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Hey everyone. 🙁

I guess I was born with a tickling fetish. It makes me a lot more better seeing people on here just like me. I still thought I was the only one! I guess this is really normal. I am just afraid one day if I get a gf, I don't know if I can tell her or not. 🙁 It might freak her out. I am like the nicest guy ever! Its just this stuff I really enjoy and I have an anxiety dissorder which makes it worse thinking I am a freak and stuff. 🙁 I have panic attacks and stuff but I hate thinking I am a freak for liking this stuff. I am 18, I have never told my parents. I cant because its so embaressing for me. 🙁 DOes this make me weird for coming here and looking at videos? Maybe like, once every 2 days? Its just something I really enjoy but I talked to this one girl about it and she said "ummmmm okay?" and never talked to me again. 🙁 So I am afraid of telling anyone now 🙁 I know I was born with this because I have liked it since I was 6 years old.

Can someone help me out here? 🙁
 
Well goodness, not everyone will be accepting of it. It's how it is sometimes.

And just so you know, nice guys don't finish last. You're young and are in the perfect time of your life to date and have fun. No need to fear situations if you prepare for them. What's the worse that could happen? You find another girl? You decide to go to a gathering and find a girl there? One girl not speaking to you is no loss, I can assure you of that. Plenty of girls here who HAVE that fetish she may have chosen to not speak to you over! (It may not have been that and you're just afraid it's that...who knows!)

People all over have things they are sensitive about and think strangely of because they feel the need for acceptance from people who mean little to nothing in their lives. Some have rubber fetishes, some bondage, some latex, some pain, some sneezing, some breast, some giantess....the list is forever. Human sexuality is diverse. You're not freaky, just normal and healthy with uneasiness in your own skin. And that's normal too. Don't be so hard on yourself, you have room to grow. 🙂
 
First of all - a belated welcome aboard, I've not seen you post here before.

I'm not entirely sure why you'd want to let your parents know about your fetish - I mean, it's not them who you're going to be doing anything sexual with, probably. My parents certainly don't know anything about my sexuality.

The way I view my sexuality has changed a lot in the past few years. Before, I was extremely nervous and shamefaced about it, and couldn't even think about telling anyone about it. And now, many of my friends know about my kinks, and I've met some fantastic people who share this fetish with me.

And even if they don't share my fetish, the majority of my partners that I've told have been more than happy to indulge me. Why is that? I think it's mainly due to the way I let people know about it; I don't talk about tickling as though it's something creepy and perverted - I let people know that it's fun, and cool, and what-not. And even if I feel nervous about telling someone, I bite the bullet and spin my fetish in a positive way.

As for that one girl who claim got freaked out by your fetish - it could be for many reasons. It's possible that you didn't "sell" it to her right - when you're talking about matters of a sexual nature, it's helpful to make it sound "fun" or "sexy", or whatever.
Of course it could be that she's just a bit of a prude who finds anything remotely kinky abhorrent. 😉

In short; try not worry too much about getting judged for your sexuality. Most people don't care enough about it to get freaked out, and those that do aren't usually worth the effort.
 
You are not a freak!

I know how evil anxiety can be and how it can heighten feelings of inadequacy and abnormality. But you are not alone. I think you have some sense of that, but if you want to break through this "place" you are at in your life, meaning your fear about your desires and how others perceive them, you must completely grasp the concept. There is nothing wrong with you. You said you come here maybe every other day and look at clips. That is not bad at all. I am here for hours some days, and here nearly every day. My Love as well. So every other day is just fine. The only way it could possibly be bad is if it is keeping you from being healthy and productive in life. I doubt that is the case.

It is a common fear for those who are just starting to venture out of the tickle closet to feel as you do. Learning how to broach the subject with others is nerve racking. But here is a question for you. You mentioned your parents not knowing. Why should they know? Do you tell them every aspect of your life, like who you have sex with, how often and in what position? I doubt you do. Then think of it in those same terms. You are 18. There are parts of your personal life that you are not obligated to share with your parents and this is one of them. In fact, you don't have to tell anyone, except maybe your partner when you feel the time is right.

In regards to partners, I know well how embarrassing and hurtful rejection can be in this area. I have had my fair share of "your crazy" looks from boyfriends. I got past it eventually when I finally realized that there is nothing wrong with me. I finally accepted who I was and what I like and learned to love myself. It is a tough path, but I think until you do that as well, your anxiety over your desires will continue to harm you. Its a vicious circle.

I do have some advice in the girlfriend department. If I were to do regular dating again, I would not tell my boyfriend/girlfriend until I knew our relationship was strong. I would not bring it up in the early days of it. When I knew that the relationship was strong, I would venture to tell them how I enjoy tickling and that I found it pleasurable in the right circumstances. Perhaps I would bring it up after I had playfully tickled them a bit and slowly led that activity towards other sexual activity. Sometimes showing them covertly, then telling them can work better.

Good luck to you. I hope you stay around the forum and interact with some of us around here. You will see you are not alone. You may even meet others who are close to you and eventually attend a munch/gathering will you will see we are completely sane people with an intense love of life.

Best wishes to you...
 
