On the edge of suicide! Help!!!!!!!

[noway]

Hi fellows!

Well, I am someonewhois having a very bad time on his life. I am checking out with a Doctor´s help, but I think that INTERNET can be helpful too, specially when you are meeting with persons with similar tastes than you.

To avoid beingtiresome: from years ago I have been in love with one girl. And we have a great relation. We understand each other in everything, but at the moment of sex, my poor dick says NO. And I am having a 50% losing of my potence. Is not complete, but is happening.- And we have dreams about having children, getting married, etc. She is very understanding, but I feel extremely bad.

The problem is, I am sure, that I just don´t dare to confess to her my tickling fetish. And I even fear to tickle her hard, the way I like, because Iknow that she is not lover of being tickled and this will lead to a breach between us. So, I just feel that I can not posess this woman (yes, for me tickling is posession) and I feel miserable.

I just don´t know what to do. And I am failing with sex with the only woman I have ever loved. I am on the edge of just crash my head against the wall. A bad depression. As I told, I am looking for consultor´s help, professional advice, etc., but I feel thathere are persons withthe similar craving, who can help me with sound advice.

What can I do? How can I confess it to her? If not, how to take courage and do to someone whom I adore something that she doesn´t like?

Please, advice!

 

[isabeau]

hmm this is rather difficult..for one thing don't even think of suicide..have you talked to her about this at all? you should, especially if she is that one and only that you love..love is about give and take..receiving and giving. if you explain to her just how much this fetish means to you, hopefully she will understand. but don't dare do anything so drastic as suicide..nothing is worth losing your life about..and i know guys who need tickling to get it up so to speak..so you are definitely not alone..

 

[lojak]

I feel you, I been diagnose with depression w/ suicidal tendency, I’m currently taking 3 medications for my depression which believe it or not stems from work, married, sex, and tickling. I drank so much that I couldn’t get drunk any longer, no matter what I drank.

After a stay in the hospital I’m started to learn to take care of myself, instead of worrying about everyone else and their feelings concerning me.

As for sex and tickling I feel you again, for me tickling and sex goes together, but since my wife is not clear on how she feels about tickling I stop doing it. Strangely at the same time our sex life has started to suffer.

I’m telling you this because you need to hang in there, it will get better down the line. Take a chance and tell your wife / girl friend about your tickling and accept whatever she have to said about it. One of the biggest problems is worry about something that only you know about.

 

[noway]

Thanks to both of you

Well, now I know that I am not alone. That´s why I dared to write in this forum, because Iknew that I could find here people who would understand.
Honestly, I hadn´t written beforebecause I was ashamed. I have many inhibitions with this fetish.

 

[isabeau]

Well, now I know that I am not alone. That´s why I dared to write in this forum, because Iknew that I could find here people who would understand.
Honestly, I hadn´t written beforebecause I was ashamed. I have many inhibitions with this fetish.

never be ashamed noway..believe me, i know all about depression..and my pm box is always open if you need to vent. not sure i can give much advice, but i'm a good listener...good luck

 

[dvnc]

You're going to find many hear suffer feelings of depression and/or anger. Condolensces to you all. It's rough on folks that have such situations.

Concerning male sexual performance, you CAN approach your physician for Viagra or other performance enhancing medication.

It IS a good idea to confront the fear and negative self-imaging by talking to your lover. Where you can't, or they're not willing to deal with that, you either have the medicinal correction, or you have one ROUGH situation, for which, again, I give condolensces, and hope you're staying away from destruction of anything and anyone, yourselves included.

 

[Ano-Nymous]

Yup, you can get past this

Hey,
Just hang in there, and as you already have, talk to both your doctor (physician and also psychologist, that's what they're there for, help you heal 🙂 )

and especially your girlfriend --
If this relationship spans *years she's not going to drop you over something like a superficial sexual preference -- That's a strong connection

If anything, as others have said in other related threads here,
you can introduce her to this slowly, it can be very sensual, titillating
If you're patient with a light touch you might just addict her, especially with regard to the stimulation of more private areas.

Tickling is generally known as mild teasing, tingling stimulation (and even when someone's been abused with it harshly, by sadistic family members or dates, someone they trust & love can show them how delicious it can be with the proper touch & care....)

Nothing to be ashamed about (though I do understand it's not easy to talk about, but if you're intimate with someone this preference is not nearly as kinky as others, it can be categorized as "light touching...")

Perhaps allow her to tickle you....

These are temporary problems

 

[Mitchell]

I dont want to sound like I am on a soapbox with what I'm about to say here, but, as someone who had thoughts of suicide during his teenage years, and spent many years in a therapist's office, dealing with that, and other family issues, this is what I've always been told.
It sounds like an old Cliche, but, where there's life, there's hope. As long as one is alive, and physically healthy, any other issue or problem can be worked through, either through professional therapy, with medication if needed, and lifestyle changes. I was always told that suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. Life is ever changing, there is always opportunity for one's situation to improve, no matter how despondant, or awful, things might seem.
It seems to me that you are best speaking with a couneslor, or perhaps sex therapist, to deal with your sexual issues. There are many professionals out there. It seems to me that you have two serious issues to deal with, your sex issues, and your suicidal thoughts. Both can be worked through, with counesling, and medication if needed, but, just remember, as long as you are alive, you can improve. Suicide, no matter how despondent you are, is the end, final, no more chance for anything. Please dont do that ever, both for yourself, your girlfriend, and ones in your life who love you, and your friends on the forum who would miss you.
I hope what I said helped. I have been there, and, even as rough as things have gotten for me in my life, as I look back, for myself, and my mom, I am relieved that I never took such a drastic, final step. NOTHING is worth taking one's life over. There are solutions to problems, and just remember, if one solution you try doesnt work, there is always another one that can be attempted. Good Luck to you.

