NEST Realization

[James_Bond4334]

I told numerous people who questioned why I seemed disconnected at NEST about what I had learned that weekend.

I concluded that I am still a person who sees tickling as a private matter. Thursday and Friday were the two best days for me by far. I met with a lot of people, hung out, got to play some poker and just socialized in general.

I had the best time meeting all these great people who I had only talked to on-line. I couldn't have asked for anything more.

Once the activities were under way, I felt more and more uncomfortable because it was in a public setting. When we would be talking, I was having a great time, but when it escalated into tickling in a public place, I found myself staying extremely quiet or leaving altogether.

Even at the Sunday club, I left and went back to the hotel for a while. (Reason why the Brotherhood lost the Distraction Game. They all know had I been there, they were going down! Right Red? 😉 )

I was able to learn a lot about myself and my relationship. Tickling, for myself is still only a private thing and may never get away from that. I also realized that the tickling this weekend was fun and enjoyable, but no where near sexual as it is with my fiancee.

I was very happy to learn this about myself. I was afraid I would react in a way that would be disloyal, i suppose is the best way to put it.

I don't know if anyone else felt this way at NEST. I still found it to be a great trip and don't disrespect anyone who does enjoy it publicly. I, personally, just found it to be something that is meant to be private or at least done in private with a few friends.

 

[911]

I've never been to nest or anything like it but I would feel the same way.

 

[Ivory Tickler]

I agree with James Bond as well. Tickling has always been a very personal, very private part of me. It's been that way since as long as I can remember.

One reason I decided to go to NEST stems from my continued desire to learn about why I'm into tickling. The forum has been a huge part in my exploration of this and the few people I've chatted with online or met with played a valuable role as well.

However, my journey came to an impass. It was apparent to me how my connection to tickling has been so hidden and kept to myself that I wasn't able to truly grow beyond the walls I've built around me. All my life, I've protected myself from letting my love of tickling become public and to share it openly with others.

For me, NEST helped open up a new world of understanding I had yet to explore. Even further, my realization about the NEST is that it actually catered to members comfortable with tickling openly as well as to those of whom are not.

Like James Bond, I too was a little taken aback by the public displays of tickling, but knowing he felt the same and being in that company made me feel better. There were quite a few of us who all felt that way, but that's okay. For some it'll be a slow adjustment to get comfortable with being public with it. For others it'll lead to the satisfied realization that private tickling best suits them.

In a way, my early expectations of NEST were that I would have to conform to an ideal that we all have to enjoy tickling the same way. In point of fact: NEST allows you to derive your own understanding of how tickling affects you. At least, that's how I interpreted my experience with the weekend.

In the end, I overcame my fear of showing my love of tickling in public. Compared to the other displays of tickle play happening, my experience was very tame. For now, tickling for me is still best when enjoyed privately and one-on-one with someone I feel comfortable with. But... I'm MUCH more comfortable with the openess I observed during the event than I ever thought I'd be before.

Hmm... we'll see what happens next time! 🙂

-- IT

P.S. I haven't had a chance to say thank you to you, James Bond, for being a really cool guy, inviting me to the poker events, hanging out, driving us to McD's, and inducting me into the Order of the Sandwich. You are the textbook example of what made the NEST a positive experience for me... meeting a new friend among many new friends and just having a great weekend. Thanks again!

 

[TklDuo-Ann]

I think it's great that you're bringing this up in the open. As with everything else in life, we each have our own personal preferences and comfort levels with things. A gathering, especially one as large as NEST isn't for everyone. And there's nothing wrong with that.

We all need to recognize and honor where we are with things...especially something this personal. I applaud your ability to honor your own needs rather than staying and making yourself more uncomfortable. I also applaud your ability to see it for what it is and state that without laying blame on those who do enjoy it. It just adds to the respect I've found for you over the past several weeks.

 

[taptoematt]

I am more than likely the odd man out as far as public tickling goes. It really doesn't bother me , in fact I enjoy it. I like to tickle or be tickled in public, or just watch it. It's better and more personal than watching those vids. It also takes the porn aspect out and introduces a friendly way of people just having fun. Has everyone forgot about fun ? If it's not fun and feeding our fetish , why are we doing it ? I have a dream. I dream of a world where all can engage in open tickling with no judgements or regrets. I dream of a world where happiness and laughter is the norm and if tickling can bring us one step closer to that realization.... tickle away my friends.

 

[Ace Riley]

Public tickling makes this brown skinned latino turn red in the cheeks. >)

I think I'd only be uncomfortable to the point that people might think I'm making fun of them, 'cuz I get the case of the giggles. ^-^

It's definitely a private thing to all of us, and takes some getting used to letting that loose. I think that uncomfortable sensation, in a way is kind of something good to face. I bet you feel an awkward form of relief now that it's over, yet you probably miss being there too.

