Opposite Sex and Things That Irritate You

[BlackestLily]

My internet is too slow to search this topic and whether or not it has been done before, so if it has I apologize and life goes on. But I decided to post my first thread after some strange thoughts I had today.

It seems that men don't understand why women do certain things and the reverse goes for women. Certain characteristics in verbiage and actions tend to cluster themselves stereotypically around both.

My question is this:

What is one thing about the opposite sex that you seem to run into over and over that annoys you to no end?

My annoyance is when you're either having a normal discussion with someone of the male species (boyfriend, father, brother, etc, doesn't matter) and whether it be an argument or not, they ALWAYS say, "What do you want me to say?"

What do I want you to say? Whatever you want to. I don't have a list lined up numbered 1-10 of things I'd like you to say when the time comes. If you don't know what to say, then say that. Or don't say anything. I don't care. But I always have hated hearing that. Keep the discussion going or say you'd rather end it because (insert whatever reason you want).

Glad I got that off my chest.

 

[TheAceOfCakes]

Hmmm...I'm not sure if there's any one thing women do that "irritates" me. I mean, a collective thing. I've met women who annoyed me or outright pissed me off, but it was more their personality, not any trend.

I guess I find some flirting irritating, and while flirting isn't gender-specific by any means, I notice it more from women (possibly just because I'm a guy). Not all flirting, obviously. There's innocent flirting between two friends who know it means nothing, or the flirting between a couple. That's all fine. But like, when the girl has no interest in the guy she's flirting with and he doesn't know that. It just seems like taunting a guy for no reason, or if there is a reason it tends to be exploitation of some kind (get a free drink off him, get him to do some other favor, etc.)

Again, guys are capable of the same. And I'm sure some guys are douche-y enough to deserve it. It's probably not a good example, but I've seen this on several occasions, and been on the receiving end of it myself, and it sucks to fall for a girl only to realize she was screwing with you. So I guess it sticks out a bit for me (that's what she said).

But honestly, I can probably think of more things other guys do that irritate me. Perhaps a topic for another thread.

 

[FlockOfSeagulls]

this is a wonderful question and has been asked through the centuries. I personally think it has more to do with an individuals personality quirks more-so than a male/ female thing

I think that we are raised with certain sterotypes pertaining to the opposite sex that are borne from your samegender parent.

 

[Tomskee]

The one thing that women constantly do to me is expect me to read their minds. What I'm talking about is if something goes wrong; they expect us to just know what's wrong and how to rectify it.

Most men are very direct and lack an intuitive barometer. I am more intuitive than most men, but even I miss the most subliminal clues. If we men fuck up (which we will invariably do) explain to us what's wrong. Don't mope around and expect us to guess.

I suppose, PurrBast, your irritation at "what do you want me to say" is frustration at what women do to us. Instead of asking that, I ask "when you want to tell me what's wrong; I'll always be here and waiting" This usually diffuses any argument.

 

[BlackestLily]

I suppose, PurrBast, your irritation at "what do you want me to say" is frustration at what women do to us. Instead of asking that, I ask "when you want to tell me what's wrong; I'll always be here and waiting" This usually diffuses any argument.

There really never is any rhyme or reason to why they say it. It's never consistent. I could be talking about something funny, sobering, local things happening, a rant I have, ANYTHING, and every now and then it just rears it's ugly head. I've also noticed similar personalities in the people who say it.

Odd.

 

[storm7400]

There really never is any rhyme or reason to why they say it. It's never consistent. I could be talking about something funny, sobering, local things happening, a rant I have, ANYTHING, and every now and then it just rears it's ugly head. I've also noticed similar personalities in the people who say it.

Odd.

I'm unique so I usually have something to say. But I'll go along with the post about women wanting me to read minds. I'm not an expert with it so dammit just tell me what you want to talk about!

 

[FlockOfSeagulls]

I seem to notice this situation pop up more often with friends who have been married for a while.

Seems to be more prevelant when one of the couple has a dominant personality or is a control freak. I find most times that person won`t be happy with any response given .

 

[storm7400]

I seem to notice this situation pop up more often with friends who have been married for a while.

Seems to be more prevelant when one of the couple has a dominant personality or is a control freak. I find most times that person won`t be happy with any response given .

I feel the biggest concern is when people expect a certain answer and when they don't receive it they get frustrated.

 

[chicago]

It seems that almost EVERY guy I know is completely oblivious to certain things. Maybe I expect too much in thinking they will just understand everything.

 

[storm7400]

It seems that almost EVERY guy I know is completely oblivious to certain things. Maybe I expect too much in thinking they will just understand everything.

Men and women have different mindsets. Hence we don't always get what you get and vice versa.

 

[Tomskee]

The problem is most questions are statements in disguise. The one asking is implying something and anticipates a certain response. When a different response comes sparks fly. That goes along with the control freak idea.