Why so sad??

Most if not all of us who are on this forum have felt the same way. The longer you hang out here and get to know some folks the better you'll feel.

Now, kick off your shoes and stay awhile..........:feets:
 
Thanks a bunch guys!! This made me feel tons better! 🙂 I am actually a Firefighter, only volunteer but in August I will have my basic EMT and I will be working in an ambulance. 🙂 I am really good at medical stuff and have been on many calls, a few days ago a guy tried to drink battery acid and kill himself and I helped him out, worked on him at his house, and loaded him up in the ambulance and took care of him. I am only 18 and doing all of this so its defiantly not interfering with my life. 🙂 You guys here are so caring, man I go on chat rooms and stuff to try and meet people my age and stuff and I get FLAMED. I am just a nice guy, and really try to be the nicest guy I can. I love helping people. 🙂 I will defiantly stick around. 🙂 Thank you guys so much!
 
Glad you're feeling better 🙂 And I wanna echo everything that Artoo said. Relax, and have fun 🙂
 
Are you seeing someone about your anxiety problems? Anxiety sucks, I know what I am talking about, and it would probably make you feel better in the whole if you talk to a doctor about it.

As for the fetish: Hey, a lot of people have it. 🙂 Maybe not the majority of the people, but enough so it's not all that freaky. 😉

Don't worry, not everybody has to accept it....in time, you will get a feeling for who you can talk to about it and who you can't, usually people who will look at you weird because of it are intolerant anyways and wouldn't accept anything that's out of their cozy horizon - and that's people who nobody really needs! 😉
 
I felt the same way 🙁 It makes me pretty depressed sometimes.

It's like, as if life wasn't already complicated and finding someone who likes me wasn't hard enough, now I have this weird tickling thing to make things even worse? 🙁 However usually I cheer up after awhile. Now I consider it just another trait that makes me an interesting and complex person 🙂

Granted, some people are close minded and will look down on you for it, but screw them! However I would be careful about who I told...many people might think it is odd. To be fair, you can't exactly blame them if they don't have any kinks- they would have no idea what "strange love" (paraphilias) is/are all about 😛 I would wait to disclose such a juicy little bit about yourself until you were with someone you trusted and was open minded.

I used to have anxiety problems with people too when I was around your age (I'm 24 now). I eventually got over it, although I'm still a little shy. Don't let it keep you from experiencing life, you might regret it later 🙂

Be proud that you're a nice guy too...although I feel like I get walked all over by my "friends" and ignored by girls, there are decent people out there who will appreciate you...don't become calloused and bitter my kinky friend 🙂

Don't let your tickling fetish get you down. We're all kinky, interesting, complex people. Being "normal" is boring 😛
 
First off your not a freak. As you can see we have 80,000 members so this fetish is not like only a few have it and we come from all walks of life ie I'm a retired Police Officer from NYC we have nurses lawyers and many other professions here. Our fetish is expanding at a very fast rate and due to the chat here that people see they are becoming much more vocal about it. Yes there are some that will look at you funny about it but I would love to know what little thing there into lol. Sit back relax and interact with us and before long you will feel as most of us do. It's just something you like people have all sorts of fetishes it don't make a person weird to have one as far as I'm concerned it's weird not to because if you don't your leading a very boring life.

Tom aka Master Paladin
 
I'm sure lot of people on here felt the same way at as you at one time or another. You're not a freak, just look at the thousands of people who post on here. People just like different things is all.

Just hang around for a while, make some friends and you'll feel more relaxed about it over time.

Welcome to the board.
 
Science said:
Hey everyone. 🙁

I guess I was born with a tickling fetish. It makes me a lot more better seeing people on here just like me. I still thought I was the only one! I guess this is really normal. I am just afraid one day if I get a gf, I don't know if I can tell her or not. 🙁 It might freak her out. I am like the nicest guy ever! Its just this stuff I really enjoy and I have an anxiety dissorder which makes it worse thinking I am a freak and stuff. 🙁 I have panic attacks and stuff but I hate thinking I am a freak for liking this stuff. I am 18, I have never told my parents. I cant because its so embaressing for me. 🙁 DOes this make me weird for coming here and looking at videos? Maybe like, once every 2 days? Its just something I really enjoy but I talked to this one girl about it and she said "ummmmm okay?" and never talked to me again. 🙁 So I am afraid of telling anyone now 🙁 I know I was born with this because I have liked it since I was 6 years old.

Can someone help me out here? 🙁
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for every guy like you there is a girl who love tickling just as much. don't fear the truth that vanilla's may not understand you, just accept that truth that there is a woman out there who has the same interests that you do.
 
Everyone just gave you really good answers.
They are right.

Also, welcome to the TMF! It's really fun here ... don't get addicted like me!
 
Awwwwh. You sound a lot like me cause I too have had this fetish as long as I can remember, and I also have an anxiety disorder, so if you're a freak, I'm a freak 😛

Some girls are bound to be close minded, but there are also girls out there who enjoy tickling as much as you do. Like on here..
 