It's like mental bondage, it's something we keep to ourselves. We tether it to our own psyche, nobody else's. It's ours to share, or not to share... this love for tickling. I bet a place like NEST challenges that very thing that holds it sacred, but I think loosening that up is kind of the entire point of NEST.

I seriously doubt it could happen all at once though, but it's awesome that one can take that important first step in discovering themselves, and maybe one day, it'll be something easier to face. Since familiarity will set in.

 

[GirlWhoLikes2Laugh]

I agree with James Bond as well. Tickling has always been a very personal, very private part of me. It's been that way since as long as I can remember.

One reason I decided to go to NEST stems from my continued desire to learn about why I'm into tickling. The forum has been a huge part in my exploration of this and the few people I've chatted with online or met with played a valuable role as well.

However, my journey came to an impass. It was apparent to me how my connection to tickling has been so hidden and kept to myself that I wasn't able to truly grow beyond the walls I've built around me. All my life, I've protected myself from letting my love of tickling become public and to share it openly with others.

For me, NEST helped open up a new world of understanding I had yet to explore. Even further, my realization about the NEST is that it actually catered to members comfortable with tickling openly as well as to those of whom are not.

Like James Bond, I too was a little taken aback by the public displays of tickling, but knowing he felt the same and being in that company made me feel better. There were quite a few of us who all felt that way, but that's okay. For some it'll be a slow adjustment to get comfortable with being public with it. For others it'll lead to the satisfied realization that private tickling best suits them.

In a way, my early expectations of NEST were that I would have to conform to an ideal that we all have to enjoy tickling the same way. In point of fact: NEST allows you to derive your own understanding of how tickling affects you. At least, that's how I interpreted my experience with the weekend.

In the end, I overcame my fear of showing my love of tickling in public. Compared to the other displays of tickle play happening, my experience was very tame. For now, tickling for me is still best when enjoyed privately and one-on-one with someone I feel comfortable with. But... I'm MUCH more comfortable with the openess I observed during the event than I ever thought I'd be before.

Hmm... we'll see what happens next time! 🙂

-- IT

P.S. I haven't had a chance to say thank you to you, James Bond, for being a really cool guy, inviting me to the poker events, hanging out, driving us to McD's, and inducting me into the Order of the Sandwich. You are the textbook example of what made the NEST a positive experience for me... meeting a new friend among many new friends and just having a great weekend. Thanks again!

I was glad to see you again at NEST Ivory. I am glad that we were able to meet up after meeting with each other in my area when you went to N.J for your friend's wedding. I am so glad you had an amazing time! (yeah I read that thread of yours about your experiences at NEST). I REALLY hope to you at NEST again next year!

 

[Ivory Tickler]

I was glad to see you again at NEST Ivory. I am glad that we were able to meet up after meeting with each other in my area when you went to N.J for your friend's wedding. I am so glad you had an amazing time! (yeah I read that thread of yours about your experiences at NEST). I REALLY hope to you at NEST again next year!

It was great seeing you again, too, Jen! I almost didn't recognize you with your new hair color... which was quite pretty if I may say so! Thanks for helping me out in the "tickle chair" at the play party... you are sweet as you are deadly 😉

Definitely coming back to NEST... hope to see everyone again and hope to make new friends!

 

[GirlWhoLikes2Laugh]

Thanks I am glad you like my new hair color. I just had it highlighted or colored a little lighter than it was before. If you mean that I am a deadly tickler, evil or whatever you want to call it, yes that's true. That's what I've been told by some of the lees who I've tickled in the past.

Hope to see you again next year at NEST Ivory .

 

[Bugman]

I don't know if anyone else felt this way at NEST. I still found it to be a great trip and don't disrespect anyone who does enjoy it publicly. I, personally, just found it to be something that is meant to be private or at least done in private with a few friends.

I found out that i feel the same way,and i agree with eveything you said.

 

[Tickler Bart]

Exactly!

What James Bond said is EXACTLY what I was trying to say to a few people I've spoken with at the club on Sunday.
Tickling, for me, is a VERY private issue & I REALLY prefer one on one where there are no on-lookers.
However, I need more experience as I do not get to indulge in this activity often.
Tickling & foot love aside, I ALWAYS like to hang out with the NEST group. I may not be an 'expert' in tickling, but when I'm with you guys I feel a part of a VERY large family.
Thank you all so very much for listening to my rants & negative outbursts on the subject.
I would be truly lost without you all.

 

[Italian_Touch]

Great point, James Bond!

James Bond,

congratulations for bringing up a very important subject and to share with the community your feelings.
With your post you have set an example of how to enjoy a gathering like NEST even if somebody suddenly realizes that his reaction to the "public" play is not the kind of "let's jump in... like a kid in a candy shop 😀"

NEST is not only a fetish-party but, far more, a reunion of people who are friends in real life and/or in the forum, who share the same kink but also value a good time together. And your presence has been a drive in many occasions for a group of folks this year. Thank you so much.

