Jake......01/27/2003 to 02/01/2006....Gone

[Mitchell]

Iam terribly sorry to hear what happened to your dog, TTD.
When I had my dog, we always tried to keep a close eye on her, so she wouldnt go out into the road. We were forced to give her away, when my parents seperated, because all of us were moving to apartments that did not allow dogs. About nine months later, we learned from our vet that she had been run over and killed by a car in her new owners driveway. We were heartbroken to hear that.
Losing a pet is a terrible tradegy. Again, my heartfelt thoughts go out to you and your family.

Mitch

 

[TickledToDeath]

I cannot get a grip. I cannot believe Jake is gone. I want him BACK

 

[desdemona]

As Patti Loveless once sang "time will ease your pain." It's never easy losing a beloved pet. And to lose one so young and in such a senseless way. But know that at least he died doing what he loved - out running free, chasing things. Border collies have that very determined gene...and nothing stops them from their quest of herding something, ANYTHING that moves. But don't think about comparing another animal to Jake. You won't find another. You won't "replace" him - but you'll find another special animal to fill his void, just maybe, when your heart is ready to open itself up again. Animals are such an awesome addition to our lives - it's hard to imagine not owning another. Or more like being owned (ok, maybe that's more of a cat thing, but you know what I mean). The added joy they bring to our lives is worth the smattering of pain they leave behind as pawprints on our heart and soul. Jake will be missed. My deepest condolences for your and Patti's loss.

 

[steph]

I posted this for you over at TkComm but in case you missed it...Only the first article is relevant, BTW...

http://www.willkern.com/columns/columns.htm

I also found this:
http://www.brentwoodpetclinic.com/copingwithpetloss.html
Again, I'm so sorry for your and Patti's loss.
XOXO

I cannot get a grip. I cannot believe Jake is gone. I want him BACK

 

[TickledToDeath]

I posted this for you over at TkComm but in case you missed it...Only the first article is relevant, BTW...

http://www.willkern.com/columns/columns.htm

I also found this:
http://www.brentwoodpetclinic.com/copingwithpetloss.html
Again, I'm so sorry for your and Patti's loss.
XOXO

Thanks again, Steph. Your concern means alot.

🙁

 

[steph]

You're welcome sweetie. I've loved animals since I was a baby. The downside of that is that sometimes you have to say good bye to them. No worse feeling on the planet, IMHO.

You know how with people you sometimes fight and have hard feelings, even when you love them to pieces? When's the last time any animal lover ever felt like that, right? With a pet, it's all...unconditional love. 🙁

Anyway, at the other forum, I posted for you that I found a lot of vet offices, humane societies, etc have pet loss seminars. I do hope it helps...
XOXO

Thanks again, Steph. Your concern means alot.

🙁

 

[venray]

Jake....my Border Collie.......snuck out through the open garage door without us knowing........apparantly chaced a deer off the property and out on to a main road. By the time we noticed he was not in the house and went looking for him, we found him dead on the side of the road.
We are totally devistated and will miss him forever. He was one awesome dog.
We buried him in our backyard.
Rest in peace my boy. I loved you Jake. WE loved you.

TTD

Just got back after 3 days away on business to see this.....

I am soooo sorry Ed and Patti...Jake was one of the best dogs I have had the pleasure of meeting....

I share your loss.....

Email or give me a call.......

Ray

 

[TklDuo-Ann]

I cannot get a grip. I cannot believe Jake is gone. I want him BACK

That's exactly how we felt after losing Benji. The reason we now have two new cats is because we couldn't stand the empty feel of the house without him. We needed a furball to cuddle. Jake is irreplacable. But, I hope that you'll find another good friend out there who's meant for the big hearts you two have to share.

BTW....our new "kids" are doing well and adjusting nicely. But, we still miss Benji something fierce. It'll take time.

Ann

 

[TklDuo-Drew]

It really is such a sad and hard thing to go thru, to lose a pet. We know too well, those first few days are killers. We really enjoyed meeting Jake, such a good boy. But.....you and Patti are gonna be alright. Even though your friend isn't with you, he will live forever in your hearts.



