I'm a submissive ticklish woman with a complaint

[steph]

(Makes mental note to mail kis a whole BOX full of smilies...)
I don't think mine did either, I don't believe I name called or swore at him, but I wanted to 😛
I actually got a lot of positive comments on what I said to that guy. He was wrong and he got served. So there. (Rips off her "I"m a brat" shirt and tosses it into the corner)😀

I'm glad you're ok Helena~If you decide to take Dtrell up on his offer, you can play it more like a "here's an expert that we can learn new tricks from" rather than "your skills suck." I did like the diary idea too.

XOXO

I know Helena will be just fine. I really didn't think I said anything that warranted the mods editing out my post. But did they have to take the smilies too? 😀 I want my smilies back!!! 😛

 

[tactillianlover]

How's the planning today, Helena?

 

[The1Bill]

I've been on the other side of that coin. I'm a male 'ler. Also a Masshole, by the way. 😛 My last GF was fairly receptive to my, er, "hobby," but her ticklishness waned as well, unfortunately. Actually, I have found tickling to be a dividing factor in my relationships. Seems that most girls just aren't into it. <shrug>

Regardless, that journal idea is great. If that doesn't really incite him to action, I'm not sure what will.

Best of luck,

-=Bill-=

 

[dtrell]

exactly bill...and i think that a lot of the women that post on here that act like their current boyfriend or sig. other will be with them the rest of their life will also come to find that out too, that it will EVENTUALLY cause enough of a rift to break up. just my two cents.

 

[kis123]

exactly bill...and i think that a lot of the women that post on here that act like their current boyfriend or sig. other will be with them the rest of their life will also come to find that out too, that it will EVENTUALLY cause enough of a rift to break up. just my two cents.

One of the greatest concepts in marriage is sacrifice vs. selfishness. If you get involved with someone who doesn't understand the fetish and is closed to learning or incorporating it into your physical relationship, you have a problem. If you can't sacrifice your feelings (like I did for ten years) about tickling in order to remain in the relationship, it really is something that should've been dealt with prior to the marriage. But, if two people really love each other, both should be ready to make some exceptions to their lifestyle.

dtrell, this isn't only a problem with women-a lot of men have posted about these problems as well. Let's call it as it really is-a bad compatibility decision for both parties. We go into relationships with the "if only" factor. He/she is perfect, but if only.....
That "if only" is usually the thing they spend a lifetime trying to change instead of either accepting or not getting or staying together. The next relationship I get involved in, the "if only" factor will be there. If I can live with it, fine. If not, I'm not going to let grass grow under my feet about it--I'm outta there because I can't depend upon that person ever changing his ways any more than he should think I'm going to change mine.

 

[TickledToDeath]

One of the greatest concepts in marriage is sacrifice vs. selfishness. If you get involved with someone who doesn't understand the fetish and is closed to learning or incorporating it into your physical relationship, you have a problem. If you can't sacrifice your feelings (like I did for ten years) about tickling in order to remain in the relationship, it really is something that should've been dealt with prior to the marriage. But, if two people really love each other, both should be ready to make some exceptions to their lifestyle.

dtrell, this isn't only a problem with women-a lot of men have posted about these problems as well. Let's call it as it really is-a bad compatibility decision for both parties. We go into relationships with the "if only" factor. He/she is perfect, but if only.....
That "if only" is usually the thing they spend a lifetime trying to change instead of either accepting or not getting or staying together. The next relationship I get involved in, the "if only" factor will be there. If I can live with it, fine. If not, I'm not going to let grass grow under my feet about it--I'm outta there because I can't depend upon that person ever changing his ways any more than he should think I'm going to change mine.

Great response kis.

Until I have met my love, shygirl, my thoughts were exactly the same.
Not that in my lifetime I met a girl or woman who was perfect in every way and left "tickling" as the ONLY barrier left, cause I have not, I felt that tickling was a very big part of me and who I was/am and that a relationship that did not have tickling as a part of it was eventually going to fail because I seriously doubted that she would allow me to venture outside of the relationship for tickling satisfaction. That thought never crossed my mind of What IF tickling WAS the only barrier left and the "if only" scenario never came into play really as a last obsticle to overcome. Yes, the thought or scenario of "if only" did come into play with alot of the females I dated and had relationships with but that was only part of the equation and even with that, there were always other factors that led to the subsequent demise of all past relationships. Yes, nobody is perfect. HOWever someone is PERFECT for someone and for ME, someone has to be into tickling for that someone to be perfect for me. That someone turned out to be shygirl and it took a long time and a few trial and error relationships for it to happen and I have found and decided long ago that tickling HAD to be a part of any successful relationship. Everyone has some faults and faults can be lived with and adjusted to as well as accepted and in a way they are not really faults that people have. It is just how people are. People become set in their ways and that is that HOWever some aspects of people and their makeup can and some cannot be lived with or without. Some are trival some are major. You canot "change" who and what a person is in their heart and soul. I am glad I was patient. I am happy I did not "Settle". I found what I needed and whom I was looking for. She too has found me. It is what had to be. Anything less would surely fail, eventually.