Mitch

 

[noway]

Thanx fellows! I am feeling very well!

I had faced most of my problems, I had treatment, and I started to improve everything.

Above all, I am having courage to face life. This is themain thing.

I thank all of you. Sometimes, the "outsiders" believe that people with fetishes are "perverted creatures", "abnormal", "degenerated", "sick persons" or whatever... Well, I would like them to read this thread and watch at your replies. They show a wonderful feeling of human friendship which should be emulated by the non fetishists persons. We are normal, sound and good people like everybody. And I am glad to have found new friends here, and again I thank you all.

I will try to work out your advices.

God bless you all.

Bye

 

[Lionhart]

You obviously have great courage brother because I don't think that many people (myself included) would have the courage to ask for help over such a personal issue. No doubt that you will overcome the problems that you are faced with.. Just don't give up.. PM me if ya need anything man.. God Bless..

 

[noway]

Thanx. Everything was already superated

I really thank you all, and I feel like amember of a real COMMUNITY among you.

I think that I have new and good friends here.

By the way, Isabeau. What have you been doing?

THANKS to all of you for your support! To everyone of you! No exception! Life go on!

Your friend
Doug

 

[tickler-1]

On the edge of suicide help!!!!

And you think you have it bad you should live my life, I drive a truck over the road and i have been trying to find a woman that i can tickle i talk to woman and they like the way i talk about tickling and licking there soles and between there toes and sucking there toes i then ask to meet with them and they agree to meet and when i get there no one shows up the Gatherings i try to join and they tell me no i don't live there i haven't found one in Brownsville TX i am a tickler and a feet lover and i yet to find and woman that i can tickle and make love to her feet sometimes i what to check out of life and some how i make it every year i some time think i going crazy my passion is tickling and woman's bare feet i have tried to find a woman tick-lee and one that love to have her feet played with being a truck driver is very hard and your never home and woman don't like traveling so here I'm and what to tickle and lick her feet and no one what to help with my passion and i have a deep passion for tickle and woman's bare feet some time with out thinking in a store i stand and look at woman's bare feet and when that see me then they run a way no one knows how hard it is for me and no one really cares i guess I'm just getting to the point of hatting woman i wish all the time that i could make my passions go away with no one to help me with my passions
sometime i wish and hope i don't live any more days like this but god will not let me go her has to much fun in torturing me and so do woman god i wish it was over so you don't have it hard you think you do live my life for one year and you would kill you self i don't know how i had i do it but i think i am losing the battle.

 

[dvnc]

Brother, it ain't easy. It ain't easy for ANYONE. This is why folks in this interest have people like me, and many others, arranging gatherings wherein we can meet each other.

More than just finding someone ideally suited, we learn that there are people open to learning about sharing their interest in our interest.

It takes time and a good deal of effort to find the rest of us, or to find someone who's open to learning this interest. I hope you find one of us soon.

 

[Ace Riley]

This thread is going to make me cry. 😛

^o^ Just kiddin'... but really... dyam.

This has got to be one of the best forums I've ever had the pleasure of being a member of.

Been here for years, but I gotta say it again: I'm glad I found this place.

Noway: Buena suerte amigo mio. You have the power in your hands my friend. Believe me, alot of girls are scared of tickling because it's a powerful tool that can be used against them (Girls sometimes go through rough tickling growing up). However in the hands of someone they love... I have to tell you, more often than not... they tend to enjoy it.

I know hard tickling is what you're looking for. Heaven knows it's awesome to have the power... however are you familiar with adventure stories and games? 🙂 You have to start slowly as the boy with the rusted sword before you can become the knight in shining armor. Start slow, learn experience, train her to your advances and I think you'll both be happier.

I don't know you personally. However you're a man my friend, you're human above all... you have the power. We just sometimes need to learn to use it. 🙂

Buena suerte... 🙂

 

[tickler-1]

This thread is going to make me cry. 😛

^o^ Just kiddin'... but really... dyam.

This has got to be one of the best forums I've ever had the pleasure of being a member of.

Been here for years, but I gotta say it again: I'm glad I found this place.

Noway: Buena suerte amigo mio. You have the power in your hands my friend. Believe me, alot of girls are scared of tickling because it's a powerful tool that can be used against them (Girls sometimes go through rough tickling growing up). However in the hands of someone they love... I have to tell you, more often than not... they tend to enjoy it.

I know hard tickling is what you're looking for. Heaven knows it's awesome to have the power... however are you familiar with adventure stories and games? 🙂 You have to start slowly as the boy with the rusted sword before you can become the knight in shining armor. Start slow, learn experience, train her to your advances and I think you'll both be happier.

I don't know you personally. However you're a man my friend, you're human above all... you have the power. We just sometimes need to learn to use it. 🙂

Buena suerte... 🙂

Will my friend if the women would work with the men then it could be fun for both of us the females always say i don't know you i don't have time if they would work with us then it would be better and fun and we can do a lot of tickling together but they don't try or say no to many tmes and then the male moves on an trys to found another female that may say yes to tickling.

 

[TKL_M28_LI_NY]

You have to tell her, and yes, you might lose her. But if you don't talk about it, you'll have NO chance of it working out.

If it doesn't work out then you'll have to move on - there's no choice, you're just wasting time otherwise.