grandmother those things, would you? I wouldn't want to feel that I have to come out and tell anyone my personal private tastes on the other side of the bedroom door. That's my private sexual affair, not theirs.

Please know that I am not attacking you or putting your decisions down at all. We each have our own lives to live and need to do what makes us feel right.

But I notice that Ticklers in general always seem to feel some overriding guilt as to what they like, like they always need justification or something- whereas bdsm people never do. Why I wonder?

Ticklers online for years have tried to make me feel guilty due to my intense or deeper emotional level tastes, or even because I do sometimes like noncon as oppossed to totally consenting and preplanned. But again- that's my affair and my tastes. They're not in my bedroom- so I have no guilt- and don't have to come out or prove myself. I just need to be myself.

You're obviously an intelligent and warm human being with deep emotions and comittments. Be "you". You don't need to come out to anyone, justify anything, or feel guilty. Answer to yourself alone.

Just be you and what you are- you're perfect as is.

Kay 🙂

Why come out?Why share your private life?Why feel guilt?

I can totally understand why Karen went to the lengths that she did to talk to her grandma about this.Having a tickle fetish can be a big part of your life and it can be of great importance to you. It was because of this that I came out about it to two of my close mates (although nowhere near as good as that or in so much detail) they know me pretty much inside out,but it was because of them not knowing about my tickle fetish,they really did not know me at all. My best mates have been fantastic to me over the years and the way I see it is that they've accepted me for who I am....the good and bad things,so they're true mates and for some reason I felt guilty because there was this big thing that was part of me that they didn't know about me and I started to feel ashamed about it when I shouldn't have done. So by sharing it with them it was a huge relief...as it has been for Karen.....and a fantastic achievement if you've kept it a secret for such a long time.....but they that's just my 2p's worth.:super_hap

 

[Relent<]

How nice ^__^
I personally have a terrible relationship with most of my family, so I probably won't ever have that kind of liberty. Then again, my family doesn't really care what i do regardless 😀

 

[FT Genikit]

Wow! It's must've been hard to go through all of it. You're one brave woman (girl, female, whatever...).

 

[BigNorm]

congrats Karen! that was really brave of you. in fact, hearing that makes me wanna tell my folks and friends and let the chips fall where they lie. i hate beating around the bush when i talk to them or cringing at the "T" word. when the time comes in a month when my life is more settled down in a new house, i think i will tell them. thanks Karen!