Drew

 

[Ray<3tiklishft]

My condolences. We (my sister and I) have had many pets in our lifetime and have loved everyone of them and had cried when they were called by their maker.

And being a pet lover and owner now, I just paid $1,500 for my daughter's beloved black cat, Ebony, especially after seeing the tears running down my daughter's cheeks, saying to me, "It's worth it, Dad. Don't let Ebony die!"

Glad to say that Ebony is doing fine now. After reading this, I'm glad I made the right decision. (I'm actually in tears as I type this.)

 

[longislandgirl]

This is SOOO sad. I think I am going to cry. I am so sorry TickledToDeath. I really am.🙁

 

[shygal]

Thank You All!

What a great group of wonderful, sincere , sensitive and caring people you are. Your kind words help so much to cope with the heartbreak we feel.
I've had many pets and dogs in my life, but Jake was a human disguised as a dog. He always made us laugh, and needed to be included in our "group hug"
I'll miss his adorable face , how painful this is! Love to you all!
Patti

 

[venray]

I will hug ya tomorrow hon!.....And Ed too......

 

[steph]

Such a sweetheart for this hon....
XOXO

My condolences. We (my sister and I) have had many pets in our lifetime and have loved everyone of them and had cried when they were called by their maker.

And being a pet lover and owner now, I just paid $1,500 for my daughter's beloved black cat, Ebony, especially after seeing the tears running down my daughter's cheeks, saying to me, "It's worth it, Dad. Don't let Ebony die!"

Glad to say that Ebony is doing fine now. After reading this, I'm glad I made the right decision. (I'm actually in tears as I type this.)

 

[giantfan121262]

I cannot get a grip. I cannot believe Jake is gone. I want him BACK

This post took me back about 20 years when I lost my German Shepard/Wolf dog. That is exactly how I felt and it took me a while (and I mean a while) to get through that. She was MY dog out of everyone in the family. I did almost everything with her and when she left me, a part of me went with her. I think the hardest thing for me was that she went, and I wasn't there for her. I found her on my kitchen floor when I got home from one of my classes. I seriously tought I was going to have a stroke.

The reason for me saying this is that things will be OK but it will definitely take time. I'm sure you know this but you can call on me anytime. I know all too well how it feels to lose a pet that you unconditionally love so much. I would rather have someone kick me in the groin. At least I'd feel better alot sooner.

When I first saw this I was in a state of shock but now that I see this again I realize how sad I am about this. He was such a cool dog and I mean this from the bottom of my heart. I'm sorry for not saying this sooner, but I just got back from a ski weekend

 

[tickleshotel]

OH Gosh TTD and Shygirl ! I am so sad to hear about your loss of Jake You both have my heartfelt sympathy,and I am here for you two as a friend and please PM me anytime

 

[TickledToDeath]

This post took me back about 20 years when I lost my German Shepard/Wolf dog. That is exactly how I felt and it took me a while (and I mean a while) to get through that. She was MY dog out of everyone in the family. I did almost everything with her and when she left me, a part of me went with her. I think the hardest thing for me was that she went, and I wasn't there for her. I found her on my kitchen floor when I got home from one of my classes. I seriously tought I was going to have a stroke.

The reason for me saying this is that things will be OK but it will definitely take time. I'm sure you know this but you can call on me anytime. I know all too well how it feels to lose a pet that you unconditionally love so much. I would rather have someone kick me in the groin. At least I'd feel better alot sooner.

When I first saw this I was in a state of shock but now that I see this again I realize how sad I am about this. He was such a cool dog and I mean this from the bottom of my heart. I'm sorry for not saying this sooner, but I just got back from a ski weekend

Thanks bro.
It means alot to me.

I am still in a state of disbelief, shock and sadness. I cannot express enough in words how much I miss "Jake" and everthing about him.
Many folks have told me to get another dog as soon as possible and an opportunity has been presented to me to get another Border Collie at a very good price. He is 6 weeks old and all I have to do is go get him and he is mine.
I am very torn as to what to do here.