My reaction to my first NEST has been quite the opposite and finding myself for the first time to be able to get completely open in a friendly environment of like-minded people has been (seriously) one of the most refreshing experiences in my life. Probably because I instinctively segregate extremely well my "personal" life from the play time.

So, congratulation for the post and I am glad that you have found your dimension during the weekend.

Something that stroke me this year was something on the same line: the gathering was HUGE... we were SO MANY that the main event had the feeling of being very public and open to anyone not only to watch but to interact with people playing (which is fine: we were all in a mood of fellowship and were all there to share a common experience). This might not bother but surely takes away the sense of exclusivity in the interaction between/among the people involved in a scene. I guess it's something that it has to be dealt with in such a huge event.

 

[Pokey]

Mornin there Bond, James Bond! We had not talked much previous to NEST so there was little history to draw from, however, I have to say that I enjoyed getting to talk, laugh, and even beg off losing most of my money to you "poker" affectionadoes. I do thank you for inviting me to play and especially for re-confirming the fact that laughter and joy can be shared by people of all ages, together. I truly enjoyed meeting you, and look forward to dong so again. Maybe next time, I'll come watch those games and get some pointers.

Pokey 😎

 

[James_Bond4334]

Mornin there Bond, James Bond! We had not talked much previous to NEST so there was little history to draw from, however, I have to say that I enjoyed getting to talk, laugh, and even beg off losing most of my money to you "poker" affectionadoes. I do thank you for inviting me to play and especially for re-confirming the fact that laughter and joy can be shared by people of all ages, together. I truly enjoyed meeting you, and look forward to dong so again. Maybe next time, I'll come watch those games and get some pointers.

Pokey 😎

I look forward too it Candy Man. And just ask Avenger if I'm a good coach. I gave him a lesson in strategy before our game Saturday night.

 

[dvnc]

Heck, man, if ya don't get that you're not alone in this, let this old host clue ya t'the mails from several others who can't do public scenes, t'DOZENS of folks who can't do big scenes.

Heck, some folks found 20 to be daunting. You were in a mob near 100.

It's a flavor thing. If ya dig what ya dig, then dig it. None of the good hosts will fault ya for wanting a scale that suits ya.

For me, for instance, the greatest part of NEST has, and likely will always be, the friends I have there, and the wild fact that I always meet more each time.

Good on ya for remindin' us old folks that there's newer folks who need to know that this is the way of our world - some folks dig one-on-one only, some dig small scenes privately, and some dig the big ones.

Some of us mad bastards dig it all.

Do consider showin' next time JUST for the hotel scene. Well worth the visit, doncha think? 🙂

Thanks again for the great thread!

 

[TklDuo-Ann]

when I'm with you guys I feel a part of a VERY large family.
Thank you all so very much for listening to my rants & negative outbursts on the subject.
I would be truly lost without you all.

I think you just nailed what many feel, Bart. It was a pleasure to get to talk with you again. I wish we'd had more time. As a fellow ranter this weekend, I can relate to just needign to get all that negative crap out of our system. It helps. And that's what family is for. Well that and to have fun! 😛 Keep in touch, my friend!

 

[tickleshotel]

I told numerous people who questioned why I seemed disconnected at NEST about what I had learned that weekend.

I concluded that I am still a person who sees tickling as a private matter. Thursday and Friday were the two best days for me by far. I met with a lot of people, hung out, got to play some poker and just socialized in general.

I had the best time meeting all these great people who I had only talked to on-line. I couldn't have asked for anything more.

Once the activities were under way, I felt more and more uncomfortable because it was in a public setting. When we would be talking, I was having a great time, but when it escalated into tickling in a public place, I found myself staying extremely quiet or leaving altogether.

Even at the Sunday club, I left and went back to the hotel for a while. (Reason why the Brotherhood lost the Distraction Game. They all know had I been there, they were going down! Right Red? 😉 )

I was able to learn a lot about myself and my relationship. Tickling, for myself is still only a private thing and may never get away from that. I also realized that the tickling this weekend was fun and enjoyable, but no where near sexual as it is with my fiancee.

I was very happy to learn this about myself. I was afraid I would react in a way that would be disloyal, i suppose is the best way to put it.

I don't know if anyone else felt this way at NEST. I still found it to be a great trip and don't disrespect anyone who does enjoy it publicly. I, personally, just found it to be something that is meant to be private or at least done in private with a few friends.

James-Bond, Thank you so much for being such a good conversationalist while hanging out on Thursday and you were awesome as a partner for the workshops 🙂

 

[P[a]pi]

James Bond - I think I would feel the same way if I went alone like you did.

That is why I would only go to NEST with my girlfriend who is a lee. Maybe if you went to NEST with your fiance you wouldn't have felt uncomfortable once all the tickling started.

I mean, even you and your fiance didn't want to tickle each other in public or get involved at least you would have had her their with you. The two of you could have watched together.

It's just a thought. I could be wrong. And if I do go with Meka, I might find out that it doesn't whether I'm alone or not.