TTD

 

[dtrell]

Great response kis.

HOWever someone is PERFECT for someone and for ME, someone has to be into tickling for that someone to be perfect for me. That someone turned out to be shygirl and it took a long time and a few trial and error relationships for it to happen and I have found and decided long ago that tickling HAD to be a part of any successful relationship. Everyone has some faults and faults can be lived with and adjusted to as well as accepted and in a way they are not really faults that people have. It is just how people are. People become set in their ways and that is that HOWever some aspects of people and their makeup can and some cannot be lived with or without. Some are trival some are major. You canot "change" who and what a person is in their heart and soul. I am glad I was patient. I am happy I did not "Settle". I found what I needed and whom I was looking for. She too has found me. It is what had to be. Anything less would surely fail, eventually.

TTD

couldnt have said it better myself ttd. you have to determine if that is important in a life partner. there are TONS of fish in the sea. just because you think you might be sad to break up with someone who youve known a long time that isnt into tickling, there are so many more others out there who might be worth trying out and who might meet ALL your needs.

 

[dtrell]

One of the greatest concepts in marriage is sacrifice vs. selfishness. If you get involved with someone who doesn't understand the fetish and is closed to learning or incorporating it into your physical relationship, you have a problem. If you can't sacrifice your feelings (like I did for ten years) about tickling in order to remain in the relationship, it really is something that should've been dealt with prior to the marriage. But, if two people really love each other, both should be ready to make some exceptions to their lifestyle.

brilliant kis. and i have a good friend that what you are saying REALLY applies to.........

 

[kis123]

I'm not trying to tell people to leave their significant others or spouses. I'm just saying that people need to consider the other party's feelings especially if they didn't reveal their tickling fetish up front. I've learned from my mistakes even though I wasn't physically unfulfilled in my marriage. It was when I met someone else after my marriage disolved when I realized I was suppressing my feelings about it. I always was uncomfortable telling my fantasies and dreams with my husband in fear of being called some sort of freak. I should never have hidden my fetish, but I did. It came out in a major way with my last relationship. He had been hiding things too. When we hooked up, things were explosive! Unfortunately, that was all we had in common.

I'm on my own right now and have learned from my mistakes. Next relationship I get involved in, the man must be into tickling at some level. I enjoy being the ler and I can make him a really happy guy if he lets me.😀 It's not as weird as the vanilla world thinks. A touch can tickle can't it? So we don't call it tickling, we call it touching with a special twist!

 

[Neutron]

I said I wasn't going to get into this, but.........

I never was one who listened to myself very well anyway!! First of all, let's deal with the initial post. I think Helena was just expressing frustration over her tickle situation. I didn't hear her saying she needed relationship advice at all. I just heard her vent. We do it on the forum all the time. Helena will do what's best for her and her life will go on.



Edited to reflect removal of GRV material in previous posts. No issue with kis.

Q

Good observation! Who the HELL would want relationship advice from anyone on this forum. It's obvious she was frustrated, then the hornballs and closet Oprahs swooped in!

Tron

 

[TickledToDeath]

My relationship with my girlfriend is on the rocks right now mainly because of tickling - Shes great in everyother way and accepts my tickling her all the time but the only part that really makes me satisfied in the end is ticklish feet and hers aint, and she doesnt let me tie her up enough, and always cuts me open with her talons when I tickle her, and occasionally tells me I do it too much!. So, mainly Im not satisfied. Im afraid if I break up with her I wont find better and will regret it. But I also think that if I stay forever I wont be completely happy either 🙁

Not much I can suggest about her feet not being ticklish HOWever, maybe when you tie her up next time, make the tickling more sensual and slowly turn up the intensity. That may turn her on more and make her more INTO it and more sensitive as well. Show her the sensual or sexual enjoyment of tickling first then turn it up a notch etc. .
As for the feet, that is another issue that you will have to work out one way or another. Also, you may want to let her tie and tickle you too.
Let her see both sides of the spectrum.

TTD

 

[gig1965]

And once again Tron hits the nail squarely on the head!
Not sure who I find more revolting, Tron...the sycophantic (and utterly transparent) hornballs or the "I feel your pain" Oprahs.

just my 47 cents.
-GIG

 

[TickledToDeath]

And once again Tron hits the nail squarely on the head!
Not sure who I find more revolting, Tron...the sycophantic (and utterly transparent) hornballs or the "I feel your pain" Oprahs.

just my 47 cents.
-GIG

LOL.....hope I am not thought of as "the sycophantic (and utterly transparent) hornballs or the "I feel your pain" Oprahs."

I think I give pretty darn good advise here.
😛 😉


TTD

 

[kis123]

And once again Tron hits the nail squarely on the head!
Not sure who I find more revolting, Tron...the sycophantic (and utterly transparent) hornballs or the "I feel your pain" Oprahs.

just my 47 cents.
-GIG

Well I'm definitely not a sycophantic and utterly transparent. I can occassionally be the "hornball"😀 . But I'm probably more the Oprah type at times. I say what I think and don't always care if anyone else agrees with me or not. This is the Internet.
Can you really take any of this stuff seriously???😛 😛