PurrBast, you seem to be hanging around some simple-minded males. No offense, but I suggest stepping up to a higher breed of Y chromosomes. Real men say what they want.

Another thing is the dreaded "Does this make me look fat?" question. A guy just can't win. So not fair....🙁

 

[Saeria]

I think the thing about men (and not all men do this) is their tendency to leap into a gender superiority when pitted against a woman. Many a good political discussion has been halted because i made some offhand comment about whatever subject was going on.
I DO NOT SHOP AT AUTOZONE ANYMORE...
a few years back i went in to buy a rear seal for my mother's car, even brought in the old one, and asked for a replacement.. the guy hands me one that wasn't even remotely like the one i had. After about 5 minutes of arguing with me he smiles and asked if i needed to call my "daddy" to make sure this was really even a rear seal.. apparently telling the guy i removed the thing myself wasn't enough.
For a couple years i was an apprentice/tool monkey/driver for an ac company. On occasion i was sent to do a few light repair jobs. One man refused to let me work on his system. At first he thought i was just the helper and the technician was already out back... then he thought i was joking, then he spent a while on the phone with the company finally insisting he'd call someone else.

so yeah.. men and their gender superiority.. it sucks.

the end hehe

 

[SmileyTkls]

I suppose one thing that irritates, and I would think may not be limited just to one gender but is in my experience, is when your sig other wants to tell you what you've done wrong, "we need to talk," but if you have an issue you'd like to bring up, "this isn't a good time?"

 

[BlackestLily]

The problem is most questions are statements in disguise. The one asking is implying something and anticipates a certain response. When a different response comes sparks fly. That goes along with the control freak idea.

PurrBast, you seem to be hanging around some simple-minded males. No offense, but I suggest stepping up to a higher breed of Y chromosomes. Real men say what they want.

Another thing is the dreaded "Does this make me look fat?" question. A guy just can't win. So not fair....🙁

Ha, I'm pretty sure in Hicksville here it's not entirely possible. Maybe my August move will help a little bit.

I think the appropriate response to that question is, "No, but your butt does." Could be right...may as well say it if you can't win anyway.

 

[Tomskee]

I wish I would...

I think the appropriate response to that question is, "No, but your butt does." Could be right...may as well say it if you can't win anyway.

say some silly shit like that. 🙄

...trying to get a brotha killed.

 

[BlackestLily]

...trying to get a brotha killed.

-laughs- I would NEVER....though that statement might have suggested...something...close to that.

 

[storm7400]

-laughs- I would NEVER....though that statement might have suggested...something...close to that.

She's always trying to start some kind of trouble..........

 

[milagros317]

The one thing that women constantly do to me is expect me to read their minds. What I'm talking about is if something goes wrong; they expect us to just know what's wrong and how to rectify it.

Yes! This is just what I was going to post.

To women: Sadly, I don't read minds or pick up subtle clues. If something is wrong, please tell me what is bothering you.

 

[Tiger.Lily]

Honestly, I tend to like guys far more than girls. I see way more negative aspects in female friends than I do in men.

So far my biggest complaint is that pooping, farting, and huge vagina holes - yeah, not that funny, guys. Sorry.

 

[Deleted member 66627]

Whenever they try to justify anal sex.

 

[tulipangel]

Oh how i love this question....

I love men! Dont get me wrong BUT.......

Men have a way of not "caring"..... t annoys me because I wish I had the ability to not "care"....

Example:

ME: I run out of shampoo and I freak out and HAVE to go to CVS and get more then come home and RE-shower......

Husband: Runs out of shampoo and uses his bar of soap as shampoo till he has the time to go buy more.....

BAH!!!!!!!!!!!!! LOL

 

[penny lane]

I don't like it when men take advantage of women who might not be knowledgeable in certain areas. For example, when I take my car in to have it serviced and the guy at the station will try to tell me that my car needs additional (and unnecessary) work done.

I don't know if they do this because I'm a woman and think that I know nothing about cars...but it's the first thing that crosses my mind. But it could also be that they're just doing what their boss wants by trying to up-sell me...

 

[BrightEyes1082]

I actually get more irritated by things that women do than I do with men. Some things are unattractive regardless of what sex you are: neediness, passive-aggressiveness, and self-centeredness are just a few.

 

[meangry]

Women piss me off with their selfishness and arrogance. I believe both are a part of male byproducts to the culture, but the thing I always love hearing is the whole "intellectually stimulating" need for a woman. Living on a college campus, I can count on my hand the amount of women I have met that are actually mentally aware and can have deep conversations about a myriad of topics. In those situations, I have to dumb it down.

Also, males have also gotten to the point where they put the pussy on a pedestal, and go batshit bonkers and change themselves too much to get it. It's quite laughable, but hey, whatever.