I want my Jake back so bad but I know he is gone and nothing I can do or think will bring him back and undue what has happened.

From what the breeder of the new pup has told Patti when she called and inquired about him, he sounds like he will be just like Jake.
IF I do decide to get him(and he is still available this weekend), the name will be Zack.
When I picked out Jake after he was born, I had two names in mind to call him. Jake or Zack.
Great names for a male Border Collie.
I am trying so hard to rid myself of the guilt of "woulda shoulda coulda" and "what if..." . Part of me went with Jake but I can and will bounce back.

Thanks Dave and to EVERYONE who posted here.

TTD

 

[giantfan121262]

Thanks bro.
It means alot to me.

I am still in a state of disbelief, shock and sadness. I cannot express enough in words how much I miss "Jake" and everthing about him.
Many folks have told me to get another dog as soon as possible and an opportunity has been presented to me to get another Border Collie at a very good price. He is 6 weeks old and all I have to do is go get him and he is mine.
I am very torn as to what to do here.

I want my Jake back so bad but I know he is gone and nothing I can do or think will bring him back and undue what has happened.

From what the breeder of the new pup has told Patti when she called and inquired about him, he sounds like he will be just like Jake.
IF I do decide to get him(and he is still available this weekend), the name will be Zack.
When I picked out Jake after he was born, I had two names in mind to call him. Jake or Zack.
Great names for a male Border Collie.
I am trying so hard to rid myself of the guilt of "woulda shoulda coulda" and "what if..." . Part of me went with Jake but I can and will bounce back.

Thanks Dave and to EVERYONE who posted here.

TTD

Anytime Ed,

I'm sure what ever you decide to do will work out for you. I know that getting a new dog would never replace Jake in a million years. Jake was his own personality. If you decide to get "Zack" he will have his own endearing traits which you will grow to appreciate. I can tell you that Zack will be given a good home.

Good luck at whatever you decide.

 

[TickledToDeath]

Anytime Ed,

I'm sure what ever you decide to do will work out for you. I know that getting a new dog would never replace Jake in a million years. Jake was his own personality. If you decide to get "Zack" he will have his own endearing traits which you will grow to appreciate. I can tell you that Zack will be given a good home.

Good luck at whatever you decide.

Jake was definitely special as he was awesome. I am torn right now about choosing another Border Collie. I am thinking that it may be a constant reminder of Jake and what happend to him. The vision of what happened and how we found him haunts me constantly. I may have to go with another breed.

What to do what to do. 😕

 

[lightninbug]

TTD...If I may add a few words

What you and your lady went thru is all the more heartwrenching because, as a society, the vast majority of friends, family, bosses, co-workers etc. will not really ALLOW us to Really GRIEVE for a member of our family that was as much a member of the family as Mom, Dad, Buddy or Sis.

In the real world, however, we who recognise our pets as more than just 'animals' are seeing this as you see it...a heartbreak that digs down REALLY DEEP. I, myself, have lost one of the best friends I've ever had just last Nov. He was gradually going before my eyes and one wonders if they will EVER be able to Give and Receive the kind of love that was SO CRUELY Taken by circumstance, health, ...whatever.

I'm here to tell you that by the posts that I've read, You Folks are beautiful decent people with which ANY dog or cat would love to make a home. You have the love to give and feel ready to do so...but if something's stopping you from getting another dog right away...That's OK.

It may mean that you're both STILL feeling a very REAL LOSS and are a bit undecided.

THAT's OK, TOO. You have the time. Remember Jake & honor his memory & know that he awaits you both beneath the Rainbow Bridge.

An old teacher once told me that when it's not improtant to make a decision...then it's Important NOT to make a decision.

Another Dog will come to YOU...when You're READY for them.
Take good care of each other & know that Jake watches over you still.

Yours in a common affliction-
John
aka the Lightninbug

 

[TickledToDeath]

What you and your lady went thru is all the more heartwrenching because, as a society, the vast majority of friends, family, bosses, co-workers etc. will not really ALLOW us to Really GRIEVE for a member of our family that was as much a member of the family as Mom, Dad, Buddy or Sis.

