Please Think Before You Type...

[aun_existe_amor]

I'm sick of being made to feel odd and out of place here. If you're a male ler or a female lee or even switch this is a great place to be able to meet likeminded people and not be ashamed. Remember how some of you felt before you realised that other people think the same way you do, and the first time you realised that you can be open about your love of tickling without having people turn their backs in disgust? If you try to remember your thoughts and fears before you realised that you're not alone, then try to imagine how it still feels for me (100% female ler). If I can't fit in here then where in the world can I fit in?

I know who I am and what I want and like. I'm not looking for anyone to tell me what I should be. I am a tickler. I only tickle men and never women. No one can change me. That's the way I've always been for as long as I can remember. I'm not male. I'm not pretending to be female. I'm not closed minded. I'm not going to change my mind and start wanting YOU to tickle me. I don't cyber tickle as a ler OR A LEE!!! I don't get paid for tickling men and nor do I want to be paid for it. Tickling is part of a loving sexual relationship for me. I'm not really much different to male lers here. I just enjoy the opposites.

I have met some very nice respectful people here (online and offline). Some of them joke with me. I'm not meaning any of this towards/about them. They know who they are. The truth is that I enjoy the attention, just as every woman does.

Sometimes it really does feel like I'm alone and that there is something wrong with me. The strange thing is that I was happy and comfortable with the way I am before I returned to TMF. Shouldn't TMF be the one place I can openly be myself without insults and ridicule? Why do some of you really believe that I'm closed minded because I don't like/want to be tickled? Why do some of you believe that I'm a 'cock tease' just because I openly talked about tickling from my point of view in the chatroom but not want to be tickled or to cyber tickle? Why is it ok for a man to be 100% ler but not a woman?

Did you ever in your life feel different in a bad way? Feel that there's something wrong with you for your love of tickling? Try to change the way you are only to realise that you can't change? Feel ashamed and have to hide your sexual desires from your partner? That's how I felt before I found TMF. That's what this thread is about. Sometimes I still feel like I did before I realised that I'm not the only one into tickling. It's not a very nice place to be. That's thanks to some of the 'people' on TMF.

I've asked a lot of questions here and I know some of you will want to answer. I also know that I won't like most of the answers. I don't even know why I'm writing this really, apart from maybe it will make some of you think before you type.

 

[Mike3355]

I don't seem to be able to think of answers to your questions tonight, must be over tired or something from working today, anyways i will say i agree totally that TMF should be the one place you don't get blasted for what YOU like. On that note, if i have ever said bad things to you in the past, i'm sorry and you can beat me with a stick if you want at some point, though i do promise i will now think before i type.. or speak..

 

[primetime]

I think there are just some people who like to judge others if you do not "fit in" to what they like. People feel to realize that all of us have our likes and dislikes. Not everyone will like the same exact thing about tickling. I see the same kind of stuff in M/M threads. For some reason, people who are against it, love to post in it to criticize. If you don't like it, move on. Same with women who only like to tickle and not be tickled. I guess some people (mostly men...) would love to convert a woman such as yourself to a lee. When you reject, they get mad..

Don't worry about the crazy people who want you to conform to whatever they want you to be. Be YOU. There are people here you will like you for you. Don't change.

 

[Babbles]

With all the requests for female lers I'm surprised (but not too surprised) that you've gotten flak for being JUST that !! I'm sorry to hear that, I guess those who are insistant are desperate in some way,
as you wrote either they want you to cater to them personally as a ler, or to their whims as a lee, disrespecting your clearly stated choices,
and they shouldn't be imposing any of that upon you in chat or anywhere else. Just as they wouldn't appreciate it...

Hopefully reading this thread will help them see how inappropriate that insistance is, and how they only drive others away from themselves with that sort of chauvinism or ridiculously demanding rudeness.

(It should be obvious...) they need to accept you for who you are (as with any woman)
and accept your boundaries,
and if that doesn't work for them, simply find someone else who complements their preferences instead of harassing you.

The supposed fact that there aren't as many women here (and that's probably why, in good part, it's probably true.... 🙄 )
doesn't give them the right to hammer a choice woman into the specific fantasy they harbor

 

[Mitchell]

aun, you are 100% right that no one should change who you are. You have every right to be 100% ler if that's how you feel. You have no reason to be ashamed of it, and should be proud of it. There is absolutely nothing wrong with being a female ler.

I can also confirm that aun is a female. I have seen several pictures of her, and have also seen her on webcam. Those who question her gender are mistaken.

Aun, you are one of the best people on this forum, and you deserve to be treated as such. I have always considered you my friend, and have always appreciated your friendship. My only advice would be to try and do what I subscribe to. Pay attention to those friends who value you, and to those who respect your feelings, and ignore those who don't. Unfortunately, as I've learned, thats about the only thing you can do. If you want to discuss this further, you know my pm box is always open.

Take care,
Mitch

 

[ali32]

Hi Aun,

I am 100% ler too (and female). I wouldn't say I've ever received any flak for it but I do get people asking me to switch and then when I way I won't, they feel it's not fair.

I say deal with it, and if you don't like it, find someone else to play with! 🙂

Unfortunately there will always be those who think they know better about what is best for you, and that they have some magic formula to make you enjoy what they really want you to enjoy. If only I had a dollar for every time someone has told me that I would enjoy cybertickling with them, because they do it properly...

ali32

 

[rhiannon]

Don't worry about people like that, honey! Men can be idiots when it comes to sex! They look at someone and immediately get a certain picture in their mind on how they think it should be. If you tell them it's not, they get pissy and whiny like a 5-year-old who doesn't get what they want!