It's natural to feel like an outsider at first, but everyone here has given you fantastic advice. And it's perfectly fine that your family doesn't know. I've never told mine because it's my business and mine alone. But glad to hear you're feeling better about things now. Hanging out here, getting involved in posting and whatnot, can really open your eyes to what a loving community this really is. 🙂
 
You are a freak. But don't worry, sometimes it's good to be a freak. Like Ted Danson. 😀

Side note: Don't make a big fuss about it. That's always the worst thing you can do.
 
Bugger them.

No way is it freaky D:

I suppose I've been pretty lucky, in all my relationship history I've had only one guy who doesn't like tickling at all. Most people do enjoy it... maybe not to the extent of being tied down and tortured ^^ But enjoy it nonetheless.

And if you get a girlfriend, a proper one who likes you and wants to make you happy, chances are she'll be pretty accepting.

I've found the trick is to not treat it like any big thing. Yeah, so what? I like tickling, it's no biggie. People don't want to make a fuss of something if you don't bother.

Anyhoo... some girl finds out you enjoy it (I dunno, maybe you tickle the shit out of her all the time, or you taunt her into tickling you constantly) if she wants to turn you on she'll take advantage of that knowledge.

Good luck with the future ^^
Katje.
 
Hello there, Science, and welcome to TMF.

Being 18, presumably you're either still in high school or fresh out of it. High school is where peer groups and their demands for sameness and conformity can be at their worst. It's not hard to feel like a freak there. It's good that you found this community. I had no such luxury when I was 18 and feeling like a freak for my proclivities.

When it comes to relationships, it seems to me, the real question is not "whether to tell her," but rather, how important it is to you to be able to tickle her. If it is important to you, then you need someone willing to be tickled--and they are out there, believe me, and not only in fetish communities.

My biggest suggestion to you is to relax and not think in terms of needing to get any instant answers. Your life, at present, is what it is, including the life saving, including your social life, and including looking in on your new friends here at TMF. What else would you like to share about your off-screen life, by the way? (In my case, I live in Baltimore, teach college, and do various forms of creative writing.)
 
I don't know if Science is still here 4-1/2 years later, but I'm guessing he's maybe gotten a little more experience, met a wider range of people and clicked around a bit and found How One Likes To Do It is just part of the splendiferous tapestry of human experience. I felt like a freak til I got a sense of just how many people enjoy some tickle play as part of their intimacy and I was simply one of them.

If he was worried about balancing approaching potential partners about wanting to tickle them, whether that would hurt his "nice guy" status, well ... nice guys have needs, too. Just, if things look like they're trending in that direction, let them know (as someone advised here recently) that you can be a bit of a tickle monster, playfully, nonthreateningly, and let them weigh that as part of however they were deciding to go to bed with you anyway -- and maybe open the door for them to talk about their uniform fetish or their spanking fetish or their Everyone Has To Be Dressed Like The '80s fetish.

Just relax, enjoy yourself and above all, have fun. 🙂
 
You are not a freak young man. For that matter, none of us here are. In fact, we are fortunate. Please listen and adhere to the sound advice that has already been given and soon you will come to realize this...

Welcome and good luck sir!
 
Science said:
Hey everyone. 🙁

I guess I was born with a tickling fetish. It makes me a lot more better seeing people on here just like me. I still thought I was the only one! I guess this is really normal. I am just afraid one day if I get a gf, I don't know if I can tell her or not. 🙁 It might freak her out. I am like the nicest guy ever! Its just this stuff I really enjoy and I have an anxiety dissorder which makes it worse thinking I am a freak and stuff. 🙁 I have panic attacks and stuff but I hate thinking I am a freak for liking this stuff. I am 18, I have never told my parents. I cant because its so embaressing for me. 🙁 DOes this make me weird for coming here and looking at videos? Maybe like, once every 2 days? Its just something I really enjoy but I talked to this one girl about it and she said "ummmmm okay?" and never talked to me again. 🙁 So I am afraid of telling anyone now 🙁 I know I was born with this because I have liked it since I was 6 years old.

Can someone help me out here? 🙁
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I used to feel the same way you do. Even AFTER I started producing tickling material, I still felt like this a little, but after I got divorced (from a woman who LOVED to have her feet worshiped, but thought my tickling fetish was an illness), I joined a dating site and I was amazed at the number of women on there who were happy to have their feet played with, worshiped and tickled by their man.
Keep looking, you will find one who will complement your fetish.
 
Echo Stockytickler, wish I had caught this in 2009, but if your still here dude, there is some very good advice above.
For my part, at 33, I have revealed my tickling/foot fetish to a grand total of 8 girls (7 exes and my current awesome gf) and I actually never got the response I dreaded but fully expected: Mild amusement. Horror would somehow be better than "Erm.. Ok. Whatever floats your boat dude..."
That is how I assumed any girl would respond but none of them ever did.
Total 0% judgement. Human sexuality is diverse and people are into all kinds of things, this isn't so very weird in the scheme of things. It's kinda cute really.
It has also taught me to be less judgemental, no one should ever judge someone else based on their fetish but least of all me, I wouldn't exactly have a leg to stand on.
It's all good dude. How's the fire fighting?
 
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