In the real world, however, we who recognise our pets as more than just 'animals' are seeing this as you see it...a heartbreak that digs down REALLY DEEP. I, myself, have lost one of the best friends I've ever had just last Nov. He was gradually going before my eyes and one wonders if they will EVER be able to Give and Receive the kind of love that was SO CRUELY Taken by circumstance, health, ...whatever.

I'm here to tell you that by the posts that I've read, You Folks are beautiful decent people with which ANY dog or cat would love to make a home. You have the love to give and feel ready to do so...but if something's stopping you from getting another dog right away...That's OK.

It may mean that you're both STILL feeling a very REAL LOSS and are a bit undecided.

THAT's OK, TOO. You have the time. Remember Jake & honor his memory & know that he awaits you both beneath the Rainbow Bridge.

An old teacher once told me that when it's not improtant to make a decision...then it's Important NOT to make a decision.

Another Dog will come to YOU...when You're READY for them.
Take good care of each other & know that Jake watches over you still.

Yours in a common affliction-
John
aka the Lightninbug

Wow.........your post brought a tear back to the eye my friend.
Thank you for your thoughts and relation to the matter as well as this post.

TTD

 

[desdemona]

I can share both sides of the coin about getting the same breed...
Me, I've always owned mutts when it comes to dogs. But with my cats, my first one was a Siamese. And when I lost her, it hurt...but I had two others and I wasn't in a hurry to get another. Recently, I had the chance to adopt another seal point Siamese - just like my Chelsea. She was just as vocal and just as stubborn...and I sometimes find myselves calling her Chelsea (instead of Jasmine lol) by mistake. But she's her own cat with her own unique qualities that make her just as special.

My aunt lost a dog a few years back to a tragic incident - she let the dogs out and the smallest one was attacked by coyotes. I worked on her for 24 hours, but couldn't undo the damage. Since that dog, she has adopted nothing but senior papillons - just like the one she lost. She feels she has to make it up to Lady somehow...it's quite sad. But the older dogs all get a good home. She has never gone back to the place the accident happened...and I don't blame her. If something like that happened close to home, I don't know that I'd be able to cope as well as you and Patty seem to be doing.

Good luck in whatever you decide 🙂

Dr. Des

 

[giantfan121262]

Jake was definitely special as he was awesome. I am torn right now about choosing another Border Collie. I am thinking that it may be a constant reminder of Jake and what happend to him. The vision of what happened and how we found him haunts me constantly. I may have to go with another breed.

What to do what to do. 😕

I can totally understand how you feel about the fact that it's the same breed. Also you were saying that his personality is alot like Jakes may complicate it even more. Just know that if you do decide to get Zack we will welcome him with the same open arms as any other dog. If you don't decide to do it, that's OK too.. I'm sure you know this but what you are feeling is very normal. Losing a pet is like losing a family member. With my dog approaching mortality, I don't look forward to that grueling decision.

 

[TickledToDeath]

I am on a seesaw going back and forth between dealing with it, acepting to being totally blown away, devistated, in disbelief and totally loosing it!
I cannot believe this has happened. 3 friggen years old. Was just playing frisbee outside with him like an hour before maybe less. Just messing around with him in the house. Sat at the table to eat......I share the leftovers with him....Patti comes home with groceries and her daughter. Next thing I notice is he is not in the house.......next thing.........we see him dead on the side of the road on the othe side of the woods and I am in absolute devistation and sorrow!
I am still in shock.
I cannot believe this happend.
I am confused, shocked, devistated, sad and ANGRY!
A part of me is gone.
I will never be totally the same. The vision of Jake and how we found him will be with me forever.

TTD

 

[isabeau]

Ed all i can say is time will pass. and maybe just maybe the memories of dear Jake will make you smile. i realize how young the dog was and how much you loved him. i love my chelsea as if she were my baby. anyway Ed, you know where to find me. pm or phone.

isabeau