You don't have to change! You are who you are and you like what you like, who can't accept that isn't even worth your time, not to even talk about changing your preferences! Stay true to yourself!

 

[john getty]

Don't worry about people like that, honey! Men can be idiots when it comes to sex! They look at someone and immediately get a certain picture in their mind on how they think it should be. If you tell them it's not, they get pissy and whiny like a 5-year-old who doesn't get what they want!

You don't have to change! You are who you are and you like what you like, who can't accept that isn't even worth your time, not to even talk about changing your preferences! Stay true to yourself!

I would rebut you, but I think I would be proving you right.

 

[MrTicklee]

Aun,

You just keep being who you are! There are plenty of us who love women just like you, which includes myself.

 

[rhiannon]

I would rebut you, but I think I would be proving you right.

I'm sure it's not ALL men who are like that though. 🙂 The bad thing is just, the ones acting like that are the ones who stay in your memory the longest! 😉

 

[Backstep]

Other people here have said it better than I could, and I feel bad that you have been made to feel like an outsider in a place that's been built to welcome outsiders. I can only add my sympathy for you and shared disdain for those who demand that you feel something that you don't.

I also want to say that if I find myself in the UK (or if you want to come to the US) in the future, I volunteer to swing by and have a few laughs. 😀

 

[OscarTheMonkey]

Well, it's the TMF.

You should not feel put down for liking what you like.

You should just adopt the view that ONLY the things you like are acceptable, just like the majority of other members here.

 

[milagros317]

Very well put and good post, aun_existe_amor. 😀

I, for one, am very happy to hear about women who are 100% ticklers. I call myself a switch, but I'm really about 10% ler and 90% lee.

There are plenty of stories, both fiction and nonfiction, of F/m tickling here. You shouldn't feel like an outsider and I'm very sorry to hear that some people have made you feel that way.

 

[Em Es]

Ow!

aun_existe_amor, as I read your post my jaw dropped so hard I hit myself in the nuts.

In other words, it surprises the hell out of me that even one person here would give a woman grief about being 100% tickler, 0% ticklee, 0% switch. But I'm guessing that this is a typical case of the vocal minority talking so loud and so long they seem like the majority. Please realize probably 99% or more of the T.M.F. community understands/supports you even if they are not saying so.

It sounds like the same old double standard that encourages the male sex drive and punishes the female sex drive accounting for those who would insult or ridicule your preference, aun_existe_amor. Pity the fools.

 

[TicklesFemales]

Yes I agree 100% I have been bashed by some on this forum myself and its not appreciated at all. Please keep your opinions to yourself if you don't have anything nice to say about someone. I never bash anyone in here and I expect the same respect. So I like to tickle married women with their husbands, its just what I prefer. I love to tickle single ticklish women also but have found that some of those want a relationship which I am not looking for. I just want tickle friends. GREAT THREAD AUN EXISTE AMOR. Thanks for posting.

 

[badreligion]

Yes I agree 100% I have been bashed by some on this forum myself and its not appreciated at all. Please keep your opinions to yourself if you don't have anything nice to say about someone. I never bash anyone in here and I expect the same respect. So I like to tickle married women with their husbands, its just what I prefer. I love to tickle single ticklish women also but have found that some of those want a relationship which I am not looking for. I just want tickle friends. GREAT THREAD AUN EXISTE AMOR. Thanks for posting.

You bring that on yourself with creepy posts so don't try and play the victim here because you are from from it .

 

[Comfort Eagle]

Tickle me, OP <3

 

[TicklesFemales]

Bad Religion maybe I am creepy to some, but to others I am not. Please my friend keep your bad comments to yourself or I will have to report you to the MOD's this is not a bashing forum and the MOD's are against this type of behavior its in the rules read them my friend. If you ever met me you would see I am a nice person who just has an intense tickling fetish. Obviously my fetish for tickling is more intense then yours. Have a nice day and I hope all your tickling fantasies come true for you.

 

[badreligion]

Bad Religion maybe I am creepy to some, but to others I am not. Please my friend keep your bad comments to yourself or I will have to report you to the MOD's this is not a bashing forum and the MOD's are against this type of behavior its in the rules read them my friend. If you ever met me you would see I am a nice person who just has an intense tickling fetish. Obviously my fetish for tickling is more intense then yours. Have a nice day and I hope all your tickling fantasies come true for you.

Actually I am not bashing you I am just giving my opinion you don't like it too bad .

 

[Backstep]

HEY! There's a forum member here who needs our help and support and it's not the place to start a flame war.

Take it to private messages or be the better man and let it go. But don't get this thing locked up because you couldn't resist a pissing match.

 

[TicklesFemales]

No problem then Bad Religion just please keep your bad opinion to yourself. I will never say anything bad about you and I expect the same. Thanks and have a nice day.

 

[rhiannon]

TicklesFemales, in this very thread you have proven again why people disapprove of your behavior! Because you just have to mention again and again and again in every thread what you like, and if possible even ask around who would like to get involved with you! Nobody "bashes" you for what you like, it is about how you present it! Apparently you still haven't understood it though!

This thread is about Aun, not you!

 

[Babbles]

I dunno -- It's true, it's definitely about Aun, you're right,
and she's making a very relevant point, people don't respect others (or their wishes) too often
but it could be said he's empathizing too.... Maybe some of both....

 

[Mephistopheles]

The internet is full of idiots, never take it too seriously. The fact your face isn't showing when you're filling the online world with opinions sadly also removes decency in some cases.

So, aun_existe_amor, have no fear, as long as you're not in a straightjacket it's the world that has gone crazy, not you.

 

[texastickler]

I am who I am and I am proud of it. You just keep being you and